AbdiWahab252 wrote:Sophisticate,
I will let you in on a secret. Women mature faster than men. A guy your age is a couple years is less mature than you. You probably are more emotionally mature and know more about the world than his adolescent ass. He won't command the same level of respect or might I saw awe you may have for a fellow who is years older than you. A marriage with a man your age will have unnatural power-respect dynamics.
A Farax your age needs a woman whom he can get the same adoration/respect/awe and that will come from a younger woman. So there you are, 30 years old. The bachelor pool of men your age are casting nets to fish out some younger Xalimos who will shower him with the adoration and look younger to bit. They are less knowledable about the shukaansi game and so are less bitter than a 30 year old. She still sees the positive in men and hasn't been screwed over several times.
But my dear there is hope. Just as you become disorientated by the loud sirens of "GUURSO! GUURSO!" and are about to faint, there is an AW252 ready to scoop you up. Bidaar or calool, he is everything you want: mature, got his shid together, and most importantly, he views you as a young Filly something you will never get from the Farax your age.
Then comes the 'spin' that you will tell your friends who settled years ago: 1. He is mature. 2. He is knowledgeable in everything including relationships. 3. Yes, looks may not be everything but how many handsome assholes have we dated, looks ain't everything.
So my dearest Sophi, be nice and appreciative to the Older Seasoned Farax. It is either him or Ali Salahudiin Walker from the Masjid.
Au contraire,
Your chronological age isn't necessarily the same as your psychological age. You've been around long enough. I'm sure you've come across men that are more stoic and self-reliant than their peers and their elders. It would not be wise of you to make the mistake of assuming fine lines and a protruding belly are signs of sagacity.
Since we're on the subject of age. You can still be close to 30 and have next to no relationship experience or history. Under these circumstances can one be disgruntled and jaded? I think not. Unless of course, not dating has made one bitter. AW252, the more you continue with your unceasing stereotypes, the more you'll come to realize that I break every one.
Although men prefer younger women, nothing suggests that they would deny their peers or someone a few years younger than them. This holds true for men in their 20s that normally marry someone their age or marginally younger. The age-gap difference only increases slightly past the early 30s. This age-gap becomes more pronounced as men approach their 40s and 50s. Your age cohort has experienced a deflated ego that mirrors the size of their atrophied arms, so it's only natural for them to overcompensate by pursing women old enough to be their daughters. After all, they help to keep that peter pan syndrome alive.
I wanted to clarify another mistaken notion of yours. Somali women are blessed with looking considerably younger than their age, myself included. Alhamduilah I have no need to worry about that. Also, I never had a conventional Somali upbringing. My parents are educated and marriage was not their primary goal for me in life, particularly to (1) a senior overcome with delirium (like yourself) or (2)to a vagabond ajnabi at a masjid. I'm Gadabursi, it should be a no brainer what my parents had in mind for me.
I'll leave you with this. I'm deathly allergic to substantially older men. How can I, a second-generation Somali-American-Canadian (yes I'm a dual citizen) deal with them, a fob that I can barely relate with. It's only natural that my cap on a suitable age gap is 5 years, which is someone no more than 34. This is of course contingent on their age of arrival in the west.
P.S - Thanks Idman. He should give up and try pursuing women closer to his age. 
