Big Dilemma!! :( :( :(

[*Nobleman*]

I bet a lot of the judgemental people on here do not practice what they preach.

If they did then they would understand that you must be sincere and kind when giving dawah.


Ignore them and inshallah get your husband to approach your family in a lawful way.

[FAH1223]

According to the Islamic Sharia, the marriage is null and void.

So you aren't married. It wasn't Islamic...am I right?

WHat you need to do sister, is tell your hooyo and the guy she is arranging you with. Bring your man forward too and start this whole process all over again.

You made a mistake, a huge one without the conesent of any mahram.

But, this issue can be resolved pretty easily. And you can get married to the man you want in an ISLAMIC matter.

[Muslimah*]

His father was present is that ok? Inshaallah tacala i plan on telling my mother little by little bt u see the problem is the man she wanted me 2 marry is obsessed with me he stalks me & abuses that is how i initiailly met my husband he influences her a lot & im scared of what will happen. Also he is the man of the house since my father is not with me so she trusts him very much my husband is somali & he is only 22 whereas i am 20 tomorrow. The brother i was supposed 2 get married 2 is 27 he has a job and everything he finished his undergrad he is really rich and he will ensure that i live well that is why my mother encouraged me to marry him in the first place but i dont care about money. I am just confused. Thanks again 4 all of those who gave me sincere advice all of those pretending to be good people whilst giggling at me may allah guide you i was being 100% sincere salaamz.

[Ican]

At the end of the say it's your life and your old enough to marry who you want with or without the blessing of your parents.

[1nemansquad]

Just because your earnest does not mean that you did the right thing. Just because his father was there doesn’t make your procedures permissible.

What you did is in the wrong, go talk to your family and come clean as soon as possible.

Salaam and good luck.

[Demure]

Muslimah, how unexpected but perhaps not so much. It's been my observation that people that preach on too much usually have secrets that contradict the general picture of what they portray.

I could never lie to my mother let alone about a major aspect of my life like getting married. Tell your mother ASAP before she hears from others.

[Advocatar]

Muslimah* dont rule out suicide as an alternative option.

[AbdiWahab252]

Advo,

U are a low down dirty shame,

I should kick your arse back to TJ

[+chilli]

It’s your life; you don’t have to explain yourself. Those that judge here you should pay less attention too. Too many ignorance with a little knowledge of the faith, waxay yaa qaan copy and paste and saanka tag.

You have been give plenty of good advice and the most important talk to your mother, it sounds like to me that you’re in a very sticky situation and you have no mahram.

Sir-Luggoyo, is right, my parents ‘eloped’ and later the permission came, lol, if parents disprove for prejudices reasons or whatever the marriage can still take place.

Heard the old stories, where girls leave their villages in search of marriage or whatever and once found one come back or send him and his elders to give the news she is taken Lol


Btw sweety congratulations, and speak to your mother, May Allah make it easy for you.

[Naaima]

Salam alaikum

sister we are all human, and we make mistakes...remember that life is not perfect, and we cannot change the past! so my advice to you is stop posting your private data here!..go to someone who knows you, and cares about you, and understands you! and <<His father was present is that ok? <<< his dad is not your mahram so as fah1223 said the marriage is still null and void! ..wish you all the best sister and follow your heart, we won't live forever are days are number!

[Muslimah*]

Salaamz & barasho wanegsen 2 u all 1st of all i told my mother last night & she was real disappointed in me & asked me why i couldnt tell her anyways long story short the real wedding will take place sometime this weekend 2 bad my dad cnt come So I told her exactly whos been stalking me & whatnot & she told me that she would believe me over him im stil scared of what he will do 2 me i just wanna move out of my mumz house asap. Been packing my stuff & for the time being im staying with my grandmumz she is really tough so she will make sure i am safe. Demure I am not perfect stop judging me u dont know me and just because i have the name muslimah doesnt make me any better than u if u think that then its all your doing. I just need 2 find my Dad 4 this wedding pray that i will

[BaByGaL_8701]

[quote="Muslimah*"]Salaamz & barasho wanegsen 2 u all 1st of all i told my mother last night & she was real disappointed in me & asked me why i couldnt tell her anyways long story short the real wedding will take place sometime this weekend 2 bad my dad cnt come So I told her exactly whos been stalking me & whatnot & she told me that she would believe me over him im stil scared of what he will do 2 me i just wanna move out of my mumz house asap. Been packing my stuff & for the time being im staying with my grandmumz she is really tough so she will make sure i am safe. Demure I am not perfect stop judging me u dont know me and just because i have the name muslimah doesnt make me any better than u if u think that then its all your doing. I just need 2 find my Dad 4 this wedding pray that i will [/quote]


Masha'allah All The Best... Good Luck! Congrats.. ..

[musika man]

told her last night and the wedding next week?????????????????????????????????
she is pregnant. is he the real father?

[Broud-SeesTar]

Allaaa maxaay kibreen gabdahan gaaloda iska dhigaya..oo maxa keenay secrete marriages iyo this that and the 3rd?..akhlaq'xumo...naa hadeh orood hooyoda ka duceeyso usheeg ruunta and leave the little bastaardh alone that you'r secretly married to..(he's noooo good, if he convienced you into marrying him secretly) true say, the only thing u can do right about now is to talk to ur hooyo and ask for her forgiveness and maybe just maybe she might allow you to keep your "marriage" going.