Is Married Life Boring??

[A-rap money]

ps. Someone once told me, I doubt it is true, that you can demand to see the person you want to marry naked and it is allowed in Islam.

NAKED!!! That is too extreme; but you could see (not demand) the women you intend to marry while she dressed in the manner she would be dressed around her father or brother.
It was narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said: “When one of you asks a woman for marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so….”
As you could see the intention of getting married is the key

[snoop12]

u guys are so lame,

this is a normal presedure and the people who do this are often good muslims

what the father or the 3rd person does is just take a magazine or bring head phones whiles those to freaks do their thing, asking each other about god knows what

i will bring my careless friend, she is so careless about everything that i wont feel embarresed and i can focus on checking out my future wifey

[Firefly]

So the engagement is just a promise of marriage. Neither is entitled to any rights, as they would have been if they were husband and wife. During the engagement they should act as they would with any Non-Mahram, so they shouldn't be alone together etc.

That is all I wanted to know. All this time, I thought you were talking about something else (like temporary shiica marriages) and not just a promise of marriage. What is the Somali name of this promise of marriage? Who do you make this promise of marriage to? The girl or her family and what are the events where this takes place called in Somali? What are the necessary steps to take to get out of a promise of marriage if you change your mind? In Somalia, gabadha iyagoon la guursan ayaa nimanka soo doono la siiyaa and the men get married to the girl when they are ready and are financially able to establish a family.

ps. Someone once told me, I doubt it is true, that you can demand to see the person you want to marry naked and it is allowed in Islam.

I don't know the Somali name of this promise of marriage. You make the promise of marriage to the girl and her family. I think in Somali tradition waa marka gabadha la so doonto, and that usually takes place at the house of the girl's family. Some people decide to have an engagement party/announcement, and this is allowed as long as it doesn't break any of the Islamic rulings. With the engagement there isn't full certainty/reassurance, like the marriage contract. So the man or the woman can change their minds about going through with the marriage at any time, and it would be wise to let each other know if circumstances change. They usually set a date for the wedding, 3 months/year etc, but it's best to do it as soon as possible in order to avoid falling into sin.

Yes, that's true. My sister got married that way, nin aa luga daray when she came of age, and he married her once he was able to provide for her. So it was an arranged marriage, and she was happy with it. So easy and straight-forward, but things have changed nowadays, arranged marriage seems to have become ugly and old-fashioned. Most people want to find their own "soul-mate" whatever that is..

ps. lol, blimey that someone was day-dreamin', because that's absolutely not allowed in Islam, you're only allowed to see the face, and hands, not even the hair, forget seeing a naked body.

[PreciousDymes]

Speaking as someone newly married, it's an experience i've found so far anything but..

[snoop12]

Speaking as someone newly married, it's an experience i've found so far anything but..

FAKE, SHEEGOTO



yes i said it first