They're asking for mehr I can't afford...

[haxxor]

So, I asked this girl for marriage. She accepted. Later, she goes on talking about future us being together, but she mentioned something about living in specific place that was quite wealthy, so, I asked her about her life. It was pretty obvious that she's from wealthy family, I didn't know this one until recently.

Problem is, even though I know her father well, she said to me that they might ask mehr that's too high and I'll have to take out loan to afford it. Note: She would settle for less but her family refuses.

So, what are islamic views on this one?

[salool]

Her family have no say in this, It's her meher and she can ask for whatever she wants even one apple.The girl is not thinking with her head if she is asking you to take a loan.

[MujahidAishah]

Good for her love. .. My first marriage I got £3k this marriage im going to get a mansion and a business if u can get away with it why not more power to her

[salool]

lool Aisha, naagta lacag badan lagu meheriya waligeed lacagta ma aragto.

[MujahidAishah]

lool Aisha, naagta lacag badan lagu meheriya waligeed lacagta ma aragto.

Thats why u ask for meher on the day of your meher raag waa laga caqil badey

[salool]

Aisha, That hardly happens and later on if u want leave the loser if the meher is to high he will never give you ur divorce papers.Naag halkan 500gram dahaba lagu meheriyey ninki ila xiliga waraaqdedi wuu haysta, kulaha hadaad rabtid waraaqdada iga saamax meherka.Not worth it if you tell me.

[PrinceDaadi]

Meher is a negotiated contract i dont see how one side can dictate it!

[Lillaahiya]

How much does she want?

[MujahidAishah]

But qof iyo qimaha las isku xira if the person aint got much you ask for something reasonable but if they are rich u take them for wat they are worth. ..

[Cumar-Labasuul]

somalis never fully understand the mahr policy, diin ahaan once the husband agrees to pay the mahr he should pay it immediately - unless the wife says otherwise.
If the woman asks for her mahr, the man says do you want me to divorce you; and if the man intends to pay the woman she thinks he is divorcing her. They think mahr is only payed as a divorce settlement.

[AhlulbaytSoldier]

Man, thats fucked up. Your girl's family have no naxariis. They are driving by thirsty for more money.
U should tell her the truth and not put urself in debt, if she supports u in that it means the girl really loves you . If not, it means nothing good comes from her.
I would stay away from her.


There are many fishes in the Indian Ocean

Oh i wished meher was just two sheeps or one camel

[Nomand]

take the loan and destroy her at the wedding night.

[salool]

Cumar, nimanka somalida badankooda kumay talagalin inay meher bixiyaan.Mid kasta wuxu iska oranaya haa wax kasta ka bacdi marka la yedhaah meherki keen bey isku dhex yaacan.Why say yes to somthing you cant afford marka ugu horaysa

[AbdiWahab252]

Knock her up. Its cheaper.

[Cumar-Labasuul]

salool it's in our culture thats why, even if you tell women to ask for their mahr, they will say: ma waxaad rabta inuu i furo