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     | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 03:57 am we should go back to the islamic way of marriage i mean arranged marriage because, when somali women reach the age of marriage their families ado not seek a good muslim husband for them and they a probably feel ashamed to mentioned to their parents that they are ready to get married so what is being done about this their are to many somali women that are growing old because they have not had any proprosals so lets go back to the islamic way of marriage, I know that if a somali man is ready for marriage that he or his parents will start looking striaght away this is not justice and Islam is just
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 05:54 am Halima, here is my proposal to you. WILL U MARRY ME???
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 08:21 am Halima, I don't understand why they have to wait for their families to find them someone. I mean, there is nothing that forbids girls from finding their own mate as long as they do it in a halaal manner. There was this brother in our local mosque whose recitation of the Quran was really good, masha Allah, amongst other things. This one girl fell in love with his voice. She told her dad she wants to marry him and that the dad should ask if he is available. He was. They are now happily married. The point i'm trying to make is, there should be no shame in things like that. If you see a marriage material brother, go for all it by all means as long as u do it in a halaal way. I think it is time we rid ourselves of practises that have no roots in Islam.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 08:43 am salaam alaykum sister Halima, I think i can understand where you coming from, sis. Many muslims families in the middle east do that kind of arrangements. In fact, many of my friends are married that way. And all of them, al-hamdulilaah are happily married. I think we somalis should do that as well. TLG, sister, there is something in women called "al-haayaa" ie one of the main characteristics in females is to be SHY. Whoever i think is a my suitable mate i rather die than tell him, can u marry me!!! Sis, that is NUTS.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 08:58 am Idea, lol sis. That story was true. And for the hayaa thing, it is not only in women. Al-hayaa is part of eemaan and every muslim should have it. But, I don't understand why u can't approach a guy who u think has all the qualities u are looking for in a marital partner. I mean u don't have to go up to him and ask him, "will u marry me". There are ways of doing it..lol..Like going through your matchmaking business...lol
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 09:05 am lollll@TlG TLG I am whit you all the way sis, why women have wait until her parent look for husband.we know what we want and we need to go for it!
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 09:15 am TLG: No comment on that except i won't give u candy for the eid :-( Sis, In case you don't know DATING is HARRAM...walaahi it is HARRAM. I don't recommend any respectful sis to go out n date a guy. You know if there is two, devil is the third.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 10:16 am Idea, lol @ no candy for me. Before anyone misinterprets what i'm saying, let me clarify it. I'm not saying go out and date. I think most of us know that is haraam. My point is, if I see a brother that has all the qualities I'm looking for in a marital partner(and pls don't ask what they are), then there is nothing wrong with me approaching him. YOu can easily do this through a third party. He doesn't have to know that it is you. Someone, say a mutual friend can approach him and say, hey, there is this siser.... i'm sure the guys won't mind either...as someone said somewhere on this forums before, there is shortage of all products...lol
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 10:21 am Idea I totally agree with TLG, and even though girls asking guys for marriage is not encouraged but there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Remember Khadijah(the mother of the believers) proposed to the prophet(saw) before he proposed to her.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 10:48 am Salama... Sweet-Sister: I think that was pre-Islam. There was no Shareeca whatsoever. _______________ Ciid Mubarak!! Mac-Salaama!!
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 11:09 am Oh yeah it was thanks macruuf, but I still don't see what's wrong with it.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 12:00 pm TGL, your point is supported by the authentic tradtition of our beloved Prophet SAllalaahu calayhi wasalam. When it comes to the marriage, the girl,s parents can not marry her to someone with out her consent. However, the girl,s silence is considered as permission.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 08:40 pm Asalaamu Caleykum Let me clear out one thing, nothing is wrong with arranged marriage. All my cousins were married that way and I feel happy for them they are happily married and Allah made them easy for them to get the choice which they are so eager to find. I think it's goes both ways, arranged marriage or lady having interest for the brothers, you can both have advantages and disadvantages, which is more? I don't know but here is the thing......when a sister shows interest to a brother, most of us (brothers let's be honest) make her go through a test and make her life misareable. I said most not all, this excluded those of us whom Allah has blessed his mercy upon them. I've seen many brother that are cheating sisters but what they don't know is that...they have sisters, would they want their sisters to be played with? Just like the Zaani, he likes to commit zina but does he want someone else to commit Zina with his mother/aunt/sister/daughter.......then guys i mean boys why would we do such evil? Believe me, insha'aalaah she will be my future wife (haduu kheyr iigu jiro) she was the reason that we are together. Another point, soomaalida indhaha ayey is qabataa ma ogtahay, gabdhaha da'da ah ee waaweyn oo guursaday cadaanka/madowga/oromada ee Muslimaka ah waxaan oran karaa badankood waxey waayeen rag soomaaliyeed oo u hagar baxa, mid walba wuxuu rabaa gabar bikro ah sunno u gudan, cas, diin leh, qurux badan, ee gacanta adiga ku suuubso kuwaas oo kale, quwii joogay markaad ka aamustid oo ay ajaanib adiga kaa dhaqan fiican hesho meelaha ka caay marka hee? War ragoow khaladka qaadano, yeeynaan ku dayan dumarka ayaa qaladkooda iska indho tara oo dardaarankii caraweelo qaatay.
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| | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 10:46 am To Halima, Darling if you worried so much about a women who are not married you don't think even if the parents want to married but Allah(SWC)allow them either their parents or anyone else can't do nothing. I would like to ask you would share U future husband with someone. I agree with I rather be (Goomas)than ask Somali man to married me, because when U ask him they just make funny and they tell every person they came cross. So beware approach them. Good luck all of you who looking.
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| | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 04:34 pm This isn't my field. Accept my apologies if I spoil the subject. Anonymous, We can't judge people based on one's character or by few of the larger society.
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