     yasmin | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 04:25 am
Asalam Aleikum brothers and sisters
I have a proplem i wornder if anyone can help me. I have heard that girls cannot greet with the hands to the opposite sex. ( i only mean muslim girls.) If its tru please come with a hadith or aya about it. Please advice me hvat do since i have a problem with that. Am a nurse working with pasients. We work in a team and i meat doctors, families of the pasients and my coliques. If its true what can i do so that i please Allah and at he same time not hurt anyone. |
| mr. ignorante | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 06:22 am
to: yasmin: not only that they cannnot greet to opposite sex but they cannot say verbal greeting to opposite sex, except her hasband, her family or those the qoraan mentioned.
she (the female) is only allowed to reply to opposite sex if she is an old woman. cuz hearing female voice is zina.
I dont remember the hadith but i am posative. |
| now and again | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 08:16 am
Mr ignorante,
you have got to be joking!!. Islam does NOT rob us of a voice!!!, it only wishes to inforce modesty so as to preserve human dignity!
So pls, now I'M interested in the ayat or hadith that says women are not to talk to anyone outside muxrams.
now and again |
| Guled | Friday, March 02, 2001 - 05:49 am
Asalaamu Caleykum
Shaking hands with opposite sex is forbidden in Islam wheather it is male or female. You one should shake hands with his/her opposite sex and that's how our beloved prophet scw taught us. This is a protection of FITNAH but not to hurt someone's feeling or any other reason. The purpose is to stay away any thing that leads you into the path of Zina. As the Qur'an says, "Do not come close to Zina.." it didn't say don't committ but it inphaseized by not even having thoughts that may come close to anything that relates to zina.
I'll paste and cut the asnwer of Sh. Munnajid about this subject but you can also feel free to search the right answer from the Muslim scholars around the world and I can forward the fatawa sites for you too if you need it.
I don't think Mr. Ignorance is correct about greeting the opposite sex. It is OK to say the correct Salaam to any Muslim as long as their is no purpose like lowering the voice of the female and putting in some attractive flavours which can lead into FITNAH. The prophet said many hadiths that we should spread the Salaam and keep in touch is the relatives. It could be male or female so saying the Salaam is something that you are getting rewards from Allah. After all, the Salaam is the only thng that is Sunnah but turns uot to be Waajib. For instance, to start saying "Asalaamu Caleyku" is sunnah but to repond to it is wajib and this is mentioned in the quran incase you need the resources.
Here's the answer of Sh. Munnajid.
Is it allowable for a muslim woman to greet a muslim man by shaking hands?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
For a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman (one to whom he is not related) is haraam and is not permitted at all. Among the evidence for this is the hadeeth of Ma’qal ibn Yassaar (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045).
There is no doubt that for a man to touch a non-mahram woman is one of the causes of fitnah (turmoil, temptation), provocation of desire and committing haraam deeds. No one should say that their intention is sound or their heart is clean, because the one who was the purest of heart and the most chaste of all, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched a non-mahram woman, even when accepting bay’ah (oath of allegiance) from women. He did not hold their hands when accepting their bay’ah, as he did with men; their bay’ah was by words only, as was reported by his wife ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her). She said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would test the believing women who emigrated to him with the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “O Prophet! When believeing women come to you to give you the bay’ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood (i.e., by making illegal children belong to their husbands), and that thye will not disobey you in any ma’ruf (Islamic monotheism and all that which Islam ordains), then accept their bay’ah and ask Allaah to forgive them. Verily Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Mumtahinah 60:12] ‘Aa’ishah said: “So whoever of the believing women agreed to these conditions, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would say to her: ‘I have accepted your bay’ah by words.’ By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of any woman when accepting their bay’ah; he accepted their bay’ah by saying ‘I have accepted your bay’ah on this basis.’”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4512; according to another report: he accepted their bay’ah by words… the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman except a woman he owned . Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6674).
Some Muslims feel too embarrassed to refuse when a woman offers her hand to them. In addition to mixing with women, some of them claim that they are forced to shake hands with fellow-students and teachers in schools and universities, or with colleagues in the workplace, or in business meetings and so on, but this is not an acceptable excuse. The Muslim should overcome his own feelings and the promptings of the Shaytaan, and be strong in his faith, because Allaah is not ashamed of the truth. The Muslim could apologize politely and explain that the reason he does not want to shake hands is not to offend or hurt anybody’s feelings, but it is because he is following the teachings of his religion. In most cases this will earn him respect from others. There is no harm done if they find it strange at first, and it may even be a practical opportunity for da’wah. And Allaah knows best. |
| hangool | Friday, March 02, 2001 - 01:47 pm
Guled
JazahaAllahu khayr |
| Anonymous | Saturday, March 03, 2001 - 12:18 am
When we fail to establish the deen of Allah on earth, we will feel like the jews, trying to follow Kosher rules in a non Kosher world, But Jews have finally established a country, although tiny and stolen, but for us, we destroyed ours, with our hands, and now we wake up. It is time we solve these problems at the source.
Next question may be, I am a bartender, is looking at women OK?
I am a cheerleader, they want allow a hijaab, what must I do.
I am a cab driver, can I pick up @#$%^&*#, is that fare halaal, can I make Hajj with it?
and so on......... |
