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Virago

Sunday, March 11, 2001 - 02:08 pm
Please read this mind boggling study by a Muslim scholar. It may be long,
but it is most definetly worth the 20 minutes it takes you to read. It is
really very educational and every section is more interesting and
educational than the other one.

Virago
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WOMEN IN ISLAM VERSUS WOMEN IN THE
JUDAEO-CHRISTIAN TRADITION:

THE MYTH
&
THE REALITY

BY
Dr. Sherif Abdel Azeem
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1. INTRODUCTION

Five years ago, I read in the Toronto Star issue of July 3, 1990 an article
titled "Islam is not alone in patriarchal doctrines", by Gwynne Dyer. The
article described the furious reactions of the participants of a conference
on women and power held in Montreal to the comments of the famous Egyptian
feminist Dr. Nawal Saadawi. Her "politically incorrect" statements included
: "the most restrictive elements towards women can be found first in Judaism
in the Old Testament then in Christianity and then in the Quran"; "all
religions are patriarchal because they stem from patriarchal societies"; and
"veiling of women is not a specifically Islamic practice but an ancient
cultural heritage with analogies in sister religions". The participants
could not bear sitting around while their faiths were being equated with
Islam. Thus, Dr. Saadawi received a barrage of criticism. "Dr. Saadawi's
comments are unacceptable. Her answers reveal a lack of understanding about
other people's faiths," declared Bernice Dubois of the World Movement of
Mothers. "I must protest" said panellist Alice Shalvi of Israel women's
network, "there is no conception of the veil in Judaism." The article
attributed these furious protests to the strong tendency in the West to
scapegoat Islam for practices that are just as much a part of the West's own
cultural heritage. "Christian and Jewish feminists were not going to sit
around being discussed in the same category as those wicked Muslims," wrote
Gwynne Dyer.

I was not surprised that the conference participants had held such a
negative view of Islam, especially when women's issues were involved. In the
West, Islam is believed to be the symbol of the subordination of women par
excellence. In order to understand how firm this belief is, it is enough to
mention that the Minister of Education in France, the land of Voltaire, has
recently ordered the expulsion of all young Muslim women wearing the veil
from French schools!1 A young Muslim student wearing a headscarf is denied
her right of education in France, while a Catholic student wearing a cross
or a Jewish student wearing a skullcap is not. The scene of French policemen
preventing young Muslim women wearing headscarves from entering their high
school is unforgettable. It inspires the memories of another equally
disgraceful scene of Governor George Wallace of Alabama in 1962 standing in
front of a school gate trying to block the entrance of black students in
order to prevent the desegregation of Alabama's schools. The difference
between the two scenes is that the black students had the sympathy of so
many people in the U.S. and in the whole world. President Kennedy sent the
U.S. National Guard to force the entry of the black students. The Muslim
girls, on the other hand, received no help from any one. Their cause seems
to have very little sympathy either inside or outside France. The reason is
the widespread misunderstanding and fear of anything Islamic in the world
today.

What intrigued me the most about the Montreal conference was one question :
Were the statements made by Saadawi, or any of her critics, factual ? In
other words, do Judaism, Christianity, and Islam have the same conception of
women? Are they different in their conceptions ? Do Judaism and Christianity
, truly, offer women a better treatment than Islam does? What is the Truth?

It is not easy to search for and find answers to these difficult questions.
The first difficulty is that one has to be fair and objective or, at least,
do one's utmost to be so. This is what Islam teaches. The Quran has
instructed Muslims to say the truth even if those who are very close to them
do not like it: "Whenever you speak, speak justly, even if a near relative
is concerned" (6:152) "O you who believe stand out firmly for justice, as
witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents or your kin,
and whether it be (against) rich or poor" (4:135).

The other great difficulty is the overwhelming breadth of the subject.
Therefore, during the last few years, I have spent many hours reading the
Bible, The Encyclopaedia of Religion, and the Encyclopaedia Judaica
searching for answers. I have also read several books discussing the
position of women in different religions written by scholars, apologists,
and critics. The material presented in the following chapters represents the
important findings of this humble research. I don't claim to be absolutely
objective. This is beyond my limited capacity. All I can say is that I have
been trying, throughout this research, to approach the Quranic ideal of
"speaking justly".

I would like to emphasize in this introduction that my purpose for this
study is not to denigrate Judaism or Christianity. As Muslims, we believe in
the divine origins of both. No one can be a Muslim without believing in
Moses and Jesus as great prophets of God. My goal is only to vindicate Islam
and pay a tribute, long overdue in the West, to the final truthful Message
from God to the human race. I would also like to emphasize that I concerned
myself only with Doctrine. That is, my concern is, mainly, the position of
women in the three religions as it appears in their original sources not as
practised by their millions of followers in the world today. Therefore, most
of the evidence cited comes from the Quran, the sayings of Prophet Muhammad,
the Bible, the Talmud, and the sayings of some of the most influential
Church Fathers whose views have contributed immeasurably to defining and
shaping Christianity. This interest in the sources relates to the fact that
understanding a certain religion from the attitudes and the behaviour of
some of its nominal followers is misleading. Many people confuse culture
with religion, many others do not know what their religious books are
saying, and many others do not even care.

2. EVE'S FAULT ?

The three religions agree on one basic fact: Both women and men are created
by God, The Creator of the whole universe. However, disagreement starts soon
after the creation of the first man, Adam, and the first woman, Eve. The
Judaeo-Christian conception of the creation of Adam and Eve is narrated in
detail in Genesis 2:4-3:24. God prohibited both of them from eating the
fruits of the forbidden tree. The serpent seduced Eve to eat from it and
Eve, in turn, seduced Adam to eat with her. When God rebuked Adam for what
he did, he put all the blame on Eve, "The woman you put here with me --she
gave me some fruit from the tree and I ate it." Consequently, God said to
Eve:

"I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give
birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule
over you."

To Adam He said:

"Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree .... Cursed is the
ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days
of your life..."

The Islamic conception of the first creation is found in several places in
the Quran, for example:

"O Adam dwell with your wife in the Garden and enjoy as you wish but
approach not this tree or you run into harm and transgression. Then Satan
whispered to them in order to reveal to them their shame that was hidden
from them and he said: 'Your Lord only forbade you this tree lest you become
angels or such beings as live forever.' And he swore to them both that he
was their sincere adviser. So by deceit he brought them to their fall: when
they tasted the tree their shame became manifest to them and they began to
sew together the leaves of the Garden over their bodies. And their Lord
called unto them: 'Did I not forbid you that tree and tell you that Satan
was your avowed enemy?' They said: 'Our Lord we have wronged our own souls
and if You forgive us not and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall
certainly be lost' " (7:19:23).

A careful look into the two accounts of the story of the Creation reveals
some essential differences. The Quran, contrary to the Bible, places equal
blame on both Adam and Eve for their mistake. Nowhere in the Quran can one
find even the slightest hint that Eve tempted Adam to eat from the tree or
even that she had eaten before him. Eve in the Quran is no temptress, no
seducer, and no deceiver. Moreover, Eve is not to be blamed for the pains of
childbearing. God, according to the Quran, punishes no one for another's
faults. Both Adam and Eve committed a sin and then asked God for forgiveness
and He forgave them both.

3. EVE'S LEGACY

The image of Eve as temptress in the Bible has resulted in an extremely
negative impact on women throughout the Judaeo-Christian tradition. All
women were believed to have inherited from their mother, the Biblical Eve,
both her guilt and her guile. Consequently, they were all untrustworthy,
morally inferior, and wicked. Menstruation, pregnancy, and childbearing were
considered the just punishment for the eternal guilt of the cursed female
sex. In order to appreciate how negative the impact of the Biblical Eve was
on all her female descendants we have to look at the writings of some of the
most important Jews and Christians of all time. Let us start with the Old
Testament and look at excerpts from what is called the Wisdom Literature in
which we find:

"I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a
trap and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her,
but the sinner she will ensnare....while I was still searching but not
finding, I found one upright man among a thousand but not one upright woman
among them all" (Ecclesiastes 7:26-28).

In another part of the Hebrew literature which is found in the Catholic
Bible we read:

"No wickedness comes anywhere near the wickedness of a woman.....Sin began
with a woman and thanks to her we all must die" (Ecclesiasticus 25:19,24).

Jewish Rabbis listed nine curses inflicted on women as a result of the Fall:

"To the woman He gave nine curses and death: the burden of the blood of
menstruation and the blood of virginity; the burden of pregnancy; the burden
of childbirth; the burden of bringing up the children; her head is covered
as one in mourning; she pierces her ear like a permanent slave or slave girl
who serves her master; she is not to be believed as a witness; and after
everything--death." 2

To the present day, orthodox Jewish men in their daily morning prayer recite
"Blessed be God King of the universe that Thou has not made me a woman." The
women, on the other hand, thank God every morning for "making me according
to Thy will." 3 Another prayer found in many Jewish prayer books: "Praised
be God that he has not created me a gentile. Praised be God that he has not
created me a woman. Praised be God that he has not created me an ignoramus."
4

The Biblical Eve has played a far bigger role in Christianity than in
Judaism. Her sin has been pivotal to the whole Christian faith because the
Christian conception of the reason for the mission of Jesus Christ on Earth
stems from Eve's disobedience to God. She had sinned and then seduced Adam
to follow her suit. Consequently, God expelled both of them from Heaven to
Earth, which had been cursed because of them. They bequeathed their sin,
which had not been forgiven by God, to all their descendants and, thus, all
humans are born in sin. In order to purify human beings from their 'original
sin', God had to sacrifice Jesus, who is considered to be the Son of God, on
the cross. Therefore, Eve is responsible for her own mistake, her husband's
sin, the original sin of all humanity, and the death of the Son of God. In
other words, one woman acting on her own caused the fall of humanity. 5 What
about her daughters? They are sinners like her and have to be treated as
such. Listen to the severe tone of St. Paul in the New Testament:

"A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I don't permit a
woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. For Adam
was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the
woman who was deceived and became a sinner" (I Timothy 2:11-14).

St. Tertullian was even more blunt than St. Paul, while he was talking to
his 'best beloved sisters' in the faith, he said: 6

"Do you not know that you are each an Eve? The sentence of God on this sex
of yours lives in this age: the guilt must of necessity live too. You are
the Devil's gateway: You are the unsealer of the forbidden tree: You are the
first deserter of the divine law: You are she who persuaded him whom the
devil was not valiant enough to attack. You destroyed so easily God's image,
man. On account of your desert even the Son of God had to die."

St. Augustine was faithful to the legacy of his predecessors, he wrote to a
friend:

"What is the difference whether it is in a wife or a mother, it is still Eve
the temptress that we must beware of in any woman......I fail to see what
use woman can be to man, if one excludes the function of bearing children."

Centuries later, St. Thomas Aquinas still considered women as defective:

"As regards the individual nature, woman is defective and misbegotten, for
the active force in the male seed tends to the production of a perfect
likeness in the masculine sex; while the production of woman comes from a
defect in the active force or from some material indisposition, or even from
some external influence."

Finally, the renowned reformer Martin Luther could not see any benefit from
a woman but bringing into the world as many children as possible regardless
of any side effects:

"If they become tired or even die, that does not matter. Let them die in
childbirth, that's why they are there"

Again and again all women are denigrated because of the image of Eve the
temptress, thanks to the Genesis account. To sum up, the Judaeo-Christian
conception of women has been poisoned by the belief in the sinful nature of
Eve and her female offspring.

If we now turn our attention to what the Quran has to say about women, we
will soon realize that the Islamic conception of women is radically
different from the Judaeo-Christian one. Let the Quran speak for itself:

"For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and
women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient, for men
and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for
men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for
men and women who engage much in Allah's praise-- For them all has Allah
prepared forgiveness and great reward" (33:35).

"The believers, men and women, are protectors, one of another: they enjoin
what is just, and forbid what is evil, they observe regular prayers,
practise regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will
Allah pour His Mercy: for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise" (9:71).

"And their Lord answered them: Truly I will never cause to be lost the work
of any of you, Be you a male or female, you are members one of another"
(3:195).

"Whoever works evil will not be requited but by the like thereof, and
whoever works a righteous deed -whether man or woman- and is a believer-
such will enter the Garden of bliss" (40:40).

"Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has faith, verily to him/her
we will give a new life that is good and pure, and we will bestow on such
their reward according to the best of their actions" (16:97).

It is clear that the Quranic view of women is no different than that of men.
They, both, are God's creatures whose sublime goal on earth is to worship
their Lord, do righteous deeds, and avoid evil and they, both, will be
assessed accordingly. The Quran never mentions that the woman is the devil's
gateway or that she is a deceiver by nature. The Quran, also, never mentions
that man is God's image; all men and all women are his creatures, that is
all. According to the Quran, a woman's role on earth is not limited only to
childbirth. She is required to do as many good deeds as any other man is
required to do. The Quran never says that no upright women have ever
existed. To the contrary, the Quran has instructed all the believers, women
as well as men, to follow the example of those ideal women such as the
Virgin Mary and the Pharoah's wife:

"And Allah sets forth, As an example to those who believe, the wife of
Pharaoh: Behold she said: 'O my lord build for me, in nearness to you, a
mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings and save me
from those who do wrong.' And Mary the daughter of Imran who guarded her
chastity and We breathed into her body of Our spirit; and she testified to
the truth of the words of her Lord and of His revelations and was one of the
devout" (66:11-13).

4. SHAMEFUL DAUGHTERS ?

In fact, the difference between the Biblical and the Quranic attitude
towards the female sex starts as soon as a female is born. For example, the
Bible states that the period of the mother's ritual impurity is twice as
long if a girl is born than if a boy is (Lev. 12:2-5). The Catholic Bible
states explicitly that:

"The birth of a daughter is a loss" (Ecclesiasticus 22:3).

In contrast to this shocking statement, boys receive special praise:

"A man who educates his son will be the envy of his enemy." (Ecclesiasticus
30:3)

Jewish Rabbis made it an obligation on Jewish men to produce offspring in
order to propagate the race. At the same time, they did not hide their clear
preference for male children : "It is well for those whose children are male
but ill for those whose are female", "At the birth of a boy, all are
joyful...at the birth of a girl all are sorrowful", and "When a boy comes
into the world, peace comes into the world... When a girl comes, nothing
comes."7

A daughter is considered a painful burden, a potential source of shame to
her father:

"Your daughter is headstrong? Keep a sharp look-out that she does not make
you the laughing stock of your enemies, the talk of the town, the object of
common gossip, and put you to public shame" (Ecclesiasticus 42:11).

"Keep a headstrong daughter under firm control, or she will abuse any
indulgence she receives. Keep a strict watch on her shameless eye, do not be
surprised if she disgraces you" (Ecclesiasticus 26:10-11).

It was this very same idea of treating daughters as sources of shame that
led the pagan Arabs, before the advent of Islam, to practice female
infanticide. The Quran severely condemned this heinous practice:

"When news is brought to one of them of the birth of a female child, his
face darkens and he is filled with inward grief. With shame does he hide
himself from his people because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain
her on contempt or bury her in the dust? Ah! what an evil they decide on?"
(16:59).

It has to be mentioned that this sinister crime would have never stopped in
Arabia were it not for the power of the scathing terms the Quran used to
condemn this practice (16:59, 43:17, 81:8-9). The Quran, moreover, makes no
distinction between boys and girls. In contrast to the Bible, the Quran
considers the birth of a female as a gift and a blessing from God, the same
as the birth of a male. The Quran even mentions the gift of the female birth
first:

" To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. He creates
what He wills. He bestows female children to whomever He wills and bestows
male children to whomever He wills" (42:49).

In order to wipe out all the traces of female infanticide in the nascent
Muslim society, Prophet Muhammad promised those who were blessed with
daughters of a great reward if they would bring them up kindly:

"He who is involved in bringing up daughters, and accords benevolent
treatment towards them, they will be protection for him against Hell-Fire"
(Bukhari and Muslim).

"Whoever maintains two girls till they attain maturity, he and I will come
on the Resurrection Day like this; and he joined his fingers" (Muslim).

5. FEMALE EDUCATION ?

The difference between the Biblical and the Quranic conceptions of women is
not limited to the newly born female, it extends far beyond that. Let us
compare their attitudes towards a female trying to learn her religion. The
heart of Judaism is the Torah, the law. However, according to the Talmud,
"women are exempt from the study of the Torah." Some Jewish Rabbis firmly
declared "Let the words of Torah rather be destroyed by fire than imparted
to women", and "Whoever teaches his daughter Torah is as though he taught
her obscenity"8

The attitude of St. Paul in the New Testament is not brighter:

"As in all the congregations of the saints, women should remain silent in
the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission as
the law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their
own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the
church." (I Corinthians 14:34-35)

How can a woman learn if she is not allowed to speak? How can a woman grow
intellectually if she is obliged to be in a state of full submission? How
can she broaden her horizons if her one and only source of information is
her husband at home?

Now, to be fair, we should ask: is the Quranic position any different? One
short story narrated in the Quran sums its position up concisely. Khawlah
was a Muslim woman whose husband Aws pronounced this statement at a moment
of anger: "You are to me as the back of my mother." This was held by pagan
Arabs to be a statement of divorce which freed the husband from any conjugal
responsibility but did not leave the wife free to leave the husband's home
or to marry another man. Having heard these words from her husband, Khawlah
was in a miserable situation. She went straight to the Prophet of Islam to
plead her case. The Prophet was of the opinion that she should be patient
since there seemed to be no way out. Khawla kept arguing with the Prophet in
an attempt to save her suspended marriage. Shortly, the Quran intervened;
Khawla's plea was accepted. The divine verdict abolished this iniquitous
custom. One full chapter (Chapter 58) of the Quran whose title is
"Almujadilah" or "The woman who is arguing" was named after this incident:

"Allah has heard and accepted the statement of the woman who pleads with you
(the Prophet) concerning her husband and carries her complaint to Allah, and
Allah hears the arguments between both of you for Allah hears and sees all
things...." (58:1).

A woman in the Quranic conception has the right to argue even with the
Prophet of Islam himself. No one has the right to instruct her to be silent.
She is under no obligation to consider her husband the one and only
reference in matters of law and religion.

6. UNCLEAN IMPURE WOMAN ?

Jewish laws and regulations concerning menstruating women are extremely
restrictive. The Old Testament considers any menstruating woman as unclean
and impure. Moreover, her impurity "infects" others as well. Anyone or
anything she touches becomes unclean for a day:

"When a woman has her regular flow of blood, the impurity of her monthly
period will last seven days, and anyone who touches her will be unclean till
evening. Anything she lies on during her period will be unclean, and
anything she sits on will be unclean. Whoever touches her bed must wash his
clothes and bathe with water, and he will be unclean till evening. Whoever
touches anything she sits on must wash his clothes and bathe with water, and
he will be unclean till evening. Whether it is the bed or anything she was
sitting on, when anyone touches it, he will be unclean till evening" (Lev.
15:19-23).

Due to her "contaminating" nature, a menstruating woman was sometimes
"banished" in order to avoid any possibility of any contact with her. She
was sent to a special house called "the house of uncleanness" for the whole
period of her impurity. 9 The Talmud considers a menstruating woman "fatal"
even without any physical contact:

"Our Rabbis taught:....if a menstruant woman passes between two (men), if it
is at the beginning of her menses she will slay one of them, and if it is at
the end of her menses she will cause strife between them" (bPes. 111a.)

Furthermore, the husband of a menstruous woman was forbidden to enter the
synagogue if he had been made unclean by her even by the dust under her
feet. A priest whose wife, daughter, or mother was menstruating could not
recite priestly blessing in the synagogue. 10 No wonder many Jewish women
still refer to menstruation as "the curse." 11

Islam does not consider a menstruating woman to possess any kind of
"contagious uncleanness". She is neither "untouchable" nor "cursed." She
practises her normal life with only one restriction: A married couple are
not allowed to have sexual intercourse during the period of menstruation.
Any other physical contact between them is permissible. A menstruating woman
is exempted from some rituals such as daily prayers and fasting during her
period.

7. BEARING WITNESS

Another issue in which the Quran and the Bible disagree is the issue of
women bearing witness. It is true that the Quran has instructed the
believers dealing in financial transactions to get two male witnesses or one
male and two females (2:282). However, it is also true that the Quran in
other situations accepts the testimony of a woman as equal to that of a man.
In fact the woman's testimony can even invalidate the man's. If a man
accuses his wife of unchastity, he is required by the Quran to solemnly
swear five times as evidence of the wife's guilt. If the wife denies and
swears similarly five times, she is not considered guilty and in either case
the marriage is dissolved (24:6-11).

On the other hand, women were not allowed to bear witness in early Jewish
society. 12 The Rabbis counted women's not being able to bear witness among
the nine curses inflicted upon all women because of the Fall (see the "Eve's
Legacy" section). Women in today's Israel are not allowed to give evidence
in Rabbinical courts. 13 The Rabbis justify why women cannot bear witness by
citing Genesis 18:9-16, where it is stated that Sara, Abraham's wife had
lied. The Rabbis use this incident as evidence that women are unqualified to
bear witness. It should be noted here that this story narrated in Genesis
18:9-16 has been mentioned more than once in the Quran without any hint of
any lies by Sara (11:69-74, 51:24-30). In the Christian West, both
ecclesiastical and civil law debarred women from giving testimony until late
last century. 14

If a man accuses his wife of unchastity, her testimony will not be
considered at all according to the Bible. The accused wife has to be
subjected to a trial by ordeal. In this trial, the wife faces a complex and
humiliating ritual which was supposed to prove her guilt or innocence (Num.
5:11-31). If she is found guilty after this ordeal, she will be sentenced to
death. If she is found not guilty, her husband will be innocent of any
wrongdoing.

Besides, if a man takes a woman as a wife and then accuses her of not being
a virgin, her own testimony will not count. Her parents had to bring
evidence of her virginity before the elders of the town. If the parents
could not prove the innocence of their daughter, she would be stoned to
death on her father's doorsteps. If the parents were able to prove her
innocence, the husband would only be fined one hundred shekels of silver and
he could not divorce his wife as long as he lived:

"If a man takes a wife and, after lying with her, dislikes her and slanders
her and gives her a bad name, saying, 'I married this woman, but when I
approached her, I did not find proof of her virginity,' then the girl's
father and mother shall bring proof that she was a virgin to the town elders
at the gate. The girl's father will say to the elders, 'I gave my daughter
in marriage to this man, but he dislikes her. Now he has slandered her and
said I did not find your daughter to be a virgin. But here is the proof of
my daughter's virginity.' Then her parents shall display the cloth before
the elders of the town, and the elders shall take the man and punish him.
They shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver and give them to the girl's
father, because this man has given an Israelite virgin a bad name. She shall
continue to be his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives. If,
however, the charge is true and no proof of the girl's virginity can be
found, she shall be brought to the door of her father's house and there the
men of the town shall stone her to death. She has done a disgraceful thing
in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father's house. You must
purge the evil from among you." (Deuteronomy 22:13-21)

8. ADULTERY

Adultery is considered a sin in all religions. The Bible decrees the death
sentence for both the adulterer and the adulteress (Lev. 20:10). Islam also
equally punishes both the adulterer and the adulteress (24:2). However, the
Quranic definition of adultery is very different from the Biblical
definition. Adultery, according to the Quran, is the involvement of a
married man or a married woman in an extramarital affair. The Bible only
considers the extramarital affair of a married woman as adultery (Leviticus
20:10, Deuteronomy 22:22, Proverbs 6:20-7:27).

"If a man is found sleeping with another man's wife, both the man who slept
with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel" (Deut.
22:22).

"If a man commits adultery with another man's wife both the adulterer and
the adulteress must be put to death" (Lev. 20:10).

According to the Biblical definition, if a married man sleeps with an
unmarried woman, this is not considered a crime at all. The married man who
has extramarital affairs with unmarried women is not an adulterer and the
unmarried women involved with him are not adulteresses. The crime of
adultery is committed only when a man, whether married or single, sleeps
with a married woman. In this case the man is considered adulterer, even if
he is not married, and the woman is considered adulteress. In short,
adultery is any illicit sexual intercourse involving a married woman. The
extramarital affair of a married man is not per se a crime in the Bible. Why
is the dual moral standard? According to Encyclopaedia Judaica, the wife was
considered to be the husband's possession and adultery constituted a
violation of the husband's exclusive right to her; the wife as the husband's
possession had no such right to him. 15 That is, if a man had sexual
intercourse with a married woman, he would be violating the property of
another man and, thus, he should be punished.

To the present day in Israel, if a married man indulges in an extramarital
affair with an unmarried woman, his children by that woman are considered
legitimate. But, if a married woman has an affair with another man, whether
married or not married, her children by that man are not only illegitimate
but they are considered bastards and are forbidden to marry any other Jews
except converts and other bastards. This ban is handed down to the
children's descendants for 10 generations until the taint of adultery is
presumably weakened. 16

The Quran, on the other hand, never considers any woman to be the possession
of any man. The Quran eloquently describes the relationship between the
spouses by saying:

" And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among
yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love
and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who
reflect" (30:21).

This is the Quranic conception of marriage: love, mercy, and tranquillity,
not possession and double standards.

9. VOWS

According to the Bible, a man must fulfil any vows he might make to God. He
must not break his word. On the other hand, a woman's vow is not necessarily
binding on her. It has to be approved by her father, if she is living in his
house, or by her husband, if she is married. If a father/husband does not
endorse his daughter's/wife's vows, all pledges made by her become null and
void:

"But if her father forbids her when he hears about it, none of her vows or
the pledges by which she obligated herself will stand ....Her husband may
confirm or nullify any vow she makes or any sworn pledge to deny herself"
(Num. 30:2-15)

Why is it that a woman's word is not binding per se ? The answer is simple:
because she is owned by her father, before marriage, or by her husband after
marriage. The father's control over his daughter was absolute to the extent
that, should he wish, he could sell her! It is indicated in the writings of
the Rabbis that: "The man may sell his daughter, but the woman may not sell
her daughter; the man may betroth his daughter, but the woman may not
betroth her daughter." 17 The Rabbinic literature also indicates that
marriage represents the transfer of control from the father to the husband:
"betrothal, making a woman the sacrosanct possession--the inviolable
property-- of the husband..." Obviously, if the woman is considered to be
the property of someone else, she cannot make any pledges that her owner
does not approve of.

It is of interest to note that this Biblical instruction concerning women's
vows has had negative repercussions on Judaeo-Christian women till early in
this century. A married woman in the Western world had no legal status. No
act of hers was of any legal value. Her husband could repudiate any
contract, bargain, or deal she had made. Women in the West (the largest heir
of the Judaeo-Christian legacy) were held unable to make a binding contract
because they were practically owned by someone else. Western women had
suffered for almost two thousand years because of the Biblical attitude
towards women's position vis-à-vis their fathers and husbands. 18

In Islam, the vow of every Muslim, male or female, is binding on him/her. No
one has the power to repudiate the pledges of anyone else. Failure to keep a
solemn oath, made by a man or a woman, has to be expiated as indicated in
the Quran:

"He [God] will call you to account for your deliberate oaths: for expiation,
feed ten indigent persons, on a scale of the average for the food of your
families; Or clothe them; or give a slave his freedom. If that is beyond
your means, fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths you
have sworn. But keep your oaths" (5:89).

Companions of the Prophet Muhammad, men and women, used to present their
oath of allegiance to him personally. Women, as well as men, would
independently come to him and pledge their oaths:

"O Prophet, When believing women come to you to make a covenant with you
that they will not associate in worship anything with God, nor steal, nor
fornicate, nor kill their own children, nor slander anyone, nor disobey you
in any just matter, then make a covenant with them and pray to God for the
forgiveness of their sins. Indeed God is Forgiving and most Merciful"
(60:12).

A man could not swear the oath on behalf of his daughter or his wife. Nor
could a man repudiate the oath made by any of his female relatives.

10. WIFE'S PROPERTY ?

The three religions share an unshakeable belief in the importance of
marriage and family life. They also agree on the leadership of the husband
over the family. Nevertheless, blatant differences do exist among the three
religions with respect to the limits of this leadership. The
Judaeo-Christian tradition, unlike Islam, virtually extends the leadership
of the husband into ownership of his wife.

The Jewish tradition regarding the husband's role towards his wife stems
from the conception that he owns her as he owns his slave. 19 This
conception has been the reason behind the double standard in the laws of
adultery and behind the husband's ability to annul his wife's vows. This
conception has also been responsible for denying the wife any control over
her property or her earnings. As soon as a Jewish woman got married, she
completely lost any control over her property and earnings to her husband.
Jewish Rabbis asserted the husband's right to his wife's property as a
corollary of his possession of her: "Since one has come into the possession
of the woman does it not follow that he should come into the possession of
her property too?", and "Since he has acquired the woman should he not
acquire also her property?" 20 Thus, marriage caused the richest woman to
become practically penniless. The Talmud describes the financial situation
of a wife as follows:

"How can a woman have anything; whatever is hers belongs to her husband?
What is his is his and what is hers is also his...... Her earnings and what
she may find in the streets are also his. The household articles, even the
crumbs of bread on the table, are his. Should she invite a guest to her
house and feed him, she would be stealing from her husband..." (San. 71a,
Git. 62a)

The fact of the matter is that the property of a Jewish female was meant to
attract suitors. A Jewish family would assign their daughter a share of her
father's estate to be used as a dowry in case of marriage. It was this dowry
that made Jewish daughters an unwelcome burden to their fathers. The father
had to raise his daughter for years and then prepare for her marriage by
providing a large dowry. Thus, a girl in a Jewish family was a liability and
no asset. 21 This liability explains why the birth of a daughter was not
celebrated with joy in the old Jewish society (see the "Shameful Daughters?"
section). The dowry was the wedding gift presented to the groom under terms
of tenancy. The husband would act as the practical owner of the dowry but he
could not sell it. The bride would lose any control over the dowry at the
moment of marriage. Moreover, she was expected to work after marriage and
all her earnings had to go to her husband in return for her maintenance
which was his obligation. She could regain her property only in two cases:
divorce or her husband's death. Should she die first, he would inherit her
property. In the case of the husband's death, the wife could regain her
pre-marital property but she was not entitled to inherit any share in her
deceased husband's own property. It has to be added that the groom also had
to present a marriage gift to his bride, yet again he was the practical
owner of this gift as long as they were married. 22

Christianity, until recently, has followed the same Jewish tradition. Both
religious and civil authorities in the Christian Roman Empire (after
Constantine) required a property agreement as a condition for recognizing
the marriage. Families offered their daughters increasing dowries and, as a
result, men tended to marry earlier while families postponed their
daughters' marriages until later than had been customary. 23 Under Canon
law, a wife was entitled to restitution of her dowry if the marriage was
annulled unless she was guilty of adultery. In this case, she forfeited her
right to the dowry which remained in her husband's hands. 24 Under Canon and
civil law a married woman in Christian Europe and America had lost her
property rights until late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries. For
example, women's rights under English law were compiled and published in
1632. These 'rights' included: "That which the husband hath is his own. That
which the wife hath is the husband's." 25 The wife not only lost her
property upon marriage, she lost her personality as well. No act of her was
of legal value. Her husband could repudiate any sale or gift made by her as
being of no binding legal value. The person with whom she had any contract
was held as a criminal for participating in a fraud. Moreover, she could not
sue or be sued in her own name, nor could she sue her own husband. 26 A
married woman was practically treated as an infant in the eyes of the law.
The wife simply belonged to her husband and therefore she lost her property,
her legal personality, and her family name. 27

Islam, since the seventh century C.E., has granted married women the
independent personality which the Judaeo-Christian West had deprived them
until very recently. In Islam, the bride and her family are under no
obligation whatsoever to present a gift to the groom. The girl in a Muslim
family is no liability. A woman is so dignified by Islam that she does not
need to present gifts in order to attract potential husbands. It is the
groom who must present the bride with a marriage gift. This gift is
considered her property and neither the groom nor the bride's family have
any share in or control over it. In some Muslim societies today, a marriage
gift of a hundred thousand dollars in diamonds is not unusual. 28 The bride
retains her marriage gifts even if she is later divorced. The husband is not
allowed any share in his wife's property except what she offers him with her
free consent. 29 The Quran has stated its position on this issue quite
clearly:

"And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they,
Of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy
it with right good cheer" (4:4)

The wife's property and earnings are under her full control and for her use
alone since her, and the children's, maintenance is her husband's
responsibility. 30 No matter how rich the wife might be, she is not obliged
to act as a co-provider for the family unless she herself voluntarily
chooses to do so. Spouses do inherit from one another. Moreover, a married
woman in Islam retains her independent legal personality and her family
name. 31 An American judge once commented on the rights of Muslim women
saying: " A Muslim girl may marry ten times, but her individuality is not
absorbed by that of her various husbands. She is a solar planet with a name
and legal personality of her own." 32

11. DIVORCE

The three religions have remarkable differences in their attitudes towards
divorce. Christianity abhors divorce altogether. The New Testament
unequivocally advocates the indissolubility of marriage. It is attributed to
Jesus to have said, "But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife,
except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become adulteress, and
anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery" (Matthew 5:32). This
uncompromising ideal is, without a doubt, unrealistic. It assumes a state of
moral perfection that human societies have never achieved. When a couple
realizes that their married life is beyond repair, a ban on divorce will not
do them any good. Forcing ill-mated couples to remain together against their
wills is neither effective nor reasonable. No wonder the whole Christian
world has been obliged to sanction divorce.

Judaism, on the other hand, allows divorce even without any cause. The Old
Testament gives the husband the right to divorce his wife even if he just
dislikes her:

"If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds
something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce,
gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his
house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes
her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her
from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is
not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled" (Deut. 24:1-4).

The above verses have caused some considerable debate among Jewish scholars
because of their disagreement over the interpretation of the words
"displeasing", "indecency", and "dislikes" mentioned in the verses. The
Talmud records their different opinions:

"The school of Shammai held that a man should not divorce his wife unless he
has found her guilty of some sexual misconduct, while the school of Hillel
say he may divorce her even if she has merely spoiled a dish for him. Rabbi
Akiba says he may divorce her even if he simply finds another woman more
beautiful than she" (Gittin 90a-b).

The New Testament follows the Shammaites opinion while Jewish law has
followed the opinion of the Hillelites and R. Akiba. 33 Since the Hillelites
view prevailed, it became the unbroken tradition of Jewish law to give the
husband freedom to divorce his wife without any cause at all. The Old
Testament not only gives the husband the right to divorce his "displeasing"
wife, it considers divorcing a "bad wife" an obligation:

"A bad wife brings humiliation, downcast looks, and a wounded heart. Slack
of hand and weak of knee is the man whose wife fails to make him happy.
Woman is the origin of sin, and it is through her that we all die. Do not
leave a leaky cistern to drip or allow a bad wife to say what she likes. If
she does not accept your control, divorce her and send her away"
(Ecclesiasticus 25:25).

The Talmud has recorded several specific actions by wives which obliged
their husbands to divorce them: "If she ate in the street, if she drank
greedily in the street, if she suckled in the street, in every case Rabbi
Meir says that she must leave her husband" (Git. 89a). The Talmud has also
made it mandatory to divorce a barren wife (who bore no children in a period
of ten years): "Our Rabbis taught: If a man took a wife and lived with her
for ten years and she bore no child, he shall divorce her" (Yeb. 64a).

Wives, on the other hand, cannot initiate divorce under Jewish law. A Jewish
wife, however, could claim the right to a divorce before a Jewish court
provided that a strong reason exists. Very few grounds are provided for the
wife to make a claim for a divorce. These grounds include: A husband with
physical defects or skin disease, a husband not fulfilling his conjugal
responsibilities, etc. The Court might support the wife's claim to a divorce
but it cannot dissolve the marriage. Only the husband can dissolve the
marriage by giving his wife a bill of divorce. The Court could scourge,
fine, imprison, and excommunicate him to force him to deliver the necessary
bill of divorce to his wife. However, if the husband is stubborn enough, he
can refuse to grant his wife a divorce and keep her tied to him
indefinitely. Worse still, he can desert her without granting her a divorce
and leave her unmarried and undivorced. He can marry another woman or even
live with any single woman out of wedlock and have children from her (these
children are considered legitimate under Jewish law). The deserted wife, on
the other hand, cannot marry any other man since she is still legally
married and she cannot live with any other man because she will be
considered an adulteress and her children from this union will be
illegitimate for ten generations. A woman in such a position is called an
agunah (chained woman). 34 In the United States today there are
approximately 1000 to 1500 Jewish women who are agunot (plural for agunah),
while in Israel their number might be as high as 16000. Husbands may extort
thousands of dollars from their trapped wives in exchange for a Jewish
divorce. 35

Islam occupies the middle ground between Christianity and Judaism with
respect to divorce. Marriage in Islam is a sanctified bond that should not
be broken except for compelling reasons. Couples are instructed to pursue
all possible remedies whenever their marriages are in danger. Divorce is not
to be resorted to except when there is no other way out. In a nutshell,
Islam recognizes divorce, yet it discourages it by all means. Let us focus
on the recognition side first. Islam does recognize the right of both
partners to end their matrimonial relationship. Islam gives the husband the
right for Talaq (divorce). Moreover, Islam, unlike Judaism, grants the wife
the right to dissolve the marriage through what is known as Khula'. 36 If
the husband dissolves the marriage by divorcing his wife, he cannot retrieve
any of the marriage gifts he has given her. The Quran explicitly prohibits
the divorcing husbands from taking back their marriage gifts no matter how
expensive or valuable these gifts might be:

"But if you decide to take one wife in place of another, even if you had
given the latter a whole treasure for dower, take not the least bit of it
back; Would you take it by slander and a manifest wrong?" (4:20).

In the case of the wife choosing to end the marriage, she may return the
marriage gifts to her husband. Returning the marriage gifts in this case is
a fair compensation for the husband who is keen to keep his wife while she
chooses to leave him. The Quran has instructed Muslim men not to take back
any of the gifts they have given to their wives except in the case of the
wife choosing to dissolve the marriage:

"It is not lawful for you (Men) to take back any of your gifts except when
both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by
Allah. There is no blame on either of them if she give something for her
freedom. These are the limits ordained by Allah so do not transgress them"
(2:229).

Also, a woman came to the Prophet Muhammad seeking the dissolution of her
marriage, she told the Prophet that she did not have any complaints against
her husband's character or manners. Her only problem was that she honestly
did not like him to the extent of not being able to live with him any
longer. The Prophet asked her: "Would you give him his garden (the marriage
gift he had given her) back?" she said: "Yes". The Prophet then instructed
the man to take back his garden and accept the dissolution of the marriage
(Bukhari).

In some cases, A Muslim wife might be willing to keep her marriage but find
herself obliged to claim for a divorce because of some compelling reasons
such as: Cruelty of the husband, desertion without a reason, a husband not
fulfilling his conjugal responsibilities, etc. In these cases the Muslim
court dissolves the marriage. 37

In short, Islam has offered the Muslim woman some unequalled rights: she can
end the marriage through Khula' and she can sue for a divorce. A Muslim wife
can never become chained by a recalcitrant husband. It was these rights that
enticed Jewish women who lived in the early Islamic societies of the seventh
century C.E. to seek to obtain bills of divorce from their Jewish husbands
in Muslim courts. The Rabbis declared these bills null and void. In order to
end this practice, the Rabbis gave new rights and privileges to Jewish women
in an attempt to weaken the appeal of the Muslim courts. Jewish women living
in Christian countries were not offered any similar privileges since the
Roman law of divorce practiced there was no more attractive than the Jewish
law. 38

Let us now focus our attention on how Islam discourages divorce. The Prophet
of Islam told the believers that:

"among all the permitted acts, divorce is the most hateful to God" (Abu
Dawood).

A Muslim man should not divorce his wife just because he dislikes her. The
Quran instructs Muslim men to be kind to their wives even in cases of
lukewarm emotions or feelings of dislike:

"Live with them (your wives) on a footing of kindness and equity. If you
dislike them it may be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed
a great deal of good" (4:19).

Prophet Muhammad gave a similar instruction:

" A believing man must not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her
traits he will be pleased with another" (Muslim).

The Prophet has also emphasized that the best Muslims are those who are best
to their wives:

"The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best
character and the best of you are those who are best to their wives"
(Tirmidthi).

However, Islam is a practical religion and it does recognize that there are
circumstances in which a marriage becomes on the verge of collapsing. In
such cases, a mere advice of kindness or self restraint is no viable
solution. So, what to do in order to save a marriage in these cases? The
Quran offers some practical advice for the spouse (husband or wife) whose
partner (wife or husband) is the wrongdoer. For the husband whose wife's
ill-conduct is threatening the marriage, the Quran gives four types of
advice as detailed in the following verses:

"As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, (1)
Admonish them, (2) refuse to share their beds, (3) beat them; but if they
return to obedience seek not against them means of annoyance: For Allah is
Most High, Great. (4) If you fear a break between them, appoint two
arbiters, one from his family and the other from hers; If they wish for
peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation" (4:34-35).

The first three are to be tried first. If they fail, then the help of the
families concerned should be sought. It has to be noted, in the light of the
above verses, that beating the rebellious wife is a temporary measure that
is resorted to as third in line in cases of extreme necessity in hopes that
it might remedy the wrongdoing of the wife. If it does, the husband is not
allowed by any means to continue any annoyance to the wife as explicitly
mentioned in the verse. If it does not, the husband is still not allowed to
use this measure any longer and the final avenue of the family-assisted
reconciliation has to be explored.

Prophet Muhammad has instructed Muslim husbands that they should not have
recourse to these measures except in extreme cases such as open lewdness
committed by the wife. Even in these cases the punishment should be slight
and if the wife desists, the husband is not permitted to irritate her:

"In case they are guilty of open lewdness you may leave them alone in their
beds and inflict slight punishment. If they are obedient to you, do not seek
against them any means of annoyance" (Tirmidthi)

Furthermore, the Prophet of Islam has condemned any unjustifiable beating.
Some Muslim wives complained to him that their husbands had beaten them.
Hearing that, the Prophet categorically stated that:

"Those who do so (beat their wives) are not the best among you" (Abu
Dawood).

It has to be remembered at this point that the Prophet has also said:

"The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among
you to my family" (Tirmidthi).

The Prophet advised one Muslim woman, whose name was Fatimah bint Qais, not
to marry a man because the man was known for beating women:

"I went to the Prophet and said: Abul Jahm and Mu'awiah have proposed to
marry me. The Prophet (by way of advice) said: As to Mu'awiah he is very
poor and Abul Jahm is accustomed to beating women" (Muslim).

It has to be noted that the Talmud sanctions wife beating as chastisement
for the purpose of discipline. 39 The husband is not restricted to the
extreme cases such as those of open lewdness. He is allowed to beat his wife
even if she just refuses to do her house work. Moreover, he is not limited
only to the use of light punishment. He is permitted to break his wife's
stubbornness by the lash or by starving her. 40

For the wife whose husband's ill-conduct is the cause for the marriage's
near collapse, the Quran offers the following advice:

"If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no
blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and
such settlement is best" (4:128).

In this case, the wife is advised to seek reconciliation with her husband
(with or without family assistance). It is notable that the Quran is not
advising the wife to resort to the two measures of abstention from sex and
beating. The reason for this disparity might be to protect the wife from a
violent physical reaction by her already misbehaving husband. Such a violent
physical reaction will do both the wife and the marriage more harm than
good. Some Muslim scholars have suggested that the court can apply these
measures against the husband on the wife's behalf. That is, the court first
admonishes the rebellious husband, then forbids him his wife's bed, and
finally executes a symbolic beating. 41

To sum up, Islam offers Muslim married couples much viable advice to save
their marriages in cases of trouble and tension. If one of the partners is
jeopardizing the matrimonial relationship, the other partner is advised by
the Quran to do whatever possible and effective in order to save this sacred
bond. If all the measures fail, Islam allows the partners to separate
peacefully and amicably.

12. MOTHERS

The Old Testament in several places commands kind and considerate treatment
of the parents and condemns those who dishonor them. For example, "If anyone
curses his father or mother, he must be put to death" (Lev. 20:9) and "A
wise man brings joy to his father but a foolish man despises his mother"
(Proverbs 15:20). Although honoring the father alone is mentioned in some
places, e.g. "A wise man heeds his father's instruction" (Proverbs 13:1),
the mother alone is never mentioned. Moreover, there is no special emphasis
on treating the mother kindly as a sign of appreciation of her great
suffering in childbearing and suckling. Besides, mothers do not inherit at
all from their children while fathers do. 42

It is difficult to speak of the New Testament as a scripture that calls for
honoring the mother. To the contrary, one gets the impression that the New
Testament considers kind treatment of mothers as an impediment on the way to
God. According to the New Testament, one cannot become a good Christian
worthy of becoming a disciple of Christ unless he hates his mother. It is
attributed to Jesus to have said:

"If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and
children, his brothers and sisters--yes, even his own life--he can not be my
disciple" (Luke 14:26).

Furthermore, the New Testament depicts a picture of Jesus as indifferent to,
or even disrespectful of, his own mother. For example, when she had come
looking for him while he was preaching to a crowd, he did not care to go out
to see her:

"Then Jesus' mother and brothers arrived. Standing outside, they sent
someone to call him. A crowd was sitting around him and they told him, 'Your
mother and brothers are outside looking for you.' 'Who are my mother and my
brothers?' he asked. Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him
and said,' Here are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does God's will is my
brother and sister and mother.' " (Mark 3:31-35)

One might argue that Jesus was trying to teach his audience an important
lesson that religious ties are no less important than family ties. However,
he could have taught his listeners the same lesson without showing such
absolute indifference to his mother. The same disrespectful attitude is
depicted when he refused to endorse a statement made by a member of his
audience blessing his mother's role in giving birth to him and nursing him:

"As Jesus was saying these things, a woman in the crowd called out, 'Blessed
is the mother who gave you birth and nursed you.' He replied, 'Blessed
rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.' " (Luke 11:27-28)

If a mother with the stature of the virgin Mary had been treated with such
discourtesy, as depicted in the New Testament, by a son of the stature of
Jesus Christ, then how should an average Christian mother be treated by her
average Christian sons?

In Islam, the honor, respect, and esteem attached to motherhood is
unparalleled. The Quran places the importance of kindness to parents as
second only to worshipping God Almighty:

"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, And that you be kind
to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, Say not
to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, But address them in terms of
honor. And out of kindness, Lower to them the wing of humility, and say: 'My
Lord! bestow on them Your Mercy as they Cherished me in childhood' "
(17:23-24).

The Quran in several other places puts special emphasis on the mother's
great role in giving birth and nursing:

"And We have enjoined on man to be good to his parents: In travail upon
travail did his mother bear him and in two years was his weaning. Show
gratitude to Me and to your parents" (31:14).

The very special place of mothers in Islam has been eloquently described by
Prophet Muhammad:

"A man asked the Prophet: 'Whom should I honor most?' The Prophet replied:
'Your mother'. 'And who comes next?' asked the man. The Prophet replied:
'Your mother'. 'And who comes next?' asked the man. The Prophet replied:
'Your mother!'. 'And who comes next?' asked the man. The Prophet replied:
'Your father'" (Bukhari and Muslim).

Among the few precepts of Islam which Muslims still faithfully observe to
the present day is the considerate treatment of mothers. The honor that
Muslim mothers receive from their sons and daughters is exemplary. The
intensely warm relations between Muslim mothers and their children and the
deep respect with which Muslim men approach their mothers usually amaze
Westerners. 43

13. FEMALE INHERITANCE ?

One of the most important differences between the Quran and the Bible is
their attitude towards female inheritance of the property of a deceased
relative. The Biblical attitude has been succinctly described by Rabbi
Epstein: "The continuous and unbroken tradition since the Biblical days
gives the female members of the household, wife and daughters, no right of
succession to the family estate. In the more primitive scheme of succession,
the female members of the family were considered part of the estate and as
remote from the legal personality of an heir as the slave. Whereas by Mosaic
enactment the daughters were admitted to succession in the event of no male
issue remained, the wife was not recognized as heir even in such
conditions." 44 Why were the female members of the family considered part of
the family estate? Rabbi Epstein has the answer: "They are owned --before
marriage, by the father; after marriage, by the husband." 45

The Biblical rules of inheritance are outlined in Numbers 27:1-11. A wife is
given no share in her husband's estate, while he is her first heir, even
before her sons. A daughter can inherit only if no male heirs exist. A
mother is not an heir at all while the father is. Widows and daughters, in
case male children remained, were at the mercy of the male heirs for
provision. That is why widows and orphan girls were among the most destitute
members of the Jewish society.

Christianity has followed suit for long time. Both the ecclesiastical and
civil laws of Christendom barred daughters from sharing with their brothers
in the father's patrimony. Besides, wives were deprived of any inheritance
rights. These iniquitous laws survived till late in the last century46.

Among the pagan Arabs before Islam, inheritance rights were confined
exclusively to the male relatives. The Quran abolished all these unjust
customs and gave all the female relatives inheritance shares:

"From what is left by parents and those nearest related there is a share for
men and a share for women, whether the property be small or large --a
determinate share" (4:7).

Muslim mothers, wives, daughters, and sisters had received inheritance
rights thirteen hundred years before Europe recognized that these rights
even existed. The division of inheritance is a vast subject with an enormous
amount of details (4:7,11,12,176). The general rule is that the female share
is half the male's except the cases in which the mother receives equal share
to that of the father. This general rule if taken in isolation from other
legislations concerning men and women may seem unfair. In order to
understand the rationale behind this rule, one must take into account the
fact that the financial obligations of men in Islam far exceed those of
women (see the "Wife's property?" section). A bridegroom must provide his
bride with a marriage gift. This gift becomes her exclusive property and
remains so even if she is later divorced. The bride is under no obligation
to present any gifts to her groom. Moreover, the Muslim husband is charged
with the maintenance of his wife and children. The wife, on the other hand,
is not obliged to help him in this regard. Her property and earnings are for
her use alone except what she may voluntarily offer her husband. Besides,
one has to realize that Islam vehemently advocates family life. It strongly
encourages youth to get married, discourages divorce, and does not regard
celibacy as a virtue. Therefore, in a truly Islamic society, family life is
the norm and single life is the rare exception. That is, almost all
marriage-aged women and men are married in an Islamic society. In light of
these facts, one would appreciate that Muslim men, in general, have greater
financial burdens than Muslim women and thus inheritance rules are meant to
offset this imbalance so that the society lives free of all gender or class
wars. After a simple comparison between the financial rights and duties of
Muslim women, one British Muslim woman has concluded that Islam has treated
women not only fairly but generously. 47

14. PLIGHT OF WIDOWS

Because of the fact that the Old Testament recognized no inheritance rights
to them, widows were among the most vulnerable of the Jewish population. The
male relatives who inherited all of a woman's deceased husband's estate were
to provide for her from that estate. However, widows had no way to ensure
this provision was carried out, and lived on the mercy of others. Therefore,
widows were among the lowest classes in ancient Israel and widowhood was
considered a symbol of great degradation (Isaiah 54:4). But the plight of a
widow in the Biblical tradition extended even beyond her exclusion from her
husband's property. According to Genesis 38, a childless widow must marry
her husband's brother, even if he is already married, so that he can produce
offspring for his dead brother, thus ensuring his brother's name will not
die out.

"Then Judah said to Onan, 'Lie with your brother's wife and fulfill your
duty to her as a brother-in-law to produce offspring for your brother' "
(Genesis 38:8).

The widow's consent to this marriage is not required. The widow is treated
as part of her deceased husband's property whose main function is to ensure
her husband's posterity. This Biblical law is still practiced in today's
Israel. 48 A childless widow in Israel is bequeathed to her husband's
brother. If the brother is too young to marry, she has to wait until he
comes of age. Should the deceased husband's brother refuse to marry her, she
is set free and can then marry any man of her choice. It is not an uncommon
phenomenon in Israel that widows are subjected to blackmail by their
brothers-in-law in order to gain their freedom.

The pagan Arabs before Islam had similar practices. A widow was considered a
part of her husband's property to be inherited by his male heirs and she
was, usually, given in marriage to the deceased man's eldest son from
another wife. The Quran scathingly attacked and abolished this degrading
custom:

"And marry not women whom your fathers married--Except what is past-- it was
shameful, odious, and abominable custom indeed" (4:22).

Widows and divorced women were so looked down upon in the Biblical tradition
that the high priest could not marry a widow, a divorced woman, or a
prostitute:

"The woman he (the high priest) marries must be a virgin. He must not marry
a widow, a divorced woman, or a woman defiled by prostitution, but only a
virgin from his own people, so he will not defile his offspring among his
people" (Lev. 21:13-15)

In Israel today, a descendant of the Cohen caste (the high priests of the
days of the Temple) cannot marry a divorcee, a widow, or a prostitute. 49 In
the Jewish legislation, a woman who has been widowed three times with all
the three husbands dying of natural causes is considered 'fatal' and
forbidden to marry again. 50 The Quran, on the other hand, recognizes
neither castes nor fatal persons. Widows and divorcees have the freedom to
marry whomever they choose. There is no stigma attached to divorce or
widowhood in the Quran:

"When you divorce women and they fulfil their terms [three menstruation
periods] either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on
equitable terms; But do not take them back to injure them or to take undue
advantage, If anyone does that, he wrongs his own soul. Do not treat Allah's
signs as a jest" (2:231).

"If any of you die and leave widows behind, they shall wait four months and
ten days. When they have fulfilled their term, there is no blame on you if
they dispose of themselves in a just manner" (2:234).

"Those of you who die and leave widows should bequeath for their widows a
year's maintenance and residence. But if they [the widows] leave (the
residence) there is no blame on you for what they justly do with themselves"
(2:240).

15. POLYGAMY

Let us now tackle the important question of polygamy. Polygamy is a very
ancient practice found in many human societies. The Bible did not condemn
polygamy. To the contrary, the Old Testament and Rabbinic writings
frequently attest to the legality of polygamy. King Solomon is said to have
had 700 wives and 300 concubines (1 Kings 11:3) Also, king David is said to
have had many wives and concubines (2 Samuel 5:13). The Old Testament does
have some injunctions on how to distribute the property of a man among his
sons from different wives (Deut. 22:7). The only restriction on polygamy is
a ban on taking a wife's sister as a rival wife (Lev. 18:18). The Talmud
advises a maximum of four wives. 51 European Jews continued to practice
polygamy until the sixteenth century. Oriental Jews regularly practiced
polygamy until they arrived in Israel where it is forbidden under civil law.
However, under religious law which overrides civil law in such cases, it is
permissible. 52

What about the New Testament? According to Father Eugene Hillman in his
insightful book, Polygamy reconsidered, "Nowhere in the New Testament is
there any explicit commandment that marriage should be monogamous or any
explicit commandment forbidding polygamy." 53 Moreover, Jesus has not spoken
against polygamy though it was practiced by the Jews of his society. Father
Hillman stresses the fact that the Church in Rome banned polygamy in order
to conform to the Greco-Roman culture (which prescribed only one legal wife
while tolerating concubinage and prostitution). He cited St. Augustine, "Now
indeed in our time, and in keeping with Roman custom, it is no longer
allowed to take another wife." 54 African churches and African Christians
often remind their European brothers that the Church's ban on polygamy is a
cultural tradition and not an authentic Christian injunction.

The Quran, too, allowed polygamy, but not without restrictions:

"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans,
marry women of your choice, two or three or four; but if you fear that you
shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one" (4:3).

The Quran, contrary to the Bible, limited the maximum number of wives to
four under the strict condition of treating the wives equally and justly. It
should not be understood that the Quran is exhorting the believers to
practice polygamy, or that polygamy is considered as an ideal. In other
words, the Quran has "tolerated" or "allowed" polygamy, and no more, but
why? Why is polygamy permissible ? The answer is simple: there are places
and times in which there are compelling social and moral reasons for
polygamy. As the above Quranic verse indicates, the issue of polygamy in
Islam cannot be understood apart from community obligations towards orphans
and widows. Islam as a universal religion suitable for all places and all
times could not ignore these compelling obligations.

In most human societies, females outnumber males. In the U.S. there are, at
least, eight million more women than men. In a country like Guinea there are
122 females for every 100 males. In Tanzania, there are 95.1 males per 100
females. 55 What should a society do towards such unbalanced sex ratios?
There are various solutions, some might suggest celibacy, others would
prefer female infanticide (which does happen in some societies in the world
today !). Others may think the only outlet is that the society should
tolerate all manners of sexual permissiveness: prostitution, sex out of
wedlock, homosexuality, etc. For other societies , like most African
societies today, the most honorable outlet is to allow polygamous marriage
as a culturally accepted and socially respected institution. The point that
is often misunderstood in the West is that women in other cultures do not
necessarily look at polygamy as a sign of women's degradation. For example,
many young African brides , whether Christians or Muslims or otherwise,
would prefer to marry a married man who has already proved himself to be a
responsible husband. Many African wives urge their husbands to get a second
wife so that they do not feel lonely. 56 A survey of over six thousand
women, ranging in age from 15 to 59, conducted in the second largest city in
Nigeria showed that 60 percent of these women would be pleased if their
husbands took another wife. Only 23 percent expressed anger at the idea of
sharing with another wife. Seventy-six percent of the women in a survey
conducted in Kenya viewed polygamy positively. In a survey undertaken in
rural Kenya, 25 out of 27 women considered polygamy to be better than
monogamy. These women felt polygamy can be a happy and beneficial experience
if the co-wives cooperate with each other. 57 Polygamy in most African
societies is such a respectable institution that some Protestant churches
are becoming more tolerant of it. A bishop of the Anglican Church in Kenya
declared that, "Although monogamy may be ideal for the expression of love
between husband and wife, the church should consider that in certain
cultures polygyny is socially acceptable and that the belief that polygyny
is contrary to Christianity is no longer tenable." 58 After a careful study
of African polygamy, Reverend David Gitari of the Anglican Church has
concluded that polygamy, as ideally practiced, is more Christian than
divorce and remarriage as far as the abandoned wives and children are
concerned. 59 I personally know of some highly educated African wives who,
despite having lived in the West for many years, do not have any objections
against polygamy. One of them, who lives in the U.S., solemnly exhorts her
husband to get a second wife to help her in raising the kids.

The problem of the unbalanced sex ratios becomes truly problematic at times
of war. Native American Indian tribes used to suffer highly unbalanced sex
ratios after wartime losses. Women in these tribes, who in fact enjoyed a
fairly high status, accepted polygamy as the best protection against
indulgence in indecent activities. European settlers, without offering any
other alternative, condemned this Indian polygamy as 'uncivilised'. 60 After
the second world war, there were 7,300,000 more women than men in Germany
(3.3 million of them were widows). There were 100 men aged 20 to 30 for
every 167 women in that age group. 61 Many of these women needed a man not
only as a companion but also as a provider for the household in a time of
unprecedented misery and hardship. The soldiers of the victorious Allied
Armies exploited these women's vulnerability. Many young girls and widows
had liaisons with members of the occupying forces. Many American and British
soldiers paid for their pleasures in cigarettes, chocolate, and bread.
Children were overjoyed at the gifts these strangers brought. A 10 year old
boy on hearing of such gifts from other children wished from all his heart
for an 'Englishman' for his mother so that she need not go hungry any
longer. 62 We have to ask our own conscience at this point: What is more
dignifying to a woman? An accepted and respected second wife as in the
native Indians' approach, or a virtual prostitute as in the 'civilised'
Allies approach? In other words, what is more dignifying to a woman, the
Quranic prescription or the theology based on the culture of the Roman
Empire?

It is interesting to note that in an international youth conference held in
Munich in 1948 the problem of the highly unbalanced sex ratio in Germany was
discussed. When it became clear that no solution could be agreed upon, some
participants suggested polygamy. The initial reaction of the gathering was a
mixture of shock and disgust. However, after a careful study of the
proposal, the participants agreed that it was the only possible solution.
Consequently, polygamy was included among the conference final
recommendations. 63

The world today possesses more weapons of mass destruction than ever before
and the European churches might, sooner or later, be obliged to accept
polygamy as the only way out. Father Hillman has thoughtfully recognized
this fact, "It is quite conceivable that these genocidal techniques
(nuclear, biological, chemical..) could produce so drastic an imbalance
among the sexes that plural marriage would become a necessary means of
survival....Then contrary to previous custom and law, an overriding natural
and moral inclination might arise in favour of polygamy. In such a
situation, theologians and church leaders would quickly produce weighty
reasons and biblical texts to justify a new conception of marriage." 64

To the present day, polygamy continues to be a viable solution to some of
the social ills of modern societies. The communal obligations that the Quran
mentions in association with the permission of polygamy are more visible at
present in some Western societies than in Africa. For example, In the United
States today, there is a severe gender crisis in the black community. One
out of every twenty young black males may die before reaching the age of 21.
For those between 20 and 35 years of age, homicide is the leading cause of
death. 65 Besides, many young black males are unemployed, in jail, or on
dope. 66 As a result, one in four black women, at age 40, has never married,
as compared with one in ten white women. 67 Moreover, many young black
females become single mothers before the age of 20 and find themselves in
need of providers. The end result of these tragic circumstances is that an
increasing number of black women are engaged in what is called
'man-sharing'. 68 That is, many of these hapless single black women are
involved in affairs with married men. The wives are often unaware of the
fact that other women are 'sharing' their husbands with them. Some observers
of the crisis of man-sharing in the African American community strongly
recommend consensual polygamy as a temporary answer to the shortage of black
males until more comprehensive reforms in the American society at large are
undertaken. 69 By consensual polygamy they mean a polygamy that is
sanctioned by the community and to which all the parties involved have
agreed, as opposed to the usually secret man-sharing which is detrimental
both to the wife and to the community in general. The problem of man-sharing
in the African American community was the topic of a panel discussion held
at Temple University in Philadelphia on January 27, 1993. 70 Some of the
speakers recommended polygamy as one potential remedy for the crisis. They
also suggested that polygamy should not be banned by law, particularly in a
society that tolerates prostitution and mistresses. The comment of one woman
from the audience that African Americans needed to learn from Africa where
polygamy was responsibly practiced elicited enthusiastic applause.

Philip Kilbride, an American anthropologist of Roman Catholic heritage, in
his provocative book, Plural marriage for our time, proposes polygamy as a
solution to some of the ills of the American society at large. He argues
that plural marriage may serve as a potential alternative for divorce in
many cases in order to obviate the damaging impact of divorce on many
children. He maintains that many divorces are caused by the rampant
extramarital affairs in the American society. According to Kilbride, ending
an extramarital affair in a polygamous marriage, rather than in a divorce,
is better for the children, "Children would be better served if family
augmentation rather than only separation and dissolution were seen as
options." Moreover, he suggests that other groups will also benefit from
plural marriage such as: elderly women who face a chronic shortage of men
and the African Americans who are involved in man-sharing. 71

In 1987, a poll conducted by the student newspaper at the university of
California at Berkeley asked the students whether they agreed that men
should be allowed by law to have more than one wife in response to a
perceived shortage of male marriage candidates in California. Almost all of
the students polled approved of the idea. One female student even stated
that a polyganous marriage would fulfil her emotional and physical needs
while giving her greater freedom than a monogamous union. 72 In fact, this
same argument is also used by the few remaining fundamentalist Mormon women
who still practice polygamy in the U.S. They believe that polygamy is an
ideal way for a woman to have both a career and children since the wives
help each other care for the children. 73

It has to be added that polygamy in Islam is a matter of mutual consent. No
one can force a woman to marry a married man. Besides, the wife has the
right to stipulate that her husband must not marry any other woman as a
second wife. 74 The Bible, on the other hand, sometimes resorts to forcible
polygamy. A childless widow must marry her husband's brother, even if he is
already married (see the "Plight of Widows" section),regardless of her
consent (Genesis 38:8-10).

It should be noted that in many Muslim societies today the practice of
polygamy is rare since the gap between the numbers of both sexes is not
huge. One can, safely, say that the rate of polygamous marriages in the
Muslim world is much less than the rate of extramarital affairs in the West.
In other words, men in the Muslim world today are far more strictly
monogamous than men in the Western world.

Billy Graham, the eminent Christian evangelist has recognized this fact:
"Christianity cannot compromise on the question of polygamy. If present-day
Christianity cannot do so, it is to its own detriment. Islam has permitted
polygamy as a solution to social ills and has allowed a certain degree of
latitude to human nature but only within the strictly defined framework of
the law. Christian countries make a great show of monogamy, but actually
they practice polygamy. No one is unaware of the part mistresses play in
Western society. In this respect Islam is a fundamentally honest religion,
and permits a Muslim to marry a second wife if he must, but strictly forbids
all clandestine amatory associations in order to safeguard the moral probity
of the community." 75

It is of interest to note that many, non-Muslim as well as Muslim, countries
in the world today have outlawed polygamy. Taking a second wife, even with
the free consent of the first wife, is a violation of the law. On the other
hand, cheating on the wife, without her knowledge or consent, is perfectly
legitimate as far as the law is concerned! What is the legal wisdom behind
such a contradiction? Is the law designed to reward deception and punish
honesty? It is one of the unfathomable paradoxes of our modern 'civilised'
world.

16. THE VEIL

Finally, let us shed some light on what is considered in the West as the
greatest symbol of women's oppression and servitude, the veil or the head
cover. Is it true that there is no such thing as the veil in the
Judaeo-Christian tradition? Let us set the record straight. According to
Rabbi Dr. Menachem M. Brayer (Professor of Biblical Literature at Yeshiva
University) in his book, The Jewish woman in Rabbinic literature, it was the
custom of Jewish women to go out in public with a head covering which,
sometimes, even covered the whole face leaving one eye free. 76 He quotes
some famous ancient Rabbis saying," It is not like the daughters of Israel
to walk out with heads uncovered" and "Cursed be the man who lets the hair
of his wife be seen....a woman who exposes her hair for self-adornment
brings poverty." Rabbinic law forbids the recitation of blessings or prayers
in the presence of a bareheaded married woman since uncovering the woman's
hair is considered "nudity".77 Dr. Brayer also mentions that "During the
Tannaitic period the Jewish woman's failure to cover her head was considered
an affront to her modesty. When her head was uncovered she might be fined
four hundred zuzim for this offense." Dr. Brayer also explains that veil of
the Jewish woman was not always considered a sign of modesty. Sometimes, the
veil symbolized a state of distinction and luxury rather than modesty. The
veil personified the dignity and superiority of noble women. It also
represented a woman's inaccessibility as a sanctified possession of her
husband. 78

The veil signified a woman's self-respect and social status. Women of lower
classes would often wear the veil to give the impression of a higher
standing. The fact that the veil was the sign of nobility was the reason why
prostitutes were not permitted to cover their hair in the old Jewish
society. However, prostitutes often wore a special headscarf in order to
look respectable. 79 Jewish women in Europe continued to wear veils until
the nineteenth century when their lives became more intermingled with the
surrounding secular culture. The external pressures of the European life in
the nineteenth century forced many of them to go out bare-headed. Some
Jewish women found it more convenient to replace their traditional veil with
a wig as another form of hair covering. Today, most pious Jewish women do
not cover their hair except in the synagogue. 80 Some of them, such as the
Hasidic sects, still use the wig. 81

What about the Christian tradition? It is well known that Catholic Nuns have
been covering their heads for hundreds of years, but that is not all. St.
Paul in the New Testament made some very interesting statements about the
veil:

"Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the
head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. Every man who prays
or prophesies with his head covered dishonours his head. And every woman who
prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonours her head - it is just
as though her head were shaved. If a woman does not cover her head, she
should have her hair cut off; and if it is a disgrace for a woman to have
her hair cut off or shaved off, she should cover her head. A man ought not
to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is
the glory of man. For man did not come from woman, but woman from man;
neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. For this reason, and
because of the angels, the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her
head" (I Corinthians 11:3-10).

St. Paul's rationale for veiling women is that the veil represents a sign of
the authority of the man, who is the image and glory of God, over the woman
who was created from and for man. St. Tertullian in his famous treatise 'On
The Veiling Of Virgins' wrote, "Young women, you wear your veils out on the
streets, so you should wear them in the church, you wear them when you are
among strangers, then wear them among your brothers..." Among the Canon laws
of the Catholic church today, there is a law that requires women to cover
their heads in church. 82 Some Christian denominations, such as the Amish
and the Mennonites for example, keep their women veiled to the present day.
The reason for the veil, as offered by their Church leaders, is that "The
head covering is a symbol of woman's subjection to the man and to God",
which is the same logic introduced by St. Paul in the New Testament. 83

From all the above evidence, it is obvious that Islam did not invent the
head cover. However, Islam did endorse it. The Quran urges the believing men
and women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty and then urges the
believing women to extend their head covers to cover the neck and the bosom:

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their
modesty......And say to the believing women that they should lower their
gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and
ornaments except what ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their
veils over their bosoms...." (24:30,31).

The Quran is quite clear that the veil is essential for modesty, but why is
modesty important? The Quran is still clear:

"O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women that they
should cast their outer garments over their bodies (when abroad) so that
they should be known and not molested" (33:59).

This is the whole point, modesty is prescribed to protect women from
molestation or simply, modesty is protection. Thus, the only purpose of the
veil in Islam is protection. The Islamic veil, unlike the veil of the
Christian tradition, is not a sign of man's authority over woman nor is it a
sign of woman's subjection to man. The Islamic veil, unlike the veil in the
Jewish tradition, is not a sign of luxury and distinction of some noble
married women. The Islamic veil is only a sign of modesty with the purpose
of protecting women, all women. The Islamic philosophy is that it is always
better to be safe than sorry. In fact, the Quran is so concerned with
protecting women's bodies and women's reputation that a man who dares to
falsely accuse a woman of unchastity will be severely punished:

"And those who launch a charge against chaste women, and produce not four
witnesses (to support their allegations)- Flog them with eighty stripes; and
reject their evidence ever after: for such men are wicked transgressors"
(24:4)

Compare this strict Quranic attitude with the extremely lax punishment for
rape in the Bible:

" If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and
rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay the girl's father fifty
shekels of silver. He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can
never divorce her as long as he lives" (Deut. 22:28-30)

One must ask a simple question here, who is really punished? The man who
only paid a fine for rape, or the girl who is forced to marry the man who
raped her and live with him until he dies? Another question that also should
be asked is this: which is more protective of women, the Quranic strict
attitude or the Biblical lax attitude?

Some people, especially in the West, would tend to ridicule the whole
argument of modesty for protection. Their argument is that the best
protection is the spread of education, civilised behaviour, and self
restraint. We would say: fine but not enough. If 'civilization' is enough
protection, then why is it that women in North America dare not walk alone
in a dark street - or even across an empty parking lot ? If Education is the
solution, then why is it that a respected university like Queen's has a
'walk home service' mainly for female students on campus? If self restraint
is the answer, then why are cases of sexual harassment in the workplace
reported on the news media every day? A sample of those accused of sexual
harassment, in the last few years, includes: Navy officers, Managers,
University professors, Senators, Supreme Court Justices, and the President
of the United States! I could not believe my eyes when I read the following
statistics, written in a pamphlet issued by the Dean of Women's office at
Queen's University:

In Canada, a woman is sexually assaulted every 6 minutes,
1 in 3 women in Canada will be sexually assaulted at some time in their
lives,
1 in 4 women are at the risk of rape or attempted rape in her lifetime,
1 in 8 women will be sexually assaulted while attending college or
university, and
A study found 60% of Canadian university-aged males said they would commit
sexual assault if they were certain they wouldn't get caught.
Something is fundamentally wrong in the society we live in. A radical change
in the society's life style and culture is absolutely necessary. A culture
of modesty is badly needed, modesty in dress, in speech, and in manners of
both men and women. Otherwise, the grim statistics will grow even worse day
after day and, unfortunately, women alone will be paying the price.
Actually, we all suffer but as K. Gibran has said, "...for the person who
receives the blows is not like the one who counts them." 84 Therefore, a
society like France which expels young women from schools because of their
modest dress is, in the end, simply harming itself.

It is one of the great ironies of our world today that the very same
headscarf revered as a sign of 'holiness' when worn for the purpose of
showing the authority of man by Catholic Nuns, is reviled as a sign of
'oppression' when worn for the purpose of protection by Muslim women.

17. EPILOGUE

The one question all the non-Muslims, who had read an earlier version of
this study, had in common was: do Muslim women in the Muslim world today
receive this noble treatment described here? The answer, unfortunately, is:
No. Since this question is inevitable in any discussion concerning the
status of women in Islam, we have to elaborate on the answer in order to
provide the reader with the complete picture.

It has to be made clear first that the vast differences among Muslim
societies make most generalizations too simplistic. There is a wide spectrum
of attitudes towards women in the Muslim world today. These attitudes differ
from one society to another and within each individual society.
Nevertheless, certain general trends are discernible. Almost all Muslim
societies have, to one degree or another, deviated from the ideals of Islam
with respect to the status of women. These deviations have, for the most
part, been in one of two opposite directions. The first direction is more
conservative, restrictive, and traditions-oriented, while the second is more
liberal and Western-oriented.

The societies that have digressed in the first direction treat women
according to the customs and traditions inherited from their forebears.
These traditions usually deprive women of many rights granted to them by
Islam. Besides, women are treated according to standards far different from
those applied to men. This discrimination pervades the life of any female:
she is received with less joy at birth than a boy; she is less likely to go
to school; she might be deprived any share of her family's inheritance; she
is under continuous surveillance in order not to behave immodestly while her
brother's immodest acts are tolerated; she might even be killed for
committing what her male family members usually boast of doing; she has very
little say in family affairs or community interests; she might not have full
control over her property and her marriage gifts; and finally as a mother
she herself would prefer to produce boys so that she can attain a higher
status in her community.

On the other hand, there are Muslim societies (or certain classes within
some societies) that have been swept over by the Western culture and way of
life. These societies often imitate unthinkingly whatever they receive from
the West and usually end up adopting the worst fruits of Western
civilization. In these societies, a typical "modern" woman's top priority in
life is to enhance her physical beauty. Therefore, she is often obsessed
with her body's shape, size, and weight. She tends to care more about her
body than her mind and more about her charms than her intellect. Her ability
to charm, attract, and excite is more valued in the society than her
educational achievements, intellectual pursuits, and social work. One is not
expected to find a copy of the Quran in her purse since it is full of
cosmetics that accompany her wherever she goes. Her spirituality has no room
in a society preoccupied with her attractiveness. Therefore, she would spend
her life striving more to realize her femininity than to fulfil her
humanity.

Why did Muslim societies deviate from the ideals of Islam? There is no easy
answer. A penetrating explanation of the reasons why Muslims have not
adhered to the Quranic guidance with respect to women would be beyond the
scope of this study. It has to be made clear, however, that Muslim societies
have deviated from the Islamic precepts concerning so many aspects of their
lives for so long. There is a wide gap between what Muslims are supposed to
believe in and what they actually practice. This gap is not a recent
phenomenon. It has been there for centuries and has been widening day after
day. This ever widening gap has had disastrous consequences on the Muslim
world manifested in almost all aspects of life: political tyranny and
fragmentation, economic backwardness, social injustice, scientific
bankruptcy, intellectual stagnation, etc. The non-Islamic status of women in
the Muslim world today is merely a symptom of a deeper malady. Any reform in
the current status of Muslim women is not expected to be fruitful if not
accompanied with more comprehensive reforms of the Muslim societies' whole
way of life. The Muslim world is in need for a renaissance that will bring
it closer to the ideals of Islam and not further from them. To sum up, the
notion that the poor status of Muslim women today is because of Islam is an
utter misconception. The problems of Muslims in general are not due to too
much attachment to Islam, they are the culmination of a long and deep
detachment from it.

It has, also, to be re-emphasized that the purpose behind this comparative
study is not, by any means, to defame Judaism or Christianity. The position
of women in the Judaeo-Christian tradition might seem frightening by our
late twentieth century standards. Nevertheless, it has to be viewed within
the proper historical context. In other words, any objective assessment of
the position of women in the Judaeo-Christian tradition has to take into
account the historical circumstances in which this tradition developed.
There can be no doubt that the views of the Rabbis and the Church Fathers
regarding women were influenced by the prevalent attitudes towards women in
their societies. The Bible itself was written by different authors at
different times. These authors could not have been impervious to the values
and the way of life of the people around them. For example, the adultery
laws of the Old Testament are so biased against women that they defy
rational explanation by our mentality. However, if we consider the fact that
the early Jewish tribes were obsessed with their genetic homogeneity and
extremely eager to define themselves apart from the surrounding tribes and
that only sexual misconduct by the married females of the tribes could
threaten these cherished aspirations, we should then be able to understand,
but not necessarily sympathize with, the reasons for this bias. Also, the
diatribes of the Church Fathers against women should not be detached from
the context of the misogynist Greco-Roman culture in which they lived. It
would be unfair to evaluate the Judaeo-Christian legacy without giving any
consideration to the relevant historical context.

In fact, a proper understanding of the Judaeo-Christian historical context
is also crucial for understanding the significance of the contributions of
Islam to world history and human civilization. The Judaeo-Christian
tradition had been influenced and shaped by the environments, conditions,
and cultures in which it had existed. By the seventh century C.E., this
influence had distorted the original divine message revealed to Moses and
Jesus beyond recognition. The poor status of women in the Judaeo-Christian
world by the seventh century is just one case in point. Therefore, there was
a great need for a new divine message that would guide humanity back to the
straight path. The Quran described the mission of the new Messenger as a
release for Jews and Christians from the heavy burdens that had been upon
them: "Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, whom they
find mentioned in their own Scriptures--In the Law and the Gospel-- For he
commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil; he allows them as
lawful what is good and prohibits them from what is bad; He releases them
from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them" (7:157).

Therefore, Islam should not be viewed as a rival tradition to Judaism or
Christianity. It has to be regarded as the consummation, completion, and
perfection of the divine messages that had been revealed before it.

At the end of this study, I would like to offer the following advice to the
global Muslim community. So many Muslim women have been denied their basic
Islamic rights for so long. The mistakes of the past have to be corrected.
To do that is not a favor, it is a duty incumbent upon all Muslims. The
worldwide Muslim community have to issue a charter of Muslim women's rights
based on the instructions of the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet of
Islam. This charter must give Muslim women all the rights endowed to them by
their Creator. Then, all the necessary means have to be developed in order
to ensure the proper implementation of the charter. This charter is long
overdue, but it is better late than never. If Muslims worldwide will not
guarantee the full Islamic rights of their mothers, wives, sisters, and
daughters, who else will ?

Furthermore, we must have the courage to confront our past and reject
outright the traditions and customs of our forefathers whenever they
contravene the precepts of Islam. Did the Quran not severely criticize the
pagan Arabs for blindly following the traditions of their ancestors? On the
other hand, we have to develop a critical attitude towards whatever we
receive from the West or from any other culture. Interaction with and
learning from other cultures is an invaluable experience. The Quran has
succinctly considered this interaction as one of the purposes of creation: "
O mankind We created you from a single pair of a male and a female, and made
you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other" (49:13). It goes
without saying, however, that blind imitation of others is a sure sign of an
utter lack of self-esteem.

It is to the non-Muslim reader, Jewish, Christian, or otherwise, that these
final words are dedicated. It is bewildering why the religion that had
revolutionized the status of women is being singled out and denigrated as so
repressive of women. This perception about Islam is one of the most
widespread myths in our world today. This myth is being perpetuated by a
ceaseless barrage of sensational books, articles, media images, and
Hollywood movies. The inevitable outcome of these incessant misleading
images has been total misunderstanding and fear of anything related to
Islam. This negative portrayal of Islam in the world media has to end if we
are to live in a world free from all traces of discrimination, prejudice,
and misunderstanding. Non-Muslims ought to realize the existence of a wide
gap between Muslims' beliefs and practices and the simple fact that the
actions of Muslims do not necessarily represent Islam. To label the status
of women in the Muslim world today as "Islamic" is as far from the truth as
labelling the position of women in the West today as "Judaeo-Christian".
With this understanding in mind, Muslims and non-Muslims should start a
process of communication and dialogue in order to remove all misconceptions,
suspicions, and fears. A peaceful future for the human family necessitates
such a dialogue.

Islam should be viewed as a religion that had immensely improved the status
of women and had granted them many rights that the modern world has
recognized only this century. Islam still has so much to offer today's
woman: dignity, respect, and protection in all aspects and all stages of her
life from birth until death in addition to the recognition, the balance, and
means for the fulfilment of all her spiritual, intellectual, physical, and
emotional needs. No wonder most of those who choose to become Muslims in a
country like Britain are women. In the U.S. women converts to Islam
outnumber male converts 4 to 1. 85 Islam has so much to offer our world
which is in great need of moral guidance and leadership. Ambassador Herman
Eilts, in a testimony in front of the committee on Foreign Affairs of the
House of Representatives of the United States Congress on June 24th, 1985,
said, "The Muslim community of the globe today is in the neighbourhood of
one billion. That is an impressive figure. But what to me is equally
impressive is that Islam today is the fastest growing monotheistic religion.
This is something we have to take into account. Something is right about
Islam. It is attracting a good many people." Yes, something is right about
Islam and it is time to find that out. I hope this study is a step on this
direction.

NOTES

1. The Globe and Mail, Oct. 4,1994.

2. Leonard J. Swidler, Women in Judaism: the Status of Women in Formative
Judaism (Metuchen, N.J: Scarecrow Press, 1976) p. 115.

3. Thena Kendath, "Memories of an Orthodox youth" in Susannah Heschel, ed.
On being a Jewish Feminist (New York: Schocken Books, 1983), pp. 96-97.

4. Swidler, op. cit., pp. 80-81.

5. Rosemary R. Ruether, "Christianity", in Arvind Sharma, ed., Women in
World Religions (Albany: State University of New York Press, 1987) p. 209.

6. For all the sayings of the prominent Saints, see Karen Armstrong, The
Gospel According to Woman (London: Elm Tree Books, 1986) pp. 52-62. See also
Nancy van Vuuren, The Subversion of Women as Practiced by Churches,
Witch-Hunters, and Other Sexists (Philadelphia: Westminister Press) pp.
28-30.

7. Swidler, op. cit., p. 140.

8. Denise L. Carmody, "Judaism", in Arvind Sharma, ed., op. cit., p. 197.

9. Swidler, op. cit., p. 137.

10. Ibid., p. 138.

11. Sally Priesand, Judaism and the New Woman (New York: Behrman House,
Inc., 1975) p. 24.

12. Swidler, op. cit., p. 115.

13. Lesley Hazleton, Israeli Women The Reality Behind the Myths (New York:
Simon and Schuster, 1977) p. 41.

14. Gage, op. cit. p. 142.

15. Jeffrey H. Togay, "Adultery," Encyclopaedia Judaica, Vol. II, col. 313.
Also, see Judith Plaskow, Standing Again at Sinai: Judaism from a Feminist
Perspective (New York: Harper & Row Publishers, 1990) pp. 170-177.

16. Hazleton, op. cit., pp. 41-42.

17. Swidler, op. cit., p. 141.

18. Matilda J. Gage, Woman, Church, and State (New York: Truth Seeker
Company, 1893) p. 141.

19. Louis M. Epstein, The Jewish Marriage Contract (New York: Arno Press,
1973) p. 149.

20. Swidler, op. cit., p. 142.

21. Epstein, op. cit., pp. 164-165.

22. Ibid., pp. 112-113. See also Priesand, op. cit., p. 15.

23. James A. Brundage, Law, Sex, and Christian Society in Medieval Europe
Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1987) p. 88.

24. Ibid., p. 480.

25. R. Thompson, Women in Stuart England and America (London: Routledge &
Kegan Paul, 1974) p. 162.

26. Mary Murray, The Law of the Father (London: Routledge, 1995) p. 67.

27. Gage, op. cit., p. 143.

28. For example, see Jeffrey Lang, Struggling to Surrender, (Beltsville, MD:
Amana Publications, 1994) p. 167.

29. Elsayyed Sabiq, Fiqh al Sunnah (Cairo: Darul Fatah lile'lam Al-Arabi,
11th edition, 1994), vol. 2, pp. 218-229.

30. Abdel-Haleem Abu Shuqqa, Tahreer al Mar'aa fi Asr al Risala (Kuwait: Dar
al Qalam, 1990) pp. 109-112.

31. Leila Badawi, "Islam", in Jean Holm and John Bowker, ed., Women in
Religion (London: Pinter Publishers, 1994) p. 102.

32. Amir H. Siddiqi, Studies in Islamic History (Karachi: Jamiyatul Falah
Publications, 3rd edition, 1967) p. 138.

33. Epstein, op. cit., p. 196.

34. Swidler, op. cit., pp. 162-163.

35. The Toronto Star, Apr. 8, 1995.

36. Sabiq, op. cit., pp. 318-329. See also Muhammad al Ghazali, Qadaya al
Mar'aa bin al Taqaleed al Rakida wal Wafida (Cairo: Dar al Shorooq, 4th
edition, 1992) pp. 178-180.

37. Ibid., pp. 313-318.

38. David W. Amram, The Jewish Law of Divorce According to Bible and Talmud
( Philadelphia: Edward Stern & CO., Inc., 1896) pp. 125-126.

39. Epstein, op. cit., p. 219.

40. Ibid, pp 156-157.

41. Muhammad Abu Zahra, Usbu al Fiqh al Islami (Cairo: al Majlis al A'la li
Ri'ayat al Funun, 1963) p. 66.

42. Epstein, op. cit., p. 122.

43. Armstrong, op. cit., p. 8.

44. Epstein, op. cit., p. 175.

45. Ibid., p. 121.

46. Gage, op. cit., p. 142.

47. B. Aisha Lemu and Fatima Heeren, Woman in Islam (London: Islamic
Foundation, 1978) p. 23.

48. Hazleton, op. cit., pp. 45-46.

49. Ibid., p. 47.

50. Ibid., p. 49.

51. Swidler, op. cit., pp. 144-148.

52. Hazleton, op. cit., pp 44-45.

53. Eugene Hillman, Polygamy Reconsidered: African Plural Marriage and the
Christian Churches (New York: Orbis Books, 1975) p. 140.

54. Ibid., p. 17.

55. Ibid., pp. 88-93.

56. Ibid., pp. 92-97.

57. Philip L. Kilbride, Plural Marriage For Our Times (Westport, Conn.:
Bergin & Garvey, 1994) pp. 108-109.

58. The Weekly Review, Aug. 1, 1987.

59. Kilbride, op. cit., p. 126.

60. John D'Emilio and Estelle B. Freedman, Intimate Matters: A history of
Sexuality in America (New York: Harper & Row Publishers, 1988) p. 87.

61. Ute Frevert, Women in German History: from Bourgeois Emancipation to
Sexual Liberation (New York: Berg Publishers, 1988) pp. 263-264.

62. Ibid., pp. 257-258.

63. Sabiq, op. cit., p. 191.

64. Hillman, op. cit., p. 12.

65. Nathan Hare and Julie Hare, ed., Crisis in Black Sexual Politics (San
Francisco: Black Think Tank, 1989) p. 25.

66. Ibid., p. 26.

67. Kilbride, op. cit., p. 94.

68. Ibid., p. 95.

69. Ibid.

70. Ibid., pp. 95-99.

71. Ibid., p. 118.

72. Lang, op. cit., p. 172.

73. Kilbride, op. cit., pp. 72-73.

74. Sabiq, op. cit., pp. 187-188.

75. Abdul Rahman Doi, Woman in Shari'ah (London: Ta-Ha Publishers, 1994) p.
76.

76. Menachem M. Brayer, The Jewish Woman in Rabbinic Literature: A
Psychosocial Perspective (Hoboken, N.J: Ktav Publishing House, 1986) p. 239.

77. Ibid., pp. 316-317. Also see Swidler, op. cit., pp. 121-123.

78. Ibid., p. 139.

79. Susan W. Schneider, Jewish and Female (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1984)
p. 237.

80. Ibid., pp. 238-239.

81. Alexandra Wright, "Judaism", in Holm and Bowker, ed., op. cit., pp.
128-129

82. Clara M. Henning, "Cannon Law and the Battle of the Sexes" in Rosemary
R. Ruether, ed., Religion and Sexism: Images of Woman in the Jewish and
Christian Traditions (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1974) p. 272.

83. Donald B. Kraybill, The riddle of the Amish Culture (Baltimore: Johns
Hopkins University Press, 1989) p. 56.

84. Khalil Gibran, Thoughts and Meditations (New York: Bantam Books, 1960)
p. 28.

85. The Times, Nov. 18, 1993.


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Anonymous

Sunday, March 11, 2001 - 08:30 pm
Thank you for this grear article, I want to note that Jews and christians have in effect abandoned their original faiths. What is seen as Judaism and Christianity is nothing but remnants of a metamorphosed religions that were adultered by men over the centuries.

What the can not understand is why Islam is not following suit. Well, Islam is the last Devine revelation and message, Allah guaranteed its protection against additions and deletions as Jews and christians have done to their own scriptures to fit their rebellious lifestyle, So what you see in the Quran today, is what Muslims read 1400 years ago, delivering the same meaning but to a weaker and less motivated audience like us. It was amusing how the Egyption lady took the lead to talk so bad about Islam and added that judaism and christianity were also the same, but she was left in the cold when these jewish and christian ladies came to rescue their religions in the face of criticism of this so called muslim Egyptian lady.

It is also a coincidence that in the conference of Nicea, where christians adopted their creed of Trinity, that the concept of Trinity was introduceed by an Egyption Deacon, who dared to introduce an alien concept to christianity in that convention whose chairman, (this is no joke) was a Pagan king of Rome, De Niro. So here we have Pagan religions that are being equated with a truly monotheistic Abrahamic faith, namely Islam.

I however disagree with the conclusion of the author, Something (only) is not right about Islam, in order to be Muslim, one must believe that EVERYTHING is right about Islam. Can you find errors with Allah? or in the message? or with the messenger? Subhaanallah wa tacaalaa cammaa yaquuluuna culuwan kabiiraa.

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PAGAN

Monday, March 12, 2001 - 04:46 am
Wow, you guys have much to be concerned about... Why not live life as it is??

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Stranger

Monday, March 12, 2001 - 06:00 am
Assalaamu alaikum wa raxmatullahi wa barakaatuhu (I'm learning :O)


Virago:

Jazakallahu khairan; that is indeed an excellent article - especially for da'wah purposes.


Anonymous:

In regards to what you said above, you are right. As Muslims, we should believe in everything, or else we would fall in the same footsteps as the Jews and the Christians who believe in part of their books and disbelieve in parts of it.


Pagan:

Why don't you expand your statement a bit and tell us how we should live our life? I anticipate your response.


To all interested:

There are three articles that I would highly recommend that you all read. Fortunately, it is not as long as the one above :).

1)The Muslim Women: Her Status in the Ummah
http://www.angelfire.com/hi/islamway/sisters/Status.html

2) Words to My Muslim Sister...
http://www.angelfire.com/hi/islamway/sisters/Sister.html

3) Is Niqab (veil) & Segregation Really an Obstacle for Women?
http://www.angelfire.com/hi/islamway/sisters/Niqaab.html

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