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what is allowed for a Muslim female in terms of getting to know her male counterpart?

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Anonymous

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For a long time, I have been asking myself along with many other people this question and it is really bothering me because I have never got a straight answer. I want to know if it is ok for a Muslim girl to talk to or have communications with a man. For example over the phone. Basically, I want to know if it is haram or not, and if so what kind of relationship can be maintained between the two?

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Specialist

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Hello Anonymous,

It is kind of hard to every one to collect and make long list of what you can do with muslim female.... so it will more intelegent way to say what isn't allowed to do, since they are views..

What ever is prohabited in religion ground it is vey good for the mandkind, agree with? I do my self. SINNA/unauthorized counter-sexual is prohabited...ok'' to save guard this order to be followed, it is designed "protection" security-zone,! in order to remove all possible risks as well as to make hard to reach this zone....

Evil/Shaydan on the other side.. planned counter-tactics aggainst this protection operations.. are U still with me?? yes.. Do U Understand what I'am Trying to say? looking to heard from U...

What is Your intention about this relationship You are talking about..? and Again and Again Why are so Eager to use the term Haram...right away.

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Anonymous

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personaly i don't think talking to a guy ovar the phone is haram basicaly because nothing can happaned ovar the phone all you do or gonna do is talk and i don't think that's zina
is not like you are getting alone with this guy if and when that happens it'r haram in my book

jaaw

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Alyisa

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To Anonymous

Dr Muzammil Siddiqi(ISNA)

It is allowed for a man and woman to see each other for the purpose of engagement. They can also find out more about each other through their relatives and mutual friends. However, it is haram for the engaged couples to be alone with each other. Engagement is not marriage and until nikah is performed they are not halal to each other. Engaged people can talk to each other on telephone. They can also write to each other and they can meet in the presence of other adult relatives. In their letters and phone conversations they should observe Haya’ (modesty and decency).

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Anonymous

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Anonymouse: Have you heard of PHONE SEX? That could happen.

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abdillahi

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Frist of all, it is very essential to know that ZINA does not happen right away. it starts with a phone call then step by step you you will find yourself crossing the "SEcurity-Zone".
so, sister don't let the Shiatan trick you. "taking, talking can lead to Doing, Dooing."

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MAD MAC

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So if talking is prohibited, then how do you ever find out if you're compatible or not? We (humans) are not interchangeable parts. I'm sure (in fact positive) that there are some woman who would not want to be married to me for example. But if they don't get to talk with me first, they might not find out until it's too late. I lived with my girlfriend for a year before I married her and I STILL didn't really know her. We ended up divorced 3 years later. So if a man and a woman can not get to know each other first, then how can they ever find out if they're compatible? Any answers on this one because I am really curious what Islamic scholars have to say on this point.

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