     TLG | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 01:00 pm
Hey WGN, here are a few answers to your question on when a Muslim woman is allowed to ask for a divorce. I don't have the Quranic verses/prophetic sayings that support them but i'm sure others here can find that out for you if you want.
Hope it helps 
If a woman dislikes her husband’s treatment of her – for example, he is over-strict, hot-tempered or easily-provoked, or gets angry a lot, or criticizes her and rebukes her for the slightest mistake or shortcoming, then she has the right of khula’ [female-instigated divorce].
If she dislikes his physical appearance because of some deformity or ugliness, or because one of his faculties is missing, she has the right of khula’.
If he is lacking in religious commitment – for example, he doesn’t pray, or neglects to pray in jamaa’ah, or does not fast in Ramadaan without a proper excuse, or he goes to parties where haraam things are done, such as fornication, drinking alcohol and listening to singing and musical instruments, etc. – she has the right of khula’.
If he deprives of her of her rights of spending on her maintenance, clothing and other essential needs, when he is able to provide these things, then she has the right to ask for khula’.
If he does not give her her conjugal rights and thus keep her chaste because he is impotent (i.e. unable to have intercourse), or because he does not like her, or he prefers someone else, then she has the right to ask for khula’.
And Allaah knows best.
Source: www.islam-qa.com |
| WGN | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 01:55 pm
TLG, hey, I really appreciate this! Thanks!
The reason why I ask is that my mother is about to marry a muslim man. She is not going to convert, but I am just getting more curious about the muslim womens rights and also the way muslims look at things compared to my views. Especially marriage. You know, it would have taken me so long to find out this on my own... So thanks again! |
| fg. | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 08:45 pm
WGN.
Don't be too sure that your mother won't convert. Can't say things for surety can we?. What if she decides to convert?. Not converting is her decision as of now as I gather right?. BTW, I saw your message in the other thread. Well, I check here now-and-then to see how you kept the few conditioning I made to your little small world. I have a lot more to do so don't be going anywhere soon. I am also reading for an upcoming exam on this thursday. That doesn't mean I won't have time to respond. You can leave your two cents as always. You know, I am not angry when I write my comments. MAY BE excited that is all. I told you several times. I will be here to answer your messages if you leave any inshallah.
Later. |
| WGN | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 11:45 am
fg, no, my mother will not convert, but maybe he will 
Good luck with your exams..... |
| WGN | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 12:00 pm
oh, and what do you mean by saying to Galool; "WGN had an excuse for what she said due to her background"...? Do YOU know my background?? Hehe! Anyway, I am out of that brainless discussion, Galool knows his words don't embarrass me, so he is letting it out on you instead. Enjoy..... |
| TLG | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 06:02 pm
WGN, you are welcome
Hey, may be i'll share with you a word or two on this subject after my finals insha Allah. For now, all I can say is that the one thing your mother needs to do is to make sure this man is God conscious (or "fears" God), for if he does then it is her safety net. By that I mean if he fears Allah then he will treat her right and make sure he respects all her rights coz he knows he will one day stand infront of Allah and explain himself.
I wish your mom well and I hope she discovers the beauty of this way of life. |
| fg. | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 06:51 pm
WGN.
May be he will eh?. You know what I think?, I think he will convert her along with you lol. If you didn't accuse me of being conceited several times, I would have said something here reall funny as a joke. I will pass though lest I get accused again or I made you angry. I am not sure which. What I meant due to your background is what we discussed about in the other thread..about the openness... or was it... Security in saying things I can't due to my culture?..
WGN, don't feel bad about what galool says to me when he twists words and takes them out of context. I don't change my perception about people over night. I know you(well, to some extent lol).
I am sorry to have given you a scare when I said I am watching you. Sorry to have made you worried may be a little. Be yourself WGN. I think you are doing great. In fact you did part of my job for me. I thank you for that. TLG even noticed when she said "You have become a voice of reason". Anyway, Don't think this does give you a leeway if I see the need to be intimidating a little. I know you can handle it. Take care. Your questions of "what you mean" are fully answered may be?. Take care again. |
| fg. | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 06:58 pm
jeg beklager and ha en god night . |
