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     | Wednesday, November 01, 2000 - 10:53 am Hi every one, salaam to you all sisters and brother's. I am 19 years old Somali guy and am falling for 23 years old Somali girl or lady should I say, she is falling for me too but she have no idea about my age she thinks am older than that so I have three choices so far. 1- Is give my self an older age 2- Tell the truth even if am going to lose her 3- Find some one on my own age and forget about her though it's hard. Tell me what I should do please it's important for me to hear from you. And please be nice don't be so disrespectful thanks allot
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| | Wednesday, November 01, 2000 - 11:08 am You know......................there is no harm of marrying older women........................so I say tell her the truth.....................and let her chose...........................and If she really thinks you can make it she'll give you a chance....................................... Good Luck
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| | Wednesday, November 01, 2000 - 11:24 am Don't be added to the Somali statistic. Finish you Education dude.
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| | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 05:40 am add 2 yrs to your age. that will do it!.
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| | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 05:42 am maria, there is something wrong babe!. it is called child abuse.
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| | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 05:57 am You know 19 yrs anonymous,since you mentioned the third option as a forseable solutions i guess we cannot really offer you any help or advice.If leaving her has crossed your mind then forget it,you have the answer looking right at you. Inccidentally my opinions? Lies never take you anyway you want,only takes you to places you wished to be.Stop this love mrs dwindle crush episode and get your self your own size and age to play nintedo with.
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| | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 06:33 am anon2.....................so your saying is wrong for men to fall for an older women..................cause "IS CHILD ABUSE".........................but it is ok for men to fall for a younger women.......................NOW for me that is child Abuse...............................
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| | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 07:06 am mariah basically yes. child abuse goes all around.no standards for any gender.Fact is, he is 19 so its not abuse. if he was 17 and the woman was 19 or older its child abuse or statutory rape if sex is involved.
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| | Wednesday, November 08, 2000 - 07:08 am 2 ANONYMOUS: YO MAN WHO GIVES A **** HOW OLD SHE IS JUST KEEP SEEING HER AND IF U REALY LIKE HER AND SHE FEELS DA SAME WAY ABOUT U SHE WON'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH U BEEING YOUNGER THAN HER.BUT ONE TING........ WARNING NEVER WHEN I MEAN NEVER I MEAN NEVER TELL HER PARENTS HOW OLD U ARE IF U NEED MORE JUST SAY SO AIGHT AND I'LL BE THERE. PEACE OUT PEOPLE (till da next time)
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| | Wednesday, November 08, 2000 - 07:17 am YO MARIAH I LIKE DA WAY U TALK. I'LL HATE TO MARRY A WOMEN YOUNGR THAN ME I'LL LIKE 2 MARRY A LADY MY OWN AGE. WHAT ABOUT U GIRL WHAT DO THINK ABOUT YOUNGER MARRIGE
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| | Wednesday, November 08, 2000 - 08:46 am I WOULD ADVICE U TO TELL HER THE TRUTH AND DEAL WITH THE RESULT AM SURE SHE REALLY LOVES YA SHE WON'T GIVE A ----- ABOUT UR AGE LOVE MATTERS ALOT AND THERE'S SO MANY FEMALES THAT R MARRIED TO YOUNGER GUYS AND I DON'T BELIEVE THERE'S ANYTHING CALLED A CHILD ABUSE AS LONG YA ALL OVER 18 YEARS OF AGE.......SO BROTHA SHE TRUSTED YA, SO BEFORE SHE FINDS OUT FROM OUTSIDE IT'S TOO LATE GO AHEAD AND TELL HER THE TRUTH AND SHOW HER HOW MUCH YOU TRUELLY LOVE HER AND SAY U WERE AFRAID TO LOOSE HER SO WOULDN'T TAKE THE CONSEQUENCES OF TAKING THE RISK OF LOOSING HER BESIDES I DON'T EVEN THINK SHE'S THAT OLDER THEN YA SEE 2 AND 4 YEARS DOESN'T MATTER EVEN THOUGH SOMETIMES I AGREE THAT A GUY SHOULD BE 2 TO 4 YEARS OLDER THEN THE GIRL SO GO RIGHT AHEAD MAN TELL HER THE TRUTH BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE......AND YO LET ME KNOW WHAT SHE SAYS AIGHT I KNOW THIS IS GONNA WORK OUT FOR YA BROTHA........ AM 20 AND GOING OUT WITH 18 YEARS OLD AND I DON'T SEE THAT AS A PROBLEM BUT ANYHOW GIVE IT A SHOT SEE HOW THE THINGS GOES......AND LET ME KNOW WHAT'S UP MAN I REALLY APPRECIATE TO HEAR FROM YA EMAIL ME AT QADAR36@HOTMAIL.COM UR BROTHA QADAR QADAR
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| | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 01:48 pm I think age iz but a numba juss tell her da truth, and if she really like U den she won't care. afta all both of U are adults so it ount really matta DAT much, maybe a lil. but oh well whuteva U do may Allah be wid U
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| | Wednesday, November 15, 2000 - 10:40 am there is nothing wrong marrying an older women. infact there is only 4 years different. Remember our prophet mohamed (S C W) he marry khadija when he was 25 and she was 40.As you can see there is 15 years different. However my advice to you is to get a good education and tell the truth your girl that you are 19. If she is willing to accept your age then wait for while untill you finishing your education. If not let her goooooooooooooooo there is plenty of famale in the world.......
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| | Monday, December 04, 2000 - 07:46 am you seem like a very nice guy, my advice to you is to tell her the trueth if she feels the same about you than honey age is nothing but a number.and i must agree with who ever said that if leaving her has crossed your mind than theres no point of you wasting your time, you need to face the facts but only you can make the decision and i hope the best for you and keep your head up.
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| | Monday, December 04, 2000 - 10:22 am HOLD ON, WE ARE FROM SOMALIA AND WE HAVE 35 YEARS OLD GUYS WHO ARE MARRYING 17 YEARS OLD GIRLS SO SINCE WHEN DID WE START CARING ABOUT CHILD ABUSE? IF U ASK ME ALL WE DO IS CHILD ABUSE; I MEAN WHEN ONE OF YOUR CAUSINS WHO IS 35 YEARS OLD COMES FROM YOUR HOMETOWN AND ASKS U TO GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER TO HIM WHO IS ONLY 17 YEARS OLD AND U LET THEM GET MARRIED THAT IS CHILDABUSE SISTER/BROTHERS. SECOND HE IS NOT A CHILD HE IS 19 YEARS OLD AND HE KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT OR WRONG. TO ANONYMOUS, BRO U ARE MAN AND SINCE LIVING HER CROSS YOUR MIND THEN GO FOR IT, IT IS CLEAR TO ME THAT U DON'T CARE ABOUT HER AS U SOUND. PEACE OUT
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| | Wednesday, December 06, 2000 - 07:40 pm Hi all of you .. salaam to you once again dhalinyaro. Sorry for taking along time to say something back its because I wanted more advice as much as I can get, and I got it thank you so much all. Well me was reading through every thing every one of you said and I have seen allot of encouragements allot of good advises and really good thing has been said here I really appreciated for all your concern dearly. O.k most of you said something about the third option which was leaving her allow me to refresh your memory, in fairly leaving was in either side her leaving me when she finds out or me leaving her because she is gona leave anyway when she finds out + I said though its gona be hard and that means its not something that I want to do it so brothers and sister please when I said leaving her crossed my mind yes it has and I have every right to be thinking about that when the chances are 98% of her leaving me. O.k little prove for this .. Question for the sisters In the Somali Chat rooms when you chat with a guy and talk the question will come about the age no offence to all'ya but usually that is how it goes, girls ask that question first and here is poor guy answering telling his age may be he is lying about it or telling the truth ya never know and it happens to be a young age, what do you usually do ? and say the age is under 21 or 22, and don't this happened in the Chat now it's not it's real life thank you. And some of you said something about Child Abuse I don't think there is a child here 19 years old is not a child, I know allot you feel this way, that I should finish my Education wait a little longer but there is time that don't matter to you, we are travelers and searchers in the wildness of this world and the best thing we find our search a special person and the only thing that could across to your mind is to be with them nothing else will come across and will matter to you but the worst part is when you don't have full confident with the other because of your age and let me tell you this being a young age and fall for someone older is not crime it could happened to anyone of you like it did to me so I just want to tell you this that I'm not the bad guy here. This is all I will say now, please leaving her was just an option not something I want to do, I do care for her allot and more than she does I think if I wasn't like some of U said I would just lie and keep seeing her but that is not something I want to do. Well wish me luck walaalayaal I will tell her after Ramadan IID insha'allah and I will update you how things go and hope it comes out the better way. thank you so much all I appreciate all your concern thank you from the bottom of my heart. your's "Anonymous" ...
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 08:07 am annonymous i suggest you tell her the truth and don't merry her cause oolder women with a younger dude is no interesting bro.peace/ama
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 09:31 am my two cents. 19 + 23 = 42 ........nooooo i think the two of you are a disastor.the 42 is a bad luck number.DuH
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 09:42 am I think older women n younger men, is a quite fasinating for BOTH. That is a pretty challenging marriage...with lots of spice...that will keep it going for quite a long term. Remember our beloved prophet married khadija at the age of 25 n she was 40 :-)
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 10:47 am 19 years old, boy u haven't seen the world. Wait until you are over 25. There is plenty to see out there. I mean marriage is a prison sentence and u best becareful how u choose your cell. By the way, get an education. Marriage at this age will ruin your life. Don't be a Somali statistic. Cab driving and Valet parking has consumed a whole generation. Stay in school dude. Abdullah
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 12:10 pm "How Anonymous got his groooooove back?".
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 12:12 pm PEOPLE STOP SUGGESTING THE MARRIAGE CAUSE IT IANT SEXY WITHOUT THE SPICE AND THERE IS NO SPICE IN A 19YR OLD DUDE WITH A 23YEAR OLD WOMAN.SOOOOOOOOO DON'T PREFER HIS DEATH. BROTHA TRY TO FIND THE REST OF THE LADIES BEFORE YOU HASTLE YOURSELF WITH THE HOOYOOYINKA.NO OFFENSE
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 02:51 pm Hey me again ... Just came in to let the girls know little something. It seems like you are not reading what am saying and I hardly don't think anyone of you read what I wrote because all your comments are something that doesn't concern the issue that we are talking about and the question that I asked you guys none of you have said nothing about it, so please tune it to the what am saying otherwise silence will be good answer thanks. Abdullah thanks bro my be I should do that but listen bro when your heart is looking one direction its hard your mind to think about anything else thanks anyway. Hey is that U TGirl if me identify my self to you hahahaha you will laugh your ass off thanks but I didn't get my groooove on yet lol. Rest thanks so much more help needed walaalayaal thank you all byee. Yours "Amomymous"
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| | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 03:55 pm QADAR I THINK I KNOW YOU
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| | Friday, December 08, 2000 - 11:42 am HAYEEY QADAR SOMEONE KNOWZ YOU...LOL HAHAHAHAHA
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| | Friday, December 08, 2000 - 11:43 am HAYEEY QADAR SOMEONE KNOWZ YOU...RUNNN LOL HAHAHAHAHA
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| | Saturday, December 09, 2000 - 05:25 am !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| | Saturday, December 09, 2000 - 05:41 am To the person asked the advice; My brother I think you do not know excactly what love is ( no offence) if you already saying I can leave her, i ma sure there is nothing strong from your side. if you really like her i will tell you even if you cannot marry that person you will always like taht peson, you will talk about her/him, and say i want marry her, help me with some thoughts. I do not think age matters in some cases, I would marry someone older than me upto 10 years ( not more) but may be there are difference btw men and women so think about that. and anyway you are 19 i think you should know her a bit longer. stay away from her ; islamically you should not be alone. email her sometimes but try not to be too close to her, and see if everything goes or stays. and lastly, it is the month of ramadan try to love your Allah and be close to him. good luck your's sister Arawello
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