     Iman | Friday, December 08, 2000 - 03:31 am
i have a problem, and i wanted some advice from my brothers and sisters around the world.
i saw a guy in uni and told my friend i thought he was nice, she told me not to go there as he had a wife back in somalia. i got chating to hime and we become very good friends over the last year. i started to fall in love with him but i didn't say anything.
last week he came up to me and said he wanted to talk with me. he told me although he had a wife he was falling in love with me. he asked me out and i told him i'd think about it.
half of me wants to go out with him and the other half feels bad for his wife. my friends say that he is tring to take advantage of the wife been in anther country mabey i'm not the only girl he has asked out. but i believe him.
what do you think i should do?????????? |
| DuH | Friday, December 08, 2000 - 03:39 am
I think you should call Iman the Super Model maybe she can help you.DuH? |
| HANNA | Friday, December 08, 2000 - 03:17 pm
TO IMAN...ADVANTAGE
GIRL I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY
I THINK HE IS TRYING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIS WIFE
BECAUSE SHE'S NOT HERE WITH HIM
AND I THINK HIS JUST LONELY AND HE WANT'S SOMEONE TO PLAY WITH.
I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM ALONE EVEN IF YOU LOVE HIM BECAUSE HIS MARRY.
AND WHY WOULD YOU EVEN THINK ABOUT GOING OUT WITH HIM I THINK HIS GOING TO TELL YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR AND THEN WHEN HIS WIFE CAMES HIS GOING TO DUMP YOU IF YOU ASK ME I WILL TELL YOU JUST TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM FOR A WHILE MAYBE IF YOU DON'T SEE HIM AS MUCH AS YOU DO YOUR FELLINGS MAY CHANGE.
GOOD LUCK AND WHAT EVER YOU DO PLEASE THINK IT OVER TWICE. |
| CANAB. | Monday, December 11, 2000 - 07:44 am
HEY ABAYO FIRST OF ALL I FEEL FOE YOU IT IS A HARD SITUATION TO BE IN,BUT I THINK SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT HERE BECAUSE THIS STORY IS A TYPICAL ONE.HE IS JUST USING YOU,BECAUSE I THINK AS LONG AS HE HAS ANOTHER WIFE U WILL ALWAYS BE SECOND BEST.CAN U SETTLE FOR THAT?AND IF YOU AGREE NOT TO DATE HIM THEN LIKE SOMEONE ELSE SAID BEFORE JUST TRY TO AVOID HIM BECAUSE I KNOW IT WILL BE DIFFICULT TO ALWAYS SEE HIM!I REALLY HOPE ALLAH HELPS U IN WHAT EVER DECISION U MAKE. |
| MN man | Monday, December 11, 2000 - 07:56 am
Do What's right Iman
and that's to give tha poor guy a chance again.
who cares if has wife. She's not with him anymore u are so for tha sake of two of u go and get married if u intent to.
Some of us have hard time staying lonely in thiz winter.
Good luck |
| Mercutio- | Monday, December 11, 2000 - 08:42 am
IMAN COME ON SIS !!
YOU KNOW YOU WANNA GET YOUR GROOVE ON!
DON'T ASK FOR ADVICE YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER. |
| arawelo | Monday, December 11, 2000 - 09:01 am
Look Iman,
I do not know what going out meant to you. To me as a muslim I will say i am going out with a guy when there is already an agreement that we may get married soon.
Now you are saying I did .....what is that darling. Okey, you already did that, now stop.
your answer is simple do you want to marry a man who has already a wife if yes, then no problem. if not what else are you talking about.
and lastly KEEP AWAY FROM HIM!!!a bit more respect to youself my darling. |
| Hibo | Monday, December 11, 2000 - 03:37 pm
Iman: I agree with sister.. Arawelo... he is married for God sakes.... find a bachelor... i know what they say.. all good men r taken....I don't support that.........u will find ur prince charming.......don't do this to a sister....u know what they say.....what goes around comes around.........so watch out sis.......n Stop being close to him!!.. |
| Aaliyah | Thursday, December 14, 2000 - 03:22 am
I feel compassion for you but have you throught hard and good about this because the consquense later could be harder and leave you feeling hurt and silly. I would talk to him and let him know that the other wife needs to be told so that he has cleared the air and then take it step at a time.I hope you all the luck and that you finally become happy in what ever you do.cause i hate to see a sister hurt. |
| JULIET | Thursday, December 14, 2000 - 06:16 am
DARLNG,THINK BEFORE YOU WRITE.
OAKY#
YOU KNOW HE WANT YOU COS HIS WIFE AIN'T THERE.
HE PROABLY NEED'S SOMEONE TO CARE FOR HIM PHYICLY AND MENTALY'AND HE THINK'S YOUR THE ONLY ONE THAT WOULD DO THAT.
AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT HE WILL DUMP YOU LIKE NO MAN'S BUSINESS.
IMAN,YOU DON'T HAVE TO STOOP THAT LOW TO FIND YOURSELF A DECENT SOMALI MAN.
I AM SURE YOUR A NICE GIRL WHO HAS RESPECT FOR HERSELF,SO JUST WAITE FOR MR-RIGHT,HE COME ALONG AND TRUELY CARE FOR YOU AND (ONLY YOU)
IT WOULD BE WORTH THE WAITING,
TRUST ME
TAKE CARE.... |
| Iman | Tuesday, January 02, 2001 - 01:00 am
i would like to thank you all for your advice. after i thought long and hard i decided he was not the one 4 me. although i still have stronge feelings for him i try and stay away from him as much as pos. once again thank you in helping me decide on the right think to do.
To DuH
THAT WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO FUNNY. REMIDE ME TO LAUGH NEXT TIME!!!! |
