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     | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 06:44 am THAT'S RIGHT, MY FATHER WANTS ME TO MARRY A SOMALI AND I DON'T THINK I WILL. WHY? BECAUSE I WAS ABUSED BY 3 SOMALI MEN WHEN I WAS A CHILD AND CAN'T IMAGINE BEING WITH A SOMALI MAN. I FEEL SORRY FOR MY FAMILY BUT I CAN'T DO IT. THAT MY MOTHER SAYS SHE'LL DIE OF SHAME BUT I CAN'T HELP HER OUT. ONE IS ASKING FOR MY HAND IN MARRIAGE AND HIS FAMILY EXPECT IT TO BE OK. I FEEL LIKE RUNNING AWAY, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. ANY SENSIBLE ADVICE ON HOW TO HANDLE THE SITUATION?
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:12 am Words of advice sis, don't ever marry a man if you don't whant to. If your parents whant you to marry then do it if you whant to don't do it just to satisfy them, becuse in the end you are the one who's gonna suffer. And sis I can feel your repugance towards somalimen beacuse of what you've been thru, you think all somalimens are just like the three men who did you harm as a child, but sis that's wrong. If all somalimen would be like thoose three men then sis how can you stand your father and if you have brothers how can you stand them???? don't feel like you are betraying your parents if you don't marry the one they whant you to marry, beacuse if they are muslims then they don't have the right to force you. But sis I honestly think that you should have better reason for not marying somaliemen. I asume that you are an inteligent girl sis use that don't judge your brothers. Some are good some are bad unfortunatly you you came across the bad ones, but have some fate sis eventely you'll meet the right one and who knows he can be somalie. Chin up sis  let go of the anger you have, your brothers is not the same,
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:17 am oh my god same old sh@t is this Big problem part 2 Do you think we care? think about that please
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:32 am JAMIILA THANKS FOR YOU ADVICE. MARRYING A SOMALI, I CAN'T! THE IDEA MAKES ME SICK. THE PROBLEM IS PEOPLE THINK I'M SAYING I CAN'T MARRY THEM FOR FASHION. IT'S NOT. I FEEL PHYSICALLY SICK ABOUT THE WHOLE IDEA. THESE MEN ARE MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN AND LOOK LIKE ANY OTHER NORMAL SOMALI MAN. THIS MAKES ME QUESTION OUR SOCIETY AND HOW NOTHING WAS DONE TO THEM AND HOW THEY CAN WALK AROUND WITH THIER BIG BEARDS AND PREACH TO OTHERS ABOUT BEING GOOD MUSLIMS WHEN THEY KNOW WHAT THEY DID. I FEEL SORRY FOR THIER WIVES WHO DON'T KNOW, I HATE THEIR FAMILIES WHO DO KNOW, WHEN THEY SAY WONDERFUL THINGS ABOUT THEM. IT MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH. KURSI YOU ATTITUDE IS TYPICAL, THIS HURTS ME BEYOND BELIEF.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:47 am sis, the men who did this to you, were they respected men? did people listen to them? can you answer me sis then I tell you what I mean with asking?
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:56 am I WAS YOUNG NOW IN MY 20'S. I CAN'T ANSWER THAT BUT ALL I KNOW IS THAT THEY WALK AROUND LIKE NOTHING HAS HAPPENED AND FORGET THAT THEY'VE DISTROYED MY LIFE. THE COMMUNITY THINKS THEY ARE WONDERFUL, GOD FEARING, FAMILY LOVING MEN. I'M TOLD THAT I HATE MY PEOPLE, THINK I'M BETTER THAN THEM AND DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT WHEN I HINT AT NOT SEEING A FUTURE WITH A SOMALI MAN. JUSTICE FOR YOU HUH?
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:06 am Hi my sister. if a comment from people like kursi.......is hurting U that much then you are a soft touch.........and dear not all your fingers are the same...that is the way men are they are like your fingers not the same. some men are bad ..but there are a lot of nice guys a round belive me . personally I feel sick when I see Somali girls who marry out side their society...........I like my man to be from where I come from....that gives me an identity........I want to tell my children the same stories that my grand mother used to tell me ..........it is a whole subject. do not marry a man if U not like him....but I am sure U will find a nice descent Somali guy.......who will change your thinking about Somali men insha'alah have faith in our men
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:24 am ABAAYO! HADAAD SAAS U FIKIREYSID...LET ME SAY IT IN ENGLISH FOR I CAN TELL U AINT GOOD ABOUT READING AND WRINTING YOUR MOTHER'S TONGUE.... SIS! I FEEL SORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO U ..IF IT IS TRUE...REASON OF MY DOUBT...PEOPLE...SPECIALLY SOMALI PEOPLE POST FALSE AND MADE UP STORIES HERE..AND LATELY I HAVE NOTICED THERE ARE A LOT OF HATEFUL AND DISRESPECTFUL MESSAGES BETWEEN THE GENDERS..HOWEVER COMING BACK TO YOUR CASE...YOU HAVE GENERALISED ALL SOMALI MEN..THAT IS NOT REALLY A VERY GOOD THING...SECONDLY..THINK ABOUT THIS...U DON'T WANT MARRY THE SOMALI GUY AND U CAN'T STAND BEING WITH ONE...HMMMM..SO WHO U WANNA MARRY..A GAAL..THAT IS INFIDEL? YOU WANNA GET OUT OF THE ISLAMIC CIRCLE ? LET ME REMIND YOU THIS ALL MUSLIMS ARE BROTHERS AND SISTERS...THUS IF YOUR INTENTION IS TO MARRY A NON SOMALI MUSLIM... THAT IS OK..
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:32 am Anonymous-girl I feel sorry for you if what you're claiming is the TRUTH? And how come these men are allowed to walk scott free? How come you're also withholding the information regarding this matter,THIS is the internet remember the free world.spell it out girl. I'm a somaliman and I believe we have the good,the bad&the ugly,but, TO GENERALIZE ALL of us is unfair on the good ones,Somaliwomen are no exception.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:36 am And oh about wanting to marry a non-somaliguy whose holding your back sis!! if that's what you want and you think it will make you happy forever go for it you have my blessings.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:42 am to Oldfashioned girl I don't get it are you saying that you get identity when you marry a somalian man girl I think you are wrong. It's good to marry somone who have the same culture as you but what does that have anything to do with getting identity, sis you don't need a man to get identity. Did I get it wrong sis or what???
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:52 am THIS IS WHAT I EXPECTED. IT IS TRUE BUT AS I'VE FOUND OUT THE MAJORITY OF MY PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT THAT THIS HAPPENS. WHEN IT DOES HAPPEN, THEY DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH IT, INSTEAD I'M TOLD IT'S NOTHING AND TO FORGET IT. WELL I CAN'T FORGET IT. I WISH I COULD. I WENT THROUGH MY PRIVATE HELL AND IT WOULD SEEM THAT THE ONLY UNDERSTANDING I GET IF FROM NON SOMALIS. THEY ARE ALLOWED TO WALK SCOT FREE BECAUSE IT WAS A 'SHAMEFUL' THING THEY DID AND THE COMMUNITY, AKA THIER FAMILY WOULD SPEAK ABOUT IT. NO ONE SPEAK TO ME ABOUT IT, IT WAS IGNORED AND NEVER MENTIONED AGAIN. I DON'T WANT TO MARRY A GGAAL, BECAUSE I'M A MUSLIM BUT THE IDEA OF HAVING A SOMALI MAN NEAR ME MAKES ME VOMIT - I'M NOT INSULTING, I MEAN PHYSICALLY VOMIT. I HAVE NIGHTMARE ABOUT IT AND WHEN I SEE A SOMALI MAN NEAR CHILDREN I CAN'T HELP QUESTIONING THEM IN MY MIND. SORRY TO GENERALISE BUT AS NOTHING WAS DONE TO THESE MEN AND THE FACT THEY BLEND INTO NORMAL PEOPLE HOW CAN U EXPECT ME NOT TO QUESTION ALL SOMALIMEN? I WANTED ADVICE ON HOW TO TELL MY FATHER I CAN'T MARRY A SOMALIMAN AND NOT JUST THIS ONE THAT WANTS TO MARRY ME. I WANT TO TELL HIM NOT TO EXPECT ME TO BECAUSE I CANT DO IT.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 09:08 am odl fashioned girl YES COMMENTS LIKE KURSI'S DOES HURT AND I'M NOT SOFT BUT HAVE SUFFERED TWICE. HE'S JUST VOICING THE 'WHO CARES' ATTITUDE MY COMMUNITY HAD FOR ME. BY NOT BEING THERE FOR ME WHEN I NEEDED TO BE PROTECTED AND IGNORING ME WHEN I TURNED TO THEM FOR HELP AS A CHILD GOING THROUGH WHAT I DID. YES THAT HURTS, IT HURTS MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW. I HOPE YOU NEVER KNOW. WHAT IS WORSE IS WHEN WOMAN TAKE UP THE SAME ATTITUDE WITH PASION.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 09:17 am Oh come oooooooooon pleeeeeeeeeeeez stop watching too much Jerry springer that will mess you up even more.......and if you want to marry a non-somali man heeeeeeeeey be my guest who the heck is constraining you from not doing so???????????????????????????????????????? just do it........and leave somali men out of it.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 09:18 am This is me again well i though u were mad about what i said in my last message Lets be clear, Do you think if i see in the mall shopping with your nonesomali men i will feel pain in my heart, no because that is your choose not me sista, this is what you wanted to be aight Don't get mad at me, i just like to tell the way i see't I personally don't care what anyone does if they are not from family, if your not my sista i have no business in your life, is that clear? Also somalimens are not all the same. You should also talk to your family because they are the one who love you the most.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 09:58 am Babe I feel for you! if this has happened then I truly feel for you. look after yourself and do what's right for you. I think you need to do something about healing. Y can't u tell ur pops about it? does he know? I think u should see someone and start working on getting better. u sound like you're hurting. Inshallah all will work out for you.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 10:47 am salaam alaykum sister, I feel so sorry for you going through all this pain. May Allah guide you to his right path. The only thing that i can advise you with is to read Quran sister...n read it alot...all your pain and sorrow..insha-allah will be gone. And sister if you don't want to marry a somali brother...that's all right...as long as you marry a MUSLIM MAN. May Allah forgive us all, amin
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 12:08 pm 1ST OF ALL I APOLOGIZE 4 EVERY SOMALIAN MALE AND I FEEL SORRY 4 THE BASTARDS WHO HAVE WRONGED U. WOULD ALSO LIKE TO ADD, THAT PLEASE DONT GENERALIZE,CAUSE WE AINT ALL THE SAME. CERTAINLY NOT, SOME OF US R EVIL AND SOME OF US ANGELS SO DONT BE SKEPTICALL AND DONT GIVES A BAAD NAMES WITH YOUR REGRETABLE BLUESSSSSSS. DONT MARRY A SOMALIAN MAN IF U DONT WANT TOO, MARRY A WHITE MAN HE WILL TREAT Y BETTER,LOL.... OR BETTER YET MARRY AN AMERICAN THEN U WILL KNOW WHAT ABUSE IS ALL ABOUT, 4 REALLLL....... FOLKS THIS HAS REACH AN EPIDEMIC CLIMAX IN OUR SOCIETY GIRLS TRYING TO USE US AS SCAPEGOAT 4 FOR SOME SERIOUS PROBLEMS. DONT FORGET I AM NOT CONDONIING WHAT THEM BASTARDS DID, I AM ONLY HIGHLIGHTING A DARK SPOT IN OUR SOCIETY....... SORRY SIS I HOPE U FIND A DECENT BROTHER WHO WILL TREAT U RIGHT........
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 12:21 pm You want your parents off your neck>Walk in home one day and tell them you are LESBIAN ,They drop down dead,problem solved they have a heart attack and live,come home with a white guy,they'll forget about the somali thing.They'll just say thank god she's not a lesbian,and all will be happy.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 02:15 pm ONE Q WHER ?? HOW??? AT HOME OR OUT SIDE ?? AND WHER YOUR FAMILY A ROUND ?? AND 3 MEN AT ONE GO OR ?? JUST A Q .. CUASE MOST PPL GOT A BUSE ONCE NOT 3 TIME'S .. ??????????? THER IS SOMTHING FISHY ,TELL THE TRUTH GIRL.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 02:53 pm ANON, What happened to you is very shameful and unforgivable in the face of man and in the face of Allah.In our society we have murderers,rapist,cut throats and all kind of criminals sitting at the first row of every mosque.as if they never done nothing.and every one seems to be calling the haji and shiekh. If any one of those bastards lives in the western countries go after them.report to the police.put them in jail where they belong.They can be convicted even if they comitted the crime in another country.somebody has to pay for his crime. You seem to care much about your parent,be good to them.it is a duty from Allah you owe them. and one more thing,it doesnt necessarily means that a non-somali would give you or settle down your wery heart.may be you will land yourself with good guy,or may be bad and worse than those three guys.goodness has no gender,nationality or race.there are good and bad people in every society and it all depends on who you meet. I know it is not easy to forget such an ordeal,but try not to let it destroy your persoanal life.be strong and go ahead with life.And keep the price in mind,and get even with those bastards along the course of your life.And dont marry those urglies your parents wanna you to.nobody can force you to mary somone you dont want.unless you show wickness.If you are in school continue with your education and simply ignore whatever anyone says.AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU.REMEMBER YOU CAN NOT ALTER THE PAST.IT IS GONE.YOU CAN ONLY SHAPE THE OUT COME OF YOUR FUTURE,BY NOT MARRYING ONE OF THOSE IDIOTS YOUR PARENT INSISTED.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 02:58 pm ANGEL OF LUV PLEASE GET UR KICKS ELSE WHERE.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 03:05 pm DICK BELIEVE IT OR NOT BUT YOU JUST MADE ME CRY. THANK YOU SO MUCH. COMING FROM A SOMALI MAN IT'S GOOD TO HEAR WHAT YOU'VE JUST SAID. MY NOSE IS RUNNING FROM CRYING SO MUCH. I'D LOVE TO GET EVEN WITH THEM, BUT WHAT WOULD THAT DO TO MY FAMILY? THEY'VE MADE ME FEEL SO ASHAMED OF WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME THAT I WONDER WHAT MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS WOULD SAY AND THINK ABOUT ME EVEN THOUGH I WAS A CHILD AND A VICTIM. THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORDS. IT MEANS A LOT TO ME.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:42 pm to generalize a whole race of ppl is wrong...but u have a reason...but generalizing ppl is still wrong... the way i see it so far u have no one else to blame but your parents and your family...they were supposed to do something about the incident which they didn't just like u said it...and don't think that every family would have done the same thing your parents did, which is to ignore the situation...all i know is that if u were my sister or even a cousin those three guys would have been dead...even if i didn't do it some other guy in my family would have done it...just like i said it before and i'll say it again BLAME YOUR PARENTS FOR IGNORING WHAT HAPPENED... and the thing about not wanting to marry somali men - that is your choice...although u have a stupid reason for it, it is still your choice... as muslims your parents don't have the right to force u to marry someone u don't want to marry...u can always tell them that...that will make them satisfied... if u don't want to marry a somali guy just coz 3 somali men raped you when u were young and your parents didn't do nothing about it u r being stupid unless the guy is one of those three... i think u just don't want to marry the guy for some other reason and if that is the case u can always tell your father "father listen, i don't want to marry this guy. and in Islam u can't force me to marry anyone i don't want to. and if u do it u r going against the command of Allah" just tell him that and see what he does...
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:32 pm WHAT U NEED IS A SHRINK NOT A HUSBAND. CALL DR. LAURA. U HAVE A LOT OF ISSUES. SERIOUSLY THOUGH I THOUGHT THE "FULL HOUSE" ERRA WAS OVER. U PPLE R TOO EMOTIONAL. LIFE IS A BITCH, DEAL WITH IT. HUGGS AND KISSES SAGAL.
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 10:51 pm Sis i do really feel sorry for you about what has happened to you. I think you are suffering from a Post-traumatic stress disorder. It is normal to experience it after a trauma like one you had. I reccomend you for getting a help and to see a psycologists. They can help you to get rid it off. About not getting married with Somali man, basicaly that is your choice, but I thought you would say I don't want to marry with a MAN (no matter nationality, calor, religion and age, etc) because it will make sence saying that. Think about Somali man is a human being like everybody, he is also a muslim, black etc. If they hurt you every human being could hurt you.. How many rapes, murders and other bad crimes happen in North America Asia or Europe in everyday, and who is doing all those crimes, surely non Somali man, but White Americans, Black Americans, Asians, Hispanics etc.. About your family tell the true even if it hurts, but one day doing so you wil feel better. Sis take care..
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| | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 11:03 pm BURHAAN AND OTHERS THANK YOU. MY FAMILY DOESN'T KNOW, JUST MY MOTHER. I GREW UP WITH THIER FAMILY. I DON'T WANT TO GO INTO TOO MUCH DETAIL BECAUSE IT HURTS TO THINK ABOUT IT. YES I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ALL MEN BURHAAN AND TO BE HONEST HAVE A LOT OF DISTRUST FOR THEM. SOMALI MEN ARE COVERED BY THE SOCIETY AND NOT SHOWN TO BE WHAT THEY ARE, AMERICAN MEN, IF SOCIETY FINDS OUT, ARE EXPOSED FOR ALL TO SEE. THIER SISTERS HID THEM AND SAY NOTHING. I CAN'T SEE AN AMERICAN MANS SISTER SAYING 'WHAT DID HE DO'? 'HE WAS YOUNG'? CAN YOU? MY PEOPLE HID THEM AND ACCEPTED THEM BACK INTO THE SOCIETY. THIS I CAN'T FORGIVE AND THAT IS WHY I SAY I CAN'T BE WITH A SOMALI MAN. BECAUSE WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY'VE DONE BECAUSE OUR PEOPLE DON'T TELL ANYTHING. BURHAAN, I'M SEEING SOMEONE NOW AND THEY ARE HELPING ME WITH THIS PROBLEM AND YES SHE SAYS IT'S 'Post-traumatic stress disorder'. THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT. I WANT TO ONE DAY SAY IT TO THE WORLD. THESE PEOPLE DONE THIS TO ME AND I HATE THEM. BUT I KNOW I WILL GET PEOPLE THAT DON'T UNDERSTAND OR DON'T WANT TO UNDERSTAND THAT WILL INSULT ME AND BLAME ME FOR WHAT HAS HAPPENED. I'M SCARE OF THAT.
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 01:11 am HI you waxan kugula talin lahaa in aad samayso waxa walidkaa kula jecelyihii aniga hada waxan jiraa 21 waxan gursaday markan jiray 17 waxna leyahay laba wiil oo aad u qurux badan waxana bartay sida loga shaqeyo pharmashiyaha waxan jogaa Sweden oo halkaas waxa igula noo ninkayga oona ahaa mid anan horay u arag oo walidkay igu dareen and I m happy ,but i m filing sorry fr u dear sis
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 02:18 am stop the lie aight Why are you anonymous? just wondering.
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 03:36 am dear Anonymous first i would like to say that i'm very disgusted in those of you who show no understanding i think your all sick or just plan heartless so shut up if u don't have anything useful to say. Anonymous believe me sis i know how u feel and i know other girls who went through the same thing so your not alone sister. i would like to say alot of things to you but can't at this moment. my advice to you is don't marry any man u can't stand as long as u marry a muslim man that's fine, i know you somalimen out there feel angery for beening generalized but can u blame use i don't think so! the first think u need to do is panish those wrong doers instead of slapping them in the back and pretending nothing happened. i havn't seen one somalimen who acted like a real gentelmen at least the younger guys are learning how to behave and respect women. Anonymous my advice to u is simply tell your parents "No i'm not going to marry a somalian man and if u love you wouldn't force me to and if u do i'll simply have to kill ethier him or me" and if my don't listen to that inshalla alla would forgive you if u lift home and started your own live. p.s keep it in there sis your not alone
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 09:15 am TRUE SISTER THANK YOU SO SO MUCH. I THINK SOMEONE HAS FINALLY HEARD ME. THANK YOU SIS.
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 09:22 am To:anonymous see your doctor as soon as possible sista these might harm you in the long run.
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 09:56 am So Anonymous, Asking U the phone number would be out of the question eh? . . I kind of like U woman...I think we have a reason to boogie all night...I'll rock your world. . . U'll be my Freak and I'll be your nightstand.
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| | Sunday, December 31, 2000 - 03:20 pm sis there no point of runing away you bro if you had bad luck your previous life then i advise you to start new good somal bro with you lifi. cause we a'nt like that.this time could be exciting.you never know
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| | Monday, January 01, 2001 - 03:20 pm honey the best thing you can do is to tell both your parents. i am sure they won't blame you as you were a child and helpless. after you have reached this stage than you must go after these bastards that did this to you and make them pay for what pain and sorrow they have caused you. honey i know its easy said than done, but i am sure you will feel a lot better when they are put behind bars. i agree on the fact when you said somalimen don't understand what you went through. if going outside your race makes you happy than honey good luck but make sure that he is a good muslim brother!
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| | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 11:42 am i AM A sOMALIMAN aND i GET A fEW WORDS FOR YOU. WHAT IS PAST IS BEHIND YOU AND IS THE 21ST CENTUARY LET US CROSS THE 21ST CENTUARY BRIDGE TOGETHER LIKE "BILL CLINTON SAID". AND TO BE hONSET WITH YOU MY DAD AND MY UNCEL WAS KILLED BY A SOMALIMAN, WELL DO I HAVE TO KILL ALL SOMALIMAN INCLUDING YA DADY? i DUNNO HELP ME OUT SISTA?
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| | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 12:31 pm hold up yo let me ask u this married man wana marry u ...and why is that ....are u in africa iam serious sis...if ur in the states they can't do that it is againt the low ....if ur in north america scare the man away ...tell him u will tell the government and he will back off iam sure of it..lol
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| | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 05:30 am Girl why don't you s-p-e-l-l it out? Let it out and tell us what happened so we can give you some advice. If you're going to marry a non-Somali, at least marry someone from the Arab Emirates. Some other advice: Confront your mother-this shouldn't be hanging over your shoulder for the rest of your life. Have a heart to heart talk.
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| | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 04:36 pm YO! SOMALIAN ROSE,BLACKRAP FEEL FOR YOU. BUT WHAT THEY DON'T WANT TO HEAR IS THAT THE MAN YOU LIKE IS A BLACK AMERICAN(ADON)AS LONG AS HE IS WHITE OR FU**ing ARABIC,THEY WILL BE COOL WITH THAT. THERE ARE LARGE NUMBER OF AMERICAN BROTHER,THAT ARE ULAMA-E-KIRAM.SO CHECK HIS DEEN SISTER. YARHAMO KALLAH. SISTER (BLACKRAP GOT YOUR BACK) PS. SOMALIAN BROTHER YOU BETTER START TAKING BETTER CARE OF YOUR WOMEN,HERE IN THE WEST. THIS IS TO ALL THE SOMALIAN SISTER BLACKRAP GOT LOVE FOR YOU. PEACE OUT.
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 09:15 am Ashwaaq naa ilmaha hanaga fadareen. To Anonymous chick like kursi said...who gives a freak...go get your freak on.....but stop accusing poor somali men...You are a liar no man Abused you. You should've been that lead actress in Liar liar Movie. Bullshit with ur liez
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 01:02 pm Anonymous girl Sister I feel for you wallahi but what U should realise is that unless U dis-connect yourself with the stigma relating to the incident.....that feeling is going to haunt you for the rest of your life. I would advice you to go to a Councellor and seek help coz no matter how much U try to avoid SOMALI MEN......U will have a connection with them coz UR father is a somali, your relatives are and your children will be Half Somali( should you choose to marry outside your race) Just remember not all the apples in the farm are rotten so stop generalising OUR MEN and start dealing with your problem...... PEACE Troubl£
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| | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 04:37 am you all forget, we all forget that there is an afterlife. this is not suffering,that girl is not suffereing.thank god that you have a nice comfortable bed to sleep on.go on with your life,turn all that anger that you have towards the men and the idea into marrying a somali man into postive.MOVE ON. get yourself educated so you won't have to think about marriage for now and once you are it's most likely that others including your parents will respect your choices in life. no one in this western culture can make you do anything you don't want to. it's all down to you. if you have the understanding and believe in our culture you would not look to a man from another. yet, the quran says marry who you want as long as he/she is muslim.if you find a non-somali muslim, i suggest you go for it ,if that's what makes you happy. don't waste your time, do the best you can for this life and the after. keeping in mind those that are important to you. good luck
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| | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 08:17 am You know what??? I have read and very much critiqued what ya'all had to say. Having said that, the one thing that I don't understand is the relationship between the parents and these three men that u claim raped u anonymous. It seems that u are one that doesn't live here in the western part of the world, or at least in N. America. Cause like an earlier respondent have said, if this were to happen here, then these pastards would have been prosecuted and sent to jail. And that would happen only if you would have come forward and reported them to authorities. I am a somali man and very proud of my heritage and my background. And it really hurts me when u generalize all Somali men. I can understand where u coming from, but sis 2 wrongs don't make a right. At the same time, it is very hard to forget such a thing, but if you keep looking back, and to that incident then u will b detoriating and your life would never have a change. In contrast, I don't think that looking outside of your race helps kill the pain. I think what will do at the end is a Somali man who really changes your life and changes your views about somalimen as a general. I mean don't get me wrong here, I am not speaking for all somalimen, cause if I would to do that, then I would be out of line. On the other hand, I feel very sorry, and very touched by your story. It is your life and at the end your gonna be the one dealing with it. but I suggest you look at what is best for you while at the same keeping this in the cirlce, but don't base your whole life and love life on this. It is the past, move on and I hope the road to rehab happens to be one less travelled by. Good luck sweety and when one changes your views, that is when u can really enjoy and see the world through four eyes, mutual agreement, cause that is what is all about. I can't relate to your story, and I am not one that is married. I don't even think that I have that much interaction with somalis everyday. But being with blacks, Whites, Latinos, and Asians made me really appreciate my people so much and my Somali queens, cause that is what I reffer when one is mentioned and that is why down the future one will be my queen. I conclude by saying, good luck with it sista. One.
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