     THE LADY | Monday, January 15, 2001 - 03:34 am
HI there i am a 22 year old somali sis who use chat line in her spare time.
i know one guy from the chat line and i have known him for 4 years and we have not yet met but we have become best of friends and i really love him with all my heart but i want to know if any one has met any one from chat line and had a good relationship with them:}}}}}}}}}} |
| DuH | Monday, January 15, 2001 - 06:03 am
Lady take your weak azz off our computer screen.Dum azz.DuH |
| edil | Monday, January 15, 2001 - 12:17 pm
Sis
You probably like him for his personality if you have not met him yet and you think that you are in love with him which can be a good thing.
I do know people who have met over the net and actually gotten married. I advice you to snoop around and ask other people who live in the same city with him what he is really about. Don't just believe what he tells you, do your homework before you really trust him.
That's all. Good luck to you sis. |
| LOVERMAN | Monday, January 15, 2001 - 12:24 pm
THE LADY
WHAT IS LOVE. THINK ABOUT THIS QUESTION SERIOUSLY.
BUT NOT TOO SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!
IT IS OKAY TO HAVE A CHAT RELATIONSHIP. BUT BEFORE YOU TRICK YOURSELF INTO BEING INLOVE
MEET WITH THE DUDE, AND CONSIDER ALL THE REALITIES. UNTILL THEN DON'T SELL OUT. HOLD SOMETHNG BACK FOR YOURSELF |
| FUCKER | Monday, January 15, 2001 - 01:45 pm
hey bitch DON'T EVER fall in love with a fool you just met him through da net.aight HOOCHIE.that's an advice to yr big juicy fat ASS.always do yr thing in a live SITUATION EVEN if u are ugly.roomserverroomserver |
| THE-LADY | Tuesday, January 16, 2001 - 03:13 am
hahahha ya people must think that i am the sadest living person on the earth but i am not i told ya that i do this in my spare time and i am not a kid ok?
any way what wrong with falling for some one in the net at lest he is somalia right???????
and he is muslim????? right
any way thats all i have to say for now
later people |
| Moe | Tuesday, January 16, 2001 - 04:20 am
The Lady, Honey... I know this one guy who met this one girl from Canada on a chat line. They talked for months and eventually hooked up. It worked and they were about to get engaged. The girl was a knock out. Damn, she was worth the 10 hour drive to Ontario.
Moe. |
| THE-LADY | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 03:12 am
MOE thanks bro i am hoping to meet him but there thing is that well it is kinda weired ya know what i mean? meeting on the net and all that but hay never mind thats life for ya?
any way i really don't know if i should give him 100% coz ya never know what truly the person is like:}
but then again there person he is dam i have not met any guy like that.
love the lady thanks again |
| Moe | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 03:37 am
The Lady,
My dearest, Nothing in life is guaranteed. I have had a fair rejections but I would rather be rejected than face a what if. What ifs are the worst thing in the world. They eat away at you.
Do some homework on the guy. Find out what kind of person he is but do it non-chalantly. Second of all, meet him in a public place. Thirdly, go with a friend for extra security.
Take care and follow your heart. It will lead you in the right direction.
Moe. |
| babilon | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 06:05 am
Well 'the lady' love is a weird anecdote and it fluctuates from lust to longing and vice verse, but on-line relationships tend to combine the two and somehow confuse the process.
So what U have now might not be what U end up with once U meet the person, on a optimistic note, it might be more than U ask for.
I had friend who met and married a girl on the net, but as faith will have it when it come to their second year of marriage things didn't work out as they wanted and obstacles began to emerge which ended up in a serious break down of their communication. So the dude thinking his sweet heart communicated better on-line went to the public library and logged on to the chat room he met his wife, sadly she wasn't there. He was about to leave when a thought occurred to him, for old times&memory sake he said let me just visit the private room they use to hide. So he typed 112 in the private section and wala!!!!!!! there she was with another dude mourning huffing and buffing and laughing as if there is no worry in the world. Somethings never change, after the gasps and few after-shocks he gathered himself and told her his coming home to pick his few dusty items(dusty 'cause his wife was busy on-line instead of doing her chorus).
But to add and rub salt to the injury she asked the other dude if he could come ASAP, he obliged.
So that's the dark side of the on-line relationship that I have witnessed but maybe there are rosy ones out there, mind U this started as rosy too, it went on for 2 years before the networks ran to a satellite turbulence. |
| MNman | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 06:51 am
The lady
hi
Sis i read ur storie but u didn't give me enought details. So i'll ask u couple questions number 1 have u ever seen how he looks like even in a picture? 2 Does he live near ur region? 3 Does he wanna get married?
About ur other question Personelly i never seen two ppl met in tha chat and get married but i heard it happend. |
| THE LADY | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 09:07 am
HI THERE all and thanks for the messages
MNMAN
first of all i have known him for 4 years and yeah we have chatted on the phone for the past 3 years so it is nothing new. and yeah i have seen his pic and he is fine but that is not the point he is different to the most guys i have met.
and the thing is we are so alike, we like the same things and staff.
i have oready spoke to his friends and staff and they all seem really nice. one day i would love to get married to him. well befour i marry him we are ganna get engaged and then see how it goes for a year hmmmmmmmm:} any way thats what i am thinking of at the moment.
and please don't think i was on the net to meet people i was just killing time as ya do when ya next class is one hour time. and the funny thing was that i met him the first time i ever used the net. the other thing is if we are ment to be then we shell until then what ever happens happens.
the other thing is that there are weired people out there but we are somali's not these mad western people aiight:}}}}}}}
later people and take care of each other:}
hay MOE thanks:}}}} |
| Basra | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 09:18 am
Lady
i think it is immoral to meet any man in the net.Its unconventional and completely ridiculous.Who knows if he is a psychopath.Sis all i can advice you is dont go chating,personally i think its a waste of time.Forrums are much better,its sort of informative,but dont mix it with your life.Thats only my opinions,i am not saying they are imposing,only plain opinions.Good luck and stay safe. |
| Leeroy | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 09:39 am
@Lady
I have to say this ones so come closely, if you met a person on the net and you think you are in love, so be it, cause the web revolutionized the whole way we communicate and it going involve every aspect of our-lives.
I'm not for it nor trying to discourage you, but look the bright side - let's say you met a person on the bus every-day on your way to school, he could be cute, and he could be serial-killer but the only thing you see is his good charm.. One day asked you to go out with him, with out hesitation you said yes, the same thing can be said about the Internet. You don't know who is behind the computer screen, but sis do the right thing and do little research about the person.
Yo I have to flash, until next time give me your feed back.
Leeroy |
| sharma | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 10:34 am
To Lady:
Hi Lady, sis I think there is nothing wrong, having relationship on the net, but you gotta be care full out there, in this crazy world, however having said that, you are the judge on how this guy will fit on your portfolio, no one else can rule out on how is going to be on your future relationship with him.You have known him enough, to commit, its already been 4 years, check him very well and come up with a conclution.There is a saying that goes, "You can go to the top of the Mountain, but can you only find out how magnificent the valley is".If he is a good guy go for it, i think you are very smart sis, and your observation is not bad as have seen it on the top, good luky, and I hope it will work. |
| SUHUUR | Wednesday, January 17, 2001 - 07:18 pm
My goodness girl, you lost 4 yrs for only in front of the computer? Thatz not a relationship, itz passing the time girl! |
| SNOOP | Thursday, January 18, 2001 - 02:28 am
MAN DO NOT BE A BITCH......BITCH.........
WE ALL KNOW U R BITCH BUT DO NOT GO FAR BITCH SUCKER
P.S GOOD LUCK |
| THE LADY | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 12:25 am
to the people above thanks for the massege's i must that ya all give me some good advice and i am going to say that ya don't seem to see what ia m say , the fact is that i have not lost 4 years of my time front of a computer i have been out with somali guy but they are all not waht i am looking for there for i have know this guy all that time and he was just a friend.
but the friendship we have is specail and no one can come between us. and he is a really nice.
love ya and thanks lady |
| dr.romance | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 02:43 am
To
Lady!
After you've talked online, and on the phone, and you've exchanged poems, cards, and pictures.. eventually you both want to meet. It's only natural right? Isn't that what this was all about to begin with? Meeting someone? Happily ever after? It's sad to think that even when we're totally convinced that we've played it safe, we've used our best judgment, and we're sure we're going to be okay, that we still have to exercise extreme caution in making our plans. The following are guidelines that are basic. I'm not a fanatic about dating safety, I just believe that better safe than sorry and to err on the side of caution. Take it for what it's worth.
When it comes to common sense, online relationships are no different from a "real" world relationship. It's important that you use it!! If you pay attention to your instincts and the signs around you, chances are you're not going to run into many problems. Through the course of my own Interent relationships I have found there a few basic tips to keep in mind before and during meeting your online love.
(1)Try to meet in a neutral place or city. Meeting in neutral territory can have many advantages, one you can share the cost of everything (especially if you meet half-way). Two, it gives you both a chance to really get to know each other in real-life without any usual life happenings that might occur. And three, you get a special romantic getaway for two in a city you might not have visited before.
(2)For your first meeting try to have a friend accompany you. This can give you a great peace of mind as well as having a neutral party there to help brake the ice. Trust me on this one... it is a good thing to have!
Yours,dr.romance
Good Luck! |
| MALIK007 | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 10:23 am
To THE LADY
I see u met a guy online huum..He is charming,funny so u gave him your phone number now you guys chat on the phome and you like his voice huum..let see there is old chines say "In the dark every cat is black" so my friend online or over the phone every men is charming and funny. (except moi, yours truly): The question is Will he stay that way after u meet in person....
Do what u have to do but think about it first |
| BritishBabe | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 05:08 pm
Why do you think I only chat to guys from the STATES.........I know I'll never get tempted..coz I won't drive to them and they can't drive to me CAPISHE......Aim far girl and U won't B in love. All the best though.
LATER
TROUBL£ |
| SurReal | Friday, January 19, 2001 - 08:31 pm
Come on people let the Lady be. My lady, I think that your story could have a happy ending, but as a woman you should understand that knowing someone over the phone and actually through their actions and interactions with them says a lot more. Lets face it sometimes a man can a do great job at pretending to be someone he is not. Calm, sensitive and attentive to all your needs, and oh what a great listener he can play. This goes for an internet love and for a real love connection also, the thing is all of us should be weary of this person (all males) motives. You need to have a fight with this person, know what makes them tic and see how they act under pressure. Know almost every mood of theirs and find out how they are day to day before you can make a character judgment. So although what I have to say may be harsh, but it's a reality. I am only trying to save you from the tall tales that most men tell. You see anyone can assume a role on the net, over the phone and so forth...but it's up to you to make the real call, and all I ask is that you do a good character analysis before you make the leap to matrimony. |
| Hope | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 07:55 pm
Asalamu Aleikum,
My beloved @Lady,hey sis let me start by saying I love open minded sisters like you.The answer lies at how u look @ the situation.You should expect the unexpected sis,it's every girls dream to see her dreams fulfilled but in reality that is not guranteed coz no perfect individual exists.
It's better for us to treat every1 as an individual rather than fitting them into our "idealperson"...no one may fit there!
My advise to you is to be "CAREFULL",those invisible individual we exchange with over the net can be unpredictable,unbeleivable etc.The trust is never fullfilled unless u interact with the individual in person.Meet with this man,have live conversation,crack jokes,laugh,and within this time remember to make ur observation most importantly on the basic things like HOMOUR,CHARACTER.Make sure u have company or be more in a public place..don't get me wrong our brother r no ghosts but as being human our minds some times take control and we can be tempted into doing unlawful things ,one more thing from religious perspective no man has the rite to be with a woman in privacy,satan is their third party.
Hey sis u aint the first one,I do know of this couple who met in the chat and they indeed got married and as they are so far so good,so don't feel a beginner but u have to take extra care since the meeting was invisible in the first place...as a human our imaginations can run wild but anything is possible sis so have faith and be carefull and do it the right way,indeed Allah will be on ur side insha-Allah.
ps:As a respectfull sister the ball is always at ur hands and you hold the determinist hand.
Good Luck! |
| a caring sis | Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 12:05 am
dear lady,
yes some ppl met on the net and got married and lived as normal as any couple did.i myself i am engeged and am about to marry a guy i met on the net about 8 months ago.he is the best thing that ever happened to me.at first we were friends and i never tooke him serious until the day i got hurt and he was there to confort me.i live in states and he is in all the way England.i couldnt be happier.dont get me wrong sis i have been dating i am 22 as well.
my point is for everyone of us there is someone out there and it's doesnt matter where u met him as long as u are happy.sis no matter where u meet a guy if u decide to love him you are taking a chance.you open your heart i promise you it will get hurt but i also promise you will find true love.
however be safe and most of all follow ur heart.
however i know i am out of postion to say this but i recommend that u wait on the marriage for a little bit so that ur bodies can adapt as well as ur minds.
i wish u all the happieness sis. |
| THE-LADY | Thursday, January 25, 2001 - 01:57 am
people i must say thank you to all ya support on this topic ya all been nice and charming:}
i am from holland and up here people are not as open minded as ya guys and i am glad that i had this topic here:}}}}}}}}}
i am a student i am doing a business degree and it is my first year and so far it is going really well:}}}} i am thinking about getting married and staff and the only reason for that is that we are all muslims and ya know what i mean no dating thing? i know i am only 22 but age is nothing but number what is important is that i act like my age and that i not making a mistaket. thanks again ya all been great |
| THE-LADY | Thursday, January 25, 2001 - 02:23 am
people i must say thank you to all ya support on this topic ya all been nice and charming:}
i am from holland and up here people are not as open minded as ya guys and i am glad that i had this topic here:}}}}}}}}}
i am a student i am doing a business degree and it is my first year and so far it is going really well:}}}} i am thinking about getting married and staff and the only reason for that is that we are all muslims and ya know what i mean no dating thing? i know i am only 22 but age is nothing but number what is important is that i act like my age and that i not making a mistaket. thanks again ya all been great |
| Canada_guy | Friday, January 26, 2001 - 04:00 am
Salaan,
Maybe not love..but a strong like emotinos.
I use to come there and liked 2 girls
1- Ismahan from Atlanta..ismahan muus , but after 3 months i never heared of her again.. i wonder what ever happened to her.
2- Suha from toronto she use to call me at ottawa, 1999 i moved and my phone got discconcted and i never heared from her again..lol
i tell u what yes..u can like somebody and eventually love her/him if u met life..but the damn chat line and internet is risky busniess..lol u can get divorced simply by not paying your phone bill or internet bill..lol
bye |
| kay | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 10:00 am
hey moe,
hey dear sup, i like ur advice. u sound really nice bro. so do u use da chat line if yes then let me know!
later |
| m&m | Sunday, February 11, 2001 - 11:19 am
i have not seen honesgirl yet what happened to you girl
i can wait to see your advice
The lady
i wish you good luck personally i have never seen two people that met on the net and got married but i heard it happened
here is my 2 cents though
1- every1 can assume a role on the net
2- you will never know the person behind the screan his/her true personality
i currently chat with two guys on the net we email to each other and everything
and guess what i'm two different people
so all i can say to you is just be caryful there alot of crazy people out there
adios |
| MissSomalia | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 09:27 pm
Hi all
Hey guys be nice to lady aiight sis i'm in luve guy i meet chat line we call every day and night and i luve him to death nothing worog with da aiight peace and much luve guys i'm out!!!!!! |
