     Somali guy | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 09:11 am
I want to know, will you discipline your children differently from the way your parents disciplined you?
I think I can speak for all Somalis when I say our parents definetly didn't "spare the rod", man I can tell you stories lol......my mom would hit me with the nearest object , shoes, belts, etc, and this is pretty typical in most somali homes.
Looking back, do you think your parents were a bit too harsh (Somali parents don't talk, they insult and hit lol) but we still love our parents to death!
Since most of us don't live in the motherland, do you think that when you become a parent you will adopt a different style than the one your parents used in punishing you (i.e beating mercilessly)?
Funny stories are welcome! |
| Somaliyad | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 09:43 am
Somali guy, don't assume all parents are the same.
Walaahi neither of my parents ever beat me.
All my mother had to do was threaten us that she would leave us and that used to make us behave!
All my father had to do was to look you in the eye and raise his voice and say one word: Get out of my sight! this used to scare the #@*% out of us and would avoid anything that brought such a reaction from him.
You may get many funny stories of parents harshly discplining thier children howerver, beating doesn't resovle anything. A child has to be made to understand why a certain behaviour is unbecoming. If a child does not modify his/her behaviour after a he/she is told the reasons. Then another tactic must be used, such as reverse psychology that may work.
Unfortunately, many Somali children are now in Foster Care and are the ward of differnt states due to 'discpline' or 'neglect' by parents (who did not know or understand the laws of the Western Countries). |
| Anonymous | Saturday, February 10, 2001 - 11:51 am
Somaliyad,
Your mother would threaten to leave you if you misbehaved? Girl, that is Emotional abuse! LOL!
Kidding! |
| Faisa | Sunday, February 11, 2001 - 10:41 am
I'm going to practice time-out with my kids.
I'm going to communicate with them so that they feel they can come to me with anything. |
