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CAN YOU TURN FRIENDSHIP INTO ROMANCE?

SomaliNet Forum (Archive): General Discusions: Archive (Before Mar. 13, 2001): CAN YOU TURN FRIENDSHIP INTO ROMANCE?
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Rahiim

Friday, February 16, 2001 - 08:45 pm
Hi

I've known a girl named Halimo since I was in the in High school. We've always been close friends, always talking to each other about everything. We both started our first year of College together two years ago and at that time I didn't do so well and flunked out. We didn't have much contact last year while I was working and she was still in school, but this past summer things have changed. I called her up and asked her out to a movie, same routine we normally did. She said OK and came and picked me up (I don't have my license anymore, another long story but not really relevant). So after the movie was over she invited me back to her place for coffee and we started talking to each other about our lives and what we wanted to do, that sort of thing. The next thing I knew we were kissing on her couch. It just felt natural, like it was something we were supposed to do.

We will see each other again this March break and I really want this to work out. I think she does too, but what I wanted to ask is: Am I setting myself up here for a bad fall? Is it possible that longtime friends can have a romantic relationship with one another? I know we're only 23, but I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I would like to spend the rest of my life with her. I know she has strong feelings for me too because she has told me she loves me and I can't think of a time in my life when on some level I haven't loved her as well.

Rahiim, who really would appreciate your opinion on this matter

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Brother who got your back

Friday, February 16, 2001 - 09:10 pm
I don't see what the problem is if you both love each other?....why post this message?...unless you are not sure that she loves you as much as you love her...in that case I think you should find out how much she loves you because you know how unpredictable girls are...and also you my brother is missing a guys greatest quality *confidence*...if you think that she likes you!..what could I say but break it down to that girl, let her know how you feel, what your plans are, and most importantly let her know that no matter what you won't accept no for an answer...this will make her feel special and maybe next time you might hit a home run instead of going to second base!

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Xirsi

Friday, February 16, 2001 - 11:38 pm
I am on the same both bro. My high school sweethear and I are trying to do same transition.But fortunately thinks are working out for us, and we both know what's goin' on. May be we're older than you.

I hope it all goes alright bro.

Xirsi

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advisor

Saturday, February 17, 2001 - 03:33 am
well brother the only thing i can say is pack it in and go with your feeling! friendship growing into romance is the best thing that could happen to any1. you have so many advantages, such as you know her really well, so you both would'nt put on an act just to please each other, if you could be yourself around this girl at all times and you enjoy ach others company than bro follow what your heart tells you! you have something special don't let it pass you!!

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PHYSCO WHO NEEDS A LOT OF FUCKIN HELP

Saturday, February 17, 2001 - 07:55 am
YO RAHIIM

YEAH I THINK UR TOTALLY RIGHT MAN CAUSE THERE WAS THIS GIRL ( WHITE ) SINCE I KNEW WE WERE ABOUT 10 BUT WHEN WE WENT TO HIGH SCHOOL WE BOTH PICKED DIFFERENT SCHOOL'S BUT I KEPT ON SEEING HER WALKING AROUND MY AREA BUT THEN I DIDN'T THINK NOTHING OF HER BUT AS TIME GREW SO DID MY FEELINGS FOR HER AND NOW I JUST CAN'T GET THIS GIRL OUT OF MY HEAD>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>N-O-T<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

DUM MOTHER-FUCKER...... AS IF ( I KNEW THIS GIRL CALLED HALIMO SINCE ) WHO GIVES A •••• WE DON'T WANNA KNOW YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEMS DUM ASS MOTHER-FUCKER

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Asli

Saturday, February 17, 2001 - 08:18 am
Bro it seems like you have the perfect situation. you know this girl really well since you've been friends for a while and you say you love each other, so I guess your only problem is that your afraid to take a risk. And you know that if you don't do this you will always wonder "what if"????.
Anyway if it doesn't work out you can rest assured that you will always be friends, which is better than nothing.

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Sirrus

Saturday, February 17, 2001 - 08:31 pm
Be confident
Go for what you want
Don't read much into everything, Just do it
But what ever you do,
Don't you evaa evaaa evaaaaaaaa ask these idiots for advice.

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Abdi

Monday, February 19, 2001 - 05:12 am
Rahiim... IF you have know this girl for years and were good friends, go for it. Its not as if you just meet each other a short while ago. It is not the typical, "You are my best friend meaning just a friend" My boy, those are the last words a man wants to hear. If a woman says that to you, you took a wrong exit on the Highway to love.
I myself have had a crush on one girl that I have known ever since I was 8. Unfortunately, we both moved to different states and lost all contact. Somehow, we are not the 2 Good Friends/ Wanna be lovers. We have changed. I wish I had made a move while I was a teenager.
Rahiim, your friend would make a good lover since you know each other well. But make sure that she wants to be one, fooling around just happens when a guy and a girl are in the same room and sparks just fly. There is no explanation. However, don't mistake it for more than what it might be. It could be simply
OESTROGEN + TESTERONE + BOREDOM = FOOLING AROUND
OR it might be that there is something more than that. It could be love. Sometimes, you don't realize the subtle signals a woman might hint at. She might have loved you so much that she would rather see you happy with someone else rather than herself because it made you happy. Ironic ? Yes. Does it happen ? You bet your life it does.
Well keep me posted as this situation develops. Hope that I have been of help. Remember, to have tried and not succeeded is better than to have done nothing and wondered.
A Fellow Somali Brother,
Abdi.

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NOORA

Monday, February 19, 2001 - 10:56 am
HI THERE

i have a friend and his is my boy friend now and i think it is the best thing that happen to us coz ya see if ya don't need to run around chassing her and staff ya know her and it is really simple, ya don't have to give each other hard time at all
what ya need to do is find out how ya feel about her? then ask ya slef is she the one? and then ask ya slef do ya really want to be with her?
bro age is not a big deal at the end of the day,
be honset with her and tell her how ya fell thats what true friends do, and look at ya relationship as good thing coz ya ready built ya foundation and thats what most people these days are lacking.

good luck and be strong :}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
love NOORA

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Drifter

Tuesday, February 20, 2001 - 09:14 am
Setting yourself up???? A word of advice...it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved. So take the risk it's better than regretting later.

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oneLuv

Monday, February 26, 2001 - 08:36 am
Damn aint da something bro! One thing rahiim, it is really good when u know the person that ur in luv with especially ur girl. But did u think about it if it is lust or luv.. cuase when u spend much time with a person u think u luv da person right. Man good luck and wish me luck too..cus I am in path already.....

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