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     | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 12:07 pm O.K. We've all known the Abdi or the Amina who knew all the answers to the teachers questions back in school. And we all are definately aware of the ----- or ------ who comes to this discussion proclaiming intelligence, but in fact are overweight, disfunctional 40 year olds, hacking from the cigarette smoke that hovers above the computer screen they're sitting in front of. Although these people may indeed have a high I.Q. with a long vocab. or what not-it doesn't matter. Your I.Q. determines less than 20% of your life's success. The other 80% is left to everything else-including EQ or Emotional intelligence. For all those who don't know, emotional intelligence is a different way of being smart. It includes knowing what your feelings are and using your feelings to make good decisions in life. It's being motivated and remaining hopeful and optimistic when you have setbacks in working toward goals. It's empathy; knowing what the people around you are feeling. And it's social skill--getting along well with other people, managing emotions in relationships, being able to persuade or lead others and yourself into action. Here is a study done concerning this: Preschool kids were brought in one by one to a room and had a marshmallow put in front of them. They were told they could eat the marshmallow now, but if they delayed eating it until the researcher came back from running an errand, they could have two marshmallows. About one-third of them grabbed the single marshmallow right away while some waited a little longer, and about one-third were able to wait 15 or 20 minutes for the researcher to return. When the researchers tracked down the children 14 years later, they found this test was an amazing predictor of how they did in school. The kids who waited were more emotionally stable, better liked by their teachers and their peers, and still able to delay gratification in pursuit of their goals. The ones who grabbed were emotionally unstable, they fell apart under stress, they were more irritable, more likely to pick fights, not as well liked, and still not able to delay gratification. But the most powerful finding was that the ones who waited scored an average of 210 points higher on the SAT. ---- So what exactly should you take from this? Being book smart, although a great tool in life, does not mean your going to become the next president. Look at G.Bush. Take the EQ test: http://ei.haygroup.com/resources/default_ieitest.htm
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| | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 12:52 pm Wow. I took the test and ya know what, I'm going to the top!!
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| | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 01:53 pm Hey I got 65, Kinda surprising! So what waz ur score Mo-man? lol.
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| | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 03:10 pm i got 70
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| | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 03:30 pm 101  Bonus was in printing the form and rolling it into a round shape then putting it up Mo-man... who accident mistook "M" for "W" LOL@Wo-man
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| | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 03:54 pm Mo-man, I got 75.....little bit emotionally bankcrupt huh!!! Thanks for sharing.
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| | Wednesday, February 28, 2001 - 09:01 pm I scored 95 is that going to make me diplomat?
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| | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 03:27 am Diplomat!? Hey man, you're going to be our next president! To second 2nd anon: I got somewhere in the 90's, but don't take the test results too seriously guys, it's not exactly what you call scientific. There really is no way of determining this kind of thing, like IQ test. To last anon: I guess you failed the test, eh?-don't let your mind wander buddy, it's too little to be let out alone.
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| | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 07:29 am Mo-man I completely agree with your findings.I know i have the Intelligence quotent enough to make me the much more markettable in the work force,but i always want to improve on achieving Emotionmal intelligence .I can be self motivational,succeede well with satisfactory results.Only one problem that makes me not make the top list of E.Q list.I am soooo selfish.loooool Yes i confess i am,its not a crime or a sin,only a bad habbit.I need to learn how to extend myself to people and give more empathy than sympathy.My friends tell me that is the only fault i have.I am ego-self driven freak.loool Can you recomend a book for that E.Q?looool
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| | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 08:37 am To Basra: Well, I consider myself to be a practicing psychologolist (an unlicensed one), so take a deep breath, close your eyes, and think back, think back to that moment in your life where you realized you became an egotistical self-driven freak...Now tell me, what do you see around you...lol. But seriously, if you want more info about EQ, read Daniel Goleman's book "Emotional Intelligence." If anything, it should be some fascinating reading.
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| | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 04:55 pm My goodness i am dump......lol..... I scored 70.......but that is better than what i thought......lol adios
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| | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 06:24 pm Mo-manlooooooool Eyes closed and breath in.......breath out....i see a garden of roses and sun flower scent.I see a 12 year old girl running to pick her flower(me) then,suddenly i saw something horrible.loool I thought i can't trust bee's,lol they are horrible. Anyway Mo thanx for the book recommending,i'll get it tomorrow.By the way i scored 80 on the EQ test.It doesn't mean i am Emotionaly intelligent,it means i answered them in an annalytical fashion.Which goes right back to IQ.loool Lovely discussion by any account.Drink verona coffee? lol
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| | Thursday, March 01, 2001 - 11:18 pm Mo-man: Hey man...I got below average, 45, very disappointed. But how come very body loves me? I guess there is more to human brain than 10 Qs>  Thanks anyway.
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| | Friday, March 02, 2001 - 02:09 am YOUR SCORE IS: 65 (100 is the highest score and 50 is average) What your score means (hypothetically) 100 -- Maximum Score 75 50 -- Average Score 25 0 -- Minimum Score Yo Wo-Man i guess i shouldn't have taken it twice i still say my first result was better and the bonus requires you to bend over please... Crab aside... tnx4 sharing that link lata ********* -->[A] 0 Points - Tell her to forget about it-she's OK now and it is no big deal. [B] 0 Points - Put on one of her favorite tapes and try to distract her. [C] 5 Points - Join her in criticizing the other driver. [D] 10 Points - Tell her about a time something like this happened to you, and how angry you felt, until you saw the other driver was on the way to the hospital. *** [A] 10 Points - Agree to take a 20-minute break before continuing the discussion. [B] 0 Points - Go silent, regardless of what your partner says. [C] 0 Points - Say you are sorry, and ask your partner to apologize too. -->[D] 0 Points - Stop for a moment, collect your thoughts, then restate your side of the case as precisely as possible. ******* [A] 0 Points - Draw up an agenda, call a meeting and allot a specific period of time to discuss each item. [B] 10 Points - Organize an off-site meeting aimed specifically at encouraging the team to get to know each other better. [C] 0 Points - Begin by asking each person individually for ideas about how to solve the problem. -->[D] 5 Points - Start out with a brainstorming session, encouraging each person to say whatever comes to mind, no matter how wild. ********* I lost points because i made simple or cheap decisions hence the kafir is telling us to behave like him to get higher scoress...... shyte..
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| | Friday, March 02, 2001 - 06:19 am i got a 100! whew I am too smart. MO-man this is a good topic. I can think of a few people who have low EQ's in this forums. Like you anon. Stop kidding, you got 10. hee hee.
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| | Friday, March 02, 2001 - 09:20 am like I said before, there really is no accurate measure of ones emotional intelligence-there's hundreds of tests out there. I guess the only real way is through that big test we call life. Do you guys know companies are actually giving potential employees personality tests? To Basra:bees?! Well that's easy. Think back to a moment in yor life where you were in complete power, now take that power and crush, crush it with those bees like there's no tomorrow...Or watch a killer bee movie-it worked for me with birds.lol. keep it cool.
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