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     | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 05:39 am I'm in an online relationship and have been for a year now, but my bf is a bit older than me. 6 years actually. Im 13. we have the most amazing relationship, and I know most readin this will just scoff and say its not possible for us to love each other but we do. my problem is my mom found out he was my bf on friday. she went into my emails (i have over 100 from him) and read a bunch of them. she says I have to break up with him, or i lose the computer, and I never see him again  I cant do this. the only option it seems we have is that we lie to my mom and keep seeing each other behind her back, but my bf said he doesnt think thats a very good idea. what do I do? I love this guy so much and cant lose him. <---needs advice V.upset
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 05:44 am Well, I'm sure this is not the answer you're looking for, but your mom is right. There's something wrong with a 19-year-old who wants a 13-year-old. I know it seems all wonderful and romantic, but it's really not. Trust me, he's weird. Weird internet people prey on kids your age. Your mom knows this, and she has your best interests at heart - whereas this guy obviously does not. Of course he thinks it's bad idea to lie to your mom - know why? Because he knows it's wrong and he could get in a lot of trouble, that's why. dr romance Thanx!
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 05:48 am oh you're horrible dr romance. Could you be anymore harsh? By Smocky
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 05:53 am Hey Smocky, Get over yourself. dr romance was not harsh. In fact, he/she seemed to me to be uncharacteristically gentle. What are you? Some 19 year old guy hot for a 12 year old? Besides being illegal, the last time I heard about an older teen goin for a much younger one, was because she was naiive about sex and she would have done anything for him because it was flattering, it made her feel much older and most of all, it gave her the acceptance and validation she was not getting from the only other older male in her life. So quit searching the boards to hunt down dr romance posts to find shitty things to say about him/her. he/She was right on. Yours,Mandela Thanx
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 06:00 am Well, I know when I was 13, I did dream about being with an older guy, but it was only dreams. And I think at 13 you should be thinking about school and friendships, not about being in love with a guy, no matter what age! I never started dating anyone until I was 16. You have all your teen years ahead of you to think about dating!! Listen to your mom, as much as you may think she is wrong, she is RIGHT!! It's not worth still seeing this guy behind her back, she will find out, and then you'll loose all trust between you and her! I hope you make the right decision..
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 06:04 am Well my hugs go to v.upset totaly. im in kinda the same situation. i have a gurl in canada and shes young too and her parents are a little bit against me and they might be taking her computer away soon and the phone. i have no idea what Ill do if this happens cuz i love this gurl more than anything in the world. so i give you a huge hug from the UK v.upset
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 06:05 am I think the best thing to do here is to calm down the online relationship, don't act like boyfriend/girlfriend, and just talk to each other as friends for the next 4-5 years. If it's someone who want to prey on you, they most likely won't want to wait 4-5 years of a friendship... these guys want immediate conquering. Some miracle may occur and you truly will get together with this guy in 5 years, the time between now and then that you spend just being friends, will greatly enhance your further life together. Oh the power of positive internet thinking!
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 12:49 pm http://www.teeniemovies.com FOR THOSE WHO DIG UNDERAGED SEX.ENJOY OR http://www.thehun.com
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| | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 12:55 pm OH YEAH IN CASE YOU ARE AFFAIRD TO LEAVE BEHIND ANY TRACES ON YOUR COMPUTER OR IF YOU DON'T WANT ANYONE TO KNOW WHAT PAGES YOU VISIT THEN. I'LL SAVE YOU. http://www.anonymizer.com/ NOONE WILL KNOW WHERE YOU SURFED. ENJOY
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| | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 08:29 am Last 2 anonymous YOU ARE SAD"  Take your filth outa here- and dat is an instruction!!! v.upset do wat shaggy wld do- say "it wasn't me" lol i am only kidding ya. but sis, i am gonna have to agree with Dr romance on this one- its not the age difference dat bugs me but the fact that You is only 13 ( a child) and he is 19 (an adult).. sis at your age (and i've been there) You dunno much about guys, life and love to be dating, and even if you do do want all dat drama??? . Your moma is only looking out for ya best interest. And, girl you got plenty of time to be dating, chatting or wat evah...just don't rush it aight  maaan, when i was your age i was too busy chasing footballs, riding bicycles and doing crazy things teenagers do, love was the last thing on me mind. Take care of ya and good luck Peace and Love
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| | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 09:02 am Let us suppose your mother was to consent and you two were to meet and carry out whatever fantasies you happen to have. What will happen then? Your supposed boyfriend will be arrested for child molestation or at worst rape-YOU will will be devestated I'm sure. The age difference IS an issue-I myself can't even imagine my 13 year old sister having a relationship with a 19 year old man-I shudder at the thought. I say cut the string that binds you to him. If you are unable to do so, it is best to think of him just as a friend-certainly not a boy friend. If he happens to think of you,a 13 year girl, in any other way...then I say he deserves to be charged with molestation.
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| | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 12:16 pm To V.Upset Love is Great, but trust me on this one...you will fall in love several times between now and when you are 21. Each time it will seem like Mr. Right & somewhere in between those ages, you just might find him, but you need to give yourself the chance to experience new and different relationships.I know you find that hard to believe, but it is true in most cases. Also, alot of people, many time unitentionally, and sometimes intentionally are totally different in person than they are online. If this guy really loves you, then he will understand you mothers concern and take that into consideration. I'm sure your mother loves you..Right? Do you really think that she would intentionally do something to hurt you? Who has the biggest interest in your life? Someone who has been there for you for 13 years, or someone you have known for just a few? Put your heart in your purse for a minute, stand back, and take a look at everything..and most important, ask God for the best way to resolve this. True Love does take time...allow yourself the time! dr romance
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| | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 01:10 pm Salaam all, Dr.romance:Great advice,I really do agree with you indeed. To V-Upset, Like romance had said Love is great! but at ur age am not sure u really can differenciate the types of love that are out there can u? You are only 13 years old sister,this is NO TIME for u to be fantasicing about b/f love leave alone having one!! I do understand maturity does vary,and that some girls do mature more than others,and maybe u are experiencing pre-adolescense symptoms sis but does that change the fact that u are only 13 years old!You are suppose to be in grade 9 or 10 at this time,ur mind is still growing and so is ur heart. Sister,if u were older,atleast an age where some1 can make decisions and indeed knoes what it is to fall in love,I would have gotten ur back but that is not the case here and I have to agree with ur caring mother on this one coz she sure is right and should be the first person who understands what is right for you.You don't know what u r doing at this moment dear,a 19 year old is certainly not ur immediate mission now but ur future is,so listen to hooyo and put a stop to it and please do concentrate on ur studies!! Stop going to that chat,walaahi am so surprised,I never thought there are 13 years old sisters there,not to mention chatting with guys who are as old as their grandfathers at times.Sis listen to me,u don't know what a stranger creature behind ascreen is telling u,whether it's true or not,whether they r the gender they claim to be so erase all that illusion dear coz that is all it is and in future if u decided to go chatting again,go in there with the mission of a ccomplishing NOTHING but killing some time with "strange" ppl,just be positive always and never try to dig deeper,there are some descent ppl u can meet there but keep it open to be on the safe side after all strangers do remain strangers! Sister my advice to you is to cut off anthing u think makes u feel like u r inlove with that guy and please concentrate on school,join game clubs,do extra curriculum activities,soon or later u will come back to being that sweet,happy 13 year old and will think like one insha'allah! If this guy has his sences functioning well he would know what to tell u and that should be the right thing,I hate to see a young sister blow up her basic chances of building a successful future in all ways. All my prayers are with u and hope God rolls u to the right path and indeed the right decision!
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| | Saturday, March 17, 2001 - 02:36 pm V. Upset, what the •••• do you know about LOVE. Do you even have your PERIOD yet??? At age 13 you should be thinking about school, cleaning your right, going to the mall with your family or friends (only under supervision), the •••• is this world coming to, huh???????????????????? My advice to you is to get your A's at school, enjoy being a teen (it is your first year as a teen for GOD sakes). Trust me you ain't gonna be a teen forever, you'll in your 20's b4 you know it. Besides, men come and go, but you only get one MOM in the world. So take my advice, and listen to your mom. P.S. Have you met this guy in person, Do you know his background, And The HELL do you know about life?
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| | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 10:46 pm V.Upset. This so called man is pedeavile. Keep well away from this kind of people, at present you should be enjoying your childhood not burdening your life with this matter. Listen to your Mother. Good luck.
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| | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 03:21 am all that i can say is that when i was 13 boys were eeewww to put it literally, The only advice i can offer you is to do what your mother says i mean i would have dead if my mother have found out something that serious , you have to rebuild your mothers trust which means not stepping out of line from now one. you really should not have a boyfriend anyway and especailly a 19 year old one that the , what is wrong with him
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| | Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 01:45 am V UPSET GO OUT WITH ME I AM 13 BUT WHEN U FIRST SEE ME THERE BETTER A AMBULANCE NEAR BY BECAUSE OF MY LOOKS LOVE ME PLEAS LOVE YOU
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