     Anonymous | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 03:30 pm
My advice may sound stupid to some people but I'm sure it will help most of yous my somalian sisters
As a somalian girl I would like to advice my sisters especial those who believe they are equal or same level as the MENS,that is why so many marriages are damaging everyday and so many children live with out father many of us think we know better than our husbands.
quick advice:
1:Respect your husband
2:Allow him to make all the rules/decision for the family and keep your mouth shut
3:Listen to his every word and respect his decision
4:stop whingeing if he gets home late at night,told him I missed you instead of shouting
5:Between you too arrange to go out for romantic evening dinner
The only way you could safe your marriage is when you respect each other "please do it for your own sake and your children if you had any. |
| Anonymous | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 04:03 pm
no doubt we are not equal i will agree with you but everyone knows what hi/her responsilbe is ok.
so fallowing sharih is clear that. not democorcy,not republican. just hollyqoran words.
by missles |
| DR. BAALGORAY | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 07:44 pm
I like your style, but please don't forget the men side. I believe there is more work needed to be done by the men than women.
" I am only a man if I raise a good family and I should be remember as a man who raised a good son.
so let us say a good man made her dreams come true, good children."
DR. BAALGORAY |
| DuH HAHHA | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 07:54 pm
WEAK NIGGAS.BITCHES.GET YOU PHART STINKING ASSS OUT OF HERE PITCH.DuH? |
| kamaldin | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 12:19 am
Excellent advice! obviously there is a role to be played by each partner in a marriege and unless the rules are clear there will be trouble for the both of them.
We just assume that everyone will abide by the islamic way of life! but we forget that people have differing knowledge of islam codes and conduct between husband and wife.
Each has a responsibility to the other. Respect is a two way street, and it is easy to say just give it however it is something that is earned by both parties.
If not islamic codes of co-habitation then a couple need to have some form of understandable clearly defined codes to follow. Some might find that a "leader & follower" style of marriege with a clear dominant partner works for them, others might find that a co-op style of decision sharing and work allocation as it arises works for them.
It is all about finding a partner that appretiates your style and who's style suits/compliments yours.
Forgiveness, consideration, faith, trust and allah's blessing do also help along with a long list of other things :-)!
La illaha ilallah... it is so easy to give an opinion about every subject and issue but in reality noone is actually sure of any formule that works or should assure a perfect family life. There are certain elements easily classable as a gamble.
What is a fact is if it does go bad and you look back on it, if you were the good partner you leave in peace and your partner has to live with being the bady.
Good one Anon am sure many would disagree... and sure there are lots of happy families where the husband takes a back seat and lets the wife do the hard work...it is not so hard to let a wife have her way, my fear is she will misunderstand and interprete that into a male weakness. It is easier to be told what to do then it is to tell others to do something they might not want to. |
| suhuur | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 07:01 am
sorry anon, but i do not agree some of your advise."Allow him to make all the rules/decision for the family and keep your mouth shut" i thought marriage is sharing and it takes two to make a decision not one since they are partners."Listen to his every word and respect his decision" he has to do the same otherwise it does not make a sense.it seems men enjoyed your advise but what kind of person you want us to be the one who has nothing to say in her life except to follow her husband sorry we are human beings not a dog.be fair. |
| Anonymous | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 09:37 am
You have a good idea, but respect cuts both ways. |
| Ubax | Tuesday, March 27, 2001 - 03:47 am
Hi
Salaan to you all....there have been some answers which go both ways interms equal which u all answered but hear this..NO MARRIAGE will survive without the partnership of those two who promise to Allah specaily MEN to make a happy home and that means with the co-operation of his wife without that there wont be a happy home...so please keep this in mind walaalayal Respect for both side.....
Nabadgelyo
Ubax |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, March 28, 2001 - 05:58 am
stop complicating it, the only thing u gotta do is be his whore. let him @ it 24/7 end of story  |
| Deeqa | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 04:38 am
Anon i agree most of your sayings except #2, when you said allow him to do all the rules and keep your mouth shut???
Well, why do we have to keep our mouth shut, after all this is OUR FAMILY not his ONLY u know.. We can both sit down and make OUR rules and respect one another's decisions...
That is the way, for happy/healthy family.. |
