     Suaad DLR | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 09:11 am
Hello somali people..
i have this major problem. i have friend that is in love with me. but i am really in love with some one else. i don't really talk to the guy that i am in love with. but he is soooo fine and he is such a gentelman. i like my friend and all but i can't imagin being him like that coz i know him too well. but he is telling me that he really loves me and all he wants is a chance, wat sah i telling him?
please help me |
| Troubled | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 10:32 am
I am kind of in the same situation. and I will love to know the answer too.
Troubled |
| Honesita | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 12:26 pm
Anon Sistah.....if the guy u have a crush on does not even know u like him.....how do u expect to be with him............u either tell him.....and see his re-action.......or just ignore it all and try to make somethin' work with ur friend that has a crush on u...........after all....all u gotta do is make up ur mind.........who do u wanna be with...........if it is the crush....u're gonna have to tell him.......and if all the feelings u got for the friend that luvs ya is only friendship then tell him so.....dont hide nada sistah......!! And please dont act like u're desperate when u tell ur crush about ur crush aight.....!!
Good luck to u and Troubled.....!
adios |
| HELPER | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 03:06 pm
SUAAD DLR
WELL SISTER IT SEEMS YOU ARE IN SOME KIND OF DILLEMA.OVIOUSLY YOU DONT KNOW WHICH ONE OF THE TWO GUYS TO CHOOSE,OTHERWISE YOU WOULDNT BE HERE.I WILL TRY MY BEST TO GIVE YOU A SOUND ADVICE.I WAS IN A DILLEMA ONCE AND I GOT A SOUND ADVICE FROM MY FELLOW SOMALI,AND IT HELPED ME ALOT.
YOU FRIEND LOVES YOU, AND YOU LOVE SOMEONE ELSE.SOMEONE YOU DONT TALK TO,BUT SEEMS NICE AND GENTLE TO YOU.MOST PEOPLE LOOK NICE AND GENTAL FROM OUT SIDE SPECIALLY WHEN THEY WANT TO IMPRESS SOME ONE.AND SOME PEOPLE ARE MORE DOGGISH-LIKE AND AROGANT,INSENSITIVE UNPREDICTABLE AND SOMETIMES WEIRD.
WHEN CHOOSING A LIFE LONG MATE,IT IS BETTER YOU TURN EVERY STONE.BIG AND SMALL.NOT ONLY YOU HAVE TO MASSAGE THE OUTER LAYER,BUT YOU HAVE TO BREAK IT UP AND SEE WHAT IS IN THE INNER CORE.A SIMPLE GRANITE STONE,WHEN BROKEN COULD OFTEN YIELD A GEM STONE,GOLD OR DIAMOND.SOMETIMES PEOPLE LOOK FOR WHAT THEY WANT FROM A DISTANCE,WHEN PERHAPS MAY BE IT IS RIGHT THERE UNDER THEIR FEET.YOU LOVE THIS GUY IN THE DISTANCE,BUT YOU DONT KNOW HIM VERY WELL THE SAME WAY YOU KNOW YOUR FRIEND, WHO LOVES YOU.THE MAN IN THE DISTANCE COULD TURN OUT TO BE ANYTHING DOWN THE ROAD.HE COULD BE NICE AND GENTAL AS YOU SAW HIM FIRST, OR HE COULD TURN OUT TO BE SOMETHING ELSE TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM YOUR EXPECTATION.ON THE OTHER HAND YOU HAVE A FRIEND WHOM YOU KNOW VERY WELL.AND WHO LOVES YOU.HE WANTS YOU TO GIVE HIM A CHANCE.HE IS ASKING FOR A CHANCE.MAY BE HE WANT TO PROVE TO YOU THAT HE IS NOT AS BAD AS YOU THINK HE IS.OVIOUSLY IN YOUR EYES HE IS NOT AS GENTAL AS THE OTHER GUY.BUT YOU KNOW SOMETIMES, YOU CAN NOT TELL THE TRUTH UNTILL YOU EXPERIENCE IT.SO I WOULD ADVICE YOU TO GIVE IT A TRY.GIVE YOUR FRIEND A CHANCE AND SEE IF HE COMES UP WITH SOMETHING YOU DONT KNOW.SOME MIRACLES MAY BE.OVIOUSLY HE HAS SOMETHING TO PROVE OTHERWISE HE WOULDNT SAY GIVE ME A CHANCE.HE KNOWS YOU KNOW HIM WELL ENOUGH.MAY BE HE BELIEVES YOU DONT KNOW HIM DEEP ENOUGH.IT WONT HURT.JUST TRY AND SEE FOR YOURSELF.BY DOING SO YOU COULD REACH AN INTELEGENT DECISSION BASED ON FACTS AND NOT ON EMOTION.... WHETHER TO TOSS HIM OR TO TAKE HIM.AND TRUST ME YOU WONT NEED TO COME TO THE FORUM AGAIN FOR THE SAME REASON.AND ABOUT THE OTHER GUY... TRY TO DO YOUR HOME WORK ABOUT HIM.SEE THE DIFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO MEN.
I HAVE A PERSOANAL STORY CLOSELY RELATED TO YOUR ORDEAL.I ENDED UP MARRYING MY LIFE LONG FRIEND WHOM I GROW UP WITH....AFTER TWO BITTER AND UNSUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.
THE ONLY REGRET I HAVE IS THAT I WISH I WAS MORE OPEN MINDED.FEW YEARS AGO SOMETHING LIKE THIS COULD NEVER HAPPEN IN A MILLION YEARS TO COME.I HAVE NEVER BEING SO HAPPY AND CONTENT IN MY LIFE.GOOD LUCK TO YOU. |
| wow! ! ! ! | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 03:43 pm
Helper...please tell me are you female...I wish I could find some one intelligent like U...if you are male please accept my apology...anyway are U still happily married.and what state do U live..? |
| Anonymous | Monday, March 19, 2001 - 11:17 pm
to woooooooow, you must be pretty empty up there, huh?? |
| anon2 | Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 01:19 am
suad
people say! a devil you know is better than a devil you dont. |
| Aliyah | Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 02:32 am
Suad
There is a say, that is dont judge the story of a book from the cover.U dont know this fine guy, and dont know what is in his life at the moment.
Personally i think (no hard feeling guys)80% of fine guys are players.
sis go for the heart and personality of a person. let looks be ur last choice
where as ur freind here who is thriving for a chance and would want to make u happy then what is wrong with ya woman udont know what is wrong or right for you...
And every one also deserves a chance why dont ugive ur freind a chance. |
| angel R | Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 05:59 am
u should tell ur friend that ur not intrested in that way coz if you don't u'll lead him on try to tell the person dat u like the truth or u'll never know what might have been. |
| Anonymous | Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 06:11 am
Duad from Limehouse Station?
Lol
I got you there. |
| worrior | Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 06:41 pm
DLR
if you ask me you fall in love with two guys.Why dont you admit so. at least we could help. |
| Anonymous | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 01:19 pm
suaad:
BITCHHHHHH! every bitch is cry everyday for dick but ur wants more than one.Forget about ur two men.cometo me i give crush and looooooooove.more ur than too much.
PS imanka haiskaqaadin.subra,subra. |
| suad dlr | Thursday, March 22, 2001 - 01:23 pm
thank u all for replying.
worrior, may be. i love my friend but not in that way. i can't say why but i just don't and i don't want to lose his friendship. for the people that said that i shouldn't choose my crush over my friend because i don't know him. i do know the guy that i like and i knew him for along time, before i even met my friend. i just don't see him arround to become friends with him. we used to be play mate. now we are strangers. i don't know what to do. i think i am going to stop speaking to my freind to give him space.
anon. haha limehouse? ummmmmmm close. |
| Your best friend | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 01:31 am
SUAD DLR
I have been away from the forums for sometime till now.And by the wonders of Allah...it so happened that i find this topic of yours...As if angels were guiding me.
Your so ovious..so easy to pick out from the net crowd.And iam not the only one who recognised you.And that is what really pissed me off.Iam the guy you reffer to as your friend...though i know for sure that me and you dont resemble friends even in the remotest sense.in that case you are not gonna loose any friendship you had with me....So i will come back by the wish of Allah the most high...and give you a couple of megabytes from my mind. |
| your best friend | Saturday, March 24, 2001 - 06:31 am
Suad and my dear somali,
Suad first of all i thank you for raising this topic.And i thank those who took part and contributed a constructive advice.I wanna let you all know that this is a true story and it is not a fabricated mumbo jumbo.And at least the two persons involved here exist in real life.And please dont take me for a man driven by a delussional paranoia.I know what iam talking about and iam 100% sure that iam not mistaking suad for someone else.That chance of suad being someone else other than the one i think she is, is microscopically slim.I have enough evidence and facts to come to this conclusion.And i went to the extra length, out of the net, to make sure iam in the right track.
In fact it is me other than suaad who got a major problem.I fall in love with her the first time i set my eyes on her.That was way back years ago.It took me sometime to tell her for a reasons i dont wanna explain here.The answer was unfortunately NO!. The answer wasn't a suprise to me.I knew her very well .And i knew what she is gonna say. Well i kind of sunk low emotionally.But i recovered shortly after.
I accepted the reason why she turn me down,though it didnt make much sense to me.
As you know suaad said she dont wanna loose my friendship.But that is where the major problem is.It is the friendship part that is causing alot of misunderstand between me and her.And it is the one that is hindering whatever relationship we might have.No matter what kind.And here is where i really need your help and your best advice.And perhaps may be a lasting solution.Im pretty confident that there is enough wise people in the net.And iam sure you would figure out who is in the wrong side.me or Suad.
Ok here is the story.She always says iam her friend.Yet she dont behave like one as far as iam concerned.She has alot of friends both men and women.And the way she deals with them is totally diferent from the way she deals with me.She deals with them and treat them the way one would deal and treat a friend.But that is not the case with me.I have friends too.Both men and women.And that is not the kind of treatment i get from them.I have friends of all kind of behaviour and believe.And of diferent nationality.But the all have one thing in common.they deal with me like a friend.Iam not gonna insult your intellegence and explain to you what friends do or do not or talk about, for so speaking.But that is what is missing from the version of friendship Suad reserved for me.It doesnt resemble friendship in any form or shape.She is a kind of friend who would not hook me up with a pretty girl firends of hers.And every time i pay attention or talk about a another girl her behaviour would change.In most cases when two friends fight, there is a slim chance, that they could make it up again.Me and her always make it up to each other no matter what happens.And that is the beauty of it.There is some kind of unknown force that bounding us together.And aim sure that got nothing to do with friendship.I dont believe that me and her would last a day as friends.her concept of friendship is totally diferent from my concept of frienship.And as friends we are bound to colide.And confrontation is innevitable.And it could cause the begining of the end between me and her.I have an untitled relationship with her.In otherword a relationship with no name.And its been like that for the past few years.And we get along fine.And the only thing that sustain the pillars of this relationaship is the love i have for her.though she resist it all the time.She call me a friend.and to me that is an insult to my intelegence because i will never keep a friend who deals with me the way she does for a second.I take alot bullshit from her which a normal friend would not dear to propergate.A man would take alot of bulshit from a woman he love. A bulshit he would not take from a friend,a brother or any other person.And iam sure you will agree with me, if you happened to be in the same boat .
This unknown thing between me and suad was drugging along in a slow pase for years.And iam really tired of it. And i wanna give it a rest.i wanna try and be her friend no matter what the result.The last thing i want is to loose her.she is charming and a great companion.But only because our relationship has no title.I ask her to give me a chance.But she dont.She believes she know me alot .But what she knows is only what i allowed her to know. And that is only a drop in a backet as far as iam concerned.And she wont give me a chance to show her the rest of me in the backet.What a pitty.Iam really stuborn and unless something make sense to me i dont accept it as an answer.But when something is sensable,iam the first to accept.She says no to me but i dont accept,because her action contradict her words.And unless that contradiction is out of the picture my heart would still be weiry and unsettled.She said up there that she knows me very well and i can not be any where like the gentalman she had a crush on. Little does she knows that i know the fine gentleman she mentioned.It is ovious he showed her, or, she saw gentelness in him.Had she looked the same way at me, she could have seen gentelness in me, far greater than the one she saw in the fine gentelman.And the fact that she spent energy and come all the way to the forums for a higher judgement, is by it self a contradiction.If she saw me as a firend she wouldnt trouble herself to come here.
So my dear people,what should i do.Should i keep loving her and hope she might come to her sense and see the different side of me,or should i be her friend and risk an innevitable confrontation in future,which could mean the end of beautiful ERA between me and her.Wasalaam Aliekum. |
| your best friend | Saturday, March 24, 2001 - 06:38 am
Suad and my dear somali,
Suad first of all i thank you for raising this topic.And i thank those who took part and contributed a constructive advice.I wanna let you all know that this is a true story and it is not a fabricated mumbo jumbo.And at least the two persons involved here exist in real life.And please dont take me for a man driven by a delussional paranoia.I know what iam talking about and iam 100% sure that iam not mistaking suad for someone else.That chance of suad being someone else other than the one i think she is, is microscopically slim.I have enough evidence and facts to come to this conclusion.And i went to the extra length, out of the net, to make sure iam in the right track.
In fact it is me other than suaad who got a major problem.I fall in love with her the first time i set my eyes on her.That was way back years ago.It took me sometime to tell her for a reasons i dont wanna explain here.The answer was unfortunately NO!. The answer wasn't a suprise to me.I knew her very well .And i knew what she is gonna say. Well i kind of sunk low emotionally.But i recovered shortly after.
I accepted the reason why she turn me down,though it didnt make much sense to me.
As you know suaad said she dont wanna loose my friendship.But that is where the major problem is.It is the friendship part that is causing alot of misunderstand between me and her.And it is the one that is hindering whatever relationship we might have.No matter what kind.And here is where i really need your help and your best advice.And perhaps may be a lasting solution.Im pretty confident that there is enough wise people in the net.And iam sure you would figure out who is in the wrong side.me or Suad.
Ok here is the story.She always says iam her friend.Yet she dont behave like one as far as iam concerned.She has alot of friends both men and women.And the way she deals with them is totally diferent from the way she deals with me.She deals with them and treat them the way one would deal and treat a friend.But that is not the case with me.I have friends too.Both men and women.And that is not the kind of treatment i get from them.I have friends of all kind of behaviour and believe.And of diferent nationality.But the all have one thing in common.they deal with me like a friend.Iam not gonna insult your intellegence and explain to you what friends do or do not or talk about, for so speaking.But that is what is missing from the version of friendship Suad reserved for me.It doesnt resemble friendship in any form or shape.She is a kind of friend who would not hook me up with a pretty girl firends of hers.And every time i pay attention or talk about a another girl her behaviour would change.In most cases when two friends fight, there is a slim chance, that they could make it up again.Me and her always make it up to each other no matter what happens.And that is the beauty of it.There is some kind of unknown force that bounding us together.And aim sure that got nothing to do with friendship.I dont believe that me and her would last a day as friends.her concept of friendship is totally diferent from my concept of frienship.And as friends we are bound to colide.And confrontation is innevitable.And it could cause the begining of the end between me and her.I have an untitled relationship with her.In otherword a relationship with no name.And its been like that for the past few years.And we get along fine.And the only thing that sustain the pillars of this relationaship is the love i have for her.though she resist it all the time.She call me a friend.and to me that is an insult to my intelegence because i will never keep a friend who deals with me the way she does for a second.I take alot bullshit from her which a normal friend would not dear to propergate.A man would take alot of bulshit from a woman he love. A bulshit he would not take from a friend,a brother or any other person.And iam sure you will agree with me, if you happened to be in the same boat .
This unknown thing between me and suad was drugging along in a slow pase for years.And iam really tired of it. And i wanna give it a rest.i wanna try and be her friend no matter what the result.The last thing i want is to loose her.she is charming and a great companion.But only because our relationship has no title.I ask her to give me a chance.But she dont.She believes she know me alot .But what she knows is only what i allowed her to know. And that is only a drop in a backet as far as iam concerned.And she wont give me a chance to show her the rest of me in the backet.What a pitty.Iam really stuborn and unless something make sense to me i dont accept it as an answer.But when something is sensable,iam the first to accept.She says no to me but i dont accept,because her action contradict her words.And unless that contradiction is out of the picture my heart would still be weiry and unsettled.She said up there that she knows me very well and i can not be any where like the gentalman she had a crush on. Little does she knows that i know the fine gentleman she mentioned.It is ovious he showed her, or, she saw gentelness in him.Had she looked the same way at me, she could have seen gentelness in me, far greater than the one she saw in the fine gentelman.And the fact that she spent energy and come all the way to the forums for a higher judgement, is by it self a contradiction.If she saw me as a firend she wouldnt trouble herself to come here.
So my dear people,what should i do.Should i keep loving her and hope she might come to her sense and see the different side of me,or should i be her friend and risk an innevitable confrontation in future,which could mean the end of beautiful ERA between me and her.Wasalaam Aliekum. |
| SHEEKOQATIME | Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 08:18 pm
HI SUAD IT IS ME. U KNOW, THE GUY U ARE IN LOVE WITH. I AM SORRY TO SAY THIS SIS BUT I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH U. I SHOW U RESPECT BUTTHAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT I AM IN LOVE WITH U. AND LIFE CONTINUES.
UR FORMER BELOVED...
AND THE PRESENT MOST HATRED...
LIFE CONTINUES |
| yOUR BEST FRIEND | Tuesday, March 27, 2001 - 02:11 pm
SUAD DLR
GOTCH! Did i scare you.Iam sorry i was just fooling around.iam not your friend.I used your words to be as close as what he might be.Well am i close?Hahahahaaaaaaaaa!Breath easy.
Word of advice.........MMmmMMM......sorry couldnt find any. DONT HATE ME PLEASE.DONT FORGET IAM STILL YOUR BEST FRIEND AND I LOVE YOU. |
