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I can't take it anymore I am going crazy

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desparete for advice

Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 03:16 pm
Hi everybody

This is my problem

First of all I am 21years old and live with my mother and she is driving me crazy, she doesn't let me visit my friends, go shoppng by myself, and everytime I go anywhere we have to have World war 3.

Secondly she doen't care about what I say all she cares is what other poeple think. Don't get me wrong I love and respect her but I she is supposed to listen to what I have say isn't it?

All my live all I did is do what ever she wished me to do, but I have to have a life I am grown up I need friends I need to socilize.

2 years ago I met a Man and I am deeply inlove with him and I am planning to marry him I told her about him she aproved the relatioship. Now suddenly she tells me that he is not good enough for me when there is nothing wrong with the guy.

One day early in the morning she woke me up to tell me that my boyfriend had told her he doesn't what to marry me and he is just playing with me. So I asked him if he said anything about not marring me and he said no I did not tell your mum anything. Even though I believed him I asked him to come over to my house and ask my mum face to face and it all turned out to be a big lie that my mum had made up.

So I don't mind her protecting me but this is crazy, telling lies so that she can brake us up.

I don't know what to do I don't want to lose my mum and I don't want to lose my future husband please help with you advice

Thank you

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Anonymous

Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 10:40 pm
When he leaves you with 3kids... you will go running back to mama :)!

So carefull... blood is something then water

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Anonymous

Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 11:18 pm
Your mother needs to get her own life, she is only living her life for you. Does she have a man? You're a grown up now, wouldn't it be a good idea to move out of your mother's house?

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desperate for advice

Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 11:38 pm
To the 1 anonymous

Allah know what is going to happen in the future, but we can plan the future so as far as I can see
I trust him not do such a thing and even if he leaves by the time I have tree kinds I know how to take care of myself and my kids

so thank you for the advice


To Anonymous 2

Thanks for the advice,I guess moving out is one choise but I am worried about her she needs some one to take care of her, but she leaves with no choise but to do so.

any ways thanks again

bye

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Anonymous

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 03:46 am
Dear, it is not your job to take care of your mother. If nothing is wrong with her, then why can't she take care of herself? She doesn't have a husband? Anyway, that REALLY isn't your problem. You have no reason to feel guilty about that, your mother is a grown person too. You can still be a good daughter to her, visit her and help her even if you don't live at home? Your mother must try to understand that you're a big girl now, you have your own life to live. She simply has to let go of you...

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NINXOON

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 05:52 am
DESPARETE FOR ADVICE

STOP WATCHING TOO MUCH SOAP OPRA, TRICK!!

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Anonymous

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 05:56 am
ninxoon why dont u go to our page and continue our fire,homo

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Cade

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 06:24 am
as they say there is no smoke without a fire. I suppose your mum has her own good reason to worry so much about you.

probably you have not shown her, enough maturity to win her trust and confidence. from what i gather from your short writing here, I wasn't suprised at all of her behaviour. I would be worried sick if my 21 years old duaghter was taking my typical parental care and concern as being stupid and and unreasonable.

your behaviour is typical of hormony 14/15 years old, that has no Idea of what is wrong and what's right.
At 21 you should be your mums pride and joy , not the source of all her nightmere and worries.

My advice to you is, Look yourself in the mirror and take responsibility. behave like your own age and once in you life at least think of ways that you can reduce her worries instead of just thinking what she could do for you ..........

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Honesita

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 08:35 am
Cade......brotha i honestly dont see where u r comin' with ur judgements on the girl......she told ya her problem is her mother that does not listen to her or talk to her like a real mother.......what does it have to do with her behavior...!!!

Desperate for Advice.....sistah i would tell u to not move out ur house......that is a shame sis.......never even consider it.......talk to ur mother about ur problem........u have to make her listen to u.......after all she's ur mother and she luvs u........some mothers r just over protective with their kids.....even though u're 21 u're still a child in ur mother's eyes.....!! Tell ur man about ur problem…..if he luvs u enough he'll try to help out and understand ur problem……!!

My bestfriend got married yesterday against her mother's will……I don’t know if I should be happy for her or yell at her cuz she married a man who her mother did not agree to….u know u can get habaar from doin' such a thing……….!!!!!!!!

Salaam

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Mj2000.

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 09:28 am
I am shocked your mom approved you to have a boyfriend this is not the Islamic way of living, if you want all your problems to depart just act according to the Quran and suna. I a sure you no matter you’re situation you will find happiness.

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TAKBIIR ALLAHU AKBAR TAKBIIR ALLAHU AKBAR
PEACE OUT

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SAGAL

Monday, March 26, 2001 - 08:22 pm
I THINK YOU SHOULD KILL YOURSELF FOR YOUR ROMEO, LOOOOSER. BITCH, WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH U. U HAVE BEEN WATCHING TOO MUCH "PASSION". U DARE TO CALL YOUR MOTHER A LIAR. SICK TWISTED BITCH. THE GUY WANTS SCREW YOUR DARK UGLY ASS AND LEAVE U WITH A BASTARD CHILD. YOUR MOTHER IS RIGHT, TAKE HER ADVICE BITCH. I DON'T KNOW WHAT KIND OF ADVICE U R SEEKING FROM US. U WANT US TO SAY, "FOLLOW YOUR HEART, U HAVE A MAN WHO LOVES U, AND IT'S YOUR MOTHER'S FAULT" SORRY U R NOT GOING TO GET THAT FROM ME. IF U WANT THAT B*•••• GO TO THE "OPERAH SHOW". U WANT US TO FEEL SORRY FOR U, STUPID BITCH. I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR MOTHER FOR HAVING DAUGHTER LIKE U. MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO HER. DO HER A FAVOUR AND KILL YOURSELF. KILL YOURSELF FOR REAL, U WILL BE DOING YOUR MOTHER THE GREATEST FAVOUR.

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SAMIA_89

Tuesday, March 27, 2001 - 04:27 am
DEAR DESPERATE FOR ADVISE:

SIS LISTEN, DON'T LISTEN TO THESE PEOPLE WHO ARE TELLING YOU TO LEAVE MOM AND IT'S HER OWN LIFE AND SHE NEEDS TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF. FIRST OF ALL WE MUST BELIEVE IN ALLAH(SWT) THEN THE SECOND MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO OBEY OUR PARENTS AND ALSO COMPROMISE WITH THEM. I AM SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE NOW AND WALLAHI I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT AT THIS MOMENT BUT ME AND MY MOM WILL TRY TO WORK SOMETHING OUT. YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN WITH HER AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART AND MAYBE SHE WILL LISTEN. IF SHE DOESN'T LISTEN THEN SIS I WOULD STRONGLY URGE YOU TO MOVE OUT WITHOUT WORLD WAR 3 STARTING. MAYBE THAT WILL MAKE YOUR MOM REALIZE INSTEAD OF DRAWING YOU CLOSER TO HER MAYBE SHE IS DRIVING YOU AWAY. ONE LAST THING SIS, DON'T LEAVE YOUR MOM IF YOUR SO CALLED FIANCE IS TELLING YOU TO. WHO KNOWS MAYBE YOUR MOM COULD BE RIGHT ABOUT HIM. WHATEVER HAPPENS I WISH YOU, YOUR MOM AND YOUR FIANCE THE BEST OF LUCK. MAY ALLAH(SWT) BLESS YOU.

PEACE OUT.

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Anonymous

Tuesday, March 27, 2001 - 05:30 am
YOUR MOM IS THE GUARDIAN AND SHIELD TO ALL THE BAD THINKING SHE FEEL YOU WILL ENCOUNTER. ITS COMMON. WELL IT IS ALLOW THAT YOU TALK TO YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND TO BE IN THE PRESENCE OF A CHAPERON; THAT IS WHAT IT DICTATES IN THE ISLAMIC LAW. DON'T TRY TO BE TOO MUCH WESTERNIZED, REMEMBER YOU NORMS WHICH IS THE BEST TOOL TO GUIDE YOU BETTER TO CONDUCT YOURSELF. US MAN HAVE HIDDEN AGENDAS BETTER LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF AND NOT WASTE TIME BECAUSE YOUR CLOCK IS START TO TICK.

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Ciiserooti

Tuesday, March 27, 2001 - 05:40 am
Sagal, Bravo, bravo, bravo.......that was an outstanding advise you gave her there...let her kill herself, it's good riddance.....These kids (oops!, she's 21 ) or maybe she has a child's brain, they're brainwashed by the Kufaar, telling them "it's your life, you decide what you want" since when have we started arguing with our parents? and even calling them liars? Subxaana-Allah, we're doomed, totally doomed...There goes our future, down the drain

Naayaa, waxaad rabtaa wax geedka dab kaaga dhajiya, hooyadaa haddaan aqaano waxaan dhihi lahaa ka gub bahalka ay la wareegeyso

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MO-man

Tuesday, March 27, 2001 - 07:42 am
lol. O.K. "desperate":

1. "I suggest you follow your heart you live once right? Go for it and enjoy it to the fullest you beautiful beautiful girl."
-Now let's say you followed this advice, where could you possibly end up? hmmm...I see a married and very pregnant 22 year old sweating in the social services office-her husband had ran off.

2. "Listen to your mother-she knows best. And she's trying to protect you.Don't be a bad girl"
-Let us say you follow this advice. Well...I see a pregnant 22 year old sweating in the social services office-she never married.

Life is what you make of it-I am not one to criticize but whatever choices you do make use sound judgement.

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Saciid

Wednesday, March 28, 2001 - 04:50 am
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Ciiserooti lololololol Dab uga dhaji bahalka , waxaan soo xasuustay islaantoo dariskeena ahaan jirtay markii eey gabdheheeda wareeg ka celineyso ayay babiska dabadiisa intay burjikada saarto ayay dhihi jirtay haddaan dab kaaga dhajinin geedka xunka ah ee aad la wareegeyso!!!!!!!that was good

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