Garad | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 09:36 am Just curious, I know curiosity kills the cat, but peeps let us take a minute and discuss this very serious issue that each one of us would think about it or do it during one's life time. I think for Somali men, the best age would be from 25 to 35, and for the sisters i would be from 20-25. I mean you could be 60 yrs old and get married as many of our grandfathers or fathers did, but I am talking about the most appropriate time. Thank u all.... Garad |
USAMA BIN-JAMAC | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 09:40 am FOR THE GUYS THE BEST IS BETWEEN 40-45 FOR GIRLS BETWEEN 13-21 |
Samra | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 09:47 am To: USAM BIN-JAMAC: Brother don't you think that is way too old. I mean when yo are 40 years old, say give a birth to your first child by 41, by the time you are 65 yrs old, your child is still child and I bet you aint gonna be around to see your child grow up. Plus who is gonna take care your children since you are too old. The other thing is let us say a 40 yrs old man and 21 yrs old girl get married, there is a big gap there brother, I mean your age is twice the girl's age. You could actually be her father. So I don't agree with you on that. Samra |
SomaliCream | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 09:51 am lol jamac 13, you are taking the mick, man u are sick in the head if u beleive that 13 your old child and i repeat CHILD is a good age to be married. There is a name for people like u "pervets". men should at least above 26 to 35 women should at least be above 24-35 |
Ubax101 | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 10:11 am To: Usama Bin Jama please man! What is a 40 yr old middle aged man and a 13 yr old child going to do with each other? I mean, if you want someone to nurse you after the few years that you have left it is something else but not a marriage! By the time she reaches 25,which is when most girls get married, you are a senior citizen with false teeth and mashed potatoes with all the regular illness that old people have plus couple of other unknown diseases. Get a life man! You see all Somali people act high and almighty when they watch from the TV situations in which grown up men molest young girls while they themselves are exactly on the same boat! |
Nubian boy | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 10:25 am EAZY WHEN EVER U FEEL THAT U CAN'T HOLD NO LONGER. NUBIAN BOY |
Anonymous | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 10:29 am for guy's it's 19-35 and females 15-25 |
judge judy | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 10:37 am ladies don't get in usam-bin jamac's case!!! why you all acting like you are westrenized.. ask your mother when did she get married ask the same question to your garndma..aunt they will all tell you(while they were under20) and don't take me wrong, i don't support what usama said, i'm just aginst the way you all reacted to him like you never seen it or heard of it and if you ask mee i think: men 25-whenever women 20-thirty something" |
Anonymous | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 10:56 am Usama you are 40 and old? Live with it.What am i going to do with a 40 year old...? proove to me that viagra can do magic? PLEASE! no double standard.welcome to 21st century |
USAM BIN-JAMAC | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 11:03 am TO ALL THE GIRLS INCLUDING ANON AS JUDGE JODY ENLIGHTEN US IF YOU GO BACK TO YOUR HISTORY YOU WILL FIND THIS PRACTICE AS COMMON AS DRINKING PEPSI NOWADAYS, SOL LET IT BE PLEASE, I'M TRYING TO HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLD, THAT IS WHY I THANK GOD THAT I'M SOMALI,BECAUSE WHERE IN THE HELL YOU COULD FIND A 47 YEARS OLD MAN MARRYING A 14 YRS GIRL. ONLY IN SOMALIA, I LOVE SOMALI. |
Anonymous | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 11:06 am usama, if you wanna keep your history and tradition,then go back to worship the sun,thats what somalis used to worship b4 Islam had reached! |
Anonymous | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 12:23 pm Usama-Bin Jamac, I think you are a dirty old child abuser. ANY grown man who thinks like that is sick. |
MO-man | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 12:30 pm When to get married? When you feel you have no other alternative. |
GUURDIID | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 12:37 pm HADAADAN GUURSAN KA WARAN? MA OG TAHAY IN GUURKU QASAB AHEEYN? WAAJIB AHEYN? TALO INTAAD QURBAHA JOOGTID HA GUURSAN GABAR SOOMALIYYED SABAB WAA IS FUREEYSIIN MARKEEY NOQOTO ILAMAHAGANA WAXAA SUURO GAL AH HADEEY KU KORAAN HALKAAN INEEY KAHNIISIIN IYO GAALO NOQDAAN. U LAABTA DHULKIINII, GABDHAHA WANAAGSAN IYO WIILASHA WANAAGSAN |
Anonymous | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 01:13 pm Hey if a girl can conceive she is ready for marriage. 13 is about right. I am going back home to get one that age. Cause the bitches around here in the west are too diseased and spoilt by the time they become 17. Yum yum and then some. |
Mad-Man | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 02:05 pm Osama.... damn nigga...... until u posted ur second message, i was gonna defend u ! One Word to Describe ya own kind>>>> Pedophile! Going back to da topic at hand, i would definately say....whenever u feel like its da right time to tie da note, do it ! Mad-Man! |
layla | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 07:20 am To usam you are a sad man what do you want from a four teen year old girl i mean what can she do for you lets get real.The only reason women in somalia got married at a younger age was because they weren't educated nor were their families. To anonymous it isn't our fault that you aren't that manly and leave us girls in the west alone cause we don't want a low life like you. as to the question people should get married whenever they like. |
MNman | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 08:52 am I don't know about Marrige in Western countries like brother Guurdiid said. The reason am against is one thing DIVORCE. The divorce rate among somali ppl is doubling every year. Second I don't know who fault it's Mans or Womens. Here in Minnesota i think we are the worst in tha Somali community around the west. In the winter time every week there is invitation for u HEBLA & HEBEL are getting married. In the Summer time all u heard is they got divorce and u don't why. My theory is Dhaxantey u adkeysan waayeen ha dhowdiina shiirkoodiibaa isku urey. One advise to all u who are planing to get married are u sure thiz is tha right person for u. |
Doctor | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 11:11 am The 9 Types of Boyfriends (1) Sensitive - "After I wash the dishes, let's cuddle, OK?" Also known as: Mr. Nice Guy, Family man, Honey, Darling, Soft-boiled Egg, Snugglepup Advantages: Well-behaved; irons own shirts Disadvantages: Irritatingly compassionate, wimpy (2)Old Man Grumpus - "People are stupid. The world can go to hell. Let's stay home and watch TV." Also known as: Grumbles, Sour puss, Stick-in-the-mud, Old Fogey, Slow Mover, Jerk Advantages: Stays put; predictable Disadvantages: Royal pain in the ass (3)Flinchy - "I--I'm sorry for whatever it was I did." Also known as: Trembly, Creampuff, Hey you Advantages: Jumps entertainingly when startled Disadvantages: Easily spooked; surrenders without a struggle (4)Bigfoot - "Shut yer trap, I'm thinkin'." Also known as: Chunk-style, Lummox, Ignoramus, Galoot, the Hulk, Big 'n' Dumb Advantages: Can tote bales; is easily fooled Disadvantages: Can break you in half, sweats like a pig (5)Lazybones - "Zzzzzz" Also known as: Lucky Dog, Parasite, Bum, Sponge, Snoozebucket, Drug Addict Advantages: Well rested; easy target Disadvantages: Unlikely to fulfull your dreams (6)The Sneak - "Who, me?" Also known as: Love Pirate, Snake, Rat, Slime, G-D Son of a Bitch Advantages: May feel pangs of guilt Disadvantages: May be having time of his life (7)Ace of Hearts - "After I wash the dishes let's make love like crazed weasels, OK?" Also known as: The Sizzler, Handyman, Dreamboat, Casanova, Monster Advantages: Perpetually aroused Disadvantages: Perpetually aroused (8)The Dreamer - "Someday I'm going to be rich and famous. I don't know how, but--" Also known as: Struggling artist, Philosopher, Buffoon, Bag of Wind, Fool Advantages: Tells good stories Disadvantages: Will turn into "Old Man Grumpus" (9)Mr. Right - "While the servants wash the dishes, let's make love like crazed weasels in my new yacht, ok?" Also known as: Mr. Perfect, Jim Dandy Advantages: Answer to a woman's prayer Disadvantages: Hunted to extinction. The 9 Types of Girlfriends (1)Ms. Nice Guy - "Tickets to the boxing match? Oh Darling, you shouldn't have" Also known as: What a gal, precious, one of the boys, my main squeeze, doormat Advantages: Cheerful, agreeable, kindly Disadvantages: May wise up someday (2)Old Yeller - "You G-D spineless good-for-nothing drag-ass no-talent son of a bitch! Can't you see you're making me miserable??" Also known as: She-Devil, Sourpuss, the Nag, My Old Lady, Warthog from Hell Advantages: Pays attention to you Disadvantages: Screeches, throws frying pans 3)Sickly - "Oh, my head. My head. My feet. My cramps. My cellulite" Also known as: Whiner, Mewler, Glumpy Advantages: Predictable Disadvantages: Contagious (4)The Bosser - "Stand up straight. Put on a different tie. Get a haircut. Change your job. Make some money. Don't give me that look." Also known as: Whipcracker, The Sarge, Ms. Know-it-all, Ball and Chain, yes Mom Advantages: Often right Disadvantages: Often right, but so what? (5)Ms. Vaguely Dissatisfied - "I just can't decide. Should I switch my career, goals, home, and hair color?" Also known as: The Fretter, Worrywart, Typical, Aw c'mon Honey Advantages: Easily soothed Disadvantages: Even more easily perturbed (6)Wild Woman out of Control - "I've got an idea. Lez get drunk an' make love onna front lawn. I done it before. S'fun." Also known as: Fast girl, freewheeler, goodtime charleena, passed out Advantages: More fun than a barrel of monkeys Disadvantages: Unreliable; drives off cliffs (7)Huffy - "I see nothing humorous in those silly cartoons you keep snickering at" Also known as: No fun, humorless prig, Cold fish, Chilly proposition, iceberg, Snarly Advantages: Your friends will feel sorry for you Disadvantages: You will have no friends (8Woman from Mars - "I believe this interpretive dance will explain how I feel about our relationship" Also known as: The Babbler, Spooky Girl, Screwball, Loony, Bad News, Artistic Advantages: Entertaining, unfathomable Disadvantages: Will read her poetry aloud (9)Ms. Dreamgirl - "I am utterly content with you just the way you are, my handsome genius of a boyfriend. I think we must make love like crazed weasels now" Also known as: Ms. Right, Goddess, Knockout, Perfection, Gorgeous Advantages: Funny, intelligent uninhibited Disadvantages: Will have nothing to do with you. By Doctor Thanx! |
Observer | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 04:57 pm I could not go past this forums. It asks the same question i have been asking myself for quiete sometime now. When is right the time? I thought when I was twenty I was ready to get married and i really got very close of doing it. Even though I was really big time broke then and in Yemen as a refugee I had brought the Sheikh and the witnesses, made available a variety of sweets, had the consent of the lady but something happened and we had to cancel the cermony. U know some thoughts clashed. That was eight yrs ago. I was younger then, very energetic and had fewer wrinkels on my face and none whatsoever grey hair on my head. Now I am 28yrs of age and really can't tell u when is the appropriate age to get married but i will say this out of exprience and at my own expense, I think the right age is when u r young and able to take care of family. The best thing that could happen to u they say is not when one falls in love but it is said when one gets married. and my last note is that worry less about money when u want to get married. unless otherwise was prescribed to u by the almighty money will be in ur path..Just work hard toward it. |
Honesita | Friday, March 30, 2001 - 09:07 pm It's sad what some of u think about marriage......and some others just make so much sense....!! I agree with Observer....the younger u r when u get married the happier u will be with ur marriage life....!! There is no appropriate age for marriage....its when ever u ready....and the sooner the better in my opinion.....!! Marriage is half of the diin right.......so why delay it.....dont look for luv cuz it just hurts......look for some1 ku dhaqi kara......some1 u can trust ur life with....just like u trust ur parents and that they will not walk out on u....u have to trust the person u're about to share the rest of ur life with the same way....luv is sure gonna come afterwards......!! Marriage is responsibility....its not somethin' u do out of lust or just an urge.......u have to really think about it....cuz gettin' divorce is really sad.....!! MNman......brotha just cuz da rest of da pple in Minnisota r havin' bad relations dont mean that u r gonna fall in da same luck......u mentioned the ones that get divorce.....what about the ones that r happy ever after.....havin' kids and plannin' a long future together....!! And to who eva is thinkin' of goin' back home for a wife.......WOMEN ARE WOMEN.......if they r here or if they r back there.......and when ever u bring her here...she's gonna learn what the ones here already know.....!! So be smart and look for some1 u can understand not she's back so she's automatically good....!! Salaam |
USAMA BIN-JAMAC | Saturday, March 31, 2001 - 12:02 pm LAYLA, MAD MAN, ANON WHY ARE ALL ATTACKING ME FOR SOMETHING THAT SOMALIS HAVE BEEN DOING SINCE THE TURN OF THE CENTURY.......................WHY, ...WHY>>>>>> |
Amina | Saturday, March 31, 2001 - 03:46 pm i think its best to get married whilst ur young for a variety of reasons. i personaly don't wanna get married till i am 23 but not beyond, but i guess its gonna happen markii ley qorey. i think people really need to think, why they are getting married, who they are marrying, what they expect from marriege, waht the other person expects... and make sure that they are really down with it ...coz most of the time somali peeps don't. thus the rise in divorces To the guys that are attacking usama bin jamac- ya'll are forgeting one thing, The prophet (saw) married Aaisha when she was 9, he was 4o something.. this should proof that there is nothing wrong with this custom aight. ya'll need to stop repeating the non-sense gaaladu feed ya and get real. Damn it pisses me off when somalis come in here and start chatting like the cadaan mans. ilbaxnayee alow noo sahal, ma heerkaasaad gaadheen? Peace and love |
T-GIRL | Sunday, April 01, 2001 - 10:28 pm Honesita U know sometime I just come in a forums......read all the lousy comments........but I refrain from my input coz U've said it all.......Keep up girl |
Anonymous | Monday, April 02, 2001 - 06:50 am For Males; 26-30 For females; 20-30. |
Somali-psycho | Monday, April 02, 2001 - 01:59 pm The right time is when God say so. |
1/2 AND 1/2 | Monday, April 02, 2001 - 02:18 pm 20 TO 30 FOR WOMAN 25 TO WHENEVER YOU RUN OUT OF VIAGRA |
ninxoon | Monday, April 02, 2001 - 02:24 pm 1/2 1/2 lol the best age for men is 22-58 women is 9-17 |
Anonymous | Monday, April 02, 2001 - 04:42 pm Ninxoon iam 9, will u marry me.... |
The Florist | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 05:16 am An older man can teach a younger woman much. It's a fact that an older man would marry a younger woman but seldom will an older man marry an older woman. Since women out number men - men have their choice of who, the age bracket and the race of the woman he marries. Women spend their youth competing with each other, dating the cutest guys and then one day waking up in the 30's, recounting their past deeds and desperately looking for a husband. The flower has blossomed and is begining to withered - who wants a withered flower that has been handled by so many? |
YoungGirl | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 06:49 am That's the most stupid thing I've ever heard! An old man can never keep up with a young woman. And no matter how good he thinks he looks, most young girls would look at him as old. And not to mention an old man having kids, yak! And he will get faster old because of that too, because the kids actually don't keep him young, they are too much work. So for me; a young and strong and handsome man is the one and only choice. Not a half chewed, slow old man that I would have to nurse after being married to him for 10 years..No way! Man, this is not the good old days! LOL! So keep dreaming... I hate dirty old men with dirty minds! uffff-yaaakkkk! |
Anonymous | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 06:59 am YoungGirl, that'so true! Women want a beauty flower too, not a DEAD one. Old men seem to believe that they are beuatiful flowers, well, old men, the reality is quite different, so stop dreaming! lol! And who wants a dirty old man who has been married 4-5 times anyway?? Uffff, disgusting! Give me a clean, fresh, beautiful YOUNG man! THANKS! |
ninxoon | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 11:33 am anon I don't care if you are 6 as long as you are virgin and never been with an ape. |
ninxoon | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 11:33 am anon I don't care if you are 6 as long as you are virgin and never been with an ape. |
AVAILABLE | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 12:55 pm I used to say that i would go to school when i take care of my family, u know mom and siblings. That was sometime ago. It took me 3 long yrs and a double shift warehouse work to at least get some time for myself. The thing is now that i feel older and to go back to school this time of age seems to me inapropriate. I am thinking of doing something else. But my point before i drive myself into the wilderness is that u can't set a time and a date for the most important things in life. Marriage is a very essential thing, sacred I believe, thereofore, why put it off till the next time... I urge u to consider ur current situations and act accordingly. Get married nowwww if u can....There may be a time when u feel older and marriege will be a difficult project to undertake. P.S. LITTLE PA. I live in Arizona. any girl want to establish relationship for futuristic purposes, I would be glad to take the stepts with u. |
PlayBoyBunny | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 01:03 pm In my belief, there's no such a thing as MARRIAGE, let alone with a somalian guy. in my book, living in common law is the best medicine Once u get tired of your mate, hunt for another 1 elsewhere without feeling guilty about a matrimonial union. |
zig-zag | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 01:10 pm playboy bitch, that's what you call "HOESIM" and you're as good at it as michale jordan with basketball how many STD'S do you have? do you have HIV? when was the last time you checked your self? so bitch..save the drama for your mama"if you have one" |
dhoore | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 01:19 pm Man well..the best age to get merried is for the Men is 20 to 40 after 40 damn you are too old get married.. Ladies 18 to 26 after 26 ya damn too old and no one will look you wrinkle ass..especially somali sisterz |
Asiya | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 01:45 am TO: Dhoore S--t man I am turning 27 and still not married,after reading your post I couldn't stop thinking that I am in serious trouble......lol. You guys never stop to amaze me. |
transcenlist | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 03:15 am best age for a lady to get married is in her 20s. you might ask why is that? well, biologically, a woman has limited eggs to get used up. when she gets her periods an egg dies. so, the clock chases a woman. 18-24 for a women a man 25, although we got no clock ticking on us. that would be appropriate.. age. |
Sadat | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 03:55 am One reason the girls here are not popular to the guys here is because once a Somali girl attends school (even ESL), she becomes the biggest bitch in the western hemisphere....i don't know why. And i have never really seen a well educated Somali sister(there are very few any way) who is down to earth, understanding and humble......I grew up in Asia (Far East) and i went to school in both Europe and North America, i have mingled with people from different parts of the world, i have never seen people who more easily and readily shed their roots than Somalis(specially Somali women). The girls in Somalia are religious, homely and very respectable. |
Sadat | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 04:06 am Dhoore, it's true.When a girl is born she has this many of eggs(several hundred thousand) and every time she has her periods she loses several thousand of them. FYI: Women don't lose any eggs during pregnancy |
Lenin | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 04:09 am Sadat.... Bro there is now way in hell I am going to travel 2,500 miles to Africa to look for a woman to marry. I live in the States and there are plenty of respectful women. Imagine taking your "wholesome Somali Wife to the Company Dinner. Imagine the scene. What seems to be with the obession of certain Somali men to travel all the way to Africa for a "Good" somali woman ? There are plenty of Somali women in the West. What makes u sure that the one u import won't become the one you disliked after a couple of months ? I am going to settle down with one in my home state. If I don't find Somali, I don't care at all. Lenin |
Anonymous | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 07:40 am man this crazy, i cant believe ya'll so quick to ur guns in a matter like this. what we need to do is already been said in tha sunna. so stop this foolishness n post somethin else peace n much love p.s. |
y2laila | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 08:22 am we all have different oppinions but i think an important aspect that people on this discussion have forgetten is that one needs to ask for ALLAH'S guidance , they can not go wrong after that dispite the age. |
Sadat | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 09:12 am Lenin, I know that there are many decent Somali women in the west, but Somalis i see here like to be considered as WESTERN(culture wise) rather than Moslem and a Somali and if i want to marry a western woman i'd go for the real one(the real western women). Beleive me i do work for a company and i have no intention of taking my wife to a company party....I am a Moslem, and also a Somali....i know who i am.....no identity crises I have noticed that many people once they are here(some of them even for a few months) they pretend not to understand what's required of them according to their culture and religion. |
xcaliper | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 09:16 am for chicks 17-31 for men 21-100 |
Amaal | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 10:55 am Assalamu alaykum I agree with amina, It's really Best to marry while your young. Young girls about 17-25 and the men should be 25-30. To:Jamac, YOu believe girls should marry at 13 right? But walaal, If a girl gets married and gets pragnent at the age of 13 that is not healthy. AT 13 girls are not well developed, and her body is not ready for pragnency. Yeah i can understand every men wants Pure, fresh girl to marry. But going for 13, 15 girls is not the answer. Let the sister develope and be Educated. If not how can she teach her children and be a good parent. Peace Amaal |
Anonymous | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 12:28 pm amaal- on what biological evidence do u base ur opinion that it's unhealthy for a women to have a baby at age 13. please let me know of any medical journal that printed this information. but if are talkin from the top of ur head i can tell you, u aint got much there so keep it to urself. peace n much love |