     Aniga | Unrecorded Date
I had a long distance relationship about a year. Both of us felt that we are real mates and we can continue our love affairs in beyond a long time period.
We usually spoke over the phone and sometimes exchange a beatifull a letters. We visited each other two times, and we had abosulte excitement. What our relationship continues in a way we felt stable and productive, bad situation greeted us unexpectly. My girl, always likes to know in deep how her mate is generios and giving man, but i was'nt sure how a managed some financial situations, which she felt was betray and dishonest to her, and she mentioned to me quite some time ago,that was one time. Another time, was when i was going through some financial problems and keeping my education one eye. I accustomed to sent her some kind of gift and money when i afforded, but bad side of our relationship came into life when I sent amount of money, and she turned down to me, arguing with that it wasn't worth nothing, and you should have to keep it. I was honest when i decided to allocated this amount of money, but reality turned into a wrong way. After that day, our relationship became kind of suspend because she thought that i wasn't honest to her and generous enough to her needs. Anxiesty shows on my side and situation turned into uncertain. I decide to increase the amount, but our relationship is floating on the ocean. However, I realized that she is after money and she doesn't have the courage to lift-up our relationship. In addition, she is thinking that i am utterly greedy. on my side, I believed that I was wrong and gave complete apology to her that i will never do what i have done earlier, but it seems that she not ready to accept my apology. What do you thing guys? Can I stick with her forever or let her go?
You comments will be welcomed |
| gurey1 | Unrecorded Date
Asalaamu Aleeykum
T:ANIGA
NOTHING!!! |
| muxammad | Unrecorded Date
Monneeeeyy, Monneeeyy,
I think that's really so sad, cuz you shouldn't send her money in the first place, but you did and she didn't appreciate that! stay away from her>>> she is <<qalin shubato>>
Oh, one question, is she handcap? how come she is not being self sufficient?
Anyways, it's either going to be you that she wants or your going to be a victim of fraud and she is after your money.
So, read between the lines. |
| Yasmiin M.g | Unrecorded Date
dear Aniga ,
I would like to comment at your story if you dont mind .
I believe that you take a man for what he is and not how much he worths.
A respectful woman who is love and takes a relationship seriously ,will never depend financially on a man who is not her husband .A user who wants to date for fun will only do that.
And many woman think that a man who spends more on their dates will make her feel like a queen forever when they mary.
If you are both considering marriage, then i think it should be built upon trust, honesty,love,repsect and understanding .
Trust and honesty is when she trusts you with whatever you say or do to please her and be content with whatever gift you give her. If its there , then you go on with your relationship.
She should respect you and understand your situation and problems whatever they are , its very important.
If she loves you ... love is not the important thing .. it might come later ..it might disappear later ... it might disappear and come again .. because it should be standing on top of a strong base built of a brick wall of understanding, respect, honesty and loving the other for who he is.
Love is a pure feeling shared between to indiviuals ..and its in the air , its not bought in a market.
Good luck in your decision my friend ..
And the truth is the only thing that will set you free .. remember that . life is choices, so choose wisely . |
| HONEY | Unrecorded Date
MAN, YOU ARE SUCH A NICE GUY!!!WHAT ARE YOU A BANK?...I don't understand something here bro. Why do you have to send her money first place?is she in financial difficulties?and if she is, is it your position to support her?You are not obligated to send her anything?....you aren't married to her, not that you are obligated now a days to support your wife...YOU ARE NOT SANTA CLAUS, NEITHER HER FATHER.....YOU DON'T TO SUPPORT HER?...I DON'T GET THIS STORY?....I AM HAVING PROBLEM UNDERSTANDING THAT YOU ARE IN LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, LET ALONG THAT YOU SENDING HER MONEY!!!....DOES SHE HAVE A PERMANENT DISABILITY?....MAN YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY?...MAYBE SOME GUYS LIKE NEEDY GIRLS...BUT NOW A DAYS YOU GOTTA WORK FOR YOUR BREAD...NO FREE RIDE IN THIS WORLD.....MAYBE SHE IS A NICE GIRL, BUT YOU DESERVE TO BE SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATE WHATEVER YOU GIVE THEM(IF IT IS LITTLE OR TOO MUCH, AFTER ALL IT IS A GIFT). GOOD LUCK |
| X-X | Unrecorded Date
I'M A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN. CAN I BE ON YOUR LIST....AT LEAST LET A SISTER APPLY FOR A LOAN.
WALAAL GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP!! GOOD LUCK. |
| Aniga | Unrecorded Date
Thank guys for the advice you that had given me in this forums. I now know what to do on my relationship. As Somali saying goes "Who he gives you money are uncountable, but who he gives you advice are few". I will take your advice and suggestion very serious, and I will excute as soon as opportunity opens its door. As I told you earlier, our relationship seems to be called of, but I will let know the story will end up. If our relationship seems to be prevailing or if its loosing the grounds. I Hope, your input is always well observed. Thank you |
| Muxammad | Unrecorded Date
See! I told you, everyone of these beautiful somali ladiez agree with me! that she is <<qalin shubato>> ...
Yasmiin, Honey, and x-x thanks for being so straight forward from a ladiez perspective or point of view, you guyz r civilized. |
| yasmiin | Unrecorded Date
You welcome Aniga, i hope you get what you deserve in life .. life is short and enjoy it bro with people who loves you and whom you will love and cherish forever.
Good luck.
To muxammed : thanx bro and yes we do agree with you.And thanx for the compliment by the way. |
| aisha | Unrecorded Date
speaking from a student's and a woman's point of view, i think you did not set a boundary on your relationship. long distance or not, you should not give her money unless she need it. if she does not understand when you are financialy challenge....broke that is........you don't need to be with her anyways. there must be a good sister out there for you, go get her. |
| Attoore. | Unrecorded Date
Aniga.
Once, I thought I was a firm believer in LOVE but as I grew older, I found out it is a waste of time. There is destiny in our lives although We don't count on it and worry too much about what ifs. I tell you my friend, no matter how hard you try to stick into a realtionship in the end you will get married to the destined lady for you by god. Your efforts of love and courtship for the past women will only be a regret on you particularly if they were unbearing like your case or had too much fun if you understand what I mean. We beautify all the wrongs in our juvenile years and don't keep in mind that we are accountable for our deeds. Anyway, I suggest that you don't give her any money at all again. You can't trust a woman who asks for money unless you give her willingly(Rule number one). The more reserved the woman is in everything the more beautiful she is if women knew(Rule number two). You can also try remembering Allah often so you don't get worried too much or feel guilt over your decision on the discontinuation of the relationship, it is not worth(If things don't work out). Finally, it is forbidden to enjoy the beauty and finess of women unless we are married to them, in that case, try to be decent as much as you can for you will find a good change of that woman you are so worried about.
I love women and see them as a precious beings and I become bothered too much when they don't understand what is good for them. It seems, most of them lost the scale by which they would measure what is lively and good for them. Aniga, my brother, if that woman knew how honest you are to a point where you are looking for advice in a public place, I think she wouldn't have forced you this far. She would thank almighty god for that chance and would have pressured you to marry her instead of continuing useless relationships.
Attore. |
| caaqilka | Thursday, June 15, 2000 - 09:35 am
man i think u r not telling us the true , goz the reason u told us is not enough to be a cause for separation b/w two lovers .
the fact is one of two .
1. iether u r lieng to us , goz there must be something wrong with ur story of her , if she is so bad , n only believes in money an property why did u love her , love is not blend , there must be some values of her which made u fall in love with her and the first value is honest and generousity .
2. or u have been trabed with some sourt of magic things like she did something to u , or loved only her structure , or may u slept with her so u cant forget and leave the way she satified u in bed .
3.or the reason she left u is totaly different from what u told us and may be u r the wrong person.
in my conclusion the whole of ur story cant be asumed right, there must be some hiden part of the story |
| hebel | Thursday, June 15, 2000 - 07:00 pm
anigu aan ku jeclaadee sxb lacag iisoo dir. |
