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     | Thursday, July 27, 2000 - 10:43 am Toronto Sun: Thursday, July 27, 2000 net.dating.know.how http://www.canoe.ca/TorontoLife/ts.ts-07-27-0057.html By CATHY STAPELLS, TORONTO SUN Play it safe when it comes to Internet dating -- and we're not just talking condoms. By using a little common sense, you should be able to avoid the creeps lurking in cyberspace. "Being safe is the No. 1 factor. Always meet in a public place," says Shirley Tate, 47, of Markham, who met husband Doug, 49, on the Net. Recently, when a couple of women were attacked after meeting a Net date, police warned women to be careful, as well as cautious about the kind of info they post on the Net. "Never give out personal information (ie. your real name, phone number or address). If you have a personal Web site, any photos you put on it become public and certain individuals can download them and morph your head onto someone else's nude body," says Toronto police Det. Sgt. Frank Goldschmidt. New York psychologist Joy Browne says the intimacy established online is misleading. "No matter how well you know your online friend, when you meet for the first time, you're strangers," she says in her book, Dating For Dummies (IDG Books). "There is no way to verify that what they are telling you is true." While it's the horror stories that usually make the news, there are successful Internet tales to tell. When Shirley and Doug Tate agreed to meet for the first time after chatting with each other for months, Doug set a few ground rules that put Shirley at ease. "It must be a safe place, with lots of people around. Then Doug insisted that I tell someone where I was going and to make sure they knew I was going to call them to let them know I was all right. Also, if I didn't return home by a certain hour, they were to call police. This made me trust him more," says Shirley. They were married in May. Although their story has a happy ending, Brenda Golden took a few risks when she travelled from her Florida home to Brantford to meet her online guy, Dave Muise. "I was very scared coming up to meet him the first time. We hadn't talked on the phone yet. I took a big chance, and didn't tell my family what I was doing, although I had told a friend. But my instincts were good," says Golden, 40. Muise, 40, agrees that not speaking on the phone before meeting wasn't a good idea. "It's a risk I would not suggest to any other woman." Net dating has gained in popularity because it's new and anonymous, says dating expert Josey Vogels. "It gives you control and lets you get away from the creeps, especially for women," she says. She and other experienced daters offer the following advice if you decide to meet: - Exchange recent (untouched) photographs first. - Talk on the phone for a few hours. - Meet in a public place. No exceptions. - Don't let the guy pick the place. - Plan an escape route. - Don't let your date pick you up at your house. - Don't drink too much alcohol. - Be prepared for the fact that just because you have great online chemistry, there may not be any sparks face-to-face.
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