     Gog | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 08:44 pm
Hie Guys,
I have had a Somali friend for nearly 11 years. We have been to many countries together, and both our parents are good friends. So we are just like brothers, and he is the kindest person on earth. Everyday, if he has money, he invites me to eat and drink coffee, and he pays the bills. When I feel down, he says good things to bring me back my good mood. when I feel bored, he takes me out and we go walking. One day, I went to another town, and I didn't give any notice of my whereabouts, so he worried a lot, then took a bus to that town just to search for me.
The problem is that this guy would make Ibliis and Sheitaan look like children. You see this guy doesn't pray, he takes drugs(all kinds), he drinks alcohol (any kinds), he is always at the clubs, he doesn't study, he is always on welfare, he is always high, but the worst of all is that he does the worst of all sins : he is homosexual. He doesn't know that I know and he just pretends that he is normal, but I know. I don't know what to do. I have already broken relationship with him, because I would divert from the path of Allah (swt)if I associate myself with him. Now, I feel bad, because I know that he is never gonna correct himself. He has loved me in the past, but I couldn't pay him my love in return. I cannot tell my parents because I would hurt his mother terribly. My friend has never seen his father in his life. One week before he was gonna see his father for the first time (in 1991), his father died in the Somali war. So he has had a lot of hardship when he was small.
Now he has become the friend of Sheitaan and I don't know what I can do with him.
I feel sad for not paying him back his love for me.
I feel bad for his suffering and hardship his mother has lived.
I feel bad because I have broken relationship with him and he doesn't know why. |
| somalishrink | Friday, September 08, 2000 - 10:19 pm
The person who can solve your problem the most is your friend. Tell him how you feel about his life style. To desert him is not what friends are about and also, you stated that he is homosexual, my question is how sure are you that your friend is homosexual, alcohol and drug abuse can easily be identified, how would you know unless you confront him, maybe he is not. not having interest in woman doent always mean homosexuality (i am guessing that is one of your clues). You cant be sure 100% that he is homosexual unless you seen him with another man side bye side in a bed butt naked. and for drinking and drugs, they are serious problems, your friend may require therapy and you will have to tell him to seek help. final thought, confront your friend tell him his distructive life style will kill him and is already taking toll off your life, confront him with your suspicion, you owe it to your friend and urself. you maybe surprised what honest communication can accomplish. |
| Gog | Saturday, September 09, 2000 - 06:17 am
Hie,
I take my facts by what other people have told and by the way he talks about other men, and by his behavior towards other men. Other people have seen him in the act too. I have confronted him many times and other people too, but he doesn't even seem to listen to his own mother or big brothers, how can he listen to me ?
I have asked him a couple of times if he is gay but he has always denied the fact. He is not even honest with himself, how can he be honest with me?
Ifhe ever dies today, I would be very sad, because he would go to Juhanam, and I couldn't save him. |
| aj | Saturday, September 09, 2000 - 09:20 am
Gog;
You don't have a case dear;
As somalishrink said, unless you see this guy fucking another guy or being get fucked by another guy, all you have is assumptions. And remember most assumptions are wrong " Ina bacda dani ithmun".
Btw if you are a girl, you shouldn't be worrying a gay friend. After all gays are known to be good friends with girls. |
| GI. | Saturday, September 09, 2000 - 04:50 pm
Avoid him as far as you can. Once you sympathise with a guy like that, you have proplems coming. You tell him what is good for him, if he doesn't accept, leave him alone. You don't need to feel that much responsibilty towards him. He is doing what he does knowingly. The closer you stay to him, the more accepting yourself you become towards his destructive life. Somebody went through so much doesn't bring about him doing all that kind of sh_t life. You sound looking for excuses sticking around with the guy. I have none for you. what is more disgusting than being gay?. It has no cure. It a curse. Wait other fags showing up here and claiming it is alright. |
| Doctor Ali | Sunday, September 10, 2000 - 05:55 am
Gog
All i can say is:You are 'supposedly' a girl.It's unhealthy enough for a boy and a girl to be just friends without the bond of mariage or blood relations.I mean you can be friends,but not best friends.Its inproper.Unless you are a guy disguising to be a girl,and wanted to avoid people commenting that maybe you were homosexual your self and only you are better than him because you have the conscious level of restraint.Which is entirely good cuz,everybody will answer to Allah one day!
My advice?Cut the relationship if you are supposedly a girl,thats the best solution.Out of sight out of mind?which you already did as you say above.Only thing you left with is,remove the guilt and the false obligations you seem to portray here.As for the guy,we pray for him and you do so.Thank you! |
| sista | Sunday, September 10, 2000 - 06:09 am
if he has strayed from the path of Allah sis then it is ur duty as a muslim sista to help him towards the rite path instead of leaving for Ibliis and Sheitaan to currupt him more....it is also ur duty as his friend |
| Sweetgirl | Sunday, September 10, 2000 - 02:52 pm
If you really care then get him some help, his life style is not healthy and he's been through so much already. You don't seem to have any faith in him from the way you don't think he'll ever change, let me tell you something it's allah who guides. I've seen a lot of people that I thought were doomed to be losers for good but then they ended up being better than everyone. I would advise to tell him what's right and if he listens good, if he doesn't then find other friends |
| Somalishrink | Monday, September 11, 2000 - 07:54 am
dear goc:
allah decides who belongs jahanaba and not u, unless things have changed last 10 years, he may belong fardowza, u will never know.
I am not sure if your friend is really ur friend, are u sure you are not your friend, could this troubled young man be you. Iam not saying it is you if you are not saying it yourself allready.
Your friend will find out his troubles and will confront himself soon enough, so let him be.
I am closing your file, so no more appointments for you. The shrink has spoken. |
| notbychoice | Tuesday, September 12, 2000 - 08:22 am
hey Gog,
Only u can tell the real story....if this is the situation, then feel free to confront him but just remember that things will never be the same. Take it from an experienced fella..I confronted my best friend about the same thing and guess what? I lost a really good relationship. My point of view will be to let him construct his life and from time to time, remind him of his activies without damaging your relation.
Let him be his own person....god knows how many of us r doing something that is against God's wishes.
Be a friend not a mother! |
| GI. | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 03:48 am
NOTBYCHOICE.
Tell me, logging on to the net wasn't your choice?. I see, faggot reasoning here. |
| JAMA | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 03:59 am
and what is gods wishes exactly, CAN SOMEONE ENLIGHTEN ME ABOUT GOD'S WISHES. |
| GI. | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 04:10 am
jama.
Related to what?. |
| notbychoice | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 06:40 am
GI
you'r still taking your welfare anger on everybody else who may actually have a point of view.....lol
Jama
God's wishes can be found in your Holy Book (Quran). Besides that there's nothing else that can enlight you, at least from my end.... |
| fag-hater | Wednesday, September 13, 2000 - 07:20 am
hey gog if u really wanna know whether the guy is homosexual or not then just bend over in front of him and if he sticks a fat cock in your ass then he is a fag. case closed |
| MS. ALI | Thursday, September 14, 2000 - 07:21 am
Laa xaawla walaa quwati what kind of topic is this??? grown men talking crap dont you all have something else to do? |
| GI. | Thursday, September 14, 2000 - 03:19 pm
Notbychoice I repeat again:
Tell me, logging on to the net wasn't your choice?.
A faggot is always a faggot. |
| Xoogsade | Thursday, September 14, 2000 - 04:21 pm
Oh look it is Notbychoice, that twinkle-toed, mincing, prancing, cock-sucking faggot . You better run for your life motherfucker cause I am gonna hunt you down and cut your head off and shitt down the hole. Run boy run, loooool... |
| notbychoice | Monday, September 18, 2000 - 05:55 am
Gi,
U didn't tell me if u're still angry at your welfare cheque....
A retarded somali junky will always be a faggot lover!
p.s u'll see
Xoo,
I'll give u my address if u wanna hunt me down....I live with your cozin, your uncle, your bro and your dad!that means they'áll tasted the forbiden fruit...
p.s I'm scared for u |
