     Aniza | Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 12:45 pm
I really need to know what other somalis think of this issue, so please take some time and tell me what u think about this....no jokes or smartass remarks.......thank you in advance!! |
| idil | Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 12:56 pm
hell yeah girl ma best friend is a man |
| Anonymous | Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 01:13 pm
Aniza it depends. |
| hebel | Tuesday, October 17, 2000 - 06:18 pm
I can only offer sexual friendships, but only, if that’s the point behind yar question.
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I might be an ass but sure ain't smart. |
| Aniza | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 01:26 pm
Hi all, and thanx.
I've been let to believe that such thing as "men&women friends" doesnot exist, and the reason given was that "one of them is desperately trying to get close to the other, and is using friendship as means of staying close to that person who dont return that feeling" (what feeling u asked??? love, crush, infatuation. u name it, and it falls under the same category).
so let me ask again? can men and women be friends?????
yes is not an acceptable answer, unless u give reason.
same applies to "no", I would like to know WHY??
PLSE &THANX |
| T-GIRL | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 01:47 pm
I always believed that platonic "FRIENDSHIPS" are cool as long as ppl had their boundaries.... However there is always a gonna be a certain chemistry between y'all and that makes it difficult. I had a friend once. I used to confide in him but as time progressed he showed unbelievable jealousy and hostility towards any guy who approached me or so much as even looked at me. I thought he was being a buddy and protecting me but I doubted his friendship as he confessed his crush on me....
So the answer is HELL NO...They can never be friends
PEACE |
| Xaali | Wednesday, October 18, 2000 - 02:01 pm
Yes they can be platonic friends, but only if it is a cyber thing  |
| kariim | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 02:58 am
To Aniza
Consider this point sis and see what you think
In a sahih hadith the prophet (pbuh) said roughly meaning "a man and a women cant be alone together except that shatan is their third" |
| Hibo | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 04:00 am
Anisa: my best friend is a guy sis.. we have been friends since God knows.. He plays important role in my decision makings.. he helps me when I need one... He lends me his shoulder to lean on when my world turns on me.. He is now happily married n his wifey says nothing about our friendship.. coz. she knows the difference between our friendship n other affairs.... so u see sis.. it is possible to make friends with the opposite sex.. as long as u two r willing to make it work..
That is my two cents .. I hope it helps.. |
| faris | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 04:48 am
Aniza,
In my opinion it is easy to have a man as a friend when he is married or has some1. This case is more for somali people. Cause from exprience I know you have also those feelings as a man.
Be careful! To have a somali guy just as a friend isn't to compare with other societies. And take always your people as a stand point. So I think our people aren't yet ripe for this kind of matter. |
| faris | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 04:50 am
Hibo,
May I know you! |
| somalisister | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 05:15 am
Aniza-- I fine it easier to be friends with a girl, simply because sometimes it can be really difficult to be friends with a guy. I had a very good guy friend (unfortunately every white B***H from here to hell had a crush on him)..somehow he ended with one of them ( I have to say here i pushed him to choose her)..sadly she ended up to be the queen of all bitches....and now my friendship with this guy is on the rocks....I don't feel comfortable calling him or kicking it with him..she makes it difficult for us..he thinks we can still be friends, but I have no intention of having bitch competitions with this girl..anyhow my point is: it can be really hard to have a guy friend, it all depends on how far you can go, what you can put up with, whether or not you can tell the world to go screw itself..so i guess it's a matter of how well you know yourself |
| Maa Heee | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 05:23 am
EVERY GIRL WHICH I CONSIDERED TO BE A FRIEND ENDED UP BEING MORE THAN JUST A FRIEND TO ME.
NOT THAT AM COMPLAINING!!!!
AM STILL SCEPTICAL OF TWO SOMALI OF THE OPPOSITE SEX STAYING FRIENDS FOR LONG.
SIMPLE REASON IS ANIMAL INSTINCT- ITS NATURAL TO HUMP EVERY FEMALE THAT SHOWS INTREST.
MY FRIENDS WILL MAKE MY LIFE HELL IF THERE WAS A GIRL WHO WAS AROUND ME ALL THE TIME AND I DID NOT HIT IT, THEY WILL BE HAVING A FIELD DAY IF THAT HAPPENED.
2nd REASON WOULD BE THE DAY SHE BRINGS HER MALE FRIEND-- NOW THAT IS QUESTIONANING MY MASCULINITY BECAUSE IF I WAS THAT MALE AND SHE BROUGHT ME TO HER MALE FRIEND I WILL JUST THINK HE IS GAY.
and that is my couple of £'s HOPE IT HELPS. |
| Jariiban | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 09:37 am
The only person that answered your question correctly is A.kariim. Rest think they in talk show.
I wonder which talk show.. jenny Jones? hhmm maybe.. |
| Hibo | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 09:41 am
Faris: really? enlighten me.. pls |
| GANG-BANGER | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 12:49 pm
FARIS WEAK FAGG TRYIN TO HIT ON HIBO IN HERE..
U DA NOT MATURE PUSSSSSYY IN HERE....
DON'T SAY SUCH SHIIIT ABOUT SOMALI MEN FOOOLL
MAAA HEEEE YEA MAN....
GO ON KEEP BANGIN PLAYER. |
| WW | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 01:09 pm
NO NO NO NO.......NO MATTER HOW MUCH THERE WILL ALWAYS BE THE CHEMISTRY THERE! |
| Ice-Man | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 04:56 pm
Platonic friends give me a break....I can't have a woman as a friend , I will look her body lips, butt, eyes and even skin and soon or later my lips will move to kiss her even though she don't want it call me male chauvinist but I treat women as a sex object sorry to say that but its true in my opinion and others feel that way, but too ingenuous to Admit it
Later Peepz |
| HONEY | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 05:20 pm
Hi everyone,
Can women and men be friends?....why not, I am just talking about my personal experiences. My very best friend happens to be a man....We have been friends for 11years, we met each other in my freshman year in high school and we have being friends since then. We go to movies, to diners....name it we pretty much do what best friends do...He has a girlfriend at the moment.....and I just got married. My husband met him before our wedding and they hit it off well....I am not saying they are best of friends. I think a man and woman can be friends, as long as there is understanding from both sides.....I am not saying that it is totally the same as having a
girl as bestfriend....I can get butt naked in front of my girlfriend but I can't do that in front of guy friend.....There is certain things you can't do with a guy friend.....there is a limit to what you do with a guy friend.....I don't go to movies as much as i used to with my guy friend now a days since I am married woman......
A LOT OF YOU MAY THINK THAT GUYS ARE PERVERT, BUT IT IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE..... |
| Anonymous | Thursday, October 19, 2000 - 06:03 pm
Honey.....Right....and i'm the queen of England's best friend. |
| Aniza | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 03:22 pm
thank you guys, I really appreciate this, and I have to say that I find useful everything everyone said here, and to be honest with y'all, I have these conflicting emotion about this issue, yes I think they can be friend, and no they cant. What I'm trying to say is that I have guy friends, but we dont hang out, coz we dont live the same city, but when we get together we raise the roof! if u know what I mean, on the other hand there is this one whom I consider a friend, but he doesnot like it when we run into
my other friend (girl and boys), he never said anything to me but I noticed that he shuts down like " korontada inay ka tagtay oo kale", but when we are alone, he is the funniest person...so I'm not naive, I know what's going on, but how do I confront him, when he did say anything to me????
HELP?? |
| Anonymous | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 04:04 pm
Aniza lift up your skirt.He'll get the vibe. |
| hebel | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 04:55 pm
The Vibe of odor? Or the vibe of appearance?
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be more specific please we like to know what sort of vibe? |
| HONEY | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 04:59 pm
TO ANONYMOUS,
IS THE QUEEN HAVING AN AFFAIR?.....GOT ANY DIRTY
SCOOP ON THE QUEEN?....I LOVE YOUR SARCASTIC REMARK...... |
| somalisister | Friday, October 20, 2000 - 06:36 pm
Aniza baby- lay it on him streight, and know that he'll deny it..that's just the way guys are..but tell him that you are hurt by it anyways..just to let him know that you know what's up aight??..don't listen to what he says, just look to see if his actions change..cause i've learned that most guys talk with their action more than they're words..and then babydoll,if he's such a good freind he'll try to change , no matter how much he tries to deny the problem.
peace
that's my two cents
good luck
somalisister |
| nawal | Saturday, October 21, 2000 - 05:31 am
Well my best friend is a guy...he is always there when i need help or a shoulder to cry on and i'm always there for him and i know i will always be able to count on him to be there for him.
Aniza sis i understand where ur coming from cause i too had this friend who wanted more then friendship from me. one day when we were alone together he told me how he cared for me etc. i told him i didn't want that kind of relationship from him and that it would ruin our friendship...although he took it hard it was for the best...our friendship has never been the same again but we still cool.
good luck sis |
| FARIS | Saturday, October 21, 2000 - 10:47 am
GANG BANGER,
U R THE FOOLISH ONE, HAVING THOSE ATTRIBBUTES OF PERISITE IF U KNOW WHAT THAT IS. U SEEM LIKE SOME1 WHO ISN'T YET SETTLED IN LIFE. WHAT I AM SAYING IS U R TRYING TO PLAY PROTECTOR ROLE BUT NIGGA TRY TO HAVE YOUR OWN SHITT AND DON'T BE A FINGER IN EVERY FRUIT. I HAVE A TREMENDOUS RESPECT TO ALL SOMALI BROTHERS. SO DON'T ATTACK ME LIKE THAT WAY IF U WANNA DO YOUR THINGS DO YOUR THINGS AND GIVE RESPECT. HIBO IS LL FOR YOU OK. BUT YOU ARE LIVING LIKE A BIOLOGICAL PERISITE.
I GET YOU NIGGA. |
| MAD MAC | Monday, October 23, 2000 - 02:35 am
I've got plenty of women friends, including two Somali women who would never have a romantic relationship with a gaal. I'm also good friends with the mother of my son (and her husband). I am also sharing an apartment with my ex-girlfriend (along with my current girlfriend). Of course men and women can be friends. I've got a million women friends. I was best man at a women friend of mines wedding last year. |
| AmiSTadgirl | Monday, October 23, 2000 - 06:23 am
MadMac.  You are sharing an apartment with ur ex-girlfriend and ur current girlfriend?lol. BOy oh Boy, even the Biggest Playa Wouldn't do such a Thing...Haven't ya read the "Playaz' BOOK" . Then u ought to take more notes in this case.lol. Bringing a Water and Fire in the same Roof. Sorry MAC but that just doesn't MIX.....Its like Suger and Salt..Ya see the drift?...The solution that come's is just not what u expected nor what u wanna find out.
Peace |
| Rear-end | Monday, October 23, 2000 - 06:54 am
Mad Mac...i would love to believe your fairy tale...ur ex n current under the same....are yu nuts?
well people i think friendship can develop between a man n a woman as long as they keep themselves in check...i do have a few real nice somali male freinds...n none of them ever hit on me....my boyfreind gets jeolous though everytime i hang or talk my male buddies...so i have to do some balancing act. |
| jiijo_jiip | Monday, October 23, 2000 - 01:42 pm
aniza
sis take my advice,never be friend with chick,cuz of many reasons,you know what i'm talking about aight,my self i've got lots of guy friends,but never interested to have chick friend, cuz guys are better than chicks you know why,,,cuz no war sheeg sheeg or sh*i*t like that,
peace ya'll |
| MAD MAC | Tuesday, October 24, 2000 - 01:14 am
Rear end
Am I nutz? Hmmmmmmm. That question has been posed to me frequently both on this forums and otherwise. I don't know. some people say I'm nuts. I prefer to think that I see things with a clarity that most people lack. then of course, everyone who's crazy thinks that. You'll have to decide for yourself.
Amistadgirl
Actually, it's not as crazy as it sounds. My ex and I broke up 12 years ago. We've been sharing an apartment on and off for six years. We're just roomates. We haven't had sex since 1988. My ex and my current are friends. They are not competetors. My ex has helped my current in a lot of ways. Also, my ex has a boyfriend who while he has his own place might as well move in too, for all the time he spends at our place. Lucky it's a big place. So in this case it's not an issue. I realize for a Somali this would be outlandish, but there are no Somalis in this mix. Although my previous girlfriend was a Somali and she didn't have a problem with it. |
| hodan | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 01:35 am
hell no no way a man and a woman can not be friends...yeah friends by just saying hi and hi but nothing more ti that i personaliy against that... i bet you u wanna know okey 'ill ya this only happen couple dayz ago....i had one best friend in this wold and that a man best like e was my brother i even used to take to my mums house everydody thoug that was boyfriend yeah i never used hang about with somalia girls but finnally that man had a big crush on he was one of the somalia poys i ever met walaah i ask my self shall i go out with him not but friendship loved him tooo much but we are goodfriends
brothers and sisters remember a man or waman if they come close they are up to som trust |
| Anonymous | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 08:49 am
rear end you mean your gay fellow male friend? i read a respond you gave to someone and it was gross.You are not a girl only girl in a boys body,drag queen.No somali girl can talk the way you do.Hey dont hate me if i observed da truth. |
| CharLiezAngeL | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 12:45 pm
I've got 1 thing 2 say:
MISSION IMPOSSIBLE!
Either u fall 4 them or they fall 4 u, i've been on both the giving n receiving end. |
