     sista | Sunday, October 29, 2000 - 06:55 am
First of all people, I don't want my boobs enlarged, or have my butt reduced, or lift my face, or whever it is that people have done to themselves.
I want to have plastic surgery to imrove my back. About ten years ago I burnt myself while I was playing, not just a little burn but about 75% of my back. It's totally horrible, and it feels like plastic. I don't have any mirrors in my room and I never look at myself from the side, I hate it. I'm constantly paraniod at weddings, incase my gabarsaar falls of and people might see my back through it. I could never let anyone see what I look like behind the clothes.
I recently found out that there is a plastic surgery form of operation, that can give me a beautiful smooth back which is identical to skin. this is like a miracel, but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do, even if I want it so badly. Some somali people have told me that it is haram or something, and will i be called 'fake'? I just don't know, what would you do? |
| Bro | Sunday, October 29, 2000 - 07:43 am
SALAAM MY SISTER
DO WHAT IS GOOD FOR YOU AND WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
GOOD LUCK MY SISTA AND REMEMBER ONE THING YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT....BEAUTY IS SKIN DEEP |
| Someone who cares. | Sunday, October 29, 2000 - 08:40 am
Sista you should know for one thing that,never go by what people want.Go by what YOU want.For second thing, you dont have to ask for us that question,because honestly its something that is none of our business.Saying this respectively of course.The surgery looks like an important step to your self esteem recovery and its a big deal to you.My advice is,go make a deep research on the particular surgery.For instance look out for doctors that are more experienced with the line of surgery.The clinics that perform it and all the essential requirements to have such operation,prepare yourself by looking at your diet and skin application for the surgery.Look up the doctors names and ask questions.
You do not have to seek an approval green light sis,its not like you are asking a moral validation on the surgery. The surgery seems like a vital necessity to your happiness.Good luck in every decision you make- sis, remember this, PEOPLE OR SOMALI PEOLE ARE IRRELEVANT.Make sure you seek counsel from your family and moral support.They are RELEVANT.
Good Luck sis ! |
| AmiSTadgirl | Sunday, October 29, 2000 - 06:22 pm
Someone WhoCare...well done..I couldn't have said any better.....Great advise there!!
Sista Its all about what You want.....What pleases u. Make a decision knowing it concerns on u. Not others amd how they feel about it or what they think about it. Good luck walaashiis' thought...and Hope u get the best Support there from ALLah and ya family.
Peace |
| Sista44 | Monday, October 30, 2000 - 02:51 pm
Sista
I agree with everything that has been said so far.
I know that its definately not haram!! so go 4 it if that is what u really want.
But make sure u know all the consequences of the surgery sis.
Peace
N good luck whatever u decide!! |
| Qawrax | Monday, October 30, 2000 - 04:47 pm
Sista:
Please be advised that there is risk involved
in all types of surgery.
If you decide to have the reconstructive surgery
done, please make sure that the surgeon is
board- certified and that he/she is competent to do the job.
Good luck, Sista! |
| Africanni | Tuesday, October 31, 2000 - 12:47 pm
I do not think there is anything wrong trying to reconstruct part of your body that is damaged as a result of an accident. If this was a natural deformity I will have advised you against it. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, November 01, 2000 - 03:38 pm
wow somewhocares bravo! sista you heard the man |
| Devils_love | Wednesday, November 01, 2000 - 04:24 pm
My prayers and thoughs are with u...i hope u get this thing behind u once and for all...remember there is nothing wrong with being burnt ...it is not your fault....certainly looks are not that important...when it comes to your over all health...so sister ...please carefully select a good surgion.....stay away from the scammers.......there are tons. of them out there...and best of luck........
..no matter what ....i will always pray for u...hope my prayers are accepted....
your friend
Devils_love |
| somaliman | Wednesday, November 01, 2000 - 06:54 pm
I pray for u too sista,Insha allah u will get what u want .
Best of luck |
| MENOFWISDOM | Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 02:51 am
Look sista , it is HARAM to take away, change or divert something that God gave you...but in your case this skin burnt is not a gift from Allah. It was an accident and it happened to change the beauty of your skin...So do it as long as it makes
you feel comfortable. |
| Nura | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 07:39 am
Salamaat Sista...
You got the best answers that ever seen in this forums.....I agree with all of them I wouldn't say more.
For sure i know is not HARAM.
All the best,
Nura |
| YOUR BROS | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 09:39 am
Asallaamu Allaykum...
We (a group of your bros)agreed with what our other bros/sisters said about the advise you asked for, and we are delighted the way they expressed their feeling and sympathy for you.
our prayers are with you, and make sure that you find a professional surgery competent for the skin surgery field, and again we are very glad the answers given in this forums and lets keep this forums to be discussed an issues based on fact, wisdom and something usefull for our community where ever they are.
Good luck dear. |
| zsa | Friday, November 10, 2000 - 01:07 pm
Salam
Corrective surgery is not HARAM. Since it's not a matter of enhancing your look I think it's ok and everyone here seem to agree. But I would like you to consider the reasons you want to have the surgery. Do you want to be more attractive? Feel self confident? Or just be your old self again? In any case, I hope you make the best choice and remember Allah is with you. The answer lies within you and be proud of who you are no matter what. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, November 15, 2000 - 12:03 pm
devils love? |
| sista | Wednesday, November 15, 2000 - 02:01 pm
THANK YOU ALL, FOR HELPING ME CHOOSE A LITTLE BIT. |
