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     | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 08:24 am All I wanna ask is that why the sisters are rushing us to marry them from the 2nd date or the second time you speak to them over the phone. You meet the girl today and the next day she says come and see my dad or she use some old tricks from the book. Give me a break let’s get to know each other first. You can’t rush those things those things come along. Am not trying to diss my Somali queens I just wanna find an answer. So if you have a dissent answer please replay. And please no diss respect no one.
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 08:27 am You do not need an answer man cuz you are wrong that is not true simple as that. From my expearience isthe other way around.
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 12:12 pm dear EDY, i agree perfectly with what you stated above. i believe marriege should not be taken so lightly as i see it happening today. but you seem to be blaming it all on us girls. the only reason why i think that people rush these things are that they get pregnant or something like that. to my believes i say that both parties should be compatible and ready to make that life time decisions, they should take things slowly and carefuly. i hope i have answered your ? to your satisfaction.
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 01:12 pm EDY sorry but that aint true, I mean who wants to get to the altar like a lightening? Being a free agent and living big is the bom hon. Bye.
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 01:16 pm So this is the question you had to ask? what a waste of time and I thought you were going to ask something good.
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 04:13 pm EDY: I find this to be a problem, but with the men...all the guys I have dated asked me to marry me (walaahi) no joke. I have never brought the topic up with any of my b/f...but as soon as I say no, it seems I have damaged their ego beyond repair and refuse to talk to me. This I find extremely childish, if nothing else, we could still remain friends am I right? Wrong it would seem. I would love to find a brother that didn't propose to me a couple of weeks into our relationship...however "what you want and what you get, are two different things".
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 07:34 pm BRO NO ONE RUSHES. MID WAA "QOF AAN BARI KU BARAN BARYO KUMA BARATID" MIDEEDA KALE WE ARE MUSLIM. DATING WAA LEYS DATE GAREEYAA RAGA QAAR AYAA DHAHA DATE WAXA AY RABAAN HABEEN KASTA OO SUTURDAY AH IN AY MOVIE, CLUB AY KUU WADAAN AFTER COUPE MONTHS AY KU DHAHAAN HIT THE ROAD. NINKA SHARAF KAA RABA YOU WILL KNOW FIRST TIME. MIDEEDA KALENA WAA RESPONSIBLITY GUUR. QALAD HA FAHMIN THINK TWICE BEFORE U ANDSER THAT QUESTION. BECAUSE MARKA AY GABADHAHA QAAR AYAA KUGU TEST GAREYNAAYA AYAANA RABA KNOWLEKAADA AMA QOFKAAS MEESHA AY KAA TAAGAN TAHAY IN AY ARGTO. BE CARE FUL.
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| | Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 11:20 pm Eddy, Bro no surprise you got all the heat. It's true that both parties may initiate the proposal, but categoricaly it has been a woman's top wish list to get married than most men. Eventhough, here you are discussing Somali women, but let me broaden the scope, it's not a Somali woman thing, Western societies share with us too. I may sound chauvinist, but this has been until recently a widely held believe that woman should get married young, because they won't be able to conceive children after certain age. But, Gosh why children are such a priority more than anything else? To the extent that woman should rush into undiscovered grounds. Yes, I recall the California gold rush, but infact did many people find gold, and lived happily ever after in bliss? That I don't know...
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| | Sunday, December 17, 2000 - 05:50 am Thanks to every one how respond to my article. But am not having a go at my Somali sister's I love my Somali sister's. It’s a thing that come across me quit a lot and made me amazed, or it is that am falling for someone’s else time(as Joe said). I just wanted an answer. Am not afraid of commitment, but you need to know each other well and that’s take a time or u will end up regretting it for the rest of your life. And for those how find my question a waste of time it look like you need to open your mind a little bit extra. The problem is that We as a Somali Men and Women have a big wall between them so every party throwing the blame on the other party we need to be more understandable and educated. And finally peace and love my lovely Somali Sisters and Brothers.
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| | Sunday, December 17, 2000 - 06:03 am Thanks to every one how respond to my article. But am not having ago at my Somali sister I love my Somali sister. It’s a thing that come across me quit a lot and made me amazed, or it is that am falling for some one’s else time. I just wanted an answer. and i understand that girl's will test you all the time to get to know you, but when you have in 1 years 5-6 girls ask you the same thing, you ganna say to your self hold on wait a minute. Am not afraid of commitment, but you need to know each other well and that’s take a time or u will end up regretting it for the rest of your life. And for those how find my question a waste of time it look like you need to open your mind a little bit extra. The problem is that We as a Somali Men and Women have a big wall between them so every party throwing the blame on the other party we need to be more understandable and educated. And finally peace and love my lovely Somali Sisters and Brothers.
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| | Sunday, December 17, 2000 - 03:03 pm TO EDDY ASK DUH HE THE OLDERST SISTER IN THE NET.
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| | Sunday, December 17, 2000 - 03:45 pm to EDY: where on earth do u live? cuz there are no somalian girls who rush guys to marry them. acually guys are the one who bush us to marry them. i am sick and tired ot them! they call u and the next night they say to u "i love u and i wanna come to your daddy" get a life boy! your in the wrong world!!!!LOLOLOLOL
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| | Sunday, December 17, 2000 - 06:42 pm ADy hold on hold on bro,this sould be about somali manz huh,i guess you are single father no offence ,lol,hey i'm only 19 yearz and i don't wanna get married for the next 10 yearz.why marry when you can date as longs you want huh.not me, whateva,lol bro EDY allow me to guess thangz around here cuz your stroy is kinda of gloomy,my be you were the one who was rushing the gal huh,cuz most of somali manz are like that, bro don't tripp, peaceeeeee africanich,
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| | Sunday, December 17, 2000 - 06:46 pm EDY...........be happy and smille with that wooden long hanging teeth,no offence.......lol smille smille  .whink whink eheeeeeee ha ha ha.whatevaaaaaaaaa.
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 01:06 am Here we go again, it is typical that my lovely Somali people are judging me without even knowing me. Some said am a single father or some said I have got my teeth are hanging out my face. But only few people understand my point AND MY POINT IS TO HAVE A DISSENT CONVERSATION WITH MY SISTERS and to open our minds.Insted of us dissing each other or talking about qabil. If some people their brain does not reach my level so tough luck ain’t my problem. And about some brothers how rush things and say I love and marry you from the second time or when it is to early well we are all not the same and if some people are sad that does not mean it apply to every Somali brother. Peace & love
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 02:18 am EDY, U are right. When I hear the word, guur, or marriage, even a hint of it, I drop the woman like a bad habit. I seriously doubt you can really get to know a person within a few months. I believe that you will really get to know a person after seeing them for at least 3 years. If she brings up marriage, she has a case for committment. I can say that most women who run into marriage seem to be insecure. What can they know about a man that they have known for 3 months ? Oh, he comes from a good family ? Or he's got a good job ? First of all, she is not marrying his parents, I know many guys who are bad azzes and come from good families. His job is his and not your's. I got to split now. Later Folks.... AbdiNur
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 02:48 am Everyone has their on minds therefore no one can rush anybody to do what they don't want to do, I don't care who it is female or male you are grown and the desition is yours....
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 04:07 am This is Bigpimpin. I wonder if any girl interested in living together instead of marrying stuff? in dutch language they vastigheid is lastigheid, which means eternity is difficulty, so drop the marriage •••• and let's have gangbang parties aight. If you don't agree then I suggest u 2 get marry ASAP aight, (Free your mind) award goes to Bigpimpin. I'm out
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 07:18 am Eddy I think the reason some girls are rushing to get married is simple, is the same reason the good guys are rushing too. In Muslim we are not allow to date and sleep around together as much as we want...So I guess the only answer left is to get married or leave each other alone. I found hard to believe our queens are pushing anyone for marriage, shouldn't we wait the guy to ask us first, any girl who's doing what this guy is talking about I would advise you not to ever ask a guy to marry you because the reality is the minute you do that he's going to think you cheep when your worth more than gold. bye.
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 07:20 am Ani waa yabanahay! inteena Guur waa wax wayn manalagu dagdago. honesly there is a ppl both side.Who brigs the Guur thing Islamrkiiba qofkaan iskabaro isaga iyo dad kiisaba meesha ka yimid his/her backgrund i don't mean qabiil,Siduu u dhaqmo, then markaas kadib hadii aykula muuqato inaad laqabsan karto dabecadiisa,Intee ucarareeysin aduunyo orad malugu gaaro.
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| | Monday, December 18, 2000 - 11:30 am to rahma: i agree with u sis. why ask a man to marry u. i dont belive that any somalian girl would ask a man to marry her. i just dont! like u say if u ask a man to marry u, he'll think that you are some cheap girl and probably leave u. girls dont ever be that tender to man, dont even say i love u or say good things to him cuz he'll think your cheap or your obsessed with him. peace
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| | Tuesday, December 19, 2000 - 04:12 am EDY:I NOW WE ONLY JUST MET BUT COULD YOU PLEASE MARRY ME? LLOOOOLLLL
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| | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 04:19 am EDY could it be just that u soooooooooooooo marriage materail.Just kidding bro not all our sisters wanna marry somone after one or two dates no it is not true at all bro so as there is no answer to your Q i would say u generelasing the sisters.
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| | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 04:59 am TOTALLY AGREE WITH LAYLEEN, I DON'T THINK THERE'S ANY SOMALI SIS WHO WANNE MARRY SOME1 AFTER BEING WITH FOR 2 DAYS OR EVEN A MONTH. SO STOP CHATTING & ASK BETTER QUESTION NEXT TIME.
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| | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 09:14 pm MINNEAPOLIS SOMALI COMMUNITY DON'T MISS AID PARTY OF ALL ON WEDNESDAY DEC 27, 2000 AT 2630 UNIVERSITY AVE SE. FOR MORE INFO GO TO www.SomaliHotline.com Or check what is going on your area by simply going to www.SomaliHotline.com.......Thank you
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 01:18 am well honey sorry i have to say this but u gat ur self a point. and this is how i feel. i hate to get marry and in sted i wanna have an adducation and fun, but that does not meen evry one is the same and bro in sted of techen somalian ladys how to dizrespect man or how to smoke or how to •••• a round or wors it is just better if she gat her self a man who she can see to marry him.me well diffrent case cause as i say i hete to get marry i meen can u plam me it is one man the rest of ur life and maybe some one u dont know a lot or if he is funny or romantic or adducatet or who is going to take u long ride or buy u dinner or just wanna bee a round u cause u made hime feel some body that or then when i fine him is when i am going to get marry and suger pai if i were u i would have doen the same. just ignor the ones who just wanna bee with u for all the resones. love nuaal. or if u have more question or u didt understand me this is my e mail. nuaal@yahoo.dk
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 01:23 am Sahra, How can you ask a man to marry you! Have you asked yourself, how do we ask women to marry us. No wonder we argue about equal sharing in the family later on. It's about time you girls get real, this is the 21st century.
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| | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 08:11 pm Sagittarius even if it's 21 century, do u forget that as Somali ppl we have culture that men have to ask women to marry. Nuaal i agree with u sis, i always ask my self how can i spend the rest of my life with someone.
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| | Saturday, December 23, 2000 - 07:11 pm ady yo bro no hard feelingz about me saying the single father thang aight.i was only jokking.........sorry....whink whink. remember freaky girl'z advice marry AsAP... and lose the weight......shoot me lol ...aight peaceeeeeeeeeeeeee africanich
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| | Sunday, December 24, 2000 - 05:47 am TO SIS WHAT IF WE DON'T ASK U 4 MARRIAGE? TO BRO DON'T ASK THEM 4 SEX SO THEY WON'T RUSH U !!!!!!
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| | Sunday, December 24, 2000 - 08:56 pm Sag.....what does the 21st century got to do with marriage proposal........its always been and will always be the man who proposes to the woman...... Freaky-Gal.........girl i am 18 and i would love to get married b4 i turn 19....which is 3 weeks from now.....lol AbdiNur.......brotha have u thought about it this way........when u r with some1 for 3 years.......isnt there has to be something that keeps the relationship alive.......like sex.......i mean i am sorry to say this but love with no sex is not complete......and sex b4 marriage is XARAAM.......is this ringing a bell........i guess thats why girlz r rushing to get married..........and besides......there r pple that i know who've been together more than 5 years but neva got married.......instead they r married to others......and others....like my brother who's been with his wife for 2 months b4 they got married and they r happily ever after!!!..........its all nasiib brotha so it dont matter if u know her for 3 years or 3 months........u'll completely know her when u share bed with her and wake up with her in the morning and go to sleep with her at nite.....live in da same house i mean!!!! by the way..........girls who say we wanna get education and have fun........who said u cant have fun and get ur education if u r married.........i dream of having a husband....having lots and lots of fun.....and having a career oneday insha allah.........and i will get all those things one day insha allah!!!! salaam and eid wanaagsan
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| | Monday, December 25, 2000 - 01:40 am Honesgirl taket easy girl, u are only 19 how come u are horny all ready.
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| | Monday, December 25, 2000 - 01:45 am honestg who said u are 18 years. You know what i thing.........u are more then 18 baby so tell the truth. Girl talking this way like ny mom ohh there must be something honey.
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| | Monday, December 25, 2000 - 08:02 am Anonymous look at this way she's smart and that has nothing to do with age it comes natural.
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| | Monday, December 25, 2000 - 08:15 pm lol @ anon1 & anon2 Rahma......thanx sweety  Adios
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| | Thursday, January 11, 2001 - 10:02 pm i had a similar situation happen ta me g three somali and one otha chick wanna marry me rite now guys and gals so i guess i dont wanna 4th one so should i cherish tha three or jus stick wit ma self and drop them three lol well i guess i yam platinum betta than gold lol so ladies pls dont ask me ta marry u coz u kno i got 4 ladiez plus myself wit me so well edy whasup bro do u need one lol i yam out peaceeeeeee love for ma broz and sistaz ciao
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| | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 02:19 pm Edy, I and other sisters can tell you from experience...that it definately happens the other way around much much more, no offence bro Saqittarius, I like your way of thinkin' bro!
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| | Wednesday, January 24, 2001 - 10:22 am If a girl or a guy feels that this person could be it,why not ask?I also think that when it comes to girls,ppl will gossip about her and say all kind of ugly stuff.A mean i always hear ppl talk bout girls that are not married etc and u will never here them say something bout the guys i just think girls who say that r just afraid to damage there honour. c ya
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| | Wednesday, January 24, 2001 - 10:49 am Waar yaahee, waar gabdhuhu waa gabdheheenii dee...dee ••• na way rabaan ...waana dad muslim ah oo waxay rabaan inay ku xalaalaystaan...miyaadan intaa fahmi karin ....waar wuxu khashiinsanaa
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| | Wednesday, January 24, 2001 - 08:33 pm Edy, when you find your soul-mate, you will want to get married right away. Before that, it is just one meaningless relationship after another. Good luck bro.
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 04:55 am TO EDDY i think you need to realise that a somali girls reputaion is everything (or should be) so if she's with a guy she needs to know that he serious and he's not just using her, i think that we as somali girls r scared that if you're with a guy for a while and he doesn't mention marriage that means that he is messing you about and he'll talk about u and tell everyone that you are together. I think it boils down to how fragile a girls reputation is or how mean somali men can be by lying about the relationship he has had with the girl. peace out hope you find it helpful write back if you need more answers
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 08:43 am TO EDDY: YOU ARE RIGHT BRO. THERE ARE A LOT OF HORNY SOMALI GIRLS OUTHERE. RUN RUN RUN AWAY LOL FOR REAL IT'S TRUE YOU GOT TO WAIT BEFORE YOU RUSH INTO ANYTHING. I'M GLAD TO SEE THERE ARE STILL GOOD BROTHERS LIKE YOU OUTHERE. DON'T LET ANYWOMEN RUSH YOU INTO WHAT YOU DON'T. TO SAGITARIUS I AGREE WITH YOU TOO THIS IS 21 CENTURY GIRL SHOULD ASK TOO. I THINK IS ACTUALLY MORE EXCITING IF A GIRL ASK FIRST. AND WE NEED TO CHANGE THE OLD STEROU TYPES. WE SAY WE WANT EQUALITY BUT THE SAME TIME WANT THE MAN TO DO EVERYTHING. HONEST GIRL YOU'RE 19 YEARS OLD?? WHAT THE •••• ARE YOU RUSHING FOR?? FINGER YOURSELF OR SOMETHING IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX. AND SAYING YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING WHEN YOU'RE MARRIED. YOU'RE RIGHT YOU CAN. BUT NOT IF YOU MARRY FOR THE SEX?? GIRL COOL IT ARIGHT TAKE IT EASY GET INTO A COLD SHOWER. PEACE
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 09:29 am Qamaan lol dhibcaha casaanka ah ayaa ku adag ee u soo kala dhig dhig
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 01:21 pm CARMEL... YOU BITCH YOU DON'T SEEM TO AMAZE ME...
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