     ASAD | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 05:29 pm
I WONDER WHY SOMALI WOMEN LOST THE HOPE AND DESIRE TO GET FAMLY. I THINK THE REASON IS SOMALI WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR ESCAPE GOT FOR THEIRE OWN PROBLEM. WOMEN CAN NOT RESOLVE HER EMOTIONAL PROBLEM. SOMALI WOMEN ARE SO EMOTIONAL
THAN REALITY. I FEEL SORRY FOR OUR SISTER WHO DELAY MARRIAGE BY SAYING THEY CAN NOT FED KIDS OR BY SAYING THEY CAN NOT TAKE CARE OF KIDS BECAUSE OF ECONOMIC SITUATION.
SOMALI WOMEN ALWAYS LOOK FOR ESCAPE GOAT TO BLINDLY ACCUSE SOMALI MEN IN GENERAL. WOMEN DO NOT TRUST MEN AT ALL, WHY?
MEN HAVE THEIRE WEAKNESS TOO, BUT WOMEN ASK TO MUCH, WE AS A HONEST SOMALI MEN ARE ASKING SOMALI WOMEN TO CHANGE THEIRE FAULTY ATTITUTE TOWARD SOMALI MEN AND WORK HARD TO UNDERSTAND OUR EMOTIONAL AND PERSONAL NEEDS
I AM FED UP HEARING SOMALI WOMEN COMPLAIN ON MEN.I ALWAY ASK MYSELF WHEN THIS PROBLEM WILL BE RESOLVE.
DISAPOINTED BROTHER |
| Guilty | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 06:09 pm
I agree with you, that there is a problem
but we have to find out how we can solve
this problem then getting angry
Most of our sister's are knew to western
and they are having culture problem. |
| Hana | Wednesday, December 20, 2000 - 07:56 pm
I don't know where the hell u c Somali women that can't fed her kid or take care of her family.
All Somali women are hard work and of core strong.
Let me tell u something the problem that we have is the men. They are the one who don't take care of their wife's and kids.You Somali guys have no respect for ur wife's and u don't even give complement to ur wifs.
Did u said u as honest Somali men.....oh pleeease give me a break will ya.
The only thing i want to tell u guys is be nice to ur wife's,treat them right, give them support and of cores respect them.
I feel sorry for Somali women. |
| Anonymous | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 12:31 am
HANA BABE I AGREE 100%
THEY ARE USELESS |
| real sis | Thursday, December 21, 2000 - 07:10 pm
Hana go girl, they all are selfish. |
| lucky | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 11:40 am
well i just think that it's really hard for somali women to express their feelings to somali men because they can't understand us. Sorry to say this boys but you all need to try a little harder to tell your sisters how you feel. They don't read minds. so please tell them how you feel and maybe you too will get the favor in return. |
| Mercutio- | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 12:08 pm
SO FAR THE ONLY PERSON WHO MADE A POINT IS ASAD.
THE REST IS CHIPPERISH.
TRY AGAIN.
ESPECIALLY THE SISTERS AND YOU TALK ABOUT EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS. |
| YOUR FAITHFULL SOMALI BROTHER | Friday, December 29, 2000 - 09:51 pm
AS GOOD AND HONEST SOMALI BROTHER , SISTER I HAVE PROBLEM FINDING A GOOD LADY FOR FUTURE. I AM TIRED OF DATING AND LYING FOR MYSELF. I CAN NOT BE SINGLE ANYMORE. I AM TIRED OF BEING SINGLE HERE IN NORTH AMERICA. SOMETIMES I FEEL GUILTY,AND SOMETIMES I DO SIN. SISTER DO NOT BLAME ME IN GENERAL.BESIDE BLAME MY SELF I BLAME EVEN SOMALI SISTER FOR NOT TRUST MEN ANYMORE. I CAN NOT READ THE MINDOF EVERYWOMAN ON EARTH BUT I CAN UNDERSTAND THE EMOTION, OUR SISTERS ARE NOT OPEN MINDED. SECONDLY OUR SISTER ARE NOT READY TO TALK SEX. WHY U SISTER DO NOT TRUST ALLAH AND GET MARRRIED.PLEASE HELP ME AND GIVE ME ADVICE ON HOW TO UNDERSTAND WOMAN, I LOVE YOU TO MUCH AND I MISS YOU
N.P PLEASE NO INSULT AND NO NEGATIVE COMMENT
ASALAMU CALAYKUM
YOUR TRUELY BROTHER ASAD |
| HANA | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 07:03 pm
To Somali bro
Even its hard sisters to find a good Somali bro for the future. Especially in North America. The only advice i can give u is express ur feeling, tell ur girl how much u love her,give her complement,always appreciate, respect and show her how much u care,make her happy. Sisters and brothers u have to express ur feeling to each other coz no one can read mind.I wish u guys a Happy New year.Somali bro i hope u find the right girl,but i am telling u its hard to find the right Person, its going to take forever,any way GOOD LUCK. |
| ambiyo ali | Saturday, December 30, 2000 - 08:13 pm
Ambiyo,
waa idin salaamey dhamaantii meelkasta aad joogtaan.
ASAD ayaan u jawaabayaaa,walal warka aad leedahay hooyo somaliyeed wax ma korinkarto ama caruurteeda ma daryeeleyso. walal waxaan ku sheegayaa hooyada maanta north America in ay caruurteeda ay daryeesho dhib ugu horto waayo maanta nimanka north america waxay ay tarayaan baa iska yar hal mida baa moodaa inu reerkiisa wax taryo.ninka reerkiisa wax u tarayo faan ma ah ee wuu ku khasban yahay.
ee ma laga helaa nimanka somaliyeed in ay xaaskooda iyo caruurtooda ay wax u qabtaan.
waxaa jirta markaa xaasku u foolanyo ay caruurta hore ugu qaadato taxsiga ay yeeratey.
marka ninkaas maxuu reer ka ogyahay isagaba saaqid ah.
marka walal hooyo waa in ay caruurteeda ay ogaato in mustaqab leeyihiin dhinac kasta hooyada ayaa dalooleysaa xitta baahida abbe iyada dhexda dhiisha isaga dhigeysaa.Asadow ma aha inaad dumar ka ka sheegitd ee dib wax isugu sheega hadaad tihii raga reerkooda wax tarayaa.
alla maxaa nin carada jooga oo murwo wanaagsan qabaa.
ninkii reerkiisa jecel waa in haddii ay umultahay caruurta wax ka koriyo ma ah inguriga loo soo riixo iyaduna oo umul ah ay gaariga caruurta ku jiido kii yarka ahaana ay seexiso si ay u soo dhaqsato,sidee bey qofkaas kaalmo u helayaa.ma kii maqnaa baa loo kaalmeeyaa mise kii guriga loo soo riixey baa loo dulqaataa.
hooyo caruurteeda diyaar bey u tahay waana korsaneysaa.bal ragow i misa ayaa la idin qarinyaa.waxaa jirta in dumarka qaarkooda ay ka xishoonayaan in ninkooda ay cayrshaan,qaarna ciil baa hayo wey cayrinayaa waayo xal kale uma hayaan cil dartiisa xaasidnimo naxariis la,aan ayuu la ag joogaa.
weli lama hayo nin intuu soo shaqeysto gurigiisa toos u soo gelaayo ma hayo.
waa in ay donut ay soo fariistaan wejiga ay ku dhaqdaan donutka washing roomka maxay ka carayaan in ay kaalmeeyaan reerkooda ayey diidan yihiin kaasi waa kan guriga loo soo riixo,iyadoo umulna ah caruurta dugsiyada geyneyso mark u fiirso waxaa ku hadleysid asadow.
raali ahaada caadifada ayaa i qaadey walalayaal.
salamaa |
| POWERGIRL | Tuesday, January 23, 2001 - 10:59 am
hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa what a losers!!!!! Look who is talking!!!!!!! OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH NNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooo as a young somalian girl I would say all of u MEN are such LOSERS,SELfish and (NOthing But Nothing)I wonder why somalin women are scare to get marry..... hahaha. Tel me who should we marry????????????? simple no one cause u guys are nothing........
All somalina ladys are hard workers and responsible they are the ones who take GOOD Care of the Kids and still do everythings for u guys so I think it's time for u losers to woke up and say thanks to ur sisters...... look in North America all the women are sigle mothers!!!! WHERE THE HELL ARE THE MEN???????? ASK ur self THIS question. all the ladeis are taking care of the kinds by themselves when they should be taking care of the kids together....... I think u need to think little more, before u say anything about the somalin ladeis.........
The girls they don't wanna be like their mother or sister cause her father leave the family when she was in her mother's tummy or even few months...
GIRLS WE NEED TO BUY NEW SOMALINA GUYS/////////////END BYE AND PEACE OUT ALL YA..... |
| CARAMEL | Tuesday, January 23, 2001 - 11:24 am
TO POWERGIRL, YOU GO GIRL, SAID EVERYTHING I WANTED TO SAY.
ASAD, FIRST OF ALL WHY DO WE WANT TO RUSH INTO MARRIEAGE, YOU FUCKING WAITED TILLS YOU'RE LATE 30'S.
SECONDLY, YOU WONDER WHY WE DON'T WANT TO RUSH INTO MARRIAGE,
RUSH TOOO WHAAAT????? A MAN WITH NO INTELLIGENT, EDUCATION, FINANCIAL STABILITY,
KNOWING NOTHING ABOUT INTAMACY (AND FOR FUCKING SAKE DON'T TELL ME YOU SOMALI GUYS ARE GOOD IN THE SACK, BECAUSE YOU AINT ALRIGHT??, MAYBE A FEW OF YOU, USUALLY YOUNG SOMALI BRO)
IN ANY CASE, WE SOMALI WOMEN, GOT OUR EYES OPENED, SEEN THAT THESE DAYS, YOU FUCKING DON'T NEED A MAN (EXCEPT FOR THAT THING DOWN THERE  )
MARRIEAGE IS A SERIOUS THINK, NOT A JOKE, OR JUST TO GET MARRIED TO HAVE KIDS OR TO FUCKING CLEAN FOR YOU,
EASY FOR YOU TO SAY YOU'RE NOT GOING TO BE THE ONE RAISING THE KID, YOU'LL PROBABLY LEAVE TILLS SHE DELIVERES THE CHILD, AND YOU WONDER WHY WE DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED???
DAMN BRO YOU JUST MAKE ME SICK.
TO ALL THE SISTA, LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING, BE INDEPENDED, GET YOUR EDUCATION, CAREER, MONEY, HOUSE, CAR ETC. WHEN YOU HAVE ALL THOSE THINGS YOU'LL SEE, MEN WILL BE JUST ONE OF THE GOODS YOU WANT TO HAVE IT, BUT NOT THAT IMPORTAT
PEACE |
| Liyana | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 04:48 pm
Asalamu alykum
Asad you
"I THINK THE REASON IS SOMALI WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR ESCAPE GOT FOR THEIRE OWN PROBLEM.
I FEEL SORRY FOR OUR SISTER WHO DELAY MARRIAGE BY SAYING THEY CAN NOT FED KIDS OR BY SAYING THEY CAN NOT TAKE CARE OF KIDS BECAUSE OF ECONOMIC SITUATION. "
Bro i think it goes the other way. Plus you see before girls use to get married at the age of 14-19.
So tell me asad are you saying by getting education or doing something with your life in order to help out our future family is a bad thing.
You probably had a bad experience with some somali girls who (dumped ya maybe) so don't take it out on us. Not all somali women are like that
Peace
Liyana |
| LiberalLady | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 08:26 pm
I take the question is, why are Somali women delaying marriage?
In order to address such a question, we have to go back to the way our ppl lived. In back home, most men waited to get married until they were in their late 30's. They would go outside the country to work and come back home with few dollars. Then they would go hunt for a young girl. Lyana, this where your comment comes in earlier about the 14 year old girls getting married. The man then would ask the father of the girl to marry her and the father would say "SHOW ME THE MONEY" and he does as he was told, then deal was done. The male relatives eat "CHAD" the groom gets himself the child bride. Everyone is happy except the girl. He stays for a month and leaves her pregnant to work outside the country. The girl is left with in-laws who make her life as miserable as possible. So, she calls her husband for sympathy and he responds her "NAYA HADAAD AFKAAGA FOOSHA XUN XIDHIWAYDO, SEDEXDII DALAAQADOOD AYAAN KUFURI". She cries and says that she'll behave. About 10 years later he comes in town and decides that 24 is just too old and won't do. So, gets another fresh 14 year old. Meanwhile the first wife gets jealous. He divorces and kicks her out the house with the child. She is 24 with a child and no education. So, she finds herself selling goods in the market to support herself and her child. That's how her life is destroyed by the men she thought would care for her. UNHAPPILY EVER AFTER.
Now, let's talk about the present day in this part of the world, mainly North America and Western Europe. The girls here have the opportunity to go to school and educate themselves. They attend the same school as the guys, they get relative incomes. In other words, the women are independent and their fathers can't force them to get marry at the age of 14. The man on the other hand are not liking this. When a man is his late 30's approaches a 24 year old woman, she says that he is too old for her and she wants someone her own age. Remember, a 24 year old is consider an "OLD MAID" back home which begs the question. Are woman delaying marriage or are we saying no to child/long life abuse? Women are waiting to get marry until they finish their education and get financially secure. History though us not to depend on men. It's not that women don't want to get marry, they just want to make sure they have something to fall back on if the marriage doesn't work. There is nothing wrong with getting your life together b4 u get marry. It's easy for the man to complain and say just get marry, but it is the woman who is left with five children to raise by herself when the marriage fails.
TO THE MEN: TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHERE THE WOMEN ARE COMING FROM BEFORE U POST SOMETHING LIKE THIS. I DIDN'T MEAN TO OFFEND ANYBODY AND IF I HAVE, MY APOLOGY.
PEACE AND LOVE.
TAKE CARE EVERYONE. |
| Liberty | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 06:51 am
LiberalLady, bravo! bravo! bravo! for telling it like it is.
Girls, women, sisters, do your thing. Get your prorities right. Get an education, strive to be finacially independent, ignore the nonsense used under the guise of preserving the "dhaqan". Don't allow to be subjugated and pressured into doing something that you don't want. Remember, if you don't want to get married at 18 or 20 etc , if you don't want children at 18,20 etc:IT IS OKAY! IT IS NOT A CRIME!. What is a crime is being forced or fooled into something you don't want.
Ladies be in charge of your life, tune out all the nonsense. |
| SAGAL | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 09:42 am
LiberalLaddy!!
GOOD JOB. THAT'S HOW IT IS.
Mercetio!!
I THINK SHE JUST GAVE U STRAIGHT OUT ANSWER ON WHY SOMALI WOMEN HAVE NO FAITH IN THEIR SOMALI BROS. THEY NEVER HAD A FIATH IN THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE, THEY JUST DIDN'T HAVE THE MEANS TO ESCAPE FROM THEM. |
| Anonymous | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 02:48 pm
Since, most Somali men spend their time at coffee shops with no job, Somali women are force to be the bread winner, which requires education and careers. Maybe if the men got off their lazy asses and got jobs, the woman wouldn't have to worry about how to support their families. EQUAL SHARE BOYS, THAT'S ALL WE ARE ASKING FOR. |
| POWERGIRL | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 11:43 am
WWOOOWWW!!!!go girls that is wonderful, let's keep it this way okayy(" |
| Miss Justice | Monday, February 19, 2001 - 04:25 pm
Lol liberallady Go girl. That was a great speach Girl...... Guys what do you have to say about our lady liberty aight
Caramel, PowerGirl n' liyana well said i couldn't say any better
The reality is i never seen any somali brother showing emotions to his wife or saying how much he loves her.. It's probably lack of confidence or whatever. If ya ask me I don't understand either. Basically couples are together and none of them are showing what they felt for each other so they both heading this twisted path, they like yeah whatever what am I now westernized i mean c'on you men..that's not how the world works... I might be wrong saying all somali women are soo romantic but i can assure you all those ladies who are from 16- 25 are deadly roamntic..lol or people who are grown up in other world rather then in africa or whatever.
Guys what we all ladies want is simple, to be loved, respected and cherished and that goes for all the ladies aight...
You'all meant to be educated and intelegence won't kill ya either and c'on where is that sence of humour gone damn.... men nowdays are more like aggressive and bush their wives up damn that ain't happening around us... we all know karate kick..lol ( |
| Amazon XX | Tuesday, February 20, 2001 - 05:35 am
Asad-
what planet do you live in?
On planet earth- the problem is finding a
1)SMNCQ,
2)SMW,
3)SMNLC
Its not the woman's fault if she does not want to throw away her life by settling down with one of those. Goodness- what is the logic in condoning masochistic behaviour?
________________________________
1)somali man not chewing qaat
2)somali man working
3)somali man not loitering at coffeehouses |
| CARAMEL | Tuesday, February 20, 2001 - 09:26 am
HERE WE GO AGAIN ANOTHER SENIOR CITIZEN LOOKING FOR A BRIDE.
WHAT THE •••• KIND OF QUESTION IS THIS???
I'LL GIVE YOU A FEW ANSWERS WHY???
1. NO MEN
2. NO MEN
3. NO MEN
4. OH YEAH AND NO MEN.
EXACTLY UNTIL YOU'RE MEN ENOUGH, YOU AIGHNT GETTING NOWHERE.
WHO WANTS A MAN WITHOUT A GOAL. YES THAT'S ONE OF THE PROBLEM WITH SOMALIMEN, THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, WHERE THEY GOING, OR THEMSELVES.
GET HELP, COUNSELLING ETC. MAYBE THEN YOU'LL GET A WIFE.
PEACE |
| POWERGIRL_!&sweetgrl69 | Friday, February 23, 2001 - 05:32 pm
To CARAmel:
go girl we agreed with u 100%( here is the truth the reason why Somalia women don't want to get marry is that cause they don't want to be the men sex tools or servants, cause that is what Somalian men see as women. so if u want sex tool or a servants go and make some money, visit lover's package and learn what is love and pp have some respect for us females.... |
