     Brother | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 03:53 am
I am a 40 year old guy in Riyadh thinking of second wife if I find. Love my first wife and 3 kids who are not with me here. Will love my second wife too. I consulted you. Dont insult me please. If you are interested or wanna give a bro/sis advice, I will appreciate. Love you all. |
| Idea | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 04:11 am
May Allah be with you my muslim brother. But if it was rude of me, why don't you be with your wife and three kids...u sounded like you have a happy family. An advise, please don't destroy your happinness by your own hands. On the other hand, if that was impossible for you to be with them, than nobody can deny the right that Allah has given you. But just think wise of what such an act might have on ur small family, you know women, in general, will feel betrayed when they find out that their husbands are looking for another wife; which unfortunately leads to the misery of the poor children in the long run.
May Allah be with you.
Eid Moubarak |
| Brother | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 06:42 am
Idea
Thank you brother for your comments. God forbid it, I do not consider rude at all your suggestion why I am not with my family. The reason is they are back home in Somalia and I can not bring them here. So I can only see them once a year. Your concern for the children- and a one BAH family - has gone through my mind many times which is why I am in the thinking stage now only. I also have sought advice from friends here and thought my internet compatriots may also add. I again thank you so much for advice and those of my bros/sis on the way. |
| Abdi | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 06:49 am
Assalam calaykum
Brother, I have the following advice for you:
NO! NO! Please dont go for a second wife if you have no health or other problems. That will be bad for the kids.
No problem about seeing family once a year. A lot of people in the middle east have thier families either in Somalia, Syria or Pakistan.
So, brother. Adkayso and dream of your one wife 11 months every year and see her and the kids the 12th month! Lol!!!!!(no hard feeling!)
Your brother in Islam
Abdi |
| Rahma | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 08:02 am
Aslaamu alaykum
The only advise I can give you is listen to your brain if it's telling you to get marry go ahead and do it. life is short you don't have to saver but whatever you do don't act like your single tell the another woman that you have wife and kids and if she's Alright with it good luck and have fun. If incase the first wife decides to go nuts and ask you for divorce tell her what the Quran said and there shouldn't be any problems.
bye. |
| Idea | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 09:16 am
My Muslim Brother,
Then, if that is the case, why don't you move or find a job in a place where you and your family can be together? Araad Allahu waasic, right?
Rahma sis,
True muslim should care of other people's feelings. It is the muslim husband's duty to give to his wife all the caring, sharing and loving that he can. As our beloved prophet said:"the best of you is he who is best to his wife" Indeed life is too short and the best way that we can take advantage of it is to worship Allah (swt) and follow His commands and that of our prophet (pbuh) |
| Rahma | Friday, December 22, 2000 - 02:22 pm
Aslaamu alaykum
Idea sis
Your right sis true Muslim should care about the others and I am sorry if telling the guy to get marry if that's what he wanted made me careless to be honest I don't see the connection, as matter a fact I thought I was caring by giving him that advise. You see I can understand you maybe your a married woman for yourself and your feeling the pain of your man going with other woman, in that case don't let him out on your side or be prepare to share sis! |
| kahlil | Saturday, December 23, 2000 - 07:38 am
TO Brother
Bother our religion have no problem with having a 2ND,3RD,or 4TH as long as you can balance the
task and fear god when it comes to dealing with hem.So,if think you could handle and you want to do it then go for and don't worry about the kids,because
my father got married to a second wife when I was young that had never effected me negatively in any way shape or form.
So if you think you could handle the heat stay in the kitchen other wise get out and stay out.
thank and may Alah bless you and Eid mubark. |
| hana | Sunday, December 24, 2000 - 03:57 pm
Brother i don't understand why u want to marry. Can't u wait till your family come.Or if they can't come then go to some other place that u and ur family can be together. If u want my advice please don't get secant wife,coz i know the pain ur wife and ur kids will have. |
| Anonymous | Sunday, December 24, 2000 - 04:22 pm
Brother
I would not insult you.FUCCK YOU, POLYGAMIST SCOUNDREL! Stop thinking with your dick and stick wit hyour family.
piece out. |
| Poisonous | Monday, December 25, 2000 - 01:59 am
Brother, go for it! As Rahma said life is too short. I believe you are a mature man who knows what is good from what is not. Tasho duqa. Haddi ay kaa qo'an tahay inaad quursatid mar labaad...GO FOR IT...and GOOD LUCK. |
| Question | Thursday, December 28, 2000 - 05:03 am
QUESTION?..
If u feel the NEED to have a second wife.... how do you think your FIRST wife is feeling?.... hhhhhhhhmmm?... lets see.... I would say.. pretty much like you!... so how about she gets herself a hubby.. till you get your act together?... doesn't sound so good right?... no didn't think so... She is ment to be your wife... not a maid and child nusre for your kids.... if so, pay her, n she can get herslef a man that loves and looks after her...
U men are kids!... make me bloody sick,, don't insult you... you bloody insulting us!.. with your poor poor me, no woman to keep me company story....
get the f&**** out! Waster |
