     leila nuur | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 06:35 am
dear sisters i am a married woman with kids. I have a problem with intimacy with my husband. I am not attracted to him, each time he tries to touch me I respond negatively. I don't enjoy his touch and all the rest of it, not even a bit. I sleep with him cos i feel it is a duty of mine as his wife. And I feel very ashamed of that but I can't help it. Don't get me wrong I love him dearly, he treats me good. He respects me and loves me. I do my best to attract him to me and do every effort to satisfy his desire. I ly to him about my feelings when it comes to that cos i don't wanna hurt his feelings. I wanna do something about this. It is the only thing I am missing in marriage. So please help girls if think u can.
thanks a million in advance |
| NINXOON | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 07:08 am
SISTER DID U WOKE UP FROM THE WRONG SIDE OF THE BED THIS MORNING OR WHAT? HOW LONG HAVE U BEEN WITH HIM 5, 8, 10 YEARS? WHAT ALL OF THE SUDDEN AFTER THESE YEARS ..HIS TOUCH AND BEING INTIMATE WITH HIM IS BOTHERING YOU HUUUUUM THIS IS INTERESTING ...YOU NEED TO STOP WATCHING INDIAN MOVIES AND THE YOUNG THE RESTLESS FOR THAT MATTER GIRL CAUSE NEITHER VICTOR NEWMAN NOR AMJAD KHAN ARE GOING TO POP AT YOUR DOOR TAKING YOU WITH THEIR WHITE HORSES TO THE PROMISED LAND.
I'M SOORY IF I WAS TOO HARSH ON YOU BUT YOU GUYS DON'T SEEM TO AMUSE ME WHEN YOU THINK YOU HAVE HARD IT ALL SOMEONE COMES AND TOP THE OTHER WITH A DOWN RIGHT WEIRD S HIT........
DAMN BOY QIYAMA IS SO CLOSE MAN IT'S NOT FUNNY MAN
NOW IF YOU ALL WOULD EXCUSE ME I HAVE GOT TO GO THE MOSQUE AND WAIT FOR DOOMS DAY CAUSE AS SURE AS HELL THE DAMN THING IS AROUND THE CORNER.
SALAMA |
| Anon | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 10:44 am
Ninxoon lol@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ |
| Troublegirl | Saturday, January 13, 2001 - 10:00 pm
Leila Nuur
I know what your problem is sis.......I need to know one thing....Did you recently have a baby??? Coz seems like you are suffering from POST NATAL DEPRESSION....Or depression of any kind. I would ask you to go to your GP (Doctor) and explain your condition. Trust me it has nothing to do with your husband or the environment. I am single and never had any kids but I have been watching a lotta ER and have done Health Care in High school..LOL....I hope my advice proves to be valuable to you....Inshallah keep us posted.
PEACE |
| Hana | Sunday, January 14, 2001 - 10:00 am
Sis what i don't understand is u said u love him right but u don't have sexual feeling......how come?. I thought when u love some1 u will have all sort of feelings for them.Anyway sis i hope things go well. |
| Nagxoon | Tuesday, January 16, 2001 - 11:33 am
sis..u know what u neeed??? either a divoce or prozak to keep u down cuz u r out of ur mind...get a divoce why r u still with him? the kids...screw the kids u cann raise them on ur own but dont leave the poor man hanging like this, other wise go to ur doctor and ask 4 PROZAK these are some pills might help u cuz u r in deeep $hit.... |
| LADY | Thursday, January 18, 2001 - 04:10 pm
Girl..sorry woman...answer this q....what if another woman comes and takes your husband...u know he gets in another relation or gets married to another1...think about loosing him...did u care if not then...u dont really love him...u just respect him...stay away from him for couple of months....like go for a vocation u and the kids and then u may get some XIISO then...and realize how important he is in your life.
hope u will come back to your mind.
Lady |
| HAMDI | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 04:26 am
NINXOON LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL
DAM U FUNNYLOLOLOLOLOL |
| lakergirl | Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 07:26 am
Leila nuur
girl if you love him and if he is a good husband, FAKE IT we all do that.keep on faking it,it doesn't matter.or have sex with your muscled,rocked plumber guy. |
| lonelyheart | Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 01:38 am
dear leila,
i am sorry i cant say i can relate to u and neither can i undertsand.if i said any of the above i would be lieing to u sis.
however i know one thing sweet heart,it's not ur duty to do something that u dont desire.you said u are not attracted to him anymore,i think that is because u are unhappy,maybe the kids and all the house work is getting to you.or u havent spended enough time with him lately,or maybe u are depressed.and that is normal for women with children and there is medication for it.sis i am not trying to be funny here iam just been honest and i am saying this because u have children that are involved in your life.
what u shouldnt do is tear that family apart.as u are saying he is good man.to be honest those are rear this days.i understand that sometimes the flame goes away espcially when u have been married for awhile so dont come here and ask for advises from strangers instead seek some counseling,talk to a close friend and talk to ur husband maybe he can help.after all he is ur partner and part of the problem.they say "2 head are better than one".
also try supriseing him with candle light dinner,wear something sexy or go out on a night at the town to beautifull restuarants or walk arround.ask him to take some time off from work and take a weekend vacation to a romatic place just the 2 of u.do something to bring back the old flame and to spice up ur love life but whatever u do dont tear ur family apart.think of ur kids.there are so many sulution.ooo and sometimes it helps to talk about the way u met.
i hope things work out for and i am sorry if u are hurting.
i am praying for u sis but please dont ever discuss such important issue on a place like this again.(just an advise).
your sis
lonelyheart. |
| Anonymous | Sunday, January 21, 2001 - 02:46 pm
concern brother
Dear, Leila Nuur
The problem you are having is just, for the time being, but if you really love your husband and as you claimed he treats you right. Then you are the creation to your own problems, because it seems you missleading the poor soul. So do your self a favour and get help or talk to him about the situation and tell him how you feel towards him, when it comes to sexually.
P.s. Just concern brother. |
