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     | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 08:19 am dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal on table. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. Prepare yourself. Take fifteen minutes to rest so that you wi1l be refreshed when he arrives . Touch up your make-up, and be fresh looking He has been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little happy and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip around the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. Prepare the children . Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him. Some don'ts. Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner . Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest that he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind. Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the momentof his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first. Make the evening his. Never complain if he does nottake you out to dinner or to other pleasantentertainment. Instead try understand his world ofstrain and pressure, his need to unwind and relax.The goal. Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax in body and spirit.
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 08:49 am Wow, this is beautiful, if only my wife has done 1/4 of this.
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 08:58 am Qarni, I hope some of the sisters pick up on the tips. Some homes look like a War zone, am talking downtown Sarayevo ! stuff all over the place Kids yelling, and the wife on the phone yupping,,,, No wonder some Married bro's try to stay out and go home late. I mean some of the stuff you mentioned are useful but, what about her needs. Who will pamper her ? Marriage aint a one way street. So a little balance should also be in the Mix. I am not married but some of my friends are. So when I go visit some married folks, I just say to myself, Men if this is the life then run the opposite direction. just keep running, cause this is Not for me.
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 09:10 am Xaaskaygu way ii samaysaa sidan iyo si ka fiicanba.Waxan leenahay 4 caruur ah.Markaa iyadu guriga ayay joogtaa aniga ayaa shaqeeyo, i make enough to take care of my wife and children.She is the most loving, reliable, responsible, considerate, beautiful, sweet wife on this planet.And i promised myself that i'll reward her for being my eyes and ears.Balan waxan ugu qaaday inaan aniguna intaa iyo in ka fiican ba u noqdo....She deserves it.....and we are a ver happy family.....
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 09:48 am hey BRo LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOP U BROTHER ARE JOKE LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLOLOLO I CAN@T AIT FOR SISTER TO READY THIS LOLOLOL THERE UK BRISH SIS THING THERE INDEPENDENT SIS LOLOLOLOLOLO THIS THE REAL THING GO THERE BROS LOL POWER TO THE BROTHER WE WANT ALL UR RSPC WOMEN !!!! LOOL
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 10:11 am Ok smart asses- what do you plan to do for your wives? - not you Caynab walalo. So she makes herself pretty- and prepares everything and then what? You walk in the door with your stinking breath- green teeth (chat), skin and bone wearing clothes that were made circa 1975. you eat- you belch and you nap! C.R.A.P! Why should women bother with men? Moi- give me a good book any day!
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 10:20 am salaaman Qarni walaal adiga oo xumaan iiga qaadan adigu xaas maleedahay bal aan kula soo xiriiro haddii aan lagu qabin e? sababata aan sidan uleeyahay maaha wax kale e, gabdho badan oo sidaada oo kale u fikira ayaan jirin magaratay.
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 11:28 am Bachelor, what you say is so true! I always come back with headache after visiting families, the noise, the chaos, the complaints. Marriage is so overrated wallahi!
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 12:30 pm Hey marriage is a good thing! But it needs 2 to make it work!! And if it wasn't for marriage most of us wouldn't be born(remeber our relgion!) And if a man needs all those things qarni discribes he is NOT talking bout a WIFE no he is talking bout a HOUSEKEEPER,BABYSITTER, WHORE<<<refers to making your self good to HIM. etc.
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 02:38 pm friendly sis..u go girl..listen foool u need a maid not a wife..their is some things i can live with BUT..offer to take off his shoes??????? u and him can kiss my ass as far as i am concern..that is CRAZYYYYYYYYY yo...
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 05:53 pm Qarni do that and he'll walk all over ya... Boy if that is what the brothers want then I'll proberly end up divorced after week 1. Qarni in theory it is beautiful sis.. in reality it just ain't practical.. (That is not "Amina" thats for sure). Keep it up though sis.. But hey, if your really gonna do all that for him. Please don't forget YOU.. You got feelings, needs, rights and HE needs to know that too. Like brother bachelore said its not just a one way street. Peace, Love and Happiness
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 10:13 pm TO : QARNI YOU MAKE ME LAUGH !! BUT BELIEVE ME, YOU SOUNDS LIKE A SOMEONE WHO BURNED THE PROBHET'S SHOE!
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 11:43 pm If you want your wife to be a good wife, first you must be honst and not to cheat her as manay somalian man do,as they say "womens are like a kids" don,t talk like an adult person she is just a kid e.t.c so what you are suggesting us is just like an emty words whit out action. adnd i am saying you try to satisfay her than you will be satisfied. and prepare bay your self to be a good man and a good fader so as to fullfill your responsibility there is an idea which sags " if you want to do right, right do it bay your self first".
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| | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 11:50 pm Qarni You sure are positive. Let u and other sis not be distracted. Those who are yawning at this now are the same who lambast the 'shortcomings' of Somali woman. Please surge ahead! Prepare dinner,yourself and the children. Yours will be a blissful life that will put to shame the heart-melters in the pages of Dame Cartland's novels! As for us men.......... Men When you knock the door and she opens, open up your son of a face and give the mother of all hugs. Learn the tango and waltz toe to toe with her. Dont step on her u son of your father! Throw away your dictionery except the word Appreciate! Appreciate her, what she does, the dinner she prepares and every thing else! Be freinds u chauvinsist! She is more than a wife and u are more than a husband! She and the children are what make u TICK!!!!! Me and Us males/females We aint perfect. So let us learn! Kudos to peo like Qarni who remind us of the low voltage in us. Time to charge up guys!
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| | Friday, February 02, 2001 - 07:22 am WELL ANOTHER ••••••• IN HERE GARNI. YOU SOMALI MEN NEVER SEEM TO EMAZE ME. I WISH YOU FIND THE WHORE YOU ARE LOOKING FOR 
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| | Friday, February 02, 2001 - 08:38 am hey am male and am not married yet. i just found these tips somewhere and i thought i should share them with u. it was supposed to be funny. also check i will bring another topic about how to be good husband or something like that.
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| | Friday, February 02, 2001 - 09:23 am Qarni I get everything else under control except the delicious food part, get your sister to teach me how to cook then I will be perfect wife. Seriously drop me E-mail if you know any tips on how to make a great food.
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| | Friday, February 02, 2001 - 11:56 am marriage is a boat in the sea, if you dig a hole it would sure sink . You want to build it, not destroyed. Build so to with stand the title wave of the mad sea.it cannot be one a sole one. Both partners should play their part.
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| | Friday, February 02, 2001 - 02:03 pm haji cool aa tahey.
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| | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 10:27 am get a take out fool How can you value a whole person by the way she cooks. Women are not supposed to cook for men religiously. cooking ffelt to the woman's lap after she trie dto help her husband cause he had much to do. Guys shouls appreciate this favor from our wives, sister, and any other person who does any favor.
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| | Saturday, February 03, 2001 - 06:22 pm Ey if i'm gettin' a man who loves me and makes me happy........i dont mind doin' all those thingz for him..........marriage is a 2 way street.......he gots to make me happy so i can make him happy........but him walkin' all over me if i make him happy........in what world is that possible........how can u walk all over some1 who loves u and looks after ur happiness and comfort........ Walaahi i would do what qarni listed and more..........but of course i gotta get my share of the relationship......... What is wrong with cleanin' the house b4 he gets there and puttin' kids to sleep or me dressin' good and smellin' better than smellin' like basal iyo yaanyo...........when my man had a tough day at work........the last thing i want is for him not to want to come home to me....... I dont understand why ya'll girlz r complainin' ............is it a big deal to clean ur house and look good for ur man......make him happy and make him feel relaxed......i wonder what would u girlz do.............sit there talk on the phone the whole nite and not clean the house......let the kids stink in thier diapers and the house smell like sambuus iyo ukun.......yuk....that is a house i neva wanna go into let alone live in!!!!!! Ya'll should take an advice from ur parents when u get married......not only girlz....guys too!!! adios...
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| | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 11:48 am HONESITA LOL!!! IS THIS A BAD TIME TO PROPOSE?? HOW UNROMANTIC OF ME TO LOOSE THE MOMENT AND ASK. MARRY ME AS LIKE AS YOU DON'T CHANGE YOUR MIND ABOUT THE HOUSE CHORES AFTER THE HONEY MOON PERIOD IS OVER.
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| | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 02:02 pm dym honest girl, seriously, i'm beginning to fall in love with u! i also have read some of ur other posted articles, and u jus keep on amazing me! dym, if a girl like u is willing to do all the above, THEN WALAAHI i'll b mad not to make her happy and satisfy her as much as she wants and more!!!!!!!!!! dym, and also i would do all the bove mentioned stuff when i'm off ....................... and i'll just let u take a long, relaxing break like a queen.............. and every friday and saturday, i would take u out on a mea, or a movie, concert or soming! 'couz, in this age and time a girl like u is hard 2 find, and as a result u'll more than worth it! dym, i wish i had money!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol honest-sista serouslly i'm starting 2 join ur fan club........................... so plzzzzzzzz do continue posting ur amazing ideas and opinions! much love and respect 2 all my queeeeeeens, (((((((especially honest-sista))))))))))
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| | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 02:30 pm If the men is good then he disserve all the good staff........but if he is pain in the ass like most of Somali men then we should kick his ass ain't that right girls.
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| | Sunday, February 04, 2001 - 06:32 pm Sitay why would someone want to stay marry to pain in the ass like you put it. and how come your having his children every year that goes by if he is pain in the ass. Honesita, I like the way you think, your very smart if your man is not happy your not happy so it's our own good that we keep our partners happy. Bye.
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 02:33 am HEYYYY!!!!! WOMEN GOT RITHGS TOO THE MAN SHOULD BE CLEAN AND FRESH TOO. HE SHOULD BE THE PROVIDER OF THE HOUSE, BUYE HER FOLOWERS AND TAKE HER TO RESTARENTS, BUYE GIFTS AND SO ON. GIRL U SHOULDT' BE THE ONLY SLAVE AROUND.
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 08:40 am Sistay, most girls talk about "damn ass" Lazy somali Men. Remember what you see is what you get, he did not trun into a monster overnight, you were just too damn blind to see that in the first place. Dont ever think you can turn him around ! Most girls make the mistake of hanging around with guys ( oh he is so cute bla bla, bla) then getting stuck on them. Eventually they get married cause they have run out of excitting things things to do. Thats when they realise Real life aint like it seems in the Movies or romance novels. Oops too late, thats when you find out and wish you should have listened to your Mum !!!
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 09:04 am maash alaah . wax ka fiican ma laha in ninkaada aad obey gareysid. mideeda kale nin kana wey fiican tahay in uu naag tiisa sidaas oo kale u yeelo ileen qurbaa ku wada nool nahay. maanta naagtiisa hadey kariso oo romantic u sameyso wey fiican tahay asaganah in uu u sameeyo ama uu u wado dinner. life is not easy.
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 04:12 pm SomeGuy....looooooooooool....u made my day even though i dont know ya....DYM.....thanx bro....i know its hard to find girlz like me....especially if u got no $$$......ooooooooh!!! lol Rahma.....thanx sis..........its true...if ur man is not happy how can u be happy.........i cant look at sad faces....and angry faces.....also faces that complain 24/7...........it gets on my nerves and it ruins my happy mood....  Reality-best-Teacher......i agree with u.......if u taste all that stuff b4 marriage.....marriage wont be so special.... Amilyah..........sis men nowadayz wont accept bein' the only provider of the house......he wants u out workin' like him..........!!! adios
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| | Monday, February 05, 2001 - 06:54 pm May I point out that the poor lady is not even good enough to be a housekeeper, maid, or whore? Do you see him paying her at any point in this transaction? Me personally, I tried to follow the rules, but met with some little problems: 1) He wasn't coming home from work....Anybody heard of 24-hour jatt binges? 2) I couldn't make the food he liked....Remember I am not allowed to ask for money? 3) The stove kept breaking down...If I tried to fix it, I was being unfeminine, If I told him to fix it, I was being a nag and ungrateful (the dreaded "u" word!) 4) The kids will only listen to him...because they notice how insulting he's to me, and what's cuter than a kid imitating his big ole Dad? 5) I tried wearing make-up and looking nice, but he accused me of going out and cheating on him, and promptly beat me up. 6) I tried cleaning the table, but that wobbly leg finally came off, and was the primary tool in #5 above 7) If I tried to smile at him he'd get suspicious and demand to know why I was so happy. 8) Sometimes the house is so clean and neat that he grumbles that I have nothing to do all day--it's just like it was yesterday as far as he knows (but won't let me get a job for fear I will come under bad influences) 9) If I get a cool drink ready, he'll demand tea, if I get a hot drink ready he'll demand mango juice in ice. 10) I was such a good wife, he decided to get another (he heard the saying "2 heads are better than 1" ) 11) Take me out to dinner? The last time I ate something I didn't cook was when I was in the hospital recovering from another one of his effectionate "disciplinary measures" 12) If I let him talk and keep quite, I am sulking about something. 13) If I ask him how his day was, I am prying. If I don't ask, I am uncaring. 14) When a strange woman calls, I have to assume it's his dear long-lost sister (24 and counting). If my Dad calls, I have to prove it's not my lover, my friend, my relative, my cousin, male, a human being. "Behind every great man, is a surprised woman"
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| | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 04:05 pm I think you guys read me wrong. I am with what the sis said... upto the bit where your not meant to talk to him about your problems and not complain about not being appreaciated. 99% of guys from what i've seen of married couples don't appreaciate a woman that is good to them. That is from my experience and I can be totaly wrong!! My point was I'll only be sweet as long as he keeps it sweet. Its give and take AND if he is being an A_WHOLE I ama tell him. If i had a bad day i ama tell him. Now, i ain't married nor i am i planning to anytime soon.. but cleaning the house and basic hygien are things we should be used to by now. That is something you do for YOU and for NOT some1 else. And looking pretty comes naturaly to some others may need to do something about it. As far as kids go, hey thats a whole different topic!! For Qarni it was just a joke...but marriage is what you make it. .... You can be an unhappy raaliyo or a happy couple. I just hope it works out for yous. Honestgirl, respect 4real. Peace, Love and Happiness
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| | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 08:04 pm WHY,MERCUTIO,ART THOU MAD? MY GOOD OLD FRIEND TUT,MAN!FIRE BURNS OUT FIRE.PAIN HERE IS LESSENED BY PAIN THERE;STOP GIDDINESS BY SPINNING IN REVERSE;AN INCONSOLABLE GRIEF IS CURED BY FURTHER SORROW.THE ANTIDOTE TO YOUR AFFECTED SIGHT IS THE VISION OF SOME NEW LOVE,TO MAKE YOU BLIND.
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| | Tuesday, February 06, 2001 - 08:12 pm PRAGMATIC...U R THE FUNNIEST CHICK..DAMN..AM LAUGHING AS I AM TYPING RIGHT NOW... THAT •••• IS FUNNY.
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| | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 03:54 am PRAGMATIC.....you are so damn when allowed first place to happen. Sister you know what men's want? He want to be listen?obey?asked?to show him some respect since he sitting on driving seat!! I couldn't refer here all the story....But I loosely remember that there was an old arabian poem from mother to her daughter whois about to marry, she told her: BE LIKE SHOES FOR HIM, HE BECOME LIKE A CARPET FOR YOU......CARPET IS LOWER THAN SHOE....(In the case you want to stay at top ladder. My advice to my beloved sister........We(men)become everything you want us to be as long as are u taking firt step............... I am not married.....but gratually hopping the good and better life from it.
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| | Thursday, February 08, 2001 - 05:46 am all i have to say is just stay singel people..life is better that way
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| | Friday, February 09, 2001 - 07:50 pm RAHMA SHARMUUTAYAHEY OO JAMECANKA EVRY DULEL KA WASEN SHUT THE FACK UP BETCH.
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