     Married and tire of the thing | Unrecorded Date
Married, mothers, educated and working somali women who feel under-appreciated, stereotyped and unrealized by their somali men.
Why?............
what happen to honey, you are the shinning star in my life and more...................
can't change nature? |
| Sista | Unrecorded Date
No need to be miserable. If he is not responsible man/husband/father KICK HIM TO THE CURB.
Raag waa buuxa, it is raining men, haleluyah! ha ciishoon, you live in a free country. |
| Gabar somali aan la heli karin | Unrecorded Date
WE SOMALIAN WOMEN ARE ALL THAT AND MORE
SISTA DO YOU NOW WHY OUR MAN DON'T APPRECIAT US
BECOUSE WE ARE BATTER, STRONGER, AND MORE EDUCATED THEN THEM. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
Girls,
Stop reflecting your bad experiences with some somali men over here. It is all relative and you certainly can't generalize.
I am sure there are somali women out there who are completely proud,satisfied,and appreciated by their husbands or boyfriends.
Some relationships just don't work..and that is how it is in every culture and society.
My advice to all somali women is:
Keep yourself recyclable. If you know what i mean.
That is keep your body fit and stay beautiful so you can look very attractive and find yourself a better man in no time if your relationship doesn't work.
somali man |
| Justamarriedone | Unrecorded Date
To somali man:
I am the girl who have opened the subject:
Believe me, I am very fit and beautiful. Other men have approached me alots of times. But the question is: do I leave my marriage because I'm unsatisfied for many reasons or do I work on it till there is no room for improvements.. I know ugly woman who are happily married and I, the beautifull deals with life of misery and unsatisfaction most of the days and what even makes me sadder is that I know it hard to find a better somalian man than mine..............figure out the rest honey. Once a couple is married, beauty is not the driver of the relationship...
I am assuming that you are not married since you have made that remark...........
most ppl who have not been married have or thing marriage is heaven and full of romance and ideals to leave.........
--------leaving the rest of the story because I can write about it all day long...but will leave the rest of it imagination of the others |
| Someone who loves a an educated woman | Unrecorded Date
I feel you sister, and it the worst thing on your list that makes you think about leaving???
Is there children involve in the marraige??? |
| Dr_run_sheeg | Unrecorded Date
to you lot
dont get too big for your shoes just because you are educated and working and and and living in a free country.
to. justmarriedone
dont insult somali men. if you are not satisfied with what you have, change. after all as you said you live in a free country in a free world. otherwise shut up.
back to dish stick.
till later
on my bike |
| Justamarriedone | Unrecorded Date
I like your signature.....which goes "on my bike"
obviously, your main transportation is a bike...good like and see how far U get but....moron like you should not be posting on here.
I need the veto to divorce and remarry the same man |
| Mr Cool | Unrecorded Date
To Justmarriedone,
Well sis I am not married or have ever been married. But I know one thing life is too short to be unhappy...... so think about it.
About looking beautiful.... that has nothing to do with it. you could be drop dead courges and still end up with the hopless guys cauze dear I have an experience with it.
By Munira but people call me Mr Cool!
Bye All |
| Sis | Unrecorded Date
I think you should get out if its not working, there are a lot of fish in the see as they say!
Sister |
| Justamarriedone | Unrecorded Date
Yeah...there is alots of fish in the sea as they say but those fishe could be as poisons as this one.....so the fish of the west might be better if you know what I mean....it seems the indian ocean one does not know how to swim |
| Sis | Unrecorded Date
you should swimm where the good fishs are, and
while you're @ it get me some!
sister |
| SomeGirl | Unrecorded Date
To: SomaliMan
Are you saying Somali women are unfit and ugly? Darn and here i was, having a different picture. But hey, Beauty depends on the eye of the beholder. If you think a woman is unfit and therefore you are not interested, another brother might think she is fit and will be readying is fishing net. Anyways keep the discussion, we are ammused so far. bye |
| Justamarriedone | Unrecorded Date
Hello fellows penalist:
It has been interesting discussion and eye opening one for me in regard to the general view of the maryooleey by both margins of women and men. My conclusion.....I married the man because I wanted companionship, love, children...laughter...happenes...fantastic sex...romance...etc...list can't go on forever.
But what I have got is short coming of the above statement...
So, I as person have re-evaluate the situation in terms of what I can hadle and what I can't hadle...And that is what I will base on my decision...
But I do know one thing and that is I rely on myself 100% and if he is not there for me when I need him....then figure out the rest....
Nabigeenii (SCW)...haweentiisii...cuntada wuu u ka rin jiray dharkana wuu u meeyri jiray...xarigiina in ay guntintuusu adagtahy wuu weeydiin jirey...sheeko waataas..gardheerayaaloow...
End of the discussion on my part |
| Concernbro | Unrecorded Date
To Justamarriedone
I really like your comments and i admire your courage to stand up for your rigths.
Please make a rigth decision and may allah help you. |
| Samawade | Unrecorded Date
To Justamarriedone
one simple question sis
are you doing better than him in live sis? I mean do u have a better job,education and so on than him, The reason i asked u this is cuz if u are then he may be feeling a bit down and guilty as it happen to my friend.
This is a true story by the way:
There was a friend of mine he is a really hard working man but educational wise he wasn't that good cus of his sutuation. He met this girl, a young and beutiful sis she was a caring girl they fell in love and after dating for almost two years they get married. The girl was well off compared to him. She had a better job than him (office job) and a house. to me she was a girl every man could dream of having her. For the first few months things were getting ok but then the guy became insecure.
No matter how hard he worked still she gets more money than him. Then things went wrong because of him (because the way he was perceiving things) The guy beleived the only reason that she wanted him was only his "dick" (sorry for the word i used). Then the guy started having an affairs and he was messng about. We spoke to him number of times to think about the consequence, but he did not listen to us and effentually she found out about his affairs and she kicked him out.
To make the story short my friend and his wife they get back together and they resolved their problems.
My advice to you sis is to talk to him before you do any thing else ask him what the problem is may be he think that you are not doing your part properly. May be the guy is confussed and needs your attention and support or may be he doesnot want to compromise.
may be he is not aware about the whole problem that you having sis. sis if he is not doing the job nicely (i hope you know what i mean) then the decission is yours whether you want to leave him or not. but if he is doing it nicely then you could resolve the rest( i hope) sis.
Luck of communication could lead you some thing that you don't want to do !!!
I hope i did not offended any one and if i did please excuse me
Untill next time watch the space. |
| InfactuatedbyU | Unrecorded Date
Samawade....I like your attitude and optimism.
wonder what you are up to..................? |
| Enough intelligent | Unrecorded Date
Yuor English writings are very bad, so I don't understand what you talking about, sorry!!! |
| somali | Unrecorded Date
Enough - Are u a member of ESL police squad team?
I understood all the articles in this thread and that makes you the one who needs to upgrade his/her language skills.
For ur info, PPl use languages to convey messages or express themselves. I think it is time 4 u to retire from that unpopular language squad. |
| huh | Unrecorded Date
ahahahahah lol somali ESL POLICE SQUAD you got him every page i see EnoughINTELO is sayin your english is very bad lol maybe macalinkiisa aa saas ku dhihi jiray all the time so he memorized saying that in every page he is sleep walking with your english is very bad
this is not a class room |
| Ahmad | Unrecorded Date
Asalama Alaykum Muslims!
BEFORE, I used to think that somali men...doing wrong
their wives is due to the culture. BUT, is that so, really???
If the hadiths teach that women are nothing but betrayers,
who are doomed because of our Mother Eve---what exactly
will be the result to that??? Hadiths also teach
that women are the MOST of the HELL community! WOW!
A man who expects his wife to join that community
any minute will most surely NOT going to have any
respect for his wive. What a waste, `eh? She loves
him---he loves her...she's shinning star...yada yada
yada...and then she'll just have to join the community.
Oh, well, what the heck!
Amazing how Muslims are corrupted into the wicked
culture of those before us. Ain't it pitty?
MAYBE, this time around...somalis will get it right.
Ramadan Mubarak to all Muslims!
Peace, Ahmad! |
| Enough intelligent | Unrecorded Date
still I am observing some mistakes in your English writing, so all my ideas are locked up already, sorry again!!!
Til latter, salaama. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
Keep it up every one. Talking and exchanging ideas
are the only and best way we can solve the problems.
But I wonder if we somalians can approche similar attitude when dealing with our national problems.
Believe me, without solving the actual crisis, it will be very difficult to look at other social issues. We simply missing the base and without it we cannot reach the top and compete against other nations. Think twice next time you take a step to the future. Thing about the long term not the short one. |
| brother | Unrecorded Date
First and foremost,I will like to say that we are
in era of cultural,social and traditional changes
within our community. I hope this for the best and not the worst. It is so immunent to see my brothers and sisters exchanging ideas without hurting each others feelings or self steem.
I'am indeed very sorry and ashamed that a brother mistreat his wife for some uncomprehensible reason. A marriage is meant to bring you happines, wisdom, love and harmony.It is a matter of trust
and respect. And remenber it is a two way things.
I am sure every one knows about these fact and agree with me .But why, since we know and realise the fact of a marriage, do we still having problems.
In my opinion, it is the first step that matters.
By this I mean choosing the right partenar. Someone that see things just like the way you do.
Same mentality, same tought about relationship,
same level fo life( education)etc..
By choosing the right partenar you are less likely to end up with a miserable marriage. Dedication from both partenar, to lead and build a family is
indispenasabble. A man/woman who is married to you for you physicall appearance,material possession,
tribal beliefs will lead to catastrophic life style and will give up at the first rising, minor problems. Bear in mind brothers and sisters, that the opposite sex will logically respect you if
you respect yourself. Do not underestiamate you
pride and throw it to the first demand.
For a men (probaly for woman too) there is two sort of ladies(men) these days. The one to have fun(!) with and the one to marry. It is a pheneomenon indeed.Think about it. You don't want to be the ultimate temporary 1.
Marraige is not easy but it is a wonderfull thing. |
| Brother | Unrecorded Date
"Polygamy" interesting subject to all of us.
What are you beliefs about, and what do you feel about it. Should we practice it? If Yes/No? why?
Please do not hesitate, we are all concerned? |
| brother | Unrecorded Date
To JUSTMARRIEDONE
I am really touched by your feelings but it looks like you
contracdicting yourself. Once you said you bringing a miserable marriage.Next you cannot find better men than you husband.We obviouly don't know your particular case, but sis do keep marriage if you think the matter is not complicated.(co's it sounds like it).If you do love your husband then for the sake of it help him. |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
welcome to life married chick.
I always knew you're one of them lazy chicks.
from now on you're openned for cutting my leg. |
| brother | Unrecorded Date
To Hebel:
I don't get you meaning of: " Cuttings my legs".
This a discussion forums , we need to be clear and sure of what we saying.
Peace |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
"Married, mothers, educated and working somali women who feel under-appreciated,
stereotyped and unrealized by their somali men."
that is what u said the one who started the topic. well my dear sister, i dont think such young educated and working somali women exist within our society these. those who are educated are with foriegners and not with somalis. and i am very sorry that we cannot help you because u abonded us once and now you are trying to come back. we are sorry. |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
Brother IM clear but you're not too sure.
Don't come into my sea....strugle for my safety. |
| brother | Unrecorded Date
Hebel;
No hard feelings bro/sis. Just want to be sure.
After all, I am human and can make mistakes.
Peace |
