     Guled | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 12:46 pm
My dear brothers and sisters;
I am not here to brag about something that I don't have. I am in dilemma as I am in love with two women and I don't really know which one to choose. Each one has her positive elements and it hard to sometimes to distinguish the two of them as they have very close personal manners. Well, now you know why I am in love with both of them.
This is the hard part; both girls live here in North America. My family approves one of them, but the not-approved one is kind closer to me in terms of distance. My family is pushing me to marry the one they like and I really want to take my time and see what future has in store for us. I would love time to roll because things may change and it may be easier for me to reach that ultimate decision. This is true story, folks. And again, I am not here to disrespect our sisters whom I give at most respect. Without them, I wonder what life would have been like. But I sometimes wish something like this never existed. Imagine this, I care both of them so much that talking to one of them is like talking to the other one.
Both girls are educated, have similar looks and almost same age and both are semi-religious. So, drop me some brotherly advice for me, as that will be greatly appreciated. I know it would have been easier to offer more precise solutions had I given more information, but I am afraid that I can't give more than that as I respect the privacy of these two girls.
Much respects to all of you. |
| Glad to help | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 01:06 pm
Guled how about you marry both of them it's allowed in Islam lol I guess they wouldn't be happy with that. Anyway bro don't make any rash decisions take your time and go with the one that you think is better for you. |
| Your_brother_in_Islam | Friday, March 23, 2001 - 01:10 pm
Guled, all you need is a Salaatul Istakhaara. |
| dhabad | Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 04:13 am
guled, might allah cure your delima. Brother, i am grown up and never thought such thing u call Love existed in the minds of men. I thought it was just a figment of one's imagination.
But to respect you believe and your principle, i can tell u : stay strong. Be a man enough to confront them with nitty-gritty of the real issue and say: hello i love both of u, and i can not let non of go. so what is the solution?I can get marry both you?
whoever give u down to earth answer and a sound instinct, then give her the golden chance.
I must say that i am not expert on this matter, but i hope somehow u will be able to filter out our advices and take the good sides of them.
a thousand salams to you
asalam aleykum |
| ahmed | Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 10:52 am
to guled
there are NO two love. love is just one, so make up
your mind. dont waste the girls time.
the mens like you are called players i am sure you
like one of them more. |
| leilaa | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 04:33 am
dhimo guleed!!! and i don't bleif you |
| SisterTryin2Help | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 06:32 am
I THINK YOU NEED ADVICE FROM A LADYZ POINT!
"GULED" IF U REALLY NEED THAT MUCH HELP! THEN I THINK U SHOULD ASK "ALLAH" 4 THAT!
THERE IS A SURA THAT YOU,
PRAY 2 ALLAH 4 HELP IN THIS SOLUTION.
BUT SORRY I DONT KNOW WHAT IT IS CALLED BUT INSALLAH I WILL.
FROM WHAT I THINK: U SHOULD MARRY THE 1 THAT IS MORE INTO "DINEE" AND HER HEART IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE.
"INSALLAH" ALLAH WILL HELP YOU 2 MAKE UP YOUR MIND!
MAY ALLAH HELP YOU(INSALLAH)
I HOPE THIS IS ENOUGH ADVICE 4 YOUR "DILEMA" |
| Qanciiye | Thursday, March 29, 2001 - 04:58 pm
Guled brother i am kind of wondering, because it seems your situation is almost similar to my infact my is more conflict then yours because i am inlove three different girls and of course they love me more then i do. In addition my parent and frinds are also pushing me another girl who i used love when i was kind of kid. how i think the solution both you and me is to try marry as musch as possible. in fact Allah allowed as to mary up to four and 95% i believe l will do that. brother i am in north america at midwest. so i hope eventhough you are in north america you can still join people like me. thanks bye |
| Lovelylady | Saturday, March 31, 2001 - 07:32 pm
Dear guled.
I have 1q,4. u do u really really know the meaning of "love"?
if u do please!!! listen to ur heart and follow it what it tells u. couse u can love one person in ur life time and that person is the one and the "only one" that u would give to ur heart,soul and ur life completely with unconditional love.
so, be honest to urself and with ur true love.
remember u can love them in deffernt way, but not in a same way. no way !!!!!!!!!! dear.
that is all I have to say to u dear guled
peace and love
bye lovelylady. |
| Ayan | Sunday, April 01, 2001 - 12:49 am
Assalamu Caleykum Guled,
I agree with Your Brother In Islams adcive and so as SisterTryin2Help.
Pray Salatul Istikharah after salaat el-cishaa and ask Allah to guide you inshallah. I wish you all the best. |
