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     | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 01:22 am Hey everybody i need some serious advice, i grew up in non-muslim country and i've seen alot in my life. i'm dating this guy now, we are pretty serious in our long realetionship.We have come to the point where we wanna get married. but there is one problem. He want's us to have sex before we get married. And i don't wanna lose my virginety before i get married.Belive me i do love him ,and i would do anything for him. making love to him will be my pleasure, but i think it's wrong to do it before marriage. It's killing me to see him hurt. please help me. give me some serious advice. whats wrong with out bro's all they seem to think of is SEX SEX SEX.Some of them don't think you can have a serious realetionship, without having sex. that's not what the wrold is about....I belive if you love someone you should respect that persons wishes. well plz help me out love Virgin Girl
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| | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 04:11 am well look into the hidden agenda, if the guy can't wait until yo guys get married. are you sure after he used he will be around? big no, no. I too live in a vicinity of non-Muslim country.. Your are accountable for you action and as well liable.
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| | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 11:59 am virgin girl don't loss you virginity b4 marriage that is all I have to say to ....................stay virgin once you loss it you will transformed to a ho*e since you have got nothing to loss anymore.
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| | Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 02:10 pm TO virgin girl i agree with Ninxoon 100% Stay virgin is the best thing. sweetly you dont need him if all he think is about SEX!
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| | Wednesday, April 04, 2001 - 12:18 am Ninxoon thanks bro, i do agree with you. i do wanna keep on staying a virgin.It means alot to me. But the thing is that i love him. And i don't want to hurt him. But the problem is he can't wait til we get married. He is that horny.I don't know what to do with him.I told him let's get married now then, why wait?? well...his answer was i'm not ready right now. And that really got to me. Im do in love with him, i have told him things i never told anyone else. But he is pushing me too much. I know im never gonna have sex with him before we get married. But still it's hurting me to see him like that. Asp Virgin girl
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| | Wednesday, April 04, 2001 - 01:17 am Virgin girl i think you should stay virgin cos as nixxon said you would become a....... not only that sis it's harm and if you did lose your virginity then you would be beaten up in the islamic point of view. If he wants to have sex then he is not the right one for you maybe he has lost his virginty and has done it with other girls tooooo so how can you trust him sis. He will get over it sis if he realy loves you then he should not push you into doing something which is harm and you don't want Ma salaam
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| | Wednesday, April 04, 2001 - 05:07 am Hey gurl I think you are doing the right thing by not wanting to have sex before marriage..is hard to find a girl that will hold on to her self like that these days. and why is it that you care so much of him hurting when he is the one hurting you? led him go! well what do you know ninxon giving advice! but you can never shut up wit the a ho*e shi*t can't cha?I guess not!
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| | Wednesday, April 04, 2001 - 05:33 am Hey gurl leyla thanks sis. I can't seem to understand why all da guys think only of sex. what's up with da bros now a days??? i want a bro to answer me... cos i can't understand da world we living in. already in a very young age, we start to think of sex and only sex. now som'in must be wong. ot is it just me. i need a bro to proov me worng. Now give me wat cha got. P.s i wish there were more sistas like me and all the other virgin girlz in da world. i'm 16 and i never opened my legs for any guy. and alhhamdulilah im gonna keep my legs closed til a get married. chill out
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| | Wednesday, April 04, 2001 - 06:41 am virgin girl i think u are doing the right thing, is he doesnt wanna stay around u know what....u are better of with out him, and that mean he didnt love u and he was after that, but u guys are already talking about marrige he shall wait till he becomes ur husband and he can do what he wants.... i think u are very pure, dont ever put that black spot on you before marrige dear..and may allah help u and cool him down..
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| | Wednesday, April 04, 2001 - 06:54 am To Gogarad thank u for ur understanding and ur wonderful advice. are u bro or sis?? anyway iam gonna stay virgin til the day i get married. No matter if it's tomrrow or 10 years from now. i know iam doing the right thing. I fear allah and we should all do that. i wish the best for the ummah. may allah guid us. if there is some other advices plz share it with me and my helpfull bro's and sistas. thank u for helping once again.
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 12:02 am All eyes on you.  **
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 12:47 am To Virgin Girl I think it's very mature of u to do that. i wish i was in ur place. iam 17 and i already lost my virginity.I am so ashamed of it. i wish i could get it back. all i have to say to u is........DON'T DO IT. it's not worth any guy on this earth, accept for ur husband. i hope u take my advice.
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 12:51 am To: Virgin girl.. From: a guy who loves virgin ALL the power in the world to u sister. we need more girls like u in the world. The guy is nothing but a low life ••••. Is ur man blind sweetheart.U are such a lovely girl. It's hard to find a virgin girl in tjis world now. he should open his fucked up eyes. and stop telling u to have sex with him. what a punk....  i wish u were my girl, i would have married u right a way, and be the best husband ever. VIRGIN GIRL MARRY ME INSTEAD SIS. peace out
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 02:11 am Hey Virgin girl What is up? you don't know and you don't need to know me but i am going to give you my advice which is don't give away ur most priceless thing in ur body to someone who you think loves you and who is hurted. Let me tell you this, i am much older than you and have been around alot. In my time i have seduced a lot of girls who though i was in love with them. Truelly i didn't care about them and all i was after was to have sex with. I used to lay low and pretend to be in love with them so i could get in to their nickers. Guys tell the girls what they want hear, i am sure you famalier some of them like ____ooh Show me how much you love me by having sex with me, than we could get married but at the moment, iam not ready yet. ¬¬¬¬¬another excuse is ooh i wouldn't get married without havining sex with you because what if we get married and than i found out that you don't enjoy sex or you can't perform, it is too risk it is like buying something and not test it..let us do it now and we can find out before we commit to each other Anyway there are millions of excuses but as soon as we get to the girls knicker or pants as you cal it in america, we shoot off and called you whore and spread the word that you are not virgin. Believe me you think no one is going to find out but everyone will sooner or latter and you will feel very cheap for what, two or five minutes pleasure pleasing someone who you are not sure they care about you deep down and your name, your family name will be gone and the worst you are in trouble with Allah as well. So please don't fall into male trap. Now i know my mistake and don't like to see girls falling into male ego thing
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 05:19 am Volume 9, Book 92, Number 432: Narrated Ibn 'Umar: The Jews brought a man and a woman who had committed illegal sexual intercourse, to the Prophet and the Prophet ordered them to be stoned to death, and they were stoned to death near the mosque where the biers used to be placed.
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 05:22 am Yo! look for yourself. Translation of Sahih Bukhari Volume 9, Book 92, Number 432: Narrated Ibn 'Umar
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 06:04 am Hey virgin girl it's me do u remember...
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 02:06 pm Virgin Girl, Two thing: 1) You said your 16 years old, you don't have lot experience so be very careful about the word love. You will hear a lot from now on. 2) From what you have written you are worrying mostly about losing your virginity and hurting your so called boy friend, but that is not big problem. The problem is if you do what you are talking about, Allah will punish you severely and belief me that is very sever punishment. So my advice if you are real Muslim don't even think about it. Stay away from him and God will offer you better one. If you are decent girl you deserve better than that, you deserve someone who will not pressure you do sin. Don't belief him the notion he can not stay without (...) . Lot of real man stay without. Someone pressuring someone as you young as you, is not gentleman and does not deserve the love of decent, innocent young girl. take care, remember you are the only one who will make your own decision
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| | Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 03:56 pm FIRST OF ALL I APPAULD U, AND AM GlAD TO HEAR A GAL WHO HAS MORALS AND PRINCIPLES...U GO GAL. SO TELL YOUR MAN THAT U HAVE WAITED THIS LONG AND U ARE SAVING YOURSELF FOR YOUR WEDDING NIGHT AND IF TRULY LOVES U HE WILL ANTICIPATE FOR THAT SPECIAL NIGHT TO NIINXOON OF ALL YOUR POSTING I REALISED U FINALLY HAVE A BRAIN AND U GAVE THE SIS SOME GOOD ADVICE ABD NEXT TIME PLS STOP GENERALISING SOMALI WOMEN AS WHORES/SLUTS THEY ARE SOME OF US DOING POSOTIVE THINGS AND MY FINAL COMMENT IS TO VIRGIN SISTA TELL YOUR HORNY MAN INORDER TO REALISE HIS SEXUAL FRUSTRATTION TO PULL OUT THE VASELINE AND BEAT HIS BEEF HEY STAY POSITIVE Y'ALL
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 01:45 am To Lawyer Thank you very much, you really got me thinking. You are right!!!! i should first think about Allah, and then my family and at last my selfrespect. Don't get me wrong ya'll...i don't wanna have sex ,And iam not going to have sex before i get married. i defenetly know am doing the right thing. I know that few minutes pleasure ain't worth giving up som many things.You people are right. if he truely loved me he would respect my wishes. I don't even know why iam with him. i always wanted a guy who fears allah.If he feared allah, he would'nt ask me to comite Zina. allhamdulillah my eyes are opened now. incha allah! allah will replace him with someone better then him. once again thanx. To Princ: WHO R U, sorry But i can't seem to remember who you are. Is it you Liiban.
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 01:45 am To Lawyer Thank you very much, you really got me thinking. You are right!!!! i should first think about Allah, and then my family and at last my selfrespect. Don't get me wrong ya'll...i don't wanna have sex ,And iam not going to have sex before i get married. i defenetly know am doing the right thing. I know that few minutes pleasure ain't worth giving up som many things.You people are right. if he truely loved me he would respect my wishes. I don't even know why iam with him. i always wanted a guy who fears allah.If he feared allah, he would'nt ask me to comite Zina. allhamdulillah my eyes are opened now. incha allah! allah will replace him with someone better then him. once again thanx. To Prin: WHO R U, sorry But i can't seem to remember who you are. Is it you Liiban.
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 01:57 am Virgin girl If ur so called boyfriend is asking u to do that for him. he is nothing but a lowlife ••••. he is not worth it. you are a mature girl.Keep up the good job girl. we need more girls like u in this big scary world.
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 02:01 am I DON*T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. HA HA HA HA The guy u dating must be a loser. when he got a innocent girl like u. He is blind. Truely many guys want to marry a girl like u.Virgin Girl u are making me and my boys proud.If he u leave him. Mail me I live in Sweden. Fanax_22@hotmail.com bye P.S i promise i will treat u like a lady.
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 02:47 am think of this, no virgin girl can be come a virgin but a virgin can become no virgin in 10 sec.....thking about it
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 04:00 am I can't belive NINXOON is giving advice. when did you become so sweet u fat ••••. u r going down NINXOON. you ain't nothing but a ••••
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 05:24 am well Ain't that something.
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| | Friday, April 06, 2001 - 06:30 am ur boyfriend must be a dumloser. leave his ass Virgin Girl. he is not worth it.
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 02:32 am WHAT CAN I SAY VIRGIN GIRL YOU ROCK THE WORLD. KEEP IT REAL SIS. GOODLUCK AND DUMB HIS ASS. IM A 16 YEARS OLD GIRL TOO.I LIKE YOU HAS ALSO SEEN ALOT.I HAVE SEEN ALOT OF BOYS TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE GIRL,I DON'T WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO YOU TOO SIS.MAY ALLAH OPEN YOUR EYES.VIRGIN GIRL DON'T THINK OF THE GUY,WHO CARES IF HE IS HURTING OR NOT.THINK OF ALLAH AND THE PUNISHMENT OF YOUR ACTIONS IF YOU HAVE SEX WITH THIS SO CALLED BOYFRIEND OF URS.BELIVE ME IT'S NOT WORTH IT. DON'T DESTROY YOUR DIGNITY FOR HIM.THIS IS A GAME MUST OF THE GUYS PLAY.THEY WILL TELL YOU ALL KINDS OF SHITS- -LIKE I WILL MARRY YOU. -IT DOES'NT MATTER IF WE DO IT NOW OR LATER, AND SOW ON. IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU,HE WOULD'NT PUSH YOU INTO DOING SOMETHING AS BAD AS HARAM SEX.I AM SURE YOU CAN SEE THAT WHAT HE IS ASKING YOU TO DO IS WRONG. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK.
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 06:14 am TO lovevirgin i will love 2 marreid u i am young and virgin who wanna virgin guy,,,,,,,,, so r u virgin as well?
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 07:09 am Virgin Girl, I do speak and write english but I should rather prefer to write and speak my mother tongue the beloved Somali, because I'm a POET in our Somali, and this would be better and easier for me, but I don't know If u read your native language given that you grew up in a non muslim country as you did mention. Anyway sis, I do live in Arabia and I would like to give you some serious advise. From the Islamic point of view, since we are Muslims and do beleive in our creator Allah most merciful (subxanahu wa tacalaa), this action having a premarital sex with somabody is absolutely prohibited by our Share'ah. The most severe punishment is applied on those who commit this sin, in the Dunya in our present life, and after death the day of judgement the most severe punishment again is waiting against that sinful person. From the social and marital point of view, in addition to the many valuable advises told by the bros and sisters, my advise is TO NOT do that devil worst sin and crime i.e. "having a sex with a boyfriend". Sis., we men greatly appreciate at the day of marriage that our partner should be most necessarilly a VIRGIN, and that is only and the only thing we trust and appreciate the wife/spouse to be. For me, personally If I meet a non virgin girl at the night of my marriage, I would WaLlaahi AUTOMATICALLY divorse that devil unvirgin who lost her virginity and before that lost her religion and faith with her Creator Allah the most mercifull. Lastly, my dear sis, you are very young, do not loose your virginity, do not play your religion, do not cheet yourself, and do not disregard your position in the society, being virgin whatever your physical appearance you are a very very valued personality among the society and everybody will respect you, but the one who will honour you the most grateful respect and reputation will be your husband who will analyse and test you at the bed at the night of your marriage. Dear sis, I am much older than you I'm 29 and married with two daughters and a son, and I have AlhamduLiLLAAH a very very beloved wife who I do take care of her and she cares of her husband. So, dear sister, keep and save your virginity for that man in that night and you will see the result, I wish for you all succes. And pls and pls kick out that sinful mujrim idiot and do not never have a talk that sinful person who seems is only thinking to have an illegal sex with the virgin small girls like you and will escape and doing all that big JAREEMAH (sin) in seconds, and going to hurt you. Mahadsanid. Assalamu Calaykum.
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 07:24 am virgin girl, i am a sis dear and i am telling ya like most ppl here, dont EVER lose it to any one else but ur husband, and inshalla u guys will work ur diffrences...
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 07:52 am sis been a virgin is the most precious gift u can give ur husband. i believe i am a little older than u,but take this from me,if u loose it now u loose everything that is precious to u. u will be like a bird without wings. if the man truly loves,he wouldnt even bother asking u to make love to him. all u need to do is tell him how u feel,and if he truly cares he will respect that.otherwise he wasnt the one for u. sis if i am not mistaken,u said u are 16 and getting married soon. if u dont mind me asking what is the rush? u shouldnt even be in a serious relationship neither date now. i dont mean to sound like an old lady but baby u are suppose to be focused on ur future. u have ur whole life ahead of u sweety. anyways i shall wait for ur answer soon. have faith lonelyheart
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 08:10 pm TO VIRGIN GIRL i'd like to make a brife point regarding u and ur boyfriend . while u realy deserve all the applause u got from the audience for ur moral stand and i add my voice to theirs in this regard i dont agree with the words ppl used to mention him like loser and lowlife etc. just because he wanted to consumate a relationship befor marriage doesn't make him a moral degenarate the fact that u r still in luv with him even after he has hurt ur feelings makes me think that there r some qualities to him which make u stick by him. bottom line is i am a young guy and i understand why sometimes young fellas do things like that, try peer pressure for a reason . my advise to u is if stick by him he will surely see reason in the end, and dont rush into marriage cause marriage is something biger than just satisfying a sexual desire,it's a huge responsiblity and u dont wanna take it upon u at such a young age, and last but not least dont listen to those who say dumb his ass and all that crap.ppl change and ur guy is no exeption and with ur help i am sure he's got a preety good chance .
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| | Saturday, April 07, 2001 - 09:55 pm I don't agree with Mr Islander his ideas, being too young to marry! What a hell! Girls marry at 13, 14, 15 and even younger, and more she marries at younger age more protection and reaction with the real life she will enjoy, and of course of her whole life. She needs to enjoy her life with her legal husband with no fear at all, she can continue her studies while been a good wife. I wish for this young sister all succes and a very good Allah fearing serious husband. May Allah bless upon you sister..
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| | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 05:47 am tO SHEEKH AHMED. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR OPENING MY EYES.YOU ARE TYUELY THE ONLY ONE WHO FINELLY GAVE ME A CLEAR UNDERSTANDING ABOUT THE WHOLE THING,EVEN THOUGH I PREUSER MY BRO'S AND SISTERS FOR GIVING ME ADVICE. I WISH MY BOYFRIEND SHARED THE SAME IDEA AS YOU. I DON'T THINK IM RUSHING INTO ANYTHING, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH GETTIN MARRIED IN A YOUNG AGE. AS SHEEKH AHMED SAID, YOU CAN BE A GOOD WIFE AND STILL GET AN EDUCATION.I BELIVE IM STRONG ENOUGH TO DO BOTH.AND I DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM , TO SHOW HIM HOW MUCH I LOVE HIM, THAT'S VERY WRONG.WHEN HAVE WE BECOME LIKE THIS.YOU CAN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT HAVING SEX.SICE WHEN HAVE WE BECOME SO MUCH LIKE THE NON-MUSLIMS. DEAR ALLAH FORGIVE US FOR ALL OUR SINS.- AHMED SHEEKH. ONCE AGAIN THANX FOR UR ADVICE. I'LL CONTACT YOU, IF I NEED ANOTHER ADVICE
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| | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 02:22 pm Hi virging girl I have question for you , have you ever have sexual intercourse? if no or yes is okey I don't mind just whant to know ,I am very good looking somali guy ,educater,know's how to treat the ladys,sex, mucelman,easygoing,romantic. If you realy realy realy realy are nice lady and have enough confidence to your self don't worry about that guy I'll take you with no condition what so ever. THANKS.
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| | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 05:21 pm Vergin Girl There aint nothing wrong with being a vergin.. It's the right thing to do..keep your legs crossed till you get married girl.. I'm 22 and very broud to have kicked any guy who mentioned that word to me to the Kurb...for real..they're still out there collecting ho*s(&STD's) while I'm enjoying my education...I haven't missed out on anything and neither will you...so do the right thing sweety, if he thinks he's not ready to get married, what makes him think he's ready for sex...You can't have one without the other... Hope that was helpful.
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| | Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 07:30 am Kamaal, ma xishoode, Calayka LacnataAllaah Al Mutataabicah! You are really Shaydaanul Insi, you are a Human Devil. War Malcuunyahow lacanadi kugu dhacday e, ma gabar siday sheegtay miskiin ah oo Soomaaliyeed baad ku dhiirrigelinaysaa inay FAAXISHO samyeso Shaydaanyahow, waxaa jira shayaadiinta insiga adigu Shaydaan soo dhar dhigtay oo insi ah oo murxay baad tahay Ibliisyohow! Dear Virgin Girl, Ku mahadsanid, runtii ingiriiska waxaan ka jeclahay Af Soomaaliga toban sano ka badan baa iigu dambeysay Ingiriis barashadiis, hase yeeshee sidaad aragtay waan xar xarriiqi karaa! waxaan aad uga jeclahay Afka Hooyo ee macaan! Qaar waxaa jira meelahaas gaaladu joogto ku dhashay ama ku koray sidaadoo kale oo aan Afka Hooyaba qori kareyn, Ilaahay ha ku xafido Abbaayo, sidaad sheegtay ku dadaal, inkastoo waxaad sheegtay ee Boyfriend-ka la yiraahdo aan aad u nebcahay oo xataa aanan maqli karin oo ay igu tahay sidii CIR SOO DUMAY oo kale haddana taladeyda waan kuu soo hormariyay walaashay. Waxaa loo baahan yahay gabar caqli badan inaad noqoto, waana kaa muuqataa inaad caqli badan tahay, hal mid haddaad ku darsato adigoo kale ma la heli karo, dahab iyo wax kaleba waad ka qiima badnaaneysaa. Waxaa kaloo jira, qodobka ugu wayn ee nalaka doonayo wuxuu yahay inaan aad iyo aad u ilaalinno DIINTEENNA raxmadda badan, Allahii na abuurtay miyaadan xusuusaneyn ee qof dhallinyaro ah kaa dhigay ee dareenka ku siiyay, ee Aabbe iyo Hooyo xalaal ah kaa dhaliyay, caqliga ku siiyay, addimmada aad wax ku soo qoreyso ku siiyay, nicmada waxbrashada ku siiyay!! Allahaas Raxmaanka ah sow kaama mudna inaad ku SHUKRISO. Waxaan u maleynayaa jawaabtu waa HAA kun goor ka badan. Gabar muslimad ah maxaa laga doonayaa: 1) Xishood baa laga doonayaa, waa hadday tahay VIRGIN GIRL iyo garoob girl intaba, haweeney muslimad ah waa inay X I S H O O T A A!! oo ka ilaaliso inay ku hadasho kalmado laga xishoodo. 2) Inay stick gareyso tacaaliimta islaamka (Islamic Instructions) oo uu ka mid yahay XIJAABKA SHACRIGA AH. 3) Inay hadduu soo doono oo waalidkeed ka soo doono sida sharciga ah nin u qalma, u qalmid diineed, akhlaaq, dadnimo, aqoon, ragannimo, hadduu soo doono inay ku DEGDEGTO inay aqbasho si ay u hesho GURI xalaal ah oo ay BOQORAD ka noqoto nolosheeda saldhig u noqda. 4) Inay ugu dambeyn guurka ka dib JECLAATO kana DAMBEYSO saygeeda/zowjkeeda ama odageeda hadba sidaad u taqaanno. 5) Inay awlaaddeeda (wiilal iyo gabdho) wixii Alle u hibeeyo oo ay dhasho ay TARBIYAD wanaagsan oo ISLAAMI ah siiso, diinta Islaamkana ku ABAABISO si ay u anfacaan Adduunka gudihiisa iyo Aakhiroba (markaad geeriyootid oo contract-ga adduunka aad ku joogto ay dhammaato ayaga DUCADOODA ayaa ku ANFACEYSA). Virgin Girl, walaashay, waxaan kuu rajeynayaa GUUR xalaal ah, biidhaalayaasha iyo Boyfriend Wallaahi inaysan adduunka iyo aakhiroba waxba ku tareynin. Waxaan aad u jeclahay midkaas aad ka soo sheekeysay inaad ka fogaatid walaaleey, WaLlaahi ninka ku yiri aan kaa Zinaysto si XAARAAM ah WaLlaahi inuusan nin fiican kuu noqonaynin, maalin walbana Naag Zaaniyad kale ah oo uu ka Zinaysto ayuu doonayaa, wax aan Zino ahayn ee uu ka DHARGI karo ama QANCIN karana ma jiraan, meeshaasna adiga uu baa CIIL ku dambeyn doona. WALAASHAY,, waan kugu dheereeyay ee iga raalli ahoow, If you need to translate, I will do it but I hope and most hopefully you can read at least your NATIVE language. Thanks a lot May Allah protect you my SISTER!! Sh. A. from Riyadh, Kingdom of S.Arabia
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