     rainbow | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 02:27 am
Ihave been dating this guy for about 4months.
He is a absolutely the best!He treas me like a princess.Everything he does,he does for me.We already talk about marriage and spending the rest of our lives together.He doesen't have any trouble communicating his feelings for me,nor do i.But for the past 2 weeks,i have been feeling uneasy about the relationship.For example,when i know i will be seeing him,i don't get as excited to see him as before.I find myself trying to sart fights with him.I'm not sure if it is beacouse we got so close to fast,or maybe we see too much of each other.We do talk on the phone a lot.Also every we are together,he talks about how lucky we are to have met each other.It is like that,it si all he knows how to talk about.Sometimes i want to talk about something other then just our love for one and nother,it could be about anything,i don't know, but i just wanna talk about life.I know that i love him,but am not sure why!I have been feeling irritated everytime we are together.Sometimes we just sit in silence with nothing to talk about and it really buds me.What could be going on??Do i really love him??How can i get him to talk more?,not about his feeling,i get enough of that,but sometimes about nothing at all?? please help! i don't want to hurt him,i know that!DO I LOVE HIM? |
| zahra/nina | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 02:40 am
Communication,as you probably already know,is a vita element in SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.
if you don't feel you are having good communication then offection for partner will natutally diminish.The challeng you are being presented with a golden if you truly wish to have a permanent relationship withis person.
We feel your first step should be to stop focusing on the negative side of the problem.You've established what the problem is: so don't beat!!! |
| GabadhWacan | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 03:54 am
Salaam Calaykum
Dear Sister Rainbow,
To be honest I am no expert and I believe that Allah knows best. However, when I read your thread I felt like I had to respond.
Sister, first and foremost, make sure that your relationship is one Allah SWT would be pleased with. I don't know what your ages are nor what you do in life. But we can't answer your question: Do I love him? Only you can tell us.
The communication part. It takes two to tango sis. So do your part. Your man is really in love with you. There is nothing wrong if he wants to talk about his feelings. Women complain about men who DON'T talk about them. You are lucky. 
Sister, steer the conversation. Make sure you share interests. Exchange ideas. Prepare a mental list of questions you would love to ask him. And in between his " I love your eyes " and " I can't live without you ", shoot your questions. It is essential that you now learn each other because after the flame has diminished communication and understanding are what make love strong.
Rainbow, if he is your calaf, I pray you come to an understanding real soon. May Allah make you both happy. And please always make sure Allah s pleased with your relationship. You got me?
Peace
GabadhWacan |
| faysal | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 05:54 am
do i love him????????
i think you know the answer better then us......
so .....answer to your self honey and don't wast my time here....... |
| kingmaker | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 10:19 am
rain
some women can not handle kindness and love so u might be one of them they prefer some1 who ignores them .....and surprisingly they find them attractive for unknown reasons.
so let him go and find your type |
| Anonymous | Monday, April 09, 2001 - 12:06 pm
Hello there rainbow!
Walaalo I'll be honest with you.
You don't love him, your pity him.
Your loving how his love is for you.
Your not seeing him fully, already your become fadup.
You should have taken it slow. Now what you should do is try to love him for him. Your asking us
"do I love him?"
Why in the world would u ask us that, so inshallah be upfront with him, and honest to allah just tell him how your feeling about all this.
If you deeply care for him and know that his the one for you, then have patient and have faith, then just work it out with him.
Talk to him, and day by day it should work out alright.
Hey this ain't no biggy, just cool it. And smile sometimes.bye
Inshallah walaalo then. Bye.
p.s. Be honest with him, and tell him today b4 it's to late girlllllll
bye |
| rainbow | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 01:04 am
firs and fomost thank you all for taken the time to read my posting
and second for having such a diffrenet opininon!
However when i said DO I LOVE HIM. it was mean as if you could read my story and see my words if i love the guy or not it hade nothing to do with my inter part.and me not knowing the fact of if i love him or not.
i feel the beauty of love is seen
as an oasis in the desert of loneliness
i know where to looke and what to say
i understnad the workings of the mind
to prtect from pain it is all so new and yet so easy, i understand the meaning of true love
but off what i feel am not sure if what i fell
is true love though i feel i love him in some point.
but by your opinion i understand
none of you have been thru what i have or
felt the way i feel, but is all understanble
thank you. |
| gabar | Tuesday, April 10, 2001 - 02:59 pm
TOO MUCH OF ANYTHING CHANGES TO ITS OPPOSITE.
showing too much love kills the meaning of love itself,i think i might understood you,people should talk about other things in live.
i think the reason that u r not sure about your love to him is that he didn't give you chance to express your feeling too,you should share more than love,marriage is not all about love.
you should tell him how you feel and try to change the subject whenever he starts his too much love showing method.dont wait him to change his ways, u have to try to show him the way that u think is the best.
jecel macaan ayaan ku rajaynaya |
| Anonymous | Thursday, April 12, 2001 - 12:17 pm
Damn,,,,,,,he does everything
for you and your still not satisfied..tssssssssss
ill have him!!!!!!!!!!
4sure |
