     Saadeq | Unrecorded Date
Aside from the common factors such as looks, men generally look for different things when it comes to dating and settling down. I think that this is very true especially for somali guys. When it comes to finding a soul mate, it is safe to say that "good" somali men usually look for a sister who has a "good" reputation within in her community. Preferably one who is educated, good muslimah, good family upbringing, but yet still hold on to her culture and diin when it comes to raising a family.
I noticed that so called "liberated" somali women think that "good" somali brothers stay away from them because of their independence and success in school and career. But that is not ture. I assure you that most somali men will love to have these qualities in any woman except most of the ones that fall in this category are either 1)confused or assimilated with western culture or 2)they are already taken and supply is not equal to demand.
This is just my personal opinion and would love to hear your thoughts as well.
Peace. |
| Mr Cool | Unrecorded Date
confused...... it is true! |
| Alex | Unrecorded Date
Saadeq has started a good subject. Now let us not bring here the holly war that has been going on please, or we will have to call the National Guard to bring peace and order. ): |
| Abaayo-macaan | Unrecorded Date
What secrets? It has been obivous from time immemorial that guys want to have their cake and it too. So what else is new? The question is is everyman going to get what he dreams of??.
General, the deal is that birds of the same feather flock together. You don't think a young woman who has her act together, will want to settle for a non ambitios man who has some sort of addication : cigrattes/qaat/khamri. etc.
Sadeq you didn't divulge any secrets.
Sorry |
| SiHaM | Unrecorded Date
Abaayo-Macaan: You got a point there and I agree with you!
Later!! |
| Mr Cool | Unrecorded Date
Alex
Be ready cause a holly war is on the way! I am so sure of it... just wait for few days. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
A man is always a man.
He will go any distance to capture a woman's heart (body). On the way he'll sing (if required) "I love you" to reach his aim…Goal… Soon after, the woman wonders why 'her' man has changed as quickly as she gave him her body. But the man has accomplished his aim. She also wonders why her man prefers to hang out with his buddies, she doesn’t know they provide his 'HIGH', same as he did when he was growing up. Then she starts to deflect his advances.….and on to the road to unhappiness.
Only a submissive (successful) woman can endure the uncivilised part of her man and make the best out it. |
| MissX | Unrecorded Date
Salaamz all,
I agree with U sadeeq about what u said about men who wanna settle with a grl with a good reputation, etc.....but when they are dating thats a different story, cuz u all know men are lookin 4 another hit and run and dont care what reputation the grl has as long as she is just temporary. the reason men stay about from ur so-called "confused and assimilated 2western culture men" is that these women know these types of men..and there is a shoratage of decent brothas around these western parts, so sadeeq, brotha, when u came up with this topic, i really was looking 4 the secret, but it seems like i already knew that one, so can u tell us another secret 2 these men plz?
thanx,
MissX |
| Saadeq | Unrecorded Date
In speaking of the educated/student/professional somalis in the west, it is usually the women who complain the fact that good brothers sometimes choose to reach out to other continents or backhome to find their soul mate when there are plentiful of sisters in the west already. Why is that?? Have you girls wondered? I'm sure your first response will be that they are looking for innocent / submissive (vir...)girls! But that is not always true. The point that I was trying to make was that these brothers (we) would prefer the educated and successful somali sister but they usually come with a baggage of problems and confusions. Sticking with one's identity/culture/diin provides a basic guide to marriage's challeges.
MissX: I don't agree with you when you say "good" brothers are in short supply because it is usually the brother who ships someone from another continent and not the sister.
AbaayoM: I didn't say that a sister who has her act together should settle for a loser. But if she is one of those "westernized" sisters then she needs to wake up and face reality. Stop blaming that there are no good brothers out there. The good brothers have different qualities that they value more than just mere western education and career (even though these are big ++++++)
Hope I didn't create more confusions. I know I'm not revealing any new secrets but this was meant to help the few confused sisters who constantly blame lack of good brothers when that is not the case. |
| X | Unrecorded Date
Wow, I do see someone picking on us women). The truth of the matter is that there are some (few) decent brothers out there but they have something missing (and usually they are desperate to meet a woman they scare us off) but the bad ones (ohhh the bad boys) are the well dressed, charming, good-looking etc. That is the problem we have, that is why we choose to be single. Not because we are westernized.
X |
| Saadeq | Unrecorded Date
Ms. X, that's exactly why I wrote this piece. Your response is a typical reaction from the types of women that I described above. Always in denial! Always confused! I hate to tell you this: in your books you think you made a choice to remain a single but in reality and in perception, you are seen differently. Think about it and smell the roses! |
| X | Unrecorded Date
Saadeq-
Perception is reality, I certainly get proposals (on weekly basis) but I did choose to be single because the Somali Brothers have nothing to offer me, and I don't beleive I should settle for less. Brother I'm not confused, just holding out for someone who has his act together. Waiting for my MR RIGHT.
X |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
To: Saadeq
You said men always look for reputation, but not always I am sorry
If you need proof I'll give it to you.
Another time. |
| Kawaanle | Unrecorded Date
This is reduclous! Are you saying men always look for a girl who has a vanity and pride? I don't think that is the case.you know why? cuz may be what you see is a different sight of what the other brothers do see because everyman is endeavouring how he could accomplish his goal which is truly something that doesn't make any sence.
I can let you have more and more secrest about men if you need it. but may be some other time. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
I think there are some bad and good guys. You saId that you dont wanna settle for less , well noone is saying you have to but its girls like you who end with the loser , wanna know why , coz you sound as if you are too chosey ,you also said that you ger proposals weekly , well whats wrong with them?. there is no such thing as the perfect man. this is to X |
| TROUBLEGIRL | Unrecorded Date
MEN HAVE SECRETS?????????.........Ok Why was it kept from me......
I am sRcatching my Xijaab with astonishment.....
PEACE
TROUBLE |
| GIRLiNJEANS | Unrecorded Date
lol lol lol lol lol!!!!!!!!!!!!
First i wish to direct some adorations to Miss X for being the SPOKES WOMAN for us. Trouble girl for making me laugh?god?I am ELATED.Secondly,to the so called host of this women bashing committie:sadeeq?Heloooo:Obvioulsy you are delussional and presumptious!sadeeq:How can you tell;if u happen to be introduced to a woman who is educated smart,a muslim(stipulations)and single by choice?>So would you automatically assuem she is confused and westernnised because your only proof is she is single?Helooo-what are you-the GURU- womens-POLLS-ANNALYSIST?You are so mis-informed-so misinformed?I could sit here and debate with passion and dedications but i shan't even try.I think Miss x has done that job quite satisfactorily...lol...wow i so admire her...so cheers to your undeveloped mind Mr sadeeq?
GIRLiNJEANS |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
Sadeq why do we (Guys ONLY) scratch our butts whenever we get up in the morning?
Why don't we scratch some other places instead? |
| khalil | Unrecorded Date
Saadeeq, first, for now you betrayed men, are you gonna join to women ?. don't come and tell me you were helping some sisters out here and that was the tip of the day. Second, for now you revealed our little dirty secret, any idea how we get our weekly oil change since all the sisters will keep what is inbetween their legs?
khalil |
