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Aboto Awal

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Ask me....Aboto Awal!
No troubles are too small to consider.
No problems are too large to handle.
Write me and together we shall solve them.

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LOL

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R u Dr. Laura or Dr. Drew

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Qaansoroob

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Aboto, what is the Somali word for foreplay?

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Aboto Awal

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To Qaansoroob;
Foreplay- "I need you tonight...meet me in my room!"

To LOL;
Dr who???? No my dear, Dr Aboto Awal (almost)! (working on the degree part!)

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Qaansoroob

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Thks Aboto Awal,
Another question, why don't Somali married couples do fun things together like sharing a hobby, going out to the movies/resturants; have a picnic on holidays etc.

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Aboto Awal

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Dear Qaansoroob;
Somali couples don't spend as much time doing "couple" stuff because there is NO TIME!!!
1. The man is either sleeping, watching TV or spending time with his friends. Married somali men enjoy the company of other somali men- way too much!!! The only exception to this rule- that he is single- then he wants to spend every moment with his girlfriend!
2. The wife is busy cooking, cleaning, running after the kids and serving the man and his friends the never-ending cup of tea!!! And when SHE gets a free momnet- she gets dressed and attends somali women gatherings until the sun comes up!!!

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Qof tacbaan ah

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to aboto awal;;;

calooshaa i xanuuneyso,, maxaa tala ah

Qof Tacbaan ah

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Aboto Awal

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To Qof Tacbaan ah;
Cuno cun, bakeeri caano cab, take two tylenols and get a good night's sleep.
If you still hurt in the morning- see a real dr!

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Abot Awal

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to Mo;
You asked re: the girlfriend taller than you...Does physical appearance really matter. If she likes you and you find her beautiful..go for it. If you find yourself intimidated by her, try having your longer conversations with her over the phone! That way by the time you meet, you have already built a subject base and repore.
Also see a movie together and then over dinner start the conversation with your thoughts about the movie. It is amazing how comfortable one gets when one is discussing "inpersonal" stuff!
Hope this helps..let me know how goes.

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Ahmad, the patient!

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Hiya, DR. Awal!

I have a multiple personality, according to some of my ex-debators...where I RESPOND to myself over and over in another forums. Being the doc and all, what da yah think I shuld do? Check in to the closest psychiatry-ward? or shall I call Dr. Abooto Awal? Maybe I should have CANJEELO?(i'm sure this is a medicine by now!)


Ahmad, the patient!

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Aboto Awal

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Sorry for the late response- Ahmed the patient-
Your problem: responding to self
Your solution: Continue. Why? During a debate, you believe in what you say- right? Your opinion is the correct one, right? Therefore by repeating your opinions and responding to your own arguments- you are having the most high of discussions! Truth and logic combined. Therefore, my dear Ahmedthepatient, continue your behaviour it makes sense.

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Madiino

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Hello abooto awal

I'm 23 years old somali lady and i have never been in love and i never go with the guys more than a friend. even when they talk to me and tell me that they are in love with me, i don't belive them.

so what shall i do!!!!!!

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Aboto Awal

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To Madina;
You sound like a lady with a good head on her shoulders! You are very young. Get your education, if you already have, get your work experience. Carry on building the rest of your life. Relationship with men is like picking fruits. You can only do so when ripened- no sooner and no later!
Going out with men as friends is a good way to start. Develop your friendships. When you meet the right man, who respects you, is willing to get to know you on your own terms- Then a relationship will develop, Naturally.
Meanwhil- enjoy your life and don't worry about men- not yet!

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Qaansoroob

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Lol@@Abot Awal, relationship with men is like picking fruits huh!!
Well can you tell me where the picking is good, is it at the orchards or at the supermarkets,or would you suggest gleaning :) Personally, i prefer when fruits are organic.....no genetic enhancement.

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Aboto Awal

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To Qaansoroob;
true fruits are best at their natural state- with no enhancements- but at times certain enhancements make the fruit more enjoyable!
Where to find the best pickings?
Depends on your preferences.
If you wish is to get fruit in abundance- supermarkets should be your hangouts. If your need is to find a fresh fruit- untouched by any human hand- try the orchards- but you have to wait for the ripest!

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Madiino

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To: abooto awal

abooto thankx for your adv and i was thinking same way but i was not quet sure what shoul i do. so if you think I'm on rught turck that is good


thankx many times

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Aboto Awal

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to madiino;
You are Welcome!

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Ms.Soul

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Dear Aboto Awal:

It seems that I am having hard time meeting the kind of man I like and I feel like that I should lower my standers. I meet these creeps that I can't stand. My friends sets me up with these blind dates. I think it is a totally waste of time, most of the time i am trying to figure out what he thinks of me and make myself interested in his work and life style when I am not.

Help What should I do?

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Aboto Awal

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To Ms Soul;
My dear- If your standards are realistic (that you want someone you are attracted to, someone who is dependable, someone who cares about you and someone who can provide for his future children- NEVER LOWER THEM. It is better that you live your life being true to yourself, then by lowering your standards to satisfy your friends! If you accept someone, remember you have to live with that person. How would you feel? When you meet someone, follow your instinct, if you don't want to have a relationship- DON'T! Remember you are the captain of your soul.
As for your friends setting you up- Tell them thanks but no thanks. And the "creeps"- don't bother with them. If you meet them- leave them ASAP! You are a GEM and need to meet another GEM!
Remember a happy person attracts happy people!
Good luck!

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Al-farooq

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Asalaamu Caleykum

Waano:

Qofka meeshaan damcay inuu dadka ka waaniyo waxaan kugu baraarujin lahaa inaadan ka digtoonaatid arrinka aad halkaan ka bilowday waxaadna fooda u saaran tahay inaad ku sifowdid kuwii nabiga xadiiskii Jabir wariyay lagu sheegay. "MIDKA XAGEYGA (nabiga) LOOGU JECELYAHAY UGUNA DHOW LA FARIISIGA MAALINTA QIYAAME WAA MIDKA IDINKUGU AKHLAAKH WANAAGSAN, MIDKA LOOGU CARO BADAN YAHAY UGUNA FAG WAA KUWA UGU HADALKA BADAN, KUWA HADALKA ISKU DHEERDHEEREEYA OO AFKA KA BUUXSADA HADALKA ISKUNA DAYA INUU U HADLO HADALKA OO AFKA LAGA BUUXSADO IYO KUWA KIBIRKA BADAN OO HADALKA KU DHEERAADA." Waa arink khatar ah ee iska ilaali intaad leedahay Doctor Laura matal meel xun ha ka dhicinee

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Qaansoroob

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Huh???????

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bootaan

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hi Aboto,

my girl friend is not indepedant what I should do to her?.
this bother me much coz I've to re-change her mind after it's been changed by her family.

by.
bootaan.

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Aboto Awal

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to botaan;
brother it seems to me that your girlfriend has a problem making up her mind. This may not necessarily be bad thing. Sometimes people change their minds if they hear something that makes more sense. She could be a lady that heeds advice.

To al- Farooq;
Walaal waad ku mahadsantahay waanada aad i siisay. Laakin kuma fahmin. Plse make me understand how i am incurring Allah's wrath by my deeds in this forums.

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aboto awal

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searching al-farooq....hello?

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Samiyya

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Aboto-
I'm a young lady in her twenties, about a year ago I have met the man of my dreams, he was everything I ever wanted. He was smart, charming and handsome. The only problem was that he was a ladies man. I ended the relationship about 5 months ago. But I miss him terribly, I can't get him of my mind or heart. Aboto, what can I do? Please help. I know he is the love of my life. If my friends and family ever see me going back to him they will die. But I really love him and miss him

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Aboto Awal

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To Samiyya;
You did right! Dropping a ladies man before you get further hurt is the best thing you could ever do! I know it hurts now but believe me when I say- You will be happier about your decision- later.
Be proud of your self. Be proud of the fact that you were unwilling to compromise your principles. The hurt will pass. But you did RIGHT!
Be strong, Samiyya- you are truly a lady!

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Dear Abby aka Abooto Awal (lol)

I have a problem with somali men. I am divorced and every man I meet soon or later starts talking about sex and most of the time in graphic ways. I don't know what brings that about. For the longest time I blamed myself. Maybe my words or my demeanor sent them that message. But now I think it is an epidemic. As a God fearing sister, I believe pre-marital sex is a no-no. But people have been telling me that since I was previously married and no longer a virgin, men feel more at ease with me to talk about it. I believe that there is a time and place for each thing. How can one describe what he would do to me when he gets me in bed when he doesn't even know what my dreams are for example. Is this trend normal among all somali men? Can i find one that will see me as a woman first and not a sexual object only? And am I dumb to expect such respect?
Thanks sis.

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Aboto Awal

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Dear Depressed;
Listen to me- You refrained from pre-marital sex before- do so again. Keep with the same ideals you had when you were a "virgin". Never compromise yourself. If a man can not understand that then he is not the one for you!
A man has to respect you regardless of whether you were married before, a virgin or 100 years old. Your past is your history but it does NOT rule your future.
Tell the pushy men- "Yes I was married before- yes I slept with my husband. You are not my husband- so I will NOT sleep with you." period. end of story.
And you have nothing to be depressed about! Life is short and you are young- Be with those who are WORTHY of your presence!
Good luck.

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Qaansoroob

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Aboto Awal, you are a jewel!

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Caafi

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Aboto xaawo


You are the funniest agony aunt I ever come across. I thought agony aunts were meant to be mild tempered, relaxed and most of all open minded.

In addition I thought you were meant to be passing you wisdom in more constructive, supportive and rational manner. How come you deploy terms like "listen to me", "you refrained from this" and so on.

That sounds more like an order then advice. Were you in the army by any chance? You were meant to be advising people not running their lives remember!.

Frankly speaking I am worried about the welfare of your clients. Cus If anyone ever uses those terms as an advice while I am in dire straits I would probably be leaving their presence my lower lip sticking out……………….. I must admit you are rare breed aunt agony.

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Mr Cool

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lol@Caafi

Hmmm Aboto Awal I truly like on how you advice people although this dude here has some complaints... is always good to read your advises. Keep it abootoy!

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Dear Aboto Awal,

Thank you for the advice. I have been telling them that much trust me. I am depressed because I am worried there are no more decent Somali brothers out there. I mean decent as in not expecting a kiss or sex after a date. I tell them don't touch my body. I believe if I let them kiss me they will ask for more. I am troubled because people talk too much about sex and I get so embarrassed I don't know what to say. Maybe my silence is seen as consent. Anyways, I will stay the same and pray for my kind of man to cross my path.

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KULULE

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aboto awal I NEED WOMAN

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Anonymous

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Aboto Awal

There is this guy i like at school, the problem is that we have eye contact some times. But how do i get him to notice me.

please help

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Aboto Awal

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To Caafi-
Your point is well taken. No! I did not attend military school. I only get annoyed when young Ladies are mistreated.

To Depressed;
Allah bless you in your choice and the best of luck!

To Mr Cool and Qaansaroob-
Thanks Partners!

To Kulule-
People neend people so you might just find your woman!

To Anon;
How do you get the guy you like at school to notice you- good question. First of all I hope you are over 17/18. If not- we might have a different type of problem. The advise below is for you if you are over 17. Do you tke classes with each other- can you approach him with a study related question- class notes etc. Dress beautifully and smile engagingly!
That might work in breaking the ice. Then as you see each other around school you can say "Hi!"/ "good morning" etc. Let him do the 'chasing' after that. If he does not pursue- then let me know- we will try plan 'B'!
Good luck!

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Qaansoroob

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Aboto Awal, How can one decline an invitation graciously?? I get invited to weddings, shash saar of even people I don't know, and I am running out of excuses... I can't have a head ache every saturday...and people really get offended if I don't attend one particular event, but attend another....any tips?
ps:
90% of the times these events are soooooo boring, so attending it is realy an ordeal!

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Aboto Awal

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Dear Qaansaroob;
You have mentioned a true problem in our society- specially in the summer monthes- everyone seems to be either getting married (apparently this involves about 5 different soire's) or coming to town (the so-called- welcome parties)-Hmmmmmm how to get out...
The problem comes from being at too many of these things. The more parties show up in, the more you get invited to. Specially those people you don't even know....They remember to invite you when they see you! You need to get out of circulation!
One option- in getting out of circulation- is to LIE. Say you will come and NOT show up. If asked later- mention- car broke down, ride disappeared, etc)
This is the chicken way out but it works. They either stop asking you or not count on you to show up! Which is good. Because then you can truly not show up and no one is the wiser.
The other- is to... Hell! LIE...in this case it is justified!

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Abaayo

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Lol@@@Abooto Awal.I agree with you on this
I used this method and it worked for me.
Nobody even knows am in town....lol

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Anonymous

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Aboto Awal, why advise to lie? Just don't show up and when asked for the reason, explain that your policy is to go only to immediate family weddings, or close friends (where you personally know the bride and/or the groom). You developed this policy because you find attending all invitations takes time from other interesting things which you prefer to do on week-ends. Then list what these things are: run errands, cleaning the house, volunteering at the mosque, visiting relatives, going to the...

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Aboto Awal

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To Anon;
Good point.
But Qaansaroob asked of how she could get out of invitations without offending the invitor. Hence, my advice.
Honesty, generally speaking, is the best policy, but if your 'honesty' hurts others, and your lie is a little, innocent one- I don't think much harm is done.
Aren't we supposed to choose the lesser of two ills?

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Tonya

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Aboto Awal

I really admire you, trying to help others. I have a question, how do you answer there questions? i mean have you experianced some of them before.

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Aboto Awal

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to Tonya-
Thank you! To answer your question, I have experienced some of the problems people write about- and some of them- I have not. Generally, I try to use my age (I am OLD) and experience in life to try and give some answers. I hope it helps someone avoid the pain most of us had to go through!

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Tonya

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To Aboto Awal

Like they say older the wiser!!!!! and age is nothing but a number.

You have respect from me. But when you have problem who do you go to?

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Aboto Awal

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To Tonya-
Back in my younger years, I went to anyone who would listen. Now- I just laugh it of and go to bed! One thing I have learned is that any problem can be handled- tomorrow- with a clear mind and good night's sleep.

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Tonya

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-Aboto

Thanks bro, for answering my qeustions. That method going to bed, a good night sleep i will use. Its good for when you have an argument with some one.

Thanks

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flight13

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Aboto awal aniga dhuuso aa iheeso maxaan sameeyaa dadna waa i agjoogaane?

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asho IYO muna

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Dear aboto

ME AND MY BEST FRIEND ARE INVOLVED IN A LONG DISTENESS RELATIONSHIP WE TWO DJ'S AND THEY GO OUT ALMOST EVERY NIGHT AND BECAUSE WE LIVE FAR AWAY WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY GET UP TO. ME AND MY FRIEND WE ARE FAITHFUL TO THEM BOTH WE DON'T GO OUT EVEN THO WE YOUNG THEY TALK ABOUT MARRIEGE AND LOVE. DO U THINK WE SHOULD BLIEVE THEM AND CARRY ON BEING FAITHFUL OR DO U THINK WE SHOULD DATE OTHER GUYS CLOSE TO HOME?

BYE
ASHO IYO MUNA

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Aboto Awal

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Dear Asho and Muna;
Musicians in general are not the most stable of men- specially if they are young. But I could be wrong. But what is more important is the fact that you are two very young women.
So my advise to you- get your education and don't spend too much time worrying about men. Don't make any comittments until you are sure.
When you are older, you will meet the right kind of man.
And finally- if you worry whether someone is faithful or not, they generally are not!
Good luck!

To Flight 13
I think I am too late to help you! Laakin hadey mar damba dhuuso ku qabato adoo dad la jooga- qolka ka bax, and iska dhuus. Haday ka fakatana- Well! Raali ahaada ku dheh!

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muna

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dear dock tell this one thing .... everybody i know talks about 69 what is 69 ... that troubles and every time I asked somebody they just pass it away? you are the dock. peace

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flight13

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hada ma iheeso abooto

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keynaan

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to Aboto Awal

I'm 28, three times I was in love, in the beginning things gone the way I want I never got negative first time but when we got sometimes together something came up then that was it. for example I might hear she use to and still with someone else or her family/friends have already proposed to someone and don't like me.. anyway something didn't come from the person herself made our relation end. I don't what is wrong, what should I do?

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Macaani

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Abooto,an wareer aa i haasta,gebertoo isku kollej digano oo lamo liimo halkii qare le'eg haasato,oo weli caado lamo lugoo dhadheer oo feedan qabto,markiin arko oo indheheey dhac ku siiyo,macaarteey mag soo dhaho oo soo taagmo?...maxaa jira?..kortadaan iyo soo dhegto maxaa waaye?????Abootaay inaas arintaa ii sheegti waaye,baraf xiteey wax waa ii tari waaye.Abooto awaleeeey,

Mashaqo aa i haasato ee mardhow ii soo jawad

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flight13

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waraa macaani baac miraayo inta dhulka dhigto u wac miraayada kor keen warkeed anaa kuu haayee

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BLESSED

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Aboto, i'd like to know how you find the time to answer everyone else's problems? what do you do for a living? and do you have any friends at all, it seems that you are lacking in that department- are you sociable aside from within that 17" or so monitor frame and keyboard.

Peace!

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Observer

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Blessed, are you jelous because nobody posted anything on the page you started..."comunities blah, blah...". Another thing the way you always leave your email address shows that you are one desparate creature.

Peace!

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hebel

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blessed, who blessed you?
Or are you self-claimed blessed?

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BLESSED

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Observer:
You got jokes and no substance what so ever! it seems that you are one of the many "Microwave" generation who really doesn't stand for much..........hot air. You know what i will not lower myself to your level (cretien). By the way you should check my page out atleast we are discussing something worthwhile unlike this quick fix soap opera jargon. It just sickens me how its become easy to adopt "Western" culture.
Desperate you said. Well if that desperation leads to some resolution then i'm guilty of it and not a bit ashamed by it. May Allah bless your lost soul.

Hebel:
Love you too ;)

Peace my "acculture" Somali brothers and sisters.

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BLESSED

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Hebel:
To answer your question why the name blessed, am i self-acclaimed etc. The answer is no i did not bestow that honor on myself or it would be selfish wouldn't it! Allah has blessed me with all that i could ever wish for: great parents, a loving family, health, all of my six senses. I have been blessed all of my life alhamdulilah, what can i say i'm a humble human being who enjoys life day-by-day, extremely thankful for all that Allah has so kindly given me.

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So-blessed

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Blessed you are the cretein who came to this page to harrass someone for no apparent reason.
And about your topic, well it just shows that you are a newbie to the site, cause all these issues has been discussed before so many people find the topic boooooooooring.

You are sub-acculture.

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BLESSED

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You know i won't even go down to your level! this is a free forums and i can say what i feel like saying why don't you take a chill pill.......... if those issues have been discussed before why hasn't there been any change...... well i guess comments like yours explains everything........ we are dealing with des vaches comme vous............

Take care of yourself, can you do that for me!!!!!!
Peace

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So-Blessed

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Blessed-merde, spare us the show off second grade french.
You brought your attitude to this page so you take care kiddoo. Don't spill if you can't take it

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BLESSED

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All hail the imposter!!!!!!!
2nd grade you say....... vous pouvez dire c'est que vous voulait............. that is your opinion and i respect that the way you should be respecting my opinions.........

PS- try to be original with the name thing next time my child.

Peace.

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So-Blessed

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Incase you can't spell Blessed and So-blessed are written differently
Get a life cajuusa!
I am out.

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JZ

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What is this? Cat chase mouse, Dog chase cat?
Doc? Dr Awal, where are you?
Dr, u are in demand at the emergency department!

Chill out fellas.....No need to shapen your fangs and claws.....Personal attacks were left way back at the cave man era.

<=-=-=-=-=-=-= Please proceed in this direction to go back to that time.
Otherwise take deep breaths, chill and come to light -=-=-=-=>

peace 'n luv.
JZ

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Hebel

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Blessed you sound like dying man. what's with the half-page of duca?
Ok bro I believe ya
Take it easy
WAW!!
Touchy guy huh?

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BLESSED

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JZ:
No one is playing a cat and mouse game! all i did was pose a question to A.A. I don't play that game.

Hebel:
No i'm not a dying woman.

S.B:
are you pubescent? what's up with the attitude.

Peace

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So-Blessed

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Oh okay Blessed wannabe, I will be the mature one.
Adieu!

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hebel

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blessed are u m/f?

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LOL

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Hebel Blessed is undecided!

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JZ

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hebel
Blessed is a blessed lady, let her be.

Blessed, I just thought I could ease the tension a bit, that is all.

S. Blessed, are you a blessed lady too? hehe.
I am glad u quit the cyber civil war.

Abooto Awal, you are letting down your clients, soon enough you might loose your practise licence. Or are you in a psychiatry ward yourself. lol.
No hard feelings.

peace 'n luv

JZ

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So-Blessed

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JZ, I was just serving Blessed some of her medicine, (see her first message on this page)
Attitude pisses me off!
And yes I am So-blessed and more Alxamdulilahi


Peace

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BLESSED

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SO.B:
I don't know if i missed the medication hour but that service that you 'so' proclaim to have served has not reached me...... ummmmmmmm!

JZ:
Thanks i give you props for recognizing a "true" lady when you see one. obviously you are a man of reason-who judges equally on all levels.

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hebel

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but she writes like dude.....how come?

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aboto awal

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My, My, My!!! Away for a bit and the forums shifts to what? I am still figuring out.
Sorry, for the absence. JZ- LOL!!! You are closer to the truth than you thought!

Blessed- Interesting that your point- on my lack of life- was made when my life was over-whelming me! Dear Ma'am, I do have a life and Allah has blessed me with more than I can mention with mere words- friends and family I have plenty. So why did I create this forums- I enjoy communicating with others and helping with what I know. I may not have all the answers but I try. Think of me as a gregarious older aunt with too much advise to give...solicited and not! :-)
So now let me take it from the top;

Muna- My dear, you ask about 69. Let me put it this way- if you don't know know what it is- keep it that way- if you know what it is, then no need for me to explain- :-)

Keynaan; Dear man, there seems to be a problem here. But take heart, you are still young. And maybe as you get older, you will start to date women who are also mature and willing to enter into a serious relationship. Good luck and don't give up looking for you happiness!

Macaani; Walaal, dhibaato aa ku heeysato! Inta aan ka fahmay- gabar ayaa jeceshahay- U sheeg noo!

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JZ

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Blessed:

Thanks, I will take that as a compliment.
As a matter of fact, I see quite a few of "genuine" ladies in here....intellectual, generous, sweet,....and much more!

Aboto Awal:

Welcome back Doc.
Sorry, didnt mean to derail your train off track.
I truely respect what you are trying to do here. Keep it up!!

peace 'n luv.

P.S. I suppose I will clear the stage for those with questions/concerns for the Doc. Peace, I am out!

JZ

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Dr. Aboot awal..
Walaahi sis. its really interesting n actually smart of u to come up with a discussion forums of this kind. Keep up the good job of helping ur fellow brothers n sisters but please do me a favor don't mess with their minds like u have .
peace.

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Aboto Awal

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Dear Hibo;
Thanks for the compliment-

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BI-LADY

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GRANDMA AWAL!!!


HI AWAL....I THINK I'M BISEXUAL....I DIDN'T COME OUT YET AS FAR AS MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS ARE CONCERNED...AND THE REASON WHY I NEED YOUR ADVICE IS BECUZ...I'M UNEXPERIENCED...I'M MUCH ATTRACTED TO MALES AND FEMALES...FINE ASS MEN AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN AND I WAS WONDERIN' IF U COULD TELL ME HOW TO APPROACH A WOMAN...JUST AN HONEST OPINION....AS FAR AS MY NIGGAZ ARE CONCERNED...I'VE DONE THEM AND SINCE I'M ATTRACTED TO THA SAME SEX TOO...AND KNOWIN' THAT THERE ARE FEMALES OUT THERE JUST LIKE ME...WHO ARE ATTRACTED TO OTHER FEMALES BUT NEVER GONNA ADMIT TO THEMSELVES OR OTHERS...AND I WANT TO KNOW HOW U ..ABOOTO AWAL CAN HELP ME ???? I DO FANTASIES BOUT A MAN AND A WOMAN AND I ALL IN THA SAME BED....BUT SINCE I HAVE ONLY FUCKED MEN...I THOUGHT MAYBE I COULD DO THA FEMALES TOO..(THOSE THAT R WILLIN' TO COME OUT)....I'M 24 YRS OLD..100%...AND ATTRACTED TO BOTH GENDER's....SO COME @ ME....

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UNI-LADY

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ABOTO MASKAASLAY:

LA-ILAHA-ILALAH!

WHAT HAVE YOU STARTED HERE!!!!!!!!! ALL THE FREAKS START POSTING NONSENSE............ARE YOU CONTENT NOW!!!!! I DON'T SEE YOU RUSHING TO ANSWER THIS POSTING.'

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BI-LADY

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TO: UNI-LADY...


WHY IN ALLAH'S NAME ARE YOU CALLIN' ME AND OTHERS "FREAKS"???

DID U GET TEMPTED BY MY POST, IS THAT WHY U SEEM UPSET?? WHY CAN HUMAN BEINGs COME OUT AND ASK FOR ADVICE IF IT SEEMS RIGHT?? WHY ARE YOU AGAINST ME AND OTHERS???

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UNI-LADY

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ITS SIMPLY YOUR LIFESTYLE IS NOT "NORMAL" IT DEVIATES FROM ALL THAT IS NATURAL, ITS AGAINST ALL THE PRINCIPLES OF ISLAM, JUDAISM, AND CHRISTIANITY FOR THAT MATTER! SOMETHING ALL RELIGIONS AGREE UPON........I THINK YOU JUST POSTED THAT MESSAGE TO SEE WHAT KIND OF REACTION YOU WOULD GET..........I BET THAT YOU DON'T DO WHAT YOU SO PROUDLY CLAIM TO "DO". I AM NOT ONE TO JUDGE PEOPLE BUT TAKE YOUR TRASH SOMEWHERE ELSE.......PLEASE DON'T BRING SHAME TO YOURSELF, YOUR FAMILY, YOUR UMMA, AND YOUR PEOPLE (SOMALIS) - I THINK WE HAVE ENOUGH STIGMA ASSOCIATED TO OUR NAME.

AND BY THE WAY! THERE IS NO TEMPTATION JUST UTTER DISGUST!

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hebel

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Bi-lady what BI stands for?

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BI-LADY

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BI-Lady=Bisexual Lady...HEBEL...

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DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNNNT
TOOOOOOOUUUUUUUCCCCCCHHHH
MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You filthy animal.

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UNI-LADY

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LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Aboto Awal

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To Bi-Lady-
I honestly don't know what to say to you. If you are sincere in your question- then you do have a problem. You need to pray for guidance. I am not one to judge others and their choices in life. But being 'obsessed' with sex is not a way to live. Life is more than that. Plse try to find something worthwhile to concentrate your God-given energies on. If this obsession you have is not something that can be controlled- my only thought is.... maybe you haven't met the right person yet! Good luck.

To Uni-lady-
So far this forums has been devout of any overtly sexual nuances. So I have not "started" anything to exclaim from! I did not respond earlier because I was away for the weekend.

To both ladies;
Why the capital letters? Just wondering!

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To Aboto Awal, Uni-lady and Bi-lady:

First of all, I do not believe you, Bi-lady. This is mainly because you contradicted your-self a number of time. If the question is being bi-sexual, that is normal and no need for a therapist...after all sex is actually the whole point of life and we are all biologically females with a few extra hormones.

However, what I am really conserned about is the way you refer to your sexual partners.

And you Uni-lady, you can't preach your religion and values to other especially when they are already confused. Only positive criticism required...no name calling. Be a lady. :))

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real freak

are you putting on a circus show? lol.
Why do you say that Uni-lady can't preach her religion and at the same time approve of Bi-lady's manifestation of her sexual orientation in this forums. Isn't a contradicting statement in itself?

Positive critism you say, may I ask which planet you live in? lol.
You sound like a newbie to this cyber village. Heed my advice: Just sit back and relax, and be a spectator of the sadness/happiness/horror/fun/love/hate/sweet/sour etc etc portrayed in this flick. Like I always do. What happened to me, I am changing my own rules! hehe. I am missing all the fun. I hear it is happening in the next door. Wanna come?

Does the doctor thing I need help? I think not!

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Regardless of what "the Doctor" thinks you need help. Can't you grasp the concept of bi-sexuality or positive criticism...that is not critism for your information. Preaching religion and accepting someone's sexuality are two different things. If you don't believe it look up the definition of contradiction yourself.

No, I am not a "newbie" to this forums only sick of people who attack others without a reason.

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Aboto Awal

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The issue seems to be getting more than a personal question. Personal sexual choices are that- personal. Our personal beliefs are also personal. We may not agree with a person's choice, but it is their choice.

With that premise inplace, my response to bi-lady, was to question 'her' obsession with sexual matters. That is unhealthy (real freak- refer to my original response to bi-lady).

Passing judgement on others is something that we are all entitled to do, but should, as much as possible, refrain from.

To Spectator-
My dear, if it means anything, I don't think you need help. You sound very balanced and clear-minded!

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No, no, no, you are definitely not entitled to pass judgements on others. The fact is no one is...perhaps except God.

I agree with you however that it is unhealthy to be obsessed with sexual (or any other) matter. That is why obsession is a disorder. Bisexuality however is not by any means unhealthy...unusual may be.

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hebel

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Dear Aboto, I was playing with my wife's vibrator while she was at work and the damn thing broke and now IM bleeding, what sould I do please HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELP!!!

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honey

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Hebel, as nurse i really wanna help you. I don't wanna such bright brotha to be wasted.....But where the hell are you bleeding from?....from A....Is it internal bleeding,if it is anal, it should be red blood mixed with mucous .
For treatment
lay down with your legs elevated and bent at the knees (this will relieve pressure on the abdomen and divert blood to the major organs). Now you need an urgent medical attention, call your Doctor and an ambulance. Take nothing by mouth and treat any obvious injuries.
I hope i was helpfull to you my brotha.
Sorry Aboto Xawo this was a urgent medical call.

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hebel

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I don't know what you are saying Dr. Honey please say it in English.
Of course your realize IM experiencing such an unbelievable pain Mam?

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BI-LADY

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A comment 4 Hebel... Suck my left tit...NOT...

"DON'T TOUCH ME, U FILTHY ANIMAL" LOL..u're loco..GET YA SELF SOME HELP.

A thank U 2 GRANDMA AWAL...It's not that i'm obsessed with sex all tha time, but its just that I have done men and I would want nothin' more than 2 sleep with a woman...I mean, I'm attracted 2 them...and I'm not what U would call "hoe" no, I just been in a few relationships and I know I made it sound as if All I ever do is f*ck f*ck f*ck...but thats not tha case...Just that I was hopin' that U would give me some tips bout how 2 approach a female..(not that i'm sayin' u're BI) but in general...thats all...nothin' more and once more thank u 4 tha feed back...U were helpful once more...as always...PEACE

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ThugGirl

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TO Bi-Lady...
you just messing with DOC right?..you better cuz i know for real you made that up cuz you haven't even done men yet, how could you be saying that.,.??I think..you're a messed up freak so grow up,,and that crap is so old, come up with some new boring questions..that one is been used and recycled.
***your Loco for writing that

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hebel

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OK I'll suck it but are you wearing a deodorant?
Please tell me which hospital takes Medicaid?

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hebel

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what is Loco?

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Cashew-of -the-Nuts

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Hebel, loco means crazy, nuts......haven't you heard living la vida loca?? I guess you are not a Ricky Martin fan.....Man you need Spanish 101.

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BI-LADY

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Thug Lady...

Do U have my file??? Why don't U apply for tha CIA...It seems U would make a great agent...


HEBEL...ITS JUNGLE IN THAT HABITAT...U do tha homework...

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hebel

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OH my god Bi-female you got to shave chick.
LOL@@@ must be very humid there Huh?

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UNI-LADY

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Hebel;

YOU DA MAN ! LOL.............AAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

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kawaanle

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aboto wasaq yahay xaarante ah ka bax forums ilahay waxaan ka aga baryaya gari biri haku jiiro amiin.

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Anon

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Kawanle, jaahil, edeb daran baa tahay. Xayawaan, marka hore wax faham, markaas hadal.

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hebel

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adna mindida ha ku sarto

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BARBY

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TO HONEY!!!
U R DISGUSTING

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honey

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My dear Barby

Thank you for your compliment, or should I come there and thank you in person.
Hebel, very funny as usual....every time i read one of your comments, i giggle so hard that my kidneys hurt....keep up with the good sense of humour.
love, honey

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Aboto awal

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Kawanle-
inkartaas maxaa???? Ma aniga u horseedey hadalka foolxun?
remember- if you wish ill for someone- it may come back to you. So any accidents lately? :-)

To all others- huh?
And the name is Aboto Awal (the first) not Aboto Xawo.

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hebel

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Honey I love you too sis....Can I have two dollar I'll pay you 2morrow?

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Anonymous

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Dear Dr

I never seem to fell in love with Somalian guys
and I am always in love with white/black guys.
I never had a Somalian guy treat me bad in anyway
WHAT IS MY PROBLEM?.

PLEASE HELP..............

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hebel

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what problem?

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Deeq

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Dear Aboto Awal
You are doing a terrific job! I think, I need your help; and I am sure you can help me.
I am having difficult on how to concentrate. This is my problem: Whenever I am doing some thing, My mind is busy on another thing!!!!!. This reduces my ability to proceed and do the best of what ever I am doing. You know, for example, I am in a class, I supposed to be listen a lecture but I see myself diving in chatting rooms and surfing Online. The only time that I found, I am more concentrated and focused is, when I am doing lifting weight. I don't why? I guess, maybe I am worried that I may hurt myself. Please give me ur advice. What would you tell to someone who is LABALABOOTI? Doing something, at same time thinking another thing…
Thanks a lot

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XUSSIEN411

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ONCE I LOVED A SOMALIAN FEMALE BUT SHE BREAK MY HEART. EVERY SINCE CIVIL WAR I HAVE BEEN ANTASYING ABOUT AN OUTSIDER. SO AFTER MANY YEARS AND I HAVE LAST MY TASTE FOR A SOMALIAN FEMALE. WILL I EVER HAVE SEXUAL DESIRE WITH A(somalian female)

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hebel

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I don't think so Hussein cab #411.
See, that's the problem with civil wars, you start having nightmares in sleep, every woman that you see looks like a M00ryaan, they threat you, they’ll rob you, they’ll rape you, they’ll steal you, they’ll kill you with their hide and seek games and they like to do the cat and mouse chases and the dog fight while doing the dog style.
See dogs are xaraam so wash yourself seven times with sand and water sometimes (Tide) is optional.
So take care and good luck.

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BJ

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HEY hebel
you are one sick dog



peace out

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Aboto Awal

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To Deeq:
Regarding your inability to concentrate- It happens to all of us- don't worry. You seem to do fine while weight-lifting- which suggestes that you get bored with things you are not interested in- like all of us.
My advise- whenever your mind starts to wonder about other stuff- try to think about the matter at hand. Being aware of your problem is half way to the solution.

To Hussien411;
and your question is??????

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hebel

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Bj love u 2

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Anonymous#2

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Dear Aboto Awal,

I have a real problem..I'm a sistah who does not want to wear Hijaab anymore, and for personal reasons...but my real problem is telling my father, he does not live with me, but I know i have to tell him one of these days, and well i'm worried about his reaction, he is a type to have a big over reaction <imagine true somali men> and i dont know how to tell him..so far, jsut thinkin about the day i will tell him makes me feel all depressed and interfere's with my daily life, it is a big change i know..and i should expect it, i know ..but its been eating me up these days...what do you think I should do? i understand fully if u dont have an answer to my solution but can u answer back quick?

Thnk you,
Concerned sistah

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Aboto Awal

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To Anon#2- "concerned sister"
The Hijaab is worn for Allah's sake- wearing it to please your father or any other human misses the entire point.
My dear sister- if you have decided that wearing the hijaab is not for you- then stop wearing it. Continuing to wear the hijaab to please your father or fear of your father, is not right. If you are not wearing the hijaab to follow your faith- then it is truly pointless.
I hope tried to answer your question as honestly as I can.
May Allah guide us all to the right path.

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Bilqar

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To Anone#2

The Dr forgot to go to medical School, So listen to me I am still in school.

LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE STORY

I came to the USA in the 5th grade I was confused and I didn't want to wear the Hijjab, because I was the only wearing the Hijjab. My Mother being the smarts women on earth, said to me No way are you going to my daughter and not wear Hijjab. so I WORE the Hijjab. I am was in tenth garde in my religious class when I finally understood what she was trying to say to that Islam is the best religion in world. AND
My half sister. she leaves with my full sister.
my half sis said To my full sis,"I don't want wear the hijjab anymore", and my full sister said "OKAY". Up to today my half sis doesn't wear Hijjab, because she is weak and feels pressure from the society we live in.

I feel insulted when I WALK WITH HER because she is so Americanness

I told Don't understand, why you want to look like a black american when you can look like a Muslim women.

P.S
take a example of me I am 19
play a lot of sports and in the summer I plan to go skydrive in Ohio.(inshallah)
I plan to get 4.0 average in my first year of college.
If I could do all this, then the Hijjab is not stopping me from anything.

WHAT IS SO IMPORTANT THAT THE Hijjab is stopping you from doing?

WARNING: Don't tell your father about the above subject he might have a heart attack.(Somalia guys died very young) I am not joking

Peace

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to dr awal and Bilqar,


Thanx for your help..honestly, u guys were very helpful, and like i said, i do have my own reason for not deciding to wear, and what dr.awal said was rite, it shouldnt be worn outta fear, but for Allah (SAW)..thanx again!

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Anonymous

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asalamu c. Aboto awal

waxaan aad u jeclahay gabar aan korkaa iska naqaan, run ahaantii waxaan ahay qof aad u xishood badan marka kuma dhaco kafool kafool inaan ugu shego inkastoo aan yara dareen siiyay si like eye-contect balse waan ku dhici wayay inan u dan shegto.
maxaa sameeyaa?
halkeen waxkaa bilaabaa?
fadlan urgent advice.

Thanks

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Anonymous

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Dear
I have known this guy for a year now and one night he told me that he was in love with me and i told him the same because i do feel the same. we have dated for a while and after a while he wanted more , if you know what i mean , i told him that i wanted to stay virgin till i am married , he says that he wants to be with me forever ( i think he only said this to assure me , so ill sleep with him-but that didnt work). Anyway my feelings for him are quite strong and every time i see him , i wanna tell him how great he is and that i love him but i cant. Because he wants sex and i dont. I think he is the most wonderfuls guy i have ever met.I am friends with his friends and his family, so everyday i see him. He said that we should forgete eveything that we both said and i agree but everything is changed , we were friends before. If i aske him to do something for he does it for me without asking any thing. He was honest with me from the begining. Eveything he has ever told me was true, when ever we suppose to meet , he would be there no matter how cold is , no matter what time it was , he would always be there with a smile on his face ,i would sometimes phone him and we would talk for ages. He is the type that dont show emotions. I am so confused with this guy. Everything in ,my life is perfect accept this. the other night i saw him and said that i wanted to talk to him and i wanted to tell him that i loved him but instead i kissed and he kissed me back and ever since then he doensnt say anything about what happend. I am a young girl who lives with her family and has a good education ,.I believe that i am a good person , i am young , intelligent , beautifiul , shy , still a virgin (even thought i have been here for a 6yrs , i have not changed my culture)i pray five times a day , read the quran and on weekends i go to the Malcaamada. Where the guy is the opposite. But he has a great personality and whenever i am with him i am so happy. I know all this is wrong but iu cant help it. I regret meeting him , do you think its better to cut commuinication?


Please help.

Urgent reply needed. Thanks in advanced

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Aboto Awal

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Sorry It took me so long to respond.
First, to the Anon- March 12- Walaal waxaad i weydiisey sidaa gabar ula hadli leheed. Ma jira qof ayada iyo adigaba ku yaqaan. Waxaad weydiin karta qofkaas inuu iskiin baro. Markaa ka dib waxaad weydiisan karta telefankeeda.
Nasiib wanaagsan.

To anon- march 20-
Dear girl, I think you already know what is the right answer.
First of all, how old are you? If you are over 20- or 19- and if this man's intentions are honorable- why doesn't he ask your parents for your hand in marriage? If he just wants to go out- and wants to sleep with you- then he is not the man for you. You seem like a girl who knows what is good for her. Follow your instincts and stop seeing this man!

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duceysane

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Anon 20


Please leave email address.I feel like I'm the other half your are talking about..

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JUSTRELEASEDFROMPSYCHUNIT2

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Aboto Awaal are you leading a double-life what is up with the absenteeism?

Aren't counselors supposed to be on-call 24/7 rain or shine?

That license from bakaraha will be taken away if you don't follow the rules.

Your clientele depends on you.

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Dagmo

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Hey aboto...I like the way your handling ur ••••.

My thing is I've been kind of seeing this guy for almost 18 months. He's good looking, smart, sometimes funny, got his •••• 2gether, knows what he wants and gets it eventually. He has nice car good aparment trust fund and all that. I like him and all but when I'm around him i feel like we are not on the same page...he got his life together and I'm still trying to find myself and what I want to do. I'm in my early 20's and his late 20's. I don't really wanna have study boyfriend, I'm know as dating couple of guys at a time. I don't fall for guys either. Sometimes I feel like I should just settle down and have serious relationship but other time I feel like there is someone else out there 4 me. I don't really wanna use him though I could but what goes around comes around. So I'm thinking of letting him go so he can find someone who's more like him.
Women always complain about how there aren't any nice men out there and he's great but I don't know what to do with him. I think I already know thte answer but WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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you know who

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TO ABOTo

my two causins what to marry me and i like one of them, how shall i tell the other one that i don't wanna him?

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mel.abraham.

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abto awal.
waan wareerey oo waan yaabanahay, ee talo isii suaashiina tan.
waxaan ahay soomaali aan soomaliya ku dhalan kuna korin hadana diin kale haysta laakiin soomaalida jecel iyaguna way inecebyihiin oo lama sheekaysan karo waxay igu hayan takoor, iyaga oo aan ogolayn sida aan u klabisto sida aan udhaqmo inkasta oo aan isku day inaan raali galiyo , iyaga oo aan ogolayn diintayda, mida kale waxaan xidhaa necklace earings, nouse-bearcing e,tc. waxaas ayay igu naceen sideen yeelaa ana waan jecelahay inaan marwalba la sheekaysto oo aan isbarano dad badan oo soomaali ah.

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Anonymous

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Mel Ibraaahim hadal qurxoon baad ku hadashaa murtida dadkeenana adoo qoraya in badan waa arkay. Marka sidee wax kaa noqdeen; waa maxay earing iyo kufaarnimadan iyo waxanaad sheegaysaa. War saaxiib masjidka tagoo isasoo nidaami. Is nidaamiskii maskaxdaa kugu dhacay baan u malaynayaa.

Any of you guys out there remember Is-nidaamis?

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mel.abraham

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saaxiib adaaba igaga darane waa maxay isnidaamiskaasi taas macalinkaygii wuu iga ilaabey baan filayaa.
saaxiib imaad garan ayaan filayaa anigu waan jecelahay soomaalinimo laakiin IAM CHRISTIAN hana moodin inaan halkan ku noqdey ee waan ku dhashey markaa maxaan masjid tagaa wey idiliba hadey masjidka igu arkaane, masaajid maalin dhawayd aan tagey oo saaxiibkey u raacey waxa iga qabsadey nin soomaali ah ilaahbaa ogaa, dadka kale iyagu sidaas ayey kuu eegi waaney ku dhaafi laakin somali inuu ku qalaan waxba aheyn.waan nidaamsanahey ee saaxiib meedey eedo abato awal

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aboto Awal

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mel abraham-
sidaa u sheegtey- christain dressed as a punk-rocker (earing and all) - does not belong in our culture.
Walaal, somalida waxey wadaagaan diin iyo dhaqan. Diintina ma heysatid. Dhaqankina waa ka lumay. Marka- somali waxaad la wadaagtid majirto! Ee keep movin' on!
To You-know-who;
About the two cousins- tell the one you don't want that you are with the other cousin. Unless of course you had an affair with the cousins. If so- my advice is to find a new family!

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ayan

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i have to say ABOOTO, I am very proud of you.
and i know there are a lot of people out there
who apriciate what you are doing as much as i do


love,
ayan .

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shamso

Wednesday, October 25, 2000 - 03:07 am
asalaama caleeykum!

ugu horeentii hadaan nolosheeyda kaaga sheekeeyo waxaan ahay gabar 20kii dhaaftay diinteeda iyo dadkeeda iyo dalkeedana aad u jecel.taanna waxaa sabab u aheeyd sida la igu soo koriyay.

waxaan had iyo jeer isu dayaa inaan nolosheeyda kor u qaado oona eebaheey jidka toosan igu beego,hadana marar ayaa jirta aan nolosheeyda u baqo.waalid waxaan qabaa kuwa ugu fiican oo weey isu dayeen hadi iyo jeer inaan nolosheeyda waxna tabin,eebe haka abaal mariyee.run ahaantii waan jeclahay hooyadeey aabaheeyna sidoo kale inkastoon isku si aan u jecleen.

qalad ha ii fahmin sabab igu kaliftay ayaa jirto inaan saa iraahdo,mararka qaar markaan aabaheey habsiiyo ama isu soo harno ayuu wuxuu isu dayaa inuu i taabto jirkeeyga meelo qaar aan aabo loogu talo gelin inuu taabto hadaan damco marar inaan mac siiyo anoo u mahadcelinaayo wuxuu isu dayaa inuu afka iga dhuuqo.

walaahay waxaaba jiro waxyaabo kale aan hada kuu wada qori karin waayo waa wax aad ii danqinaayo oonan qofna u sheegin anoo isu arko inaan aniga isu keenay wax walbo oo dhacay.mararka qaar aad ayaan u cabsadaa sidaan ku sugnaan doono.waxaan saaxiibnahay wiil hada ilaa sanad wuu i xushmeeyaa aad wuuna i jecelyahay imana dhibo laakiin aniga ayaa cabsi ka qaaday ragii oo dhami markaas ayaan sidan wanaag ugu wada socono ayaan hal mar is xiraa,wuxuu isu dayaa inuu iga hadalsiiyo laakiin aniga dhan ayaaba xirmo anoo aad u baqaayo inuu burburiyo wareega aan nolosheeyda ku xiray oon isaga daafacayo dadkoo idil. waaku baryaa qalad ha ii fahmin hana is dhihin waa wax un ay iska sameeneeso waayo marar aan hooyadeey damcay inaan u sheego waxaan aad oga baqay ineey i aamini weeso eeba ii argto cunug lumay ,marna waxaan is dhahaa ameeyba dhaxdin aawgeed eey la dhimataa hadeey maqasho.walaal isú day inaad isoo waaniso jazaa aka laah eebena hanoo gargaaro.aamin aamiin.

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lady

Friday, January 19, 2001 - 03:03 pm
shamso
i feel sory for you ilaahay ha kucaawiyo

my advice is don't give him hugs
keep your distance
do not give pete kiss iether
and never tell your mom or anybody else for that matter

that happened to me want time my grandfather was trying to do such thing
and i just cut him off like no body's busniss
anyway don't cut your father but keep your distance

i hope that helps

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Anonymous

Saturday, January 20, 2001 - 08:17 pm
SUBXAANALAAH, are someli fathers and grandfathers turn to be CHILD MOLESTERS..................xaashaalilaah,

yaabka yaabkiis, soomaali wexey tiraahdaa........hadii sii noolaatidna geel dhalaaya waad arkee!

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