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     | Unrecorded Date Dear somali women, I'd like to prevent you to have any relations with this man. Now he studies in Moscow and dreams about having his own lawer's company in Somali. I was his wife for two years. When I made him to divorce me in masjid /We had ninkax/ He didn't want to do it. But I proved my rights for divorce. He is a great lier - it's his only way of life. Because he's stupid in his studies /I asked some of his teachers and the president of somali student association in russia/. I was pregnant long before our ninkax - he proposed to me to make an avortion, but I refused. So even he didn't accompany me to maternity hospital whwre I born a great healthy son. But to everybody he told that he loves me but never he was going to work or to defend his family himself -only by begging money from his relatives. One time he tried to beat me in a very bad way - I was holding baby in my arms - without any reasons; baby was cring for some minutes in the night but my husband wanted to sleep. He could kill me and baby if I didn't ask fol help somalimen who lived in next room. So may be till this moment i'a blame for everything. But I'm a great mother and my son is completely happy - but he dreams of a father, when he sees somebody black and tall in the street he begins to shout Abbee,Abbee. If he sees on Tv screen, he begins to kiss it. His father comes no more than one time in two-three months - sometimes to bring money/becuase it was fixed in mesjid/, sometimes to take back things he presented me. What about me - I study, I write my PH.D., I can speak 5 african language,I work as a teacher of languages etc. I admire somali culture, language / it was the only reason to make ninkax with my previous husband/.But last month he invited me to visit him. My baby was happy, my only reason was his brother had to stay there in the night so that to defend me. But he helped his relative and left in midnight when my baby was already fall asleep. By the way His father doesn't love him. When we come he went to sleep by saying that there are so much noise from the baby and he got tied of it /I mean for 1 hour in three months/. He violated me. He wanted onlly to hurt my feeling and to make our furiin available. So he didn't care about my desire, about consequences. So as a result, I got pregnant. I dream of having many healthy babies like my son. but only if I can bring them up. I live with my mother - she hated me when I came back to her house with black baby in my arms /he hates my husband because of his attitude to her and to me, quite reasonable. She won't let me stay with two babies. My husband refused the second baby,saying that I'm a prostutite /no reasons, no marqaati/, He asked me to make a laboratory experiment of baby's identification. I agreed. Now I came back- I was waiting for him in metro for 30 minutes - he didn't come; he is afraid of responsibility. Even he is not going to pay for avortion. I prevented him that this operation is already fixed. But he didn't come. I'm very afraid that it will hurt my health in future and I won't be able to have really desirable babies. Well, but I'm strong, I'll be happy, I hope Allah will punish him. I got married muslim man so that to follow his religion but this man is worse than a pagan, than an animal. Waa jiraa maahmaahda soomaliyaad Nin ku dhigay kuma dilin. So dear women ka ilaali ninkan. If you have some question, I'll answer in your e-mail. I'd like to communicate with his family so that to tell them the truth. For every point in my letter I have marqaati. Kheyr baan rajeeyneyaa idinka. I told it because I don't want to come back home to my baby in anger Thanks for your attention. ivlyubov@iaas.msu.ru Caasho
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaam Sister Caasho, First and foremost are you Muslim and Somali? You write good Somali. I am sorry to hear about your problem. But in all fairness I must admit to some confusion here. Are you still married to the guy? How can he make "furin" possible by raping you? Didn't you first say that you had your divorce granted to you by the masjid? To be truthful I have never experienced rape but I can empathize. And at the risk of sounding politically incorrect I shall state this: YOU SHOULD HAVE NOT SLEPT AT HIS PLACE. I am not excusing his behaviour but if you are Muslim you must know that you can't stay with men that are not your muharram. Furthermore, if he wants to see his son, he can come and take him. If he doesn't then it is his loss. However, he is the father of your child and I see no reason why you should be shaming him in public. Salaam
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| | Unrecorded Date war wuxu ma Somali baa mise Ruush !!
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| | Unrecorded Date This must be Maxamed Ibrahim, the guy who claims to be from St Petersburg, in the former USSR???.
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| | Unrecorded Date thats a one heck of a life you got there sis. I'll try to stay away from that son of a gun.
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| | Unrecorded Date I gave his passport name. I'm russian.But I speak fluent somali, because I studied it in University.I'm very sorry that in future my baby will be ashamed of such a fucking father. I got married a muslim man so that to follow his religion. But this person was worse that a pagan.Waa jiraa marqaati. I don't complain. I'll find my own way. He'll be punished in the worst way by Allah.
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