     Wiilo | Unrecorded Date
I have been dating a great guy(whom I consider my feature husband)for 10 months- we're both late 30's,and everything goes well.We get along great,have fun together,like each other's families,etc.The problem???He doesn't like to hold hands.Normally it's no big deal,but occasionly,when we're somewhere with a lot of couples who r all holding hands,it really bugs me that he won't hold mine.I have joking asked if it's coz he doesn't wanna anybody think he likes me-a la junior high,and he tells me I'm bieng rediculous and he just not confortable with it.
Should I try to make him do it more,so he gets more confortable,or should I just get over it???? |
| Optimistic | Unrecorded Date
Salaam
Unless this man is your lawful husband there should be no hand holding. Even when married I don't think it is something to do in public just to imitate other people. If he is OK with it then fine. If not I agree with him. He is conservative and it is a good thing. Or do you like to act like GAALO? Too bad.
Smile! Life is beautiful if you have faith |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
Damn, I don't know what women want anymore.
She is late 30s and kicking it, 'cause her Old man won't hold hands.
I bet you wear mini-skirts and extra high-heeled shoes too?
Let me tell you something, if it doesn't work this time, try dating 19yrs old next time.
I guess that's the level you wishing to be. |
| Axoow (Axoow) | Unrecorded Date
TO:Wiilo
Wiilooy,Wiilooy,Wiilo...u sound really nice!!which is why I'm going to sound like a jerk when I point out that u have no business accusing anyone of being"junior high"!!
The option to go with is(b)Get over it.
And while u r getting over ur unheld hand make it twofer...actually, a fourfer....and get over the grade-schoolisms wholesale.
they include starting any sentence with"All the other couples r...." and ending it with ur feeling left out; digging out information by way of passive-aggressive little jokes instead of just asking,"why don't u like to hold hands?"; and thinking it's ever okay to "make" a friend do something he does't want to do so that u can have ur way.
You are late 30's,u r in happy realtionship...ur outer grown up is thriving. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
O Ow.........what do we have here?
Wiilo:
Good luck sister.
U asked a question,and what u get, 3 unrelated
answers..................lol |
| honey | Unrecorded Date
to wiilo...
What is up with this holding hands business?...sure there is nothing wrong with that, actually it is great to show some affection to one another in anywhere....It is good to kiss , nipple or do some naughty things in public. If you are saying things are going great with your man. This shouldn't be a problem....Girlfriend!!! stop whining and go and give a juicy kiss to your man? SHOW HIM SOME LOVE!!!...There is more to a relationship than holding hands...How are you going to settle down with this dude if you already complaining about silly things like that? I think you should re-evaluate your relationship with this guy?....And why do you care what other couple do?...Be creative and unique my dear sista...
To hebel...
I bet you wanna use her mini skirt for an umbrella ....You are bad!!!We don't want her to start dating children....I guess you wanna see "HOW WIILO GOT HER GROOVE BACK"
How are you doing my dear ?
And to the rest of the crew
c'mon people, be sympathetic to our sista, she just ask an honest question...
love, honey |
| MissX | Unrecorded Date
dear Willo,
there is nothin better than actually talkin to ur man about it...ask him why he doesnt like to hold hands...maybe he'll tell u and u'll undestand..maybe he'z been traumatized about hand holding when he was a child (shrug) hey...just be str8 with him..n' tell him how u feel!!!!
~Peace~ |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
honey why do u always ask hard questions?
IM doing great sis.
N U? |
| Amal | Unrecorded Date
Salaam
Hey wIillo, i think u have been reading way too much cosmopolitan magazines, like the kufars don't try to quiz ur man of how passionate he is by holding hands. ur 30 for god's sake, xishood. If he refuses to hold hands in public, doesn't mean he ain't passionate, and don't u know that to hold a man who is not ur husband is HARAAM. IT's better to touch a blassing fire than His Hand. ONce in ur life, live ur life as Allah asks as to and not to immitate the nasty kufaars........
salaam |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
hows the family honey?
do the kids go to school?
how are mom and dad? |
| DevilishAngel | Unrecorded Date
i don't know why holding hands is so important to you, but if thats your thing then...
here's a little advice for you
next time you're walking together down the street, and you want to hold his hand. grab the hand of the nearest (stranger)man next to you. then you'll see how fast he'll be pulling on your hand, and i don't think he'll ever let go. |
| BI-LADY | Unrecorded Date
If U answer tha followin' questions all "yes" then I feel him.
Maybe U unattractive, yea?
Maybe U over-weight, yea?
Men react to what they got...If they have unattractive women, they gonna act all "wadaad" on y'allz asses...and If tha opposite of what I just said...then they gonna be all lovely dovey...
Do any of y'all know for a fact that the "quraan" says U can't be affectionate with your partner??? Didn't Think so...unless U got facts...quotes... |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
TO: WIILO
WHAT IS UP WITH YOU LADY. YOU SOUND LIKE AS THOUGH YOU ARE NOT MUSLIM AT ALL. WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE HIGH SCHOOLERS WHO ARE HORNEY AS THEY CAN BE AND YET YOU ARE IN YOUR 30'S. AT HIS AGE YOU SHOULD BE AT YOUR MONOPOUSAL STAGE, WHICH MEANS YOUR ESTRAGEN LEVELS ARE DOWN THE HILL. YOU SHOULD BE THINKING WHICH NURSING HOME IS BETTER SUITED FOR YOU, NOT HOLDING HANDS WHICH IN FACT YOUR RETIRED MAN SHOWED FOR NO INTEREST AT ALL. IN FACT YOU WANT TO YOUNG AGAIN, BUT ITS TOO LATE GET OVER IT, WAKE-UP AND SMELL THE COFFIE. |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
TO: WIILO
WHAT IS UP WITH YOU LADY. YOU SOUND LIKE AS THOUGH YOU ARE NOT MUSLIM AT ALL. WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE HIGH SCHOOLERS WHO ARE HORNEY AS THEY CAN BE AND YET YOU ARE IN YOUR 30'S. AT HIS AGE YOU SHOULD BE AT YOUR MONOPOUSAL STAGE, WHICH MEANS YOUR ESTRAGEN LEVELS ARE DOWN THE HILL. YOU SHOULD BE THINKING WHICH NURSING HOME IS BETTER SUITED FOR YOU, NOT HOLDING HANDS WHICH IN FACT YOUR RETIRED MAN SHOWED FOR NO INTEREST AT ALL. IN FACT YOU WANT TO BE YOUNG AGAIN, BUT ITS TOO LATE GET OVER IT, WAKE-UP AND SMELL THE COFFIE. |
