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HOW CAN I MOVE ON ????

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Heartbroken

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I wait for the tears to dry ,, I wait for the pain to ease, they say time can heal,, but who ever wrote that line never had a broken heart.

Me and my sweetheart ( I can never say former or ex, she is still in my heart) went to the some university, soon after we met, we became very close friends and later fell in love and became soulmates. It was like I found my other half,, she made my life complete.

We were going to get married soon after graduation
and start the rest of our life. She lived with her parents and was very close to her mother, she had told her mum about us and she was supportive.
I had never touched this girl and respected her very much.

One day she called me crying,, she had a fight with her dad who told her that she was going to get married to her distant relative. I could not believe this was happening. I met her the next day and she told me she does not want to ever go back home. I told her she must go home. She finaly went home late but her dad was at the door with her brother waitting for her.

The next time I saw her she was in hospital, her dad and brother beat her up cause they thought she was messing around and thats why she did not want her cousin. Her mum tried to explain and defend her but the dad got even more upset that the mum was hidding this and even knew about it. They had a fight and separated.

The girl told hospital staff it was thugs who attacked her. she loved her dad so much and I knew she did.

I told her I am sorry to be the cause of all this I could not forgive myself if her family fell apart because of me. I told her she should listen to her dad. Thats the hardest thing I could ever say. I still cant believe how the words came out.
She loved her parents soo much and there is no way I could see her lose them like this.

She thought I was crazy,, but I knew there could never be a win,,win,, situation here. I slowly got out of the picture. I decided to move to another town. I can never forget the tears. We kept intouch for sometime. Finaly the family got together and she got married.

I tried to move on but it can never be the same I love her and cant let go, I met another girl and she saw her picture in my wallet, i told her the story and she said when you get over her,,call me.

I see her smile,, every where I go there is something that reminds me of her. I love her and cant let go. I try to console myself by saying she is fine and happy. But still.. my friends have tried to hook me up but have all given up.

I cant forget her,,the other day I was driving and the song by Whitney ,,I will always love you came on,,,I just had to pull over,, every time I hear a somali song that she liked,,it hits me..

HOW DO I MOVE ON ????

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hebel

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take a bus.

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Anonymous

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ahahaa lol hebel

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Sheikh Ali

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Ma adaa dhalay gabadha nacasyahoow feeraha weyn, shaqo yeelo

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Mandeeq

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iam sorry to hear that sad news if its really true but that was gods decision. I think u too were not meant to be together but try to move on in your life . Your are not the only one who had a broken heart so i hope u find yourself a better life and good luck.

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LADAN

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TO HEARTBROKEN.

SALAAMA ALLA KUM

SHEEKA GAALADA ISKA DHAAF WALAAL, NOLAL YEELO NOOH.
SHARAM KAR,ABOO FILINKAAN OO HINDIGA WAAN FIIRSADAÝ ANIGABA, LAAKIINI MADAACAD AYAY KAATAHAY.WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY IS, I AM REALY SORRY
KUCH KUCH KUCH HOI THA HAI.....

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TROUBLEGIRL

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LADAN

LOL......SHARAM KAR.....Ha ha ha....Tere ko pyar kabhi hua nahin kya?So why you giving the poor guy a hard time?

Aapko PYAR hua to aapko ,maaluum hoota ke PYAR KYA HOOTA HAI.........coz DIL DEVANA HAIN AUR BEEGANA BHI HAI

Ladan in ENGLISH.....If U have ever experienced the pain of real love you would support him sister

TO Apne bhai ko support do ke woh bhi kya yaad karega ki kisine usko koi achha ADVICE diya kabhi....

PEACE
TROUBLE

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hodan

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Mr heartbroken I am very sorry to read about the thing that you had to go through , the one thing that you can do is move on I know it's hard but you have no choose but to move on . you will alway have her in your heart beacuse she is your soulmate you would never forget her but try your best to move on a find yourself someone else because you and her where not meant to be ,sorry for me to say this but don't let this tear you up. good luck I hope it works out for you lot's of love hodan

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LADAN

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TO TROUBLEGIRL.

DO U BLIEVE HIM, I THINK HIS JOKING.
HADEE DAACAD KATAHAY MUU ISKA DHAAFO , MAXAA YEELAY WAA LAQABAA HADA WAA XAARAAN HADUU XATAA KU FAKIRO UU SOO XASUUSTO MARKA KASTO,HA ILOOBININA INAA DAD MUSLIMIIN NAHAY.
ADIGA KIYAAKARA AYAA WADAA SHAHAR KI LARKI.

HEARTBROKEN I AM VERY SORRY.

MUCH HAI MAFI KARNAI ..

QUDAFAS

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Anonymous

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You fucking mother fucker you let a stupid girl do this.
Man you disgraced our somalian Man's
You must a fucker Frah to let a girl play like this, man come down to my yard and I will teach you how to treat girls so they never leave your sorry ass...........

One love
B.I.G

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Anonymous

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Myman,the problem with U is that i think this was your bitch, therefore u were afraid of loosing her.
u see if i was u i would've fucked her stupid ass from the begging, and i would let her do what she did to u.
however, let this be a lesson for life to u, because u see bitches always treat u like •••• when u treat them like a queen.
the irony is that when u treat like they r a piece of ••••, then they treat u like the king of kings.
beleive u and me this the cruel reality in todays fucked up world.

just try my advice and u'll see,
PIECE

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Anonymous

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Dear Hearbroken ,

You might not believe this but as i read your story i shed some tears. Because i dont like to see sad ending in a relationship especailly one thats is special just like yours. This is one of the reasons why i dont wannna get involved with anyone , i think that if i give them my heart completely they might break it and i dont wanna take that chance, Its really nice the way that you told her to go back to her family , some guys would not do that, they would probably call the police and tel them everything and she would have lost her family. Its really hard to move on but you must try. She is married now and nothing is going to change , people say that time is a healer so give it sometime. When you rememmber her , think of the goods times you hard not the bads. I dont think i have been much help but one can never advice until one had been throught that road. I wish you all the best.

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Anonymous

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Its not right !!!! but its ok !!!you gonna make it

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Sam

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Hey I got a better song for him !


Do i ever cross your mind,,,,,,,,,Anytime,,,,,Do you ever wake up reaching out for meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

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MissX

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brotha, I'm sorry to hear that u still havent gotten over her even though she is already married...It must be really devastating to lose some1 close to ya like that...all i can say is..there is nothin u can do about it now but MOVE on...don't mean to be harsh..but she's moved on with hers..and u have to do the same..u dont want to get old and realized you;ve wasted half ur life wishin for the impossible..u will alwayz have memories brotha..and that's all..the best thing for u and ur heart is MOVE ON! there is no better advice ['less its a hindi movie...lol]

and to LADAN & Thuggurl..

grls, how can u be so heartless..cant u see a brotha wrote a whole page ..lol..cut it out and leave da brotha be! [shukriya] :-)

BEPEACE

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KoKoNuT

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Man, get a U-haul!! get a grip! get over it! shiiit happens! C'est la vie!!

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THE TEACHER

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Heartbroken,u only have yourself to blame. If u had your plan of maybe marrying her this pain wouldn't have happened but i guess its just a fate
Its too late to undo things now, take time and don't rush yourself in blieve in faith and hold hope and there shall be a day when u wake up a to a bright sunlight.

To the so called Anonymous, who appeared in here so many times, say something usefull or else keep qiuet coz its not about time of taking craps to mind. Understand the theory before u recomend the nonesense.

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LADAN

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MISS X

DID I SAY SOMEATHIND WRONG, I WAS JUST TRYING 2 HELP ANYWAY U DON,T KNOW ME THAT WELL SIS BUT IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON PLEASE.

INSHA ALLAH YOU WILL FINE A GOOD GIRL ABOO

WAAN KAXUMAHAY

SALAAMA ALLA KUM

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bellboy

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TO HEARTBROKEN!

I Was Truly So Saddened To Hear The Sadness Of Story Put Forward By You And I Completly Do Understand Your Problem As Well As No One Else Does..why?

Becuz I Myself Had The Same Problem Beleive Me.Let Me Say It In A Nutshell.

I And This( I Can Say X-Lady) Had Madly Fell In Love With Each Other That We Even Couldn't Miss One Another For A Moment Regardless Of What Happenes.
We Both Have Put Our Heads Together And Determined To Get Married ALthough (Everything IS Controled By ALlah)Then We Tried Our Best That We Both Could.

My Parents Were Familiar With The Stibulation Of My Lover And They Knew ABout Her Family As well So Did Her Family.

She Truly Made My Life Something I Waz Glad To Be Having For Once So Did I But Later Her Parents Told Her She Waz Given To Her Cousin Which She Had No Clue Who He Waz. If You Are Asking Me Why She Did Do That...She Waz very Respectful And Faithfull To Her Parents Dat She Couln't once Make Her Parents Upset.

However,The Lady Has Got Married With Her Cousin And She Even Ain't Living Happily With Her Partner.

She Always Gives Me A Call And Tells Me She Has Never Forgotten And And Will Not.

Trust me She Does Only Exist In MY Heart And Remained In It... And I Think There Is Nothing Else I Can Do ABout It...So Brother..Just Take Half An Hour Of Break And Go Out..Your Destiny Is Waiting For You An Outside..Go Out With The Hope Of Wishing You Will Get The One You Do Deserve...Life Is Like A Game So You Better Acount For Everything..Risk And Victory...You ARe Once Happy And The Other Min You Are Sad...So Don't Lose Your Hope And Try To Take One Step Forward And Try Hardly To Move On,Move On,Move On..If You Don't Do That..Then My Brother Trust Me You Will Pay The Penalty Later.

I'm Keeping My Fingers Crossed That You Will Get Your Missright Tonight When You Go Out With The Hope Of Moving On.

Wish You Good Luck Brother.

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sucaad

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to bellboy.

sorry to hear your story too.
i feel so sorry for both of you

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danger

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Hi sweetie (heartbroken)
Woow that was beutiful and at the sametime sad...
brother i feel for your kind heartness to let go of the one that you really love and you know the reality that they are your reall soul mate..

Bro i think you need to move on and put her at the back of your mind...and carry on with the present moment and think about the future because you are a smart ,young guy and you have a long way to go yet.......

So tell me did you finished your graduation or not?..also do you think that she is happy with her new life ?

bro don't listen to the stupid people that are writing stupid things......so my advice is that you should follow your heart because your heart would not tell you to do anything harmfull to her nor yourself.........


bro i leave you with Wooooooooow as i'm still shocked by the kindness you have showed by letting go of her and not breaking up with her family....

take care of yourself and your heart..........

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Anonymous

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••• DHEXDHIG, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING 4YRS UNIVERSITY AND YOU NEVER TOUCH HER YOU ARE NAAG.........IAM NOT SAYING TOUCH HER WITH NO MAHER, IT IS YOUR CHOICE, BUT YOU GOTTA DO SOMETHING...............

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Zahra

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Hi heartbroken,
It is really sad to see you go through all the troubles you have mentioned. Love is a crazy thing and it can throw you off if you don't becareful. But how can you becareful about someone you love? That is life brother. But I can tell you one thing and that is try me, may be you will forget about her. I am not kidding. There are so many things in life that happen and we don't realize that they happen for a reason. May be it was for the best and you could have more than you had. I am sure you will be fine, it is just a matter of time. Keep your head up brother and hope to see you heal.
Leave your email for me.
Smile
Zahra

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HIBO

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to heartbroken, i am real sorry to hear this bro but try to talk someone it always helps trust me i now, and try to take it slow,again i am real sorry lots of love hibo

to B.I.G, WHEN EVER YOU TRY TO TALK ABOUT SOOMAALIA GIRL TRY TO REMEMBER YOU MOTHERFUCKER BITCH WHO BROUGHT TO THIS WORLD,IF IT WASN'T FOR US YOU GUYS WOULDN'T BE A LIFE, AND IF YOU NEED ANY OTHER STUFF ASK ME, YOU MOTHER FUCKER WHO DEOSN'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL IS HE TALKING ABOUT, U KNOW WHAT MAYBE U ARE GAY SO U DON'T NEED A GIRL CAUSE I DON'T KNOW HOW SOOMAALIA GIRL CAN DATE YOU WHEN THERE ARE MANY NICE MEN OUT THERE YOU BITCH MOTHER FUCKER

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G.phOnE

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AaAh ya love sick, BITCH YA MAKE ME SICK,
I ought to cruz ya like some wasted TICK.

Ya understand!

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Heart-healing-In-progress

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For all you who gave me inspiring and kind words..I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I decided to go away for sometime and its the best thing I ever did. I went back home and it realy put things back into perspective for me.

The trip gave me back the energy and rekindled my spirits. There is a saying and it goes,, A heart once broken can be mended but the Crack will always show.

If you realy love something let it go.... if it comes back to you.. it was ment to be.

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analyzer

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man, i sent my sympathy card in the mail for you bro,

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G.PhOnE

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Hello, hello,

I want some chello!

what up dudes! Did you sent my sympathy cards!
Did you get them! what no, dooohhhhhhhhhhhh!

Nee, nee, ja ja nee nee

what up

tick tick tick tick tick

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MAD MAC

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Nice family. Dad thinks she's screwing around so he beats her. I catch a man beating a woman and he's gonna catch a bullet between the eyes. Or if he's lucky and I'm unarmed I'll just pummel him. What a bunch of bullshit. Her father and brother huh? Class, real class. Nothing pisses me off quicker. Men are suppose to protect woman, not beat them. What an •••••••. Motherfucker cares so much about his daughter he forces her to marry someone she doesn't want to and then beats her for good measure. She should have told the cops every detail and then married her boyfriend. The family wasn't worth saving.

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ReaLdeaL

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Mad Mac,

Get your head out of your ASS..

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un-known-person

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ReaLdeaL.

Did you get your head out of your ass or u still enjoying? wha a smell,oh damn,it must be so ugly and stinky.

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DA FAKE HEBEL

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HEARTBROKEN

HOW DO YOU MOVE ON?

TAKE THE RIGHT STREET AND YOU WILL SEE A STARBUCK CAFEE`-TAKE A CORNER-AND MOVE TO YOUR LEFT RIGHT-THEN CATCH A BUS NUMBER-2A-IT WILL TAKE YOU RIGHT TO "HELL AVEUNUE"....U'LL SEE A PARTY WELCOMING COMITTE THAT WOULD ACCOMODATE ALL YOUR HEARTBROKEN NEEDS-AND....ONE MORE ..THING..DO SAY HELOO TO HEBEL...I HEARD HE WENT TO HELL TOO..LOL

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hebel

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ya'ol better get yar heads out of yar each other's asses.
it is light out here come out of the dark guys.
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da fake hebel are you the one who stole my wallet?
I lost my wallet and someone is been using my identity.

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gabardadow

Monday, June 19, 2000 - 03:24 pm
HEARt BROKEN GUY-sory i forgot your name

i am awfully sorry if this is indeed a true story but if not, i hope u go to hell avenue.....i believe more accurate discription couldnt been given......
here are some things that might work for you-

DO NOT trie to get over her......
take your time HEAL, reflect opun it...MOSTely do not kid yourself into thinking that u dont love her anymore coz that is the time when it gets it's strongest
do not rush into someone else hoping that they might make u forget her---comparison isnt fair and u will always compare every person u meet to her and u will find that they dont come close.
untill TIME decides that your love had somewhat quited down (not forgotten -that will be impossible) then move on. Hints: this is usually when the sound of her name doesnt make your heart constrict anymore, when the songs she loved dont drive u to tears, and when u can think of her without sulking.
the faster u recognize your ailment the better!!!!! not saying to sit around the house pining for her love ...just that u take your time
cant know your medicine if u "really" dont know what is bothering you


been there done that........i am content with my life. It aint the end of the world.

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sweetie

Wednesday, July 19, 2000 - 07:53 am
Dear Heart-broken,i have read your touching story this was one of the most sensitive issue i ever read in this column ''the wearer of the shoes knows where it pinches most' i was once there,i know what it feels like loosing ur own romeo or juliet and believe me it has been some yrs now but the wound in my heart is still burning with emotion.MY advice 2 u is, thats not the end of the world,u have to keep movin.. no matter what,1/keep her pictures far from ur reach2/Avoid anything thats going to make u remember her like listening to her favourite music,keep urself in company with ur friends,get urself busy in the gym,Watch action-packed movies than romance,hook urself someone who is going to help u go thro ur situationlike agirl-friend{just afriend not a lover}go to the movies,talk to an old friend maybe schoolmate etc,volunteer for community services lastly dont leave urself alone even in minutes and pray hard enough esp saalatul-leeil GOD willing everything will be okey.

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