     Anonymous | Friday, December 01, 2000 - 04:17 am
Hi walaalayaal i am 26 yrs old and i have not yet found some one whom i think is the one for me i mean i have met some very nice men but there is always something missing.Wheather its they lack of education or they personality i just don't seem to find my match.Anyway i now feel that i am getting old and its time to close my ayes and just make a move so i met some one who is everything that i would want in a man but he is short and that is personal think and i don't feel anything for him accept that i think he is nice and got a good futhure ahead of him.
Plz walaalayaal give me some goood advise on what u think i should do should i marry or wait longer. |
| maxamed | Friday, December 01, 2000 - 03:31 pm
sister go for it ,it's a golden opportunity we can't always get what we want from life,Living on hopes and dreams is not realistic THIS IS THE REAL WORLD,Prince charming who will come on a white horse and rescue you NO NO wake up sis things are not quite like that,I dream of Ms:perfect but will settle for any woman who can put up with my laundry loads and stinking feet.
Good luck on your search |
| Lajeel | Saturday, December 02, 2000 - 09:32 am
Salaam ppl and Ramadan kariim
Dear Sis,
I do not believe you would be happier settling for less, have you ever heard of "good things come to those who wait"? I mean one of my sisters married when she was 30, because that's when she found the right man, she was losing hope and he came along, while another sister married when she was 19. Sis I think you should be patient...I personally found the right guy when I was 15 but we decided not to get married till I became 18, and when I on my 18th birthday, we became man and wife, untheless, we have now been married for two blissful years and in which I could not have been any happier. Sis patience is a virtue and it's is all a matter of waiting for the that right guy, your soulmate, who will complete you in everywa and make you the most happiest person in the world. Good luck sis, don't give up...I mean you made it this far haven't you?
Yours truly
Lajeel |
| T-GIRL-QueenOfHearts | Sunday, December 03, 2000 - 07:22 am
SIS
U sound like someone I know.....Girl U saying your man is short.....What's wrong with that? When U look for a future husband material...U look for Intelligence, Motivation, Love, Honesty and whether he is religious or not. But you look at the HEIGHT......No wonder U got it all wrong. Sweety Nobody's perfect so if I was you, I would look for a nice guy and settle down....coz looks like your stakes are toooo high. And don't worry about the age thing.......My aunt got married when she was 31 and know is happily married with 2 children. Don't fall under the somali myth of....if U are over 25, and a female.......... UR a LOSER. Inshallah Qeyr ayaan kuu rajeynaa macaan adiga & inta muslim ah.
PEACE |
| qadar | Sunday, December 03, 2000 - 12:42 pm
anything that i had in mind
t-girl said it so got nothing
else to say other then advising
u to take some advantage from her
advice..........aight walalo
good luck..........
qadar |
| SurReal | Sunday, December 03, 2000 - 08:40 pm
Obviously your dipleasure goes beyond the height issue...I think you're in a compromising stage in which you are trying to nit pick on all his attributes, and this says a lot about your future prospectives. It doesn't matter how long you wait, but don't be closed minded also. In your heart of hearts I think you know what you want, and there is no need for you to settle. I couldn't imagine on settling for anyone, and wouldn't think of telling you to. If you can't see yourself growing old with this man, bearing his children and becoming his friend, confident and partner for life then it wasn't meant to be. Don't wage war with your heart, you know want you want and so go with your gut instincts. Don't be pressured into accepting any man for circumstances, if you do this, you will pay for it in the end. My mother always told me to make sure I found someone who loved me unconditionally, and if you can't do this for him, then there is no need to live in a farce. I think you should go with what your heart tells you, it will lead to you to the right decision. |
| Anonymous | Thursday, December 07, 2000 - 05:45 am
Thnx everyone for your time and advise.
I really don't still now what to do but marriage is calaf and it'll happen how it was meant to happen.
So i think i'll leave it for a year and then see how thinks stand.I think i will also let him now how i feel so there is no misunderstading.
Thnx you all. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, January 10, 2001 - 09:07 am
SIs if u don't feeel anythink for this men don't even think abou marying him.I mean alot of our ppl just get married for the heck of it so if u want my advise DO not do that. |
| Box-head | Monday, January 15, 2001 - 07:31 am
YOU DON'T LOVE THIS MAN AND U WANA GET MARRIED, GIRL U KNOW WAT U SAYING, YO KNOW WAT IF U MAKE LOVE TO HIM U MAY FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM HAH, MAKING LOVE IS BOWER FULL, DON'T TELL ME U ALREADY DID IT. |
| Hope | Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 09:19 pm
Hey sis,
I feel ya dear,rushing to close the gap huh?It workes better than that sis and really u got good advisers but let me add this: No one is perect to start with,mr.dream fullfiller does not exist,we can create am imaginary image though lol@ hey sis if we had the ability to define our husband to be,
no one would waste time "looking" we would rather be modelling mr.right,anyways sis it's every girls dream to see everything she ever longed for in aman but like I said perfection is not there and we should treat everyone as an individual not as afitting into our pre-determined ideal person.
No one will fit that mold.
One other thing don't rush into marriage,it's not easy to get off if things turn otherwise lol@ pls be carefull.Like other sisters said u have time,I also know so many ladies who got married and were way older than you.Anyways make ur observations clear and since u r in arush,I would suggest u observe the important issues rather than slight preferatives like "Height" for instance lol.
Otherwise good luck sis and hope u find mr.rite soon and insah-Allah u shall have agreat future!
ps:Don't 4get to send the invitations incase the big day turns out to be soon,hmm I have afeeling it will be real soon lol. |
