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What you think marring your 1st cousin? What about the DNA and Gene can potential cause deformity....Please advise.

SomaliNet Forum (Archive): Ila Tali Walaal - Ask The Experts: Archive (Before Feb. 16, 2001): What you think marring your 1st cousin? What about the DNA and Gene can potential cause deformity....Please advise.
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Anonymous

Thursday, December 14, 2000 - 10:59 pm
Adam,

I have recently got engaged to my 1st cousin through arrangement ceremony. At the time I wasn't aware of the potential medical problem that can occur when the same pool on gene mixed. To make a long story short, after seeing Doctors and doing research about the subject, the finding were disturbing deeply. There could be a much greater risk of having a kids with birth deformity or with very low IQ. Anyhow, once I gather all the facts I needed to convince me that I was better off not marrying 1st cousin hell break loose. My family almost disowned because the lack of knowledge of medical advance they tolerate.

I want to see how many people have been in the same situation I am in or have a personnel experience someone who has been in my shoes.

Thanks in advance.. all comments are appreciated, pls no negative comments

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Anon2

Friday, December 15, 2000 - 08:01 am
Anon, I find the notion of marrying cousins disgusting. I don't mean to offend you, but to me first cousins are like sibilings. Too bad men have legalized and made marrying cousins acceptable thing.

Now that you know the health risks, I hope you will do the rational thing and not be pressured by a tradition that doesn't make sense.

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moi

Friday, December 15, 2000 - 10:55 am
The deformality occurs when family marries many for generations which makes it an on going occurance, this will cause a mutation to develop, which meaning that the child will be deformed in some way or turn out to be an albino.

Firstly, marrying cousins is a traditional thing, which in my point of view should be stopped. This will cause defects in our future children...something which can easily be avoided.

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La_BSuga

Friday, December 15, 2000 - 04:07 pm
Marrying you first cousin is risking your life to have abnormal kids, i mean God is the creater and he knows what is gonna happen.
There alot kids who born abnormality in terms of having the same gene, i also think it's insanity to marry your own cousin which counts a sister man, I mean c'on.
In boilogy it's vital to do that necessary to view populations as a collection of individuals, each harboring a different set of traits.
A single organism is never typical of an entire population unless there is no variation within that population. Individual organisms do not evolve, you retain the same genes throughout your life. I think the first two cousins nothing happens but it depends the next generation and if they do the same that's when a problem rises.
Brotha good luck

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Anonymous

Friday, December 15, 2000 - 06:27 pm
Adam,

I appreciate all the comforting comments that you have provided me about this delicate situation. I genuinely thank you from the bottom my heart.

Pls no one feels offended, I would rather have what people emotionally express their opinion about the issue. I admit "guilty as charge" the first mistake I made was marring my 1st cousin, but we have to take a step back and look into our upbringings, it is perfectly normal out culture to marry your 1st cousin or at least our elderly thought so. Better yet, our religion encourages to do so.
Little back ground: I have attended high-school ands also finish university at Oregon in USA. I failed ever to take biology through the course I was in school, since it wasn't my favorite subject. Lacking that bit of knowledge caused me a great deal anguish and pain. For benefit of the doubt, the only reason I married my 1st cousin was because I was under tremendous amount pressure. Peer pressure can literally sometimes lead you to death row especially when you acquire so little about what you dealing with.
To wrap up things, This 1st cousin I got evolved never been in a same room with me or lived as husband & wife. However, everyone is entitle to commit on huge mistake and this defiantly tops everything I done wrong.

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Anonymous

Friday, December 15, 2000 - 11:24 pm
I who also recently got married to my first cousin is very happy with my life, if I tell you a little about the relationship wise of being involved with your first cousin. And if I come to your main question It is very normal to our society and our religion. Allah would not have allowed us if there were any abnomalities involved. Don't mind me asking you this question but do you really love her or do you have someone else on the other side thats why you are having cold feet at the last minute.

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Anonymous

Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 01:11 am
Annonymous,

I am happy for you that your relationship with you first cousin is working out for you the way you wanted to. To address you question: No there is no one else in my life at this moments rather than occasional dates. Besides I am not having a cold I am just acknowledging the health risk can happen when you inner marry 1st cousin. Anyhow, Yes, I agree with you that it is perfectly normal in our society to marry your 1st cousin. Ofcourse I love to death because she is the person I wanted to settle with for the rest of my life until I discover these concerns. However, there are a lot of 1st cousin who are married and have perfectly normal children, but the question is to what percentage of these relationship produce birth defects that is directly related to gene.
I am not using this article I posted as escape-goat, I am just putting the word out there the potential risks can happen that could be direct result to this topic.

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moi

Saturday, December 16, 2000 - 01:14 pm
Adam...you have made a grave mistake...our religion does not encourage us to marry our cousins...there is a particular haidth which says waxaas waa laga fiicanyahay. So please people, do not confuse culture and tradition with religion. Marrying into family CAN AND WILL CAUSE ABNORMALATIES IN FUTURE GENERATIONS.

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Cadna

Thursday, February 01, 2001 - 09:45 pm
Hey Adam,
I get ur point and really marrying ur 1st cousin is not a problem or aforbidden act.Although
it has some risk here and there but I have also witnessed 1st cousins who r married with abnormal children.To get to ur point yes it is riskfull bro
let me ask u a question is she from ur mother's side? or fathers side?I think her being from the mama's side is more riskier,since her gene may arise to become dominant and contradict each other leading to abnormal offsprings.Anyways I will do some reserach for you bro...I will let u know of more risks.Hope u ablessed future and keep faith nothin might happen to ur future kids.
Salaam

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Anonymous

Friday, February 02, 2001 - 10:59 pm
Canda, your effort is much appreciated. This has been one of the most devistating expirience one could expirience. No one can based their future based on poor statics epecially when certainly the medical aspect is for sure the risk is much greater compare to marrying outside your family. I am not saying this happens to every causins, but certainly the percentage is far greater.

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AYAN

Wednesday, February 07, 2001 - 04:19 pm
LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING I AM MARIED TO MY FIRST COUSIN AND WE HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL KIDS THEY ARE THE SMARTEST KIDS IN THE WHOLE WORLD IF THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH IT ALLAH WOULDN'T SAY IT'S HALAL TO MARY YOUR FIRST COUSIN. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE FAMILY,LOVERS,BEST FRIENDS, AND WE ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL ROMANTIC COUPLE IN THE EARTH SO HONEY FOLLOW YOUR HEART IF YOU LOVE YOU COUSIN GO AHEAD AND MARY BLIEVE ME NOTHING WRONG WITH MARYING YOUR COUSIN..

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Anonymous

Friday, February 09, 2001 - 10:03 pm
Ayan, I am very happy that your family is perfect picture, but in reality we are talking about here statics, you might fall in the percentage who were lucky or better yet didn't expirience this horrible situation. Yes, it is true love sets you free and conqorue the world but that only come when there doubts in your heart.

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