     Nasra_123 | Unrecorded Date
Salaammu Calyakum Dhamaantiin!
Hello, I need some adive. I knew this guy for about 6 years now. But we star dating about 2 years ago. The problem is he live in another state then were I am current. Most of my family are in the state that I am right. I don't wanna move away from my famliy. AT the time same I love him and I want to be with him. He current ask me to marry him and I still haven't told him the answer yet, although i love, i don't want to be far away from my famliy. He is a student going to unvi so is kind hard for him to tranfer here, and I myslef am student too and I don 't wanna tranfer. WE love each other and we want to be in the same state but we just can't deicid who is going to give up his/her life. What should i do?, Somehow I know is the right man for me and he knows am the right girl.Shoud I let him go?, u the experts pls help help....my life is on the edge here. what is good and what is not?. I can't eat, I can't stop think about, I can't even study...so I know i love but not ready to give my life and move to another state. from the being i know that it will end something like this but i don't lose him now. pls help.
Thank you
a friend needing help. |
| Taliyee | Unrecorded Date
Hi nasra,
It is one of the simple problem that I can give my best solution for this issue. Because the hardest issue was if you are not sure if he is the right person or not, but I am glad to know that you guys are the perfect choise to each other which make you one of the luckies couple on this earth. If the problem is only who will move to start a family.You can make a choice fro, the following choices
1 You realy love this guy and trusted for the rest of your, he the first person who you can cross the ocean for him, no matter where is or what you doing drop everything education, family,and frieds and move to where he is. You can find education anywere in any University, frieds. And your family is not far from if they are in the same country or your family is the second to you Love life.
2 IF you guys have the patient all you need to do is first finish your education and the right time will come where to live and best for both of you.
3 you told us two resean 1 family and 2 education that you cannot move to where he is, but you did not tell us what about his point even you mentioned he cannot transfer, if this the case he has only one resean not move so tell how he can and does not miss up his future. |
| Taliyee | Unrecorded Date
Hi nasra,
It is one of the simple problem that I can give my best solution for this issue. Because the hardest issue was if you are not sure if he is the right person or not, but I am glad to know that you guys are the perfect choise to each other which make you one of the luckies couple on this earth. If the problem is only who will move to start a family.You can make a choice fro, the following choices
1 You realy love this guy and trusted for the rest of your, he the first person who you can cross the ocean for him, no matter where is or what you doing drop everything education, family,and frieds and move to where he is. You can find education anywere in any University, frieds. And your family is not far from if they are in the same country or your family is the second to you Love life.
2 IF you guys have the patient all you need to do is first finish your education and the right time will come where to live and best for both of you.
3 you told us two resean 1 family and 2 education that you cannot move to where he is, but you did not tell us what about his point even you mentioned he cannot transfer, if this the case he has only one resean not move so tell how he can and does not miss up his future. |
| Ahmed | Unrecorded Date
To: Nasra
Asalama Caleykum
Walaalo i read all your writing very well, Walaalo
first of all its Haram that kind of relation 6 years is not Islamicly, as you now man with six
years he will behave you as a his wife and this is not good.Walaalo fear Allaah this is not based on Islam asked this is thing those whon knows about Islam, first you have leard Duca for Istikhara Allaah will make you everything easy. another thing Walaalo Allaah gave to use Heath so you should thank him, what you mean not eat no sleep this joke for realy. Fear Allaah Walaalo
Your's Ahmed |
| 51 SANO | Unrecorded Date
TO: NASRA
walaal gabadh fariiD ah baa tahay 6 sano nin lama sheekeseyn mark hore ayaan isdagaali laheyn |
| sistet | Unrecorded Date
walalo in my opinion if he is honest he wouldnt't keep you in the parking. |
| Nasra_123 | Unrecorded Date
Dear: Ahemd,
first of all thank you and second wallallo, if you look my message very clear you will understand that I knew this guy for 6 years that didn't mean we were dating allthose years, When he was in my state, we were friends (he's relative to the family), What i wrote on top wasn't joke wallallo. Am sure god didn't say you can't love somalia. Wallallo, I just happen to know about the religion so pls don't get me wrong. Ahmed, when i said I can't eat or sleep, wallallo, i met all the time I just think about and what am gonna said when he calls, that about it. thanks for your time.
TO:sistet, girl, am the one is making him parking, he wants me to move there is at, and am just not ready yet, u know. I love him and everything but is little complain right which is why i need u guys help. and thanks for your time
your sista nasra |
| Xaamilo15 | Unrecorded Date
TO: NASRA
YOUR FIRST POST, YOU HAVE SAID THAT BOTH OF YOU ARE HAVIN' TROUBLE DECIDIN' WHAT MOVE TO MAKE AND WHO SHOULD MAKE THE MOVE...BUT YOUR SECOND POST, U SAID.."he is willin' to sacrifice"???
I WANTED TO ADDRESS SOMETHINGS BUT IT LOOKS LIKE HE IS THE ONE THAT WANTS TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE..
TALIYEE SAID...."You realy love this guy and trusted for the rest of your, he the first person who you can cross the ocean for him, no matter where is or what you doing drop everything education, family,and frieds and move to where he is. You can find education anywere in any University, frieds. And your family is not far from if they are in the same country or your family is the second to you Love life. "
I DISAGREE WITH TALIYEE...BECUZ, A MAN SHOULD HAVE A TOTAL CONTROL OF THE SITUATION REGARDLESS...MEANIN'...NASRA HAS AS MUCH TO LOSE AS HER MAN DOES...THEREFORE, NASRA SHOULD NOT MAKE THE SACRIFICE...WHY SHOULD SHE?? SHE GOT FAMILY, FRIENDS, HER SCHOOL...SHE CAN'T JUST TAKE OFF AND LIVE WITH A MAN JUST THA SIMPLE FACT THAT SHE IS INLOVE WITH HIM....
BUT ALSO...NASRA U'RE CONFUSED...I'M ONLY SAYIN' THAT BECUZ....FIRST U MADE IT SEEM AS IF HE WASN'T WILLIN' TO MAKE THE SACFICE...AND THEN LATER ON, U SAID THAT HE WAS WILLIN' TO GIVE IT ALL UP...BUT U WEREN'T READY???
FROM MY UNDERSTANDIN'....U DON'T KNOW WHAT U WANT...FIRST U SAY, U WANT TO COMMIT..AND LATER ON, U SAY THAT U'RE NOT SURE WHETHER U'RE READY OR NOT????
NASRA, WHAT U NEED TO BE DOIN' IS CONCENTRATIN' ON YOUR STUDIES...NOT A MAN, NOT YET...BECUZ, U'RE NOT READY...SO WHY CONFUSE YOURSELF??? GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE, OR BETTER YET, SIT DOWN WITH HIM AND TALK IT OUT...ASK YOURSELF THIS...WHAT DOES NASRA WANT?? WHAT DOES HE WANT???
LATAZ |
| wfp | Unrecorded Date
hi sister
I understod very clearly and my opinion
if u porpuse your marriage is butter to go with him every where and any where coaz u will became his wafe
is not problime if u relocate where he live
and then u will restart your educatation with your husband |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
the answer is simple both of u stay where u r until u all finish your unis and then start making plans for future. its not good to put your whole future in danger just because you love or he loves. love is much better when both parts are enjoying life. so do the necessity things first! |
| SOMALIAgirl | Unrecorded Date
GRIL AM SURE THERE LOTS OF GUYS ARE THE STATE U AT SIS, SO WHY WASTE U TIME, AND LOTS UR EDUCATION FOR SOME GUY WHO LIVE IN ANOTHER STATE SIS, IS BETTER IF U JUST DAM, AND STAR DATING, SO U CAN GET OFF UR MINE SIS. LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT COMES AND GO. I SURE U CAN DO BETTER THEN THAT.I KNOW U WILL FIND GUY U CAN LOVE AND TRUSE IN THE STATE U AT. SO WHY DO U WANNA WASTE U EDUCATIONS. AND UR FAMILY GIRL, U ARE LUCK U HAVE FAMILY IN NORTH AMEICA, MOST OF US DON'T. SO I WOULD TELL U TO STAY WITH UR FAMILY AND CONCTUIN GETTING UR EDUCATION COZ EDUCATION IS KEY TO SUCCESS SIS.MOST GIRL JUST GIVE THERE LIFES FOR MAN AND THEN LATER THEY GET DAM, AND THEY HAVE TO STAR AT WHERE THEY LEFT, I DON'T WANNA SEE THAT HAPPEN TO YOU SIS. IF I WERE YOU SIS, I GET FINISH MY EDUCATION, AND AFTER WHOS EVER IS AROUND GET MARRY TO THAT PERSON SIS, COZ LIFE IS TOO SHORT BUT U HAVE TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT. I REALLY HOPE U MAKE THE RIGHT DIECSION, ALTHOUGH LOVE SOMEONE IS MORE WRONG RIGHT NOW THEN GETTING EDUCAION THAT UR CHOICES TO MAKE SIS, WE CAN'T MAKE A CHOICES FOR. I WAS ONCE IN LOVE AND AM NOT RIGHT, SO LOVE IS ONE THING THAT ONCES AND GOES SIS. PEACE OUT
WISH THE BEST.
YOUR SIS
SOMALIAgirl |
| kadra | Unrecorded Date
To Nasra
If you really serious with your relationship one of you have to give up and move inorder to be with the other. It is likely that you will be happilly married. You can always continue your education and look for the right job in your new state. You never know sometimes things happen for a reason and may be it is the best chance you have ever encountered. In my case i was living in a province where there are no somalis and 5 yrs later during a short trip to another province i met my husband. We dated via mail, and phone for about 8mos, though i was nervous i decided to go there to be with him for 2months trail. Well, we are stuck together and married for better or worse. my friends shipped my stuff later to me and after my first child was born i went back for a visit.
Though i already had my college diploma i found more oppurtunities and added skills in my new province. I still don't have friends but heck who cares i am too busy and enjoy my precious spare time with my dear family. Markaa waxaan ku odhan laa armey tahey isla doonasho ilaah. I know you will miss your family, friends, familiar environment, and your support network, but they are a phone call away. Your goals and priority would be affected too. Change can have a positive infuluence so why not take a chance! wish you all the best. kadra |
| ANIGA | Unrecorded Date
TO. NASRA
WALAAL AS YOU KNOW WE LEFT OUR COUNRY , AND WE LEAVE FOREING SOIL, SO EVERWHERE YOU GO THERE IS SAME SHITTTTTT SO GO FOR YOUR MAN . |
| hussien | Unrecorded Date
walaal first it is good to acheive your own goals. my advice is simple just finish your uni and waiting the right time you too are going feel comfortable. it is very danger to hold your future because your feeling and you don't know the outcome, but remember life is always gambling. if you feel it must one of u to make sacrifice go for it and don't worry may be that is best decision you ever made it. |
| NASRO_123 | Unrecorded Date
First of all, I would like to thank you for you adives to all of you. I really enjoy reading what you guys wrote. I still haven't decided what i am going to yet, but i know i want to finish my education and yes i have talk to him about the problem am having. although we havn't make decision yet, i think the final soultion is that we both finish our education and then get marry after that. If he love enough to for 3 years good if not then i guess we weren't met to toghter, i guess life is not fair. YEs i have talk to my parents about, because they always ask me when am going to get marry why am still waiting, i guess am not ready. my younger sister is marry and that not does bother me at, (although am 4 years older than here), i guess some people waiting for awhile and some get marry to soon. but i know that i love and he love me, so if we were mad for each other then one day will get marry if not then, i guess neither of us will sorry. onces again thanks for you adives,and i will let you guys know when i make my final decision, (lets just hope it be soon) :} well thanks |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
THIS IS WASTE OF TIME YAAQEEE
NASRA WHAT DA HELL U SAID U KNEW HIM FOR 6YRS WELL IT WAS SIX YRS OF WASTING TIME COZ U DON'T KNOW A JACK BOUT HIM ......IF U KNEW HIM ENOUGH U WOULD BE SECURE OF ANY DICISION U MAKE ....WHETHER U STAY AT UR PLACE OR MOVE TO HIS STATE...LIKE XAAMILO SAID U CONFUSED UR SELF AND NOW U CONFUSING EVERYBODY ELSE AS WELL SO FOCUS ON WHAT'S GOOD UR SCHOOL THAT IS ......CUUDA BILEESO NAA EE JACEEL KUMA HAYO EE KAASI WAA QOOQ....NINKA WAXUU KU SUGAN YAHAY MABA TAQAANID ...HADUU DOONE NAAG KALE AYUU HOOSTA KU HEESTAA.....HUH SOMETHING TO THINK BOUT HUH ...GOT U ATTENTION NOW .....NE'WAYZ GET UR LIFE ORAGANIZED SEEMS LIKE U WORRIED TOO MUCH ....WHERE'S HE WHILE U GOT TO POST THIS ISSUES .....HOW COME HE AIN'T THE ONE WITH DA WORRIES??? OOOH WELL WHATEVA REASON IT IS EAZY ON URSELF THIS AIN'T LOVE ITS MORE LIKE CRASH TO ME ....IF AM WRONG WELL THAN I DON'T WANNA BE RIGHT
DATZ MA WORD FOR NOW
NABADEEY |
| BADGIRL | Unrecorded Date
NASRA.......
If you are thinking for one minute that he is faithful to ya 4GET IT GIRL.Long distance hell no. MEN ARE ALWAYS LOOKING AROUND
They can never be faithful to one person.
Having said that, if your love is true, let him go, and love will find ya girl. There is hope. A similar situation happened to me once. I loved long time ago,this guy, he went away,kept in touch through letters, he started seeing other gals,I was single,I moved to where he was,Saw him with my friend,Got on with my life,Then years later(7yrs later)We fell in love again....atleast I have....LOL....And I reckon it is the best thing that has ever happened to me....regardless of what he done.....So I would suggest you get busy with other things...occupy your mind with stuff...........LOVE WILL ALWAYS FIND YA.
PEACE
TROUBLE
Don't give yourself too much......Naa wax reebo. |
| OnlyMe | Unrecorded Date
Baby girl
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP NEVER NEVER
WORKS.
You've asked the expert the answer is
NOOOOOOOOOOOO WAYYYYYYYYY.
I'm sorry but the reality is sometimes hard.... don't ask why...
OnlyME |
