     layla | Unrecorded Date
can anyone help me?
i am 19 year old and i use go out with this guy for a year, any way we fell in love and my family found out so they refused him and said i wasn't to see him any more. so i run away with him and that's when i found out he wasn't ready for marriage and i thought if he loved u he wouldn't do this so i left him. since that day i ahaven't seen him.
now 2 years later i marreid my best freind who's carazy about me but the truth is i can't love him and he knows.
i can't get over my past and it got worst when my ex phoned me telling me he made a misteke and he was threatend by my family which is true and i was only 15 he didn't want ruin my future.
the thing is i believe him and i still love him so much but now i am maried and i just found out that i am pregnant with my 1st child which iam happy about but shouln't this child come into a loving environment.
i love my husband and he loves me to death as i am his first love and best freind so i know how he feels.
please help me to obtain a healthy marriage i am so young and i feel i have gone too fast. |
| keyse | Unrecorded Date
aacuudu bilaah!!! |
| abdullahi | Unrecorded Date
do you know what you are doing now ????
DISRESPECT.and your man has a lot to think.
Stand by your man if he lets you stay. |
| SARAH | Unrecorded Date
OH I FEEL SOOOO SORRY FOR YOU YOU ARE IN A COMPLICATED SITUATION AND I HOPE THING GET BETTER FOR YOU MY ONLY ADVICE IS DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS THE RIGTH THING FOR YOU !
I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD ! |
| MO | Unrecorded Date
Dear Leyla:
A good and free advice: Take a break sis. Try not to communicate with EX at least until your new baby is born and is one year old. If he loves you, he will accept your request. second, do not get another baby before you solve this problem for good. You are still growing sis and I am not blaming you for you are doing. It is up to you if you wanna change men but please wait a couple of years before you make such a decision. Growing up is a painful experience and if I were you, romance would take a back seat until I finish education:)
Good luck sis.
MO
all you need is a a couple of years |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
layla enjoy sex from both sides. it feels nice to have different men all the time. my x-lover what a bullshit story..................alaa kuwaanaa wixii naagnimo ka dhigta kuwaas aa ba eeen hana soo marina walee gabdhihii soomalida they want to have western life style......keep on and you will find yourself bring up ahmed, john, xasan + kuwanga |
| Xaali | Unrecorded Date
Lol@@Anonymous, magacyadaa iidilay, john iyo kuwanga.
Leyla, how about learning how to priortize? You owe it to your unborn child.
1. Grow up (you are only 19!!!!!!!!!!!!)
2. Forego instant gratification, and practice self denial (forgoing your pleasures for the sake of others) is okay and somtimes neccessary.
3. Let go of the past. (it is history!)
4. If you can't let go of the past, have an open communication with your husband.
5. Invest in yourself (education/skills). |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
Is it Riki lake show or what? i am married but guess what... i still love my ex!! that is sick!! |
| SoPHizTicaTed SmOoThY | Unrecorded Date
To: Layla
What a story and I do feel real sorry for situation U in ...he is Ur Ex for a reason if he truelly loved U now he would leave U and Ur new young family in peace ...this fellow want's to mess up Ur life once more ...what if U go with him and he leaves U in a few months with a new baby ...what U think U gonna do run back to hubby ....I THINK NOT ....A man that loves U is a man that wants to see U happy....U have a baby on the way try NOT to think about this other man what can he offer U apart for heartace?..
I Hope My Words Helped U Hon :) |
| Megag Sharmake | Unrecorded Date
You reap what you sow.The reward one gets for being a whore is what you are getting now.So stop whinning and grow up.If you could not stand the heat what were you doing at the kitchen? If you are old enough to strech your legs it is paying time.Grow up and be a woman. |
| Ayman | Unrecorded Date
To. Layla
as- salaamu calaykum
"Yaa ibnu xalaal kartidii aad ku aqbashay inaad ninkaaga la aqal gashoba waad laheyde maxaa inaad sidaa ku wado kuu diidey. walaashay shaydaan yuuna kuu mara haadin ee ilaahay ka cabso reerkaagana dhaqo maadaama aad adiguba noo sheegayso in ninkaagu uu indhihiisa kaa jecel yahay soomaalidu waxay tiraah qori & qiiqiiba waa laysla tuuraa foget ex. jacayl ee kaagaan cusub waraabi oo boorka ka ilaali.
Leyla adiguba ma jeclaateen in odagaagu uu aqalkaaga ku dumo odagaaga jacaylkiisii hore, qolooyinka heesa ayaaban u maleynayaa inay yiraahdaan:
naf ku jecel aduunyada ayaa uwacan wax nolol..... lala wadaagee markaa relax and .....happy with your husband.
Ilaahaagana mar walba xasuuso kana bari inaadan noqon mid xad gudubta kuwa xad gudbaana waxay mutaysan diintayadu aad bay uga hadashay ogow inaad gabar muslimada tahay ayna islaamka jirin wax la yiraah my ex."
kana raali ahow wixii aad khalad u aragto.
Allah bless you & your family
peace |
| Concerned BRO | Unrecorded Date
Hi Night!!!!
I'm sorry you confessedd to all these JERKS!!! instead of giving you advice, they calling you names. Howvever, the reason is our past culture which is still haunting us. Anyway, you can't live with some 1 that you don't love. Don't torture your self. The love always wins. Be ready for it
Concerned BRO |
| LAYLA | Unrecorded Date
HEY THANK EVERYONE WHO UNDERSTOOD I THANK U FROM MY HEART U HAVE REALY HELPED ME.
FOR TYHE REST WHO ARE SO IGNORANT AND THING I AM WHORE FIRSTABLE I NEVER SLEPT WITH MY EX LET AOLNE TOUCH HIM I SWEAR ANY WAY DON'T START JUDGING CAUSE U DON'T KNOW MW AS FAR AS I AM CONCERNED I AM WELL BEHAVED AND VERY TRADITIONAL BUT LOVE CAN HAPPEN TO ANY ONE AND IT IS SAD I COULDN'T COPE WITH IT AND FOR THAT I CAN'T LOVE ANY ONE ELSE.
THANK U |
| exlover | Unrecorded Date
hi,this is a battle between u are life &u are luv life.so don't west u are time &his .if u really intresting u are (X),THEN DON't west u are current luv////////// |
| sharkey | Unrecorded Date
layla a lost lover never comes back so do not destroy the live of your husband and the new child which ya gonna have. So drop your ex friend and live with your new husband.
have a nice time |
| ANIGA | Unrecorded Date
TO. LEYLA
I AM REALY SORRY ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON, BUT TAKE MY ADVICE, FORGET THAT CUNT AND STAY WITH YOUR LOVELY HUSBAND. |
| Dr. Daahir | Unrecorded Date
Layla, are you crazy?
How could you tell the world that you love someone whom you hadn't slept with?.
If you could felt in love with someone without sex, then you should check your brain system. i mean, there might be chemical inbalances in your brain. The only love you could tell the world was the one between you and your husband. Because you had sex with your husband which eventually will produce a health child, is the only definition of love. Period.Sex is the most Important thing for love. Do us a favor, do not abuse our intelligent by claiming you love someone that you never had sex with. Obviously, your old boyfriend was the biggest loser in the world if he hadn't show you how good he can be in bed. But your husband did and the soon coming child is a prove for that. finally, there is nothing to go back. No actions from your old boyfriends but talk. You can get talk combine with actions and love in the bed from your husband. Stay with your husband. |
| farxiyo | Unrecorded Date
Dear layla,
You say that you are a muslim girl. If you trully are then you should know better than to have two men on the go.
Have a faith sis.
You are married now and you should not be thinking what your life would be like with another man.
You say you don't love your husband, how do you know? Have you for a moment tried to stop thinking about your ex and concerntrating on your husband and your life with him. |
| Caraweelo | Unrecorded Date
Dear Layla;
A few points to note:
1. Your Ex left you when you needed him most. NO EXCUSES.
2. Your husband married you and gave you a home.
3. You are pregnant with a new life.
FUN AND GAMES ARE OVER. You will be responsible for a new life- your child. For your child's sake and for the sake of the man that honored you - YOUR HUSBAND- you should not even speak to you Ex.
Where are your loyalties?
Where the hell has this man been for 2 Years? Where was his LOVE then?
Life can be crazy and sometimes the choices seem hard. But you have to use your mind. THINK! Bottomline- your husband is YOUR husband- your companion, the father of your unborn child. HONOR him, RESPECT him and do not allow your ex to destroy your life- he tried to do it once before- when he left you the first time. Do you want to go through that again? Do you want to be raising your child alone? You know that will happen if you go back to your Ex. He left you when you were a virgin, do you think he will stay with you when you are a divorced mother?????
What is wrong with you?
Hope I have helped. I don't mean to be unkind- but sometimes we have to be...
as the song goes...."cruel to be kind- in the right measure!" |
| Samsam | Unrecorded Date
TO. Layla.
markaan aan akhriyey waxaad soo halkan kusoo
qortay lama, yaabin waayo naagihii ama gabdhihii
somaiyeed siday ufiir sanayeen obroyinka tiifiga
ayey run uqaateen arimahaas.walaalo ha uqaadan
arimahaas aad tv ka aragtay inay sax yihiin.
Ogow dhaqan iyo diinba uma lihin inaan ninkada
ninkale oo waa saaxib kula ahaan jiray aad uga
layla gurigaada kalabkaas yuuna kaasrin
ilaahayna kaada khayra hakuugu daro.{Ogow qabigu
laba qof mawada qaado,shimbir laba geed mawada
gurato}. layla ilaahay ka cabso aduunyadu waamal
mo tirsan hooyana mardhow waad noqone.markaad
dhasho jacalkii aad u haysay saxibkadii hore
waxuu gali baby ee balsug intaan dhalaysid
waad arki doontaa arintaa.
TO,DAhir
DR,Pleace could explain to me this words.
{if you could felt in love with someone
without sex then you should check your brain system}.I don't agree that becouse I felt in
love with my husband without sex,then after
our marriage we can have sex.I think our brian
is fine.
iga raali noqo hadaad idhibsato. |
| Ahmad | Unrecorded Date
Asalama Alaykum Muslims!
Layla,
Hi! Truly, you're in a very hard situation -- NOT complicated...but hard. I hope you will listen to what i have to say.
What was done is done -- you left a man who loved you for a WRONG reason. You should've waited a couple years until he was ready. You were too young for a marriage -- 15 in this day and time is a very young person, layla. It was right of him to tell you he didn't want to marry you, YET.
What matters is NOW: you're married. It doesn't matter how you got there -- you're THERE. You have a responsibility to THIS family...and not that fairy tale that was never official. IF you are a Muslim -- do you know the reason we have a *marriage*??? it is the sake of the children. Notice how God does NOT want the woman to leave the marriage if she is found to be pregnant any time after the first three months of the divorce. From this, we learn that we get married for the CHILDREN. If there was no children -- having sex with un-married partner would not have been crime or sin. It is crime or sin because a life might come out of that -- thus, leaving the mother -- with sole responsibility if the man doesn't want to take responsibility. However, through marriage...people take responsibility for the children. And God asks us BOTH(parents) to help the situations in the child's life.
Now, you know that you're pregnant. SO, there isn't any reason for you to leave your husband. It is very much good for the baby to be brought under both of his biological parents. I used to think that staying together for the sake of children is NOT good enough of a reason for marriage. BUT, i learned to change my mind. It IS a good reason to stay together -- and to put every positive energy in that family for the sake of the kids. They are innocents...they don't have to pay for our past or present mistakes as adult. They DON'T. They deserve a home with both biological parents. ESPECIALLY for somalis -- since we have this thing in our genes that a family that is not full-bio is not really a family.
All and all, this man who you're married to deserves his wife. He married you -- and he loves you very much, you said so yourself. I can't see a reason why i couldn't love someone who loves me, but people are different. I would advice you to treat you past as that; PAST. You are here now -- and you have a responsibility to your husband and unborn child -- and that is to try YOUR best to work things in the right direction. You do NOT have to do anything yu can't do and i'm NOT asking you to love him all of the sudden -- but you married him. When you married him, it was what YOU wanted. Because you made a mistake -- your husband or child do not have to pay the prize. They're two and you're one -- and you do what you think is right FROM your heart. We all do things that we KNOW we need in the long run. You have a beautiful thing that is rare to find; a husband who loves you and a child. Be grateful and count your blessings -- and I hope and pray that everything works out best for you!
Peace and Love to all Muslims,
-Ahmad! |
| anonymous | Unrecorded Date
layla,
2 years ago you were 15 Vs you are 19 years old.!!!
Your husband is crazy about you, but you can’t love him Vs I love my husband and he loves me to death.!!! |
| jaale | Unrecorded Date
Jaalle Cumar
War maxaa somaliga idiin didey! |
| idil | Unrecorded Date
war ani waa yabay ex love baa ibaacsanayey somali ka bixi ladahay walee waa yaab |
| Anonymous | Unrecorded Date
to layla
i feel sorry for you cuzz the way talk
realy i don't like cuzz you are somalian girl
so you don't have to talk like that believe me
you are lucky glrl please don't lose your nice
husban
take care your sele |
| MCM | Unrecorded Date
asaalamu alaykum walaal,
layla inankaad sanadka wada socoteen,wakhtigiisa wuu dhamaadey, imika ninkale ayaa ku qabaa, ee isaga adeec. aqalkaaga dhoqo ee reerkaga hayso.
xishood oo wax isku fal, dadkana dhaqanxumo haa u horseedin. |
| hebel | Unrecorded Date
OK layla 15+2=17 not 19.
Secondly you said you never loved your husband, but you love your husband (IM sorry which one?).
Playground is over there please let the grown ups talk, please you disrupting. |
| Taliye | Unrecorded Date
okey layla
you are so stupid !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i read your story and it sounds like ricki lake show
remember you are somalian respect your religion and your culture.Now you have no respect to your husband cuz he knows 1 day u r gonna leave him for another •••• so luv your husband.Ex is gone. relax sitback and be ready to have family. |
| ThugGirl | Unrecorded Date
Layla
with all that said and done..
you actually going to listen to us??...B*S*!!..
everyday you're sitting infront of your computer,impatiently waiting for our responses..!!WHATEVER!!just
dont waste these ppls' time...as you know TiMe is MoneY.. |
| Dr Dahir | Unrecorded Date
To SamSam.
Well. as i said i think its wrong to love someone without having an intimate sexual relationship with them. Having said that, you might feel attractive for someone's appearance but its absolutely unfounded to claim that you're in love with them. Naturaly, sex is the foundation of love and marriage and if sex fails than the marraige will go with it. That is human nature and you can not despute with that. |
| Jom | Unrecorded Date
Always you have to stick what you think is good for you and don't listen other people comments . they only mention their point of veiw. as you said now you are in health marriage with your and you have thanks god what you got and forget your past feelings .or otherwise remember never venture , never gained if you love your ex more than your husb just go for it, but think twice . we only life once . my only advice is don't screw up what you got and you will never know what you will end up.
if you are in situation one way please be honest with your husb and probably he will inderstand your dilemma. |
| Zuaad | Unrecorded Date
Leyla
I've one thing to ask you, are you confused about your life style [marriage life] or are you trying to pull our legs? hmmmmm! I dont know, you tell me that. Sister, I dont know what kind of healthy marriage you are looking for when you have one already. It's like getting a free right when you already paid it, what an ironic?. I mean you have the man you married to and you cherished your life with.If you bring your ex between you and your current husban, it's like asking more trouble you could ever imagine. Take my words sister yesterday's reality is nothing today which means Lose the ex whom already lost you when you needed him or you'll lose the one you have now and loves you to death
Peace!!! |
| Caaqil | Unrecorded Date
Ku Layla:
Gurigaaga ilaasho hadii kale, waad ka shalayn doontaa. Mawaxaad run mooday shoowyada TV-ga, Jerry Spring & Ricki Lake.
Ninka aad jeecehahay wuxuu rabaa inuu kula raaxeysto ee iska jir. Aniga ayaa gabar saas ku sameeyay xili aan dhunsanaa. Waxaan sirtaa kugu sheegay, waxaad tahay gabar walaashay ah oo nasoo waydiisatay talo, hadii aan nahay Soomaali.
Hadal & dhamaantii. Naaglaqabo ninkii ku dhaho waan ku jecla´hay weli oo kuma iloobin. Waa BEENLOOW oo aniga ayaa sameeyay taas oo kale. Ma jeclayn inaan waxaan halkan ka sheego, laakin waxaan rabaa inay tusaale kuu noqoto. GABDHUHU MA BARTAAN NIN BAAHAN BEENTIISA MIYAA, khaas ahaan kuwa laqabo.
Qarni wanaagsan. |
| Asho | Unrecorded Date
I think you need to talk to ur EX and tell him that you have grown and you are married. i think you should stay with your husband , it sound as if your husband is lovely. i know its hard to forgete your first love but you must move on. think of the child. if you ex loved you as he says he does , why did it take him 2 years to ring you?. Tell him that you not interesred and ask him to stop phoning you. you are a mother now , so act like one and make a good decision which it stay with your family. |
| Deeqa | Unrecorded Date
Leyla:
I am sorry about everything, and this "ex" has to be out of this beautiful picture... Be smart and don't ruin your beautiful relationship with your husband.....
To Dahir:
Come on bro, Love got to be more than that. Besides, the issue wasn't about "Sex" it was about "Love", so make sure you understand the issue b4 you jumbed to conclusion aight...
And of course you can love some1 4ever without having sex.... Ask the expert :) !
Forgive me ...
Deeqa |
| max | Unrecorded Date
to layla;
I got ur point, but I was confused with two things u wrote. I qoute u saying "but the truth is i can't love him and he knows" and then "i love my husband"
Can u clarify ur feeling towards ur husband. coz there is a conflict with what u r saying. |
| Van-P | Unrecorded Date
To Leyla
hello
first i'm sorry for your situation. second sister i wana say one thing. love comes and goes, so if your husband loves U and U know that , and now you gona have together a new child. so please look the future of your child and don't seperate your child with his/her father. third don't make your self "cuquubo" becouse your husband loves U and U are together a good family so if U leave him with out reason that would be "cuquubo"
I'm sorry, i know how U feel when you are between two lovers. so my advice is if U don't have any problem with your husband and he cares about U, just tell your Ex that life goes on.
thanx.
any mistakes, just forgivness. |
| musa | Unrecorded Date
To layla!!!
Follow your heart sister... if you love your ex then go for it... it is hard to live with a person when you love another person. this is not fair to your husband because he deserves better. Therefore, free your self and your husband... life is too short so be happy. |
| Nadra | Unrecorded Date
hey leyla
i guess you r so confuse ... waxaan ku odhan lahaa dont be sis u so young, u have lovely husband as u said so be ur self and think .... past is gone just concentrate at the present ok.
Musa
inanta jar ha ka tuurin.... remember! muslim ayaa nahay dhaqana waanu leenahay ku waani inay reerkeeda dhaqato mise jealous ayaad ka tahay guurkaa wanaagsan ee iftiimaaya i can see waxaa tahay dadka westrenka noqday ee aaminsan showyada. |
| Ali | Unrecorded Date
Leyla you are lying to your teeth sister. In one sentence you said your best friend/husband knows that you don't love him and infact can't love him, and the following statement you state that you love your husband to death. which statement is right, your lies crumble and your hand was cought in to the cooie
"jar. lier.... lier.... lier pants on fire" |
| omar | Unrecorded Date
Laylaay, what are u waiting for give your EX(BACDIISA ama danbishiisa sii), asaga marka hore saa ku yeelay. don't forget a beautiful girl like you are on her way. please don't distroy here future, like you are doing now, I mean bad ending. |
| hilda | Unrecorded Date
layla , girl friend pls what r we on the Jerry Springer show? girl here r the facts..... ur pregnant, and ur with the father of ur unborn baby...thats how it is supposed to stay, think!
and as for this ex u keep talking about, he is exactly that...ex,....the past.....end of discussion, girl r u that stupid??
and oh ur poor husband i feel so sorry for him, hope u dont mess him up, he sounds like a good person, (considering him loving someone who doesnt love him back)
girl friend, ur not that young ur 19 and your pregnant for crying out loud, girl act like a responsible adult and dont wreck ur marriege ur child deserves to grow up with his father,
one more thing, try to remember this saying
CHECK UR SELF, BEFORE U WRECK UR SELF.
peace: |
| loser | Unrecorded Date
To layla
Lol..........Lol........
Sister be honest.
don't just copy the all things, say something
possiable atleast. |
| muslimah | Unrecorded Date
assalamu alaikum warahmah,
sister layla,
i'm sorry for what you're going through...you've gotta realize that you're married now tho...not going out (not that you should be doing that)but life is different for you...if you're ex is a decent man, and he really cares for you like he says, he'd leave you alone once he found out you were married...dear you have a child on the way...you have a husband that loves you, and whom you claim to love...so i don't see why you'd want to ruin all that for someone who you're not sure about? Don't be ungrateful and leave your husband for some love you once had...
when it comes to love dear you should always use your head (once you're in love you're feelings are irrational, you can't think straight)and not your heart...
pray istikharah: two rak'a nafl and read the dua...ask allah to help you make a good decision one that's best for your life and the life of your unborn child, to guide you to the path that's good for you...think hard b4 you make any hasty decisions
may allah bless and guide us all to the straight path...amin
wassalamu alaikum warahmah |
| Malik | Unrecorded Date
EX!!!! Means past, History, Something that you did long ago, Something you are not doning any-more, something you pass, something you grow-from it, something you learn expreince from that you're not doing any-more.
Layla Sis Here is My Advise to you Let the past be
The past. and Move on to Your future. For God-Sake
You're only 19 years Old. You have you're life ahead of you. What ever you do in life don't get back to your past and make it your Future, Life Goes on Keep Going sis. Love and Respect you,re Babys Father.
Good Luck sis
By now
Malik |
| DHEEREEYE | Unrecorded Date
dear layla:
marka hore aad iyo aad baan uga xumayahay inaad weydo kii aad jeclaatay.secondly walaal aniga waxay ila tahay in aad gurigaaaga dhaqato oo shaydaanka iska naarso sababtoo ah hadaanad jeclayn ninkaaga maad guursateen sababta aad u guursatay maxay tahay aniga ayaa sheekadaas ooo kale igu dhacday gabadhiii aan is jeclayn ayaan is weynay waana kala maqanayn mudo dheer markaan is helay ayay ii sheegtay inay weli i rabto laakin waxay garan weyday siday u geliahayd reerkeeda iyo ninkeeda iyo caruurteeda markaas waxaan kula taliyey inay reerkeeda dhaqato waxaanan ka jarey inaan la hadlaba oo telefoonba u diro markaa wlalal iska jar telefoonkiisa gurigaaga ha baabi'in ilaahay baa hada ubad u siiyey ha dayacin nin kalena uma fiicana caruur aanu dhalin.
Ralina ka ahow wixii khalada ah waanan ogahay jecaylku inuu xanuun badan yahay markaa waad iloobi dontaa ilaahayna tubta toosan ha ku mariyo ubadkaagana ubad khayr qaba ha kaaga dhigo. AMIIN |
