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     | Unrecorded Date SALAAM BROTHERS AND SISTERS MY NAME IS AMINA I AM 19 YEARS OLD AND I LIVE IN CANADA WITH MY FAMILY.. THIS PAST SUMMER I WENT TO ENGLAND, AND I MET MY FUTURE HUSBAND. WHEN I CAME BACK TO CANADA, I HAVE INTURDUCED MY MAN TO MY FAMILY. SADLY I DIDN'T GOT THE HAPPY RESLUT I WAS EXPECTING. MY FAMILY WANT ME TO FINISH MY SCHOOL AND GET MY EDUCATION FIRST, BUT PERSONALY I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THAT . I WANT TO GET MARREID AND START MY OWN LIFE AND NOT WANTING TO RUN AWAY FROM MY FAMILY CUZ I HAVE RESPECT FOR MY FAMILY VERY MUCH AND I LOVE THEM TO DEATH. THE REASON WE WANT TO GET MARRIED AT YOUNG AGE IS NOT BECAUSE WE R RUSHING TO EACHOTHER BUT I DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM BUT I WANT IT IN RELIGION WAY AND CULTURAL WAY. MY FAMILY AND MY FRIENDS R SAYING THAT I AM RUSHING AND THEY R TELLING ME TO WAIT BECAUSE IF HE LOVES ME FOR REAL , HE WOULD HAVE WAIT. I BELEVE THAT HIM AND I R MEANTED FOR EACHOTHER AND DOESN'T MATTER HOW LONG WE WAIT EACHOTHER , I AM NOT RUSHING CUZ IF I WAS , I WOULD HAVE MARRIED HIM IN ENGLAND WHEN HE ASKED ME TO. MY FAMILY LIKE MY MAN CUZ HE A GOOD EDUCATION BACK GROUND AND HE HAS MONEY AND ALSO I FEEL LIKE HE IS THE ONE PERSON WHO UNDERSTANDS ME THE MOST OTHER THEN MY TRUE FRIENDS.I DON'T WANA MAKE THE BIGGIES MISTAKE IN MY LIFE AND WHAT I MEAN IS THAT I MIGHT GET MARRIED TO THIS GUY BUT WHO KNOWS? ONLY GOD CAN TELL US THAT. SO IF WE EVER GET DIVORCE WHICH I THINK NOT, MY FAMILY WILL BE THERE FOR ME ALWAYS BUT DEEP DOWN THEY MIGHT HURT CUZ WHEN THEY TOLD ME TO WAIT , I DIDN'T LISTEN TO THEM AND I RUSHED TO HIM. I WANT U GUYS'S HELP WALAAHI IAM CONFUSED AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO IN THIS CASE, CUZ ALL I WANT IS TO BE WITH HIM AND HAVE A HAPPY LIFE WITH HIM AND ALSO TO PLEASE MY FAMILY TOO. HOW CAN I MAKE BOTH SIDE TO BE STABLE?.
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| | Unrecorded Date TO: AMINA abaayo i think you should go for him, that is if you truly believe that he is the one for you. family might be hurt but they will get over it..and i wish you luck
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| | Unrecorded Date TO;AMINA FIRST OF ALL SIS, IN ORDER TO SATISFY YOUR FAMILY AND FUTURE HUSBAND IS NOT TO RUSH. SIS, TAKE YOUR TIME ...AND I KNOW THAT YOU'RE YOUNG AND HAVE SO MUCH LIVING TO DO HOPEFULLY INSHA ALAAH. IF HE CAN'T WAIT OR RESPECT YOU OR YOUR FAMILY'S POINT OF VIEW THEN HE ISN'T THE ONE FOR YOU. IF HE IS THE RIGHT ONE HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND WAIT AND UNDERSTAND NOT JUST HIS OR YOUR POINT OF VIEW BUT YOUR FAMILY'S POINT OF VIEW. FROM:AXMED OSMAN AND OMAR MUSE GOOD LUCK IN THE FUTURE SIS.
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| | Unrecorded Date AMINA go for him, me and wife were married when she was 19, at that time she and me wanted to marry but her family didn't want her marrying, after 10yrs and 3 beautiful children we r still together and life is great....my wife is now well educated and successful young lady ...abaayo in yaraanta lagu guursado wax ka fiican maleh. Laakiin ninkaada ilaah hakaaga dhigo wiil howlaha guriga wax kaala qabta hadaad rabto inaad waxbarashadaada sii wadato oo aad humar gaarto.
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| | Unrecorded Date amina: sis i think you are rushing to get married cus as u said u met the guy not long ago. so i think u should wait for a year or so and see if u still feel the same. and about anonymous story that is good, and i guess it was long time ago, these days u think ur inlove but it's just a crush so plz wait and finish high school first. yours
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| | Unrecorded Date Amina! Hello if U love him and U know that he loves U and you believe that you can be together for good, go for him. you can have future, i mean U can go school, and have a career while you are married. the Goor is always khayr not Shar,and it is not gona block U what u like to do in the future. Good luck sister. i wish for you khayr.
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| | Unrecorded Date Amina! Hi! Love comes around once in a life and last forever! if you love your boyfriend then go for it and marry him; but be tentative and analysis all the possibility before hand. I mean be careful. if you get married, make sure you finish your education in order to make your family happy. your family are only concern your education, so once you finish your education, they will be happy. don't worry about your family because they will come around. Follow your heart sister because if you don't then, you will never can forgive your self. Life is too short so, be happy while you can... make sure the boyfriend is the right man, who will cherish you rest of your life until death do you part.. GOOD LUCK SISTER, I HOPE IT WORK OUT FOR YOU... ANYWAY, I LIVE IN LONDON, SO IF YOU GET MARRIED IN LONOND LET ME KNOW!!!!! BYE MUSA
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaam sis, we were created for the sole purpose of worship,and getting married is one of those aspects of worship.If the marriage conforms to the ideals of Islam then Allah is a part of it but if it doesn't sis your on your own.So get figured out and if you think its for you then explain it to your parents and proceed.Bless you nassom@yahoo.com
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| | Unrecorded Date Aamina : It is really choosing between rock and hard place but how about this: Since you are horny and want sex why not make "nikaax" with no wedding. I mean in "nikaax" it is xalaal to make love and you didn't hurt your family's feeling. The only thing you have to lose is ur virginity(if you have one to begin with) aahaha. Kill two birds for one stone--have sex and do what the family wants.
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaam ya'll... Amina.........girl i just neva thought u r this hurt and confused.......and i feel so bad that i am ur bestfriend and didnt know u were going through all of this.......... sis i can not tell u how much this message made me feel so bad and i almost cried walaahi......cant believe my sweet innocent friend is goin' through all this.......but what can i say.......life is not fair sometimes...u fall in love....but cant enjoy it.....something stands in the middle.......u gotta be a mature person with brains to handle it......and i know u r....but amina please my beloved sistah dont rush and make ur self regret what u did........i am not against u getting married to him and u know that......cuz i know u could be the best wife and that he luvs u very much.........but sis i think of it this way........he is one man......and ur family is one family......if u lose the man.......u can get 1,000,000 others.....u know how pretty u r..masha allah and u r the kinda girl every guy would wish for -after they wish for me-lol..kiddin'......and if u lose the family......u lost everything........ur family dont want u to sit home for the rest of ur life......every parents wanna see thier little girl married to a good man and bring them some grandchildren......specially ur parents.........but if they want u to finish only high school.......then why say no......why hurt them like that........if they want u to get to know this guy more.......i think u should take khaliil's advice and get a nikaax.......u can do what eva u wanna......but make sure u dont get pregnant aight......even if u do i dont mind baby sittin' for u.........just dont move too far away...........anyway my point is this girl.......dont lose ur family.......dont rush into this..........i am not gonna tell u u cant love him......or u cant be serious.........but it seems to me that u r making this a problem when it is not realy a big deal........so what girl, if u r too crazy for sex..........we all are...and u know that amina...........but sistah we have brains.......we dont live for sex......we want sex.......but our lives r in the way....can u imagine me sayin' i wanna get married.........how do u think my mom would react.......so u should say alxamdulillaah if ur mother didnt get mad or anything......she's even asking u to get to know this guy...she didnt tell u 'I DONT WANT HIM' ...she just said to take ur time...and i dont think that is bad...........there is a swahili sayin' that says 'haraka haraka, hayna baraka'.......yeah girl i learnd some swahili.....lol.....so if u really wanna think about it and take ur time, do the following.........4get about the sex.......by fasting and praying......and i gurentee u....u'll even forget about him if u start doing something else......like ur school and get a job ok..... and one more thing ur girl always does.......'Variety is the spice of life'..so see some otha guyz girl.....but please no sex aight.......cuz then the only way u get it off ur chest is 100 wipes in life......or a 1000 times more in the hereafter.......... come on amina.......where is the girl that always told me to have fun and dont be too serious......now u talkin' about getting married......nah man... cant believe that......i think i missed too much of u.......... thats my advice to u.......i know i said that a lot of times..........and i know i get on ur nerve when eva i say it......but sis.........cant help but to wonder why my girl is confusing her self more than she was...confused amina.....i wish u all the luck abaay.........and another thing....tell him to come to canada..........i aint goin' to ur wedding in england.........and u know without me no malxiisad...... gotta bounce now till lata Honest Girl said P.S. r u thinkin' who da hell is this? just think of the most honest girl u got! lol
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| | Unrecorded Date SHEEKO KALE MA LA RABAA OO QOSOL LEH
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| | Unrecorded Date To: AMIAN 1st of all i dont think my comment is on time but I know from what u said that u r only 19 and you wanna get married personaly I would say that is very nice>> its very nice to get married at a yuong age and to start your life<<< BUT we all grow up and things might not be the same one year down the road of life so take your time and most of all dont get married till your parents agree with you?? one luv and i hope thigs get easier for you..
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| | Unrecorded Date What'z up !!...Ms_Phat_bootty AKA Amina!. Babygirl, Love make us do strange things in this life...love is blind and it's special feeling that comes from heart and mind so if u love the guy and care for him that much...girl go for it! and be happy with ur life..cuz life is too short so live it up in a mature respecful way. Peace! HonestGirl...loool...girl who helped u write down that advice cuz i know it didn't came out from ur mind..lol...just kidding abaayadiis. jaw! BMW-GIRL
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| | Unrecorded Date HEY PEOPLE WHAT'S UP I JUST WANT SAY THANKS FOR TAKING YOUR TIME AND GIVING ME GOOD ADIVICES..I KNOW THAT WHAT EVER CHOICE I MAKE TODAY ITS GOING TO AFFECT ME EITHER WAY.IF I GO WITH MY FAMILY OR THE MAN I LOVE...I JUST WANT MAKE A CLEAR POINT TO YOU GUYS, I AM NOT CHOICING MY FIANCE OVER MY FAMILY..I LOVE MY FAMILY TO DEATH AS MUCH AS MY MAN BUT IT IS HARD TO BE IN MIDDLE OF THIS SITUATION.....INSHA'ALLAH I'LL STRUGGLE WITH IT BECAUSE LIFE IS STRUGGLING AINT IT..ANYWAY THANKS ONES AGIAN AND IF YO'LL GOT SOME MORE ADIVICES FOR ME PLEASE STOP BY AND DONT FEEL SHY TO EXPRESS YOUR THOUGHS TO ME... PEACE AND MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU GUYS..... BY:AMINA
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| | Unrecorded Date Amina, school is first. Bye.
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| | Unrecorded Date Dear:Amina, If you really, really love this guy then you should marry him. My younger sister is marry, and she is only 17 sis. When it came to the man you love sis, is kind hard to get against your parents wish. When family is family. They will always stay family. IF you get marry to this guy, your family will be mad for awhile but then is gonna go away..sis...when my sister said you wanna to get marry, my mom was like what?, noway, she is too younge to get marry, then in somalia girls use to get marry at the age of 15 sis. I would adive you to get marry, but pls don't drop school...coz school is important. I think you should talk to your mother and make her understand. Tell, her mom do you want to have sex with a man who is xamar or a man who is halaal. Aboya..am sure onces you get marry and take care you family, you parent would be happy. I wish you all the best...just know is your choices.
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