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     | Unrecorded Date hello to you all my first question is when it the best time to get married for the women? the reason i come up whit this question is that I'm 24 years old and most of my frieands and my sisters got married in a young age. for example my older sister got maried when she was 16 yeas old which is commen our cultre. however she all the time advice me to got marry be fore is too late, which i don't agree with her, becouse first i want to finish my school and there is no other dabet in my mind at all. however i want to know is that a bad dession to made? or shall i stay with my dession and finish the school first which i really want to do that. please give me your best advice. thankx for your advice.
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| | Unrecorded Date salama calaykum walaalkiis follow your heart and your dreams, don't let anyone tell you how to run your own life. I know you're busy with your school pls pls finish it first, then you can have a good income and then you can support your family. by the way you've to find the girl of your dreams and then you'll know when is the right time. be independant and make sure that you're financially and metally ready for marriage. have a nice day and good luck
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| | Unrecorded Date hello Salaamu alaykum first of all thankx for taking the time to read my message sister hodad. but I'm somali sister so what is the advice you will give a sister. thnk you
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| | Unrecorded Date To your first QQQQQQ??????? Answer.......anytime . . . . . Second........QQQQQQ??????? Answer........drop out howdy . . Peace til next time CiiseRooti
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| | Unrecorded Date anon sis don't rush into marriage unless you're for sure in love with the guy and make sure that he's worth it to marry you. walaashiis you're stil young and don't worry about that, let love come to your way. if you need more advice email me a21_nl@yahoo.com take care and be strong
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| | Unrecorded Date sister since you ask for an honest answer, let me contribute my 2Cents, the worst ememy a women has is time and gravity,to simplify this point,you time to have a reproductive life is limited to how long you bleed every month,and its known fact that trend wont continue after you hit your 40s and with gravity well leave that for you guess.
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| | Unrecorded Date anon sis there is no right time to get married. U will know it when that beautifull day arives. secondly dont do something just coz every1 else is...ilaahoow may aduunkoo idil wada guursato...hadii addan rabin cid ann adiga aheyn ha maqlin. U have to decide for urself what suits ur lifestyle. Also lots of people are married and study sis...just coz ur married dont mean u cant do nothing in life. As for runle hate to say it but ur wrong....the best example i can find is our prophets (css)wife khadija was 40 when he married her. she had perfectly normal kids....it shows ppl like u that 40's is not the end of an era for woman. they can still be as beautiful...more mature which is a bonus..and as for gravity....it can be beaten most times...with the right tools. beenle... dont believe everything science writes. Only god knows aight have faith in him peace
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| | Unrecorded Date Dont be like those women who put their life on hold untill "they find themself". For example most western women wait for long and get married late. Then they try to play catch up, they use fertility drugs, they try so had to have children but end up to be dissapointed,,,they missed the train while they were busy doing other stuff. You are 24 now and in school, most people usualy finish school at that age, you are behind in one area so dont let the other pass you by. Act now, find that suitable person and continue with your life. You can always continue with school, but you cant put your body on hold. You time is limited.
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| | Unrecorded Date Salaam ya'll... To Anon......beloved sistah........i would advice u to get married NOW...if u had the right man that u feel secure with......sis i do not have a stable reason for u to do so.....but walaahi sistah i would loveeeeeeeeeeeeee to be married......u r 24.....u know how old i am.......i just turned 18........and when ever i say marriage to my mother....she freaks out and cries.........WHY.......i seriously would love to be married to a man that i love and loves me back......respectuful and honest........smart and mature....educated and a hard worker......but i cant find that person.....but if i found him......i would not delay a minute...... and i do not think i can survive till the age of 20 with out being married or with some1 my family approves of.......wallahi sistah i can not tell u how much i .......... sistah.........my reasons might not be the same for u......u might not be so eager to know what mariage holds like i am......but 24 is the perfect age to get married at....... u can still finish ur school......and have a professional career...insha allah.......but dont say i have to find myself like most western women say.............get married as soon as it approches u............ and sis think of it this way.....when u get married young....u have kids....and when they grow up......u r almost the same age as they r.......and can enjoy most of the activities they enjoy with them.....not give them $$ and tell them to go alone.......and when u start having kids young.........u finish raising them young so u dont get tired easily when u get older.....does that make sense to u? thats my advice even though i dont know how to give one with good reasons.......lol adios sistah......take care and good luck
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| | Unrecorded Date Asalaama calaykum: Walaal waxaan ku oranlahaa ha guursan hadaadan adiga diyaar u ahayn waayo guurku ma ah wax sahlan oo mar kaad doontaba aad kabaxsan karto walaal haday niyadaada u soojeedo in aad wax barato baro walaal waxbarashadu waa qaali waqtiga aad hada uhaysana kuma soo marayo hadaad guursato waayo mas'uuliyad ayaad qaadaysaa oo dad ayaad lawadaagaysaa dhib iyo dheefba marka walaal 24 sana ma ah dad sidaa u wayn ama lagu gu yiraahdo guurso waad daahdee. laakiin dhaqanka soomaalida ayey ka midtahay in ay gabdhuhu horay uguursadaan hadii kale ay u yaqaanaa guumays ama gabar kudaahday reerkooda walaal taas waligaa ha aaminin. tan kale guurka horay loo guursadaana ma xumo hadaad gadaal ka guursatana maxuma baan filayaa aniga walaal waligaa waxaad raacdaa niyadaada mar walbana waxaad ogaataa hadaad qof hadal kiisa wax u samayso in aad ka qoomamayn dooto maanta maalin aan ahay marka walaal hadaad dhibsato hadal kaygana iga raali noqo nabaday iyo sidii khayrka kuugu jira ayaan kuu rajaynayaa.
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| | Unrecorded Date WHEN YOU GET MARRIED YOU COMPLETE YOUR RELIGION. You became a full MUSLIM..
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| | Unrecorded Date WHEN YOU GET MARRIED YOU COMPLETE YOUR RELIGION. You became a full MUSLIM..
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| | Unrecorded Date Hey Sis, do what your heart wants, marriage is sacred state and should be entered in total submision. When your are ready mentally and physically you will know. Peer pressure from family will only add to problems if you decide to against your heart.
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| | Unrecorded Date Marry for Love marry for Life!!. that is the the only reason people get marry. sis! If you don't have someone who's worthy marring please don't try regardless how old you are. to me 24 years old is Baby. you have all your live a head of you. you have one task Find the right Honey first and Think about other things later. I love you sis, and keep up the school.
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| | Unrecorded Date To: All my dear brothers and sisters thank you very much for taking the time to read my thought. and i Really appreciate your advicing. how ever some of the brothers advice me to rush, To: bro Runle brother i think marrieg is not an easy as you though and I think that kind issue you need to be carefull also it needs to look the long term in stead You going to easy way and believing what ever the other person told you." that is my opinoin" To: bro jay hello bro thank you verey much for the good advice. walaalo I really like to reach my goal before I do any extara things and on this time school is more importan then everything else to me and ISHA ALAAH ONE DAY MY DREAM WILL COME TRUE. bro besides my studies is hard sometimes how to find someone is fit-full to you. for example there was a guy we where know each other about a year now " i can say we going togerther becose that most have another meanig which is agains nuslim" but we thought about a sharing the life and mariage. i thought he most be the right one and I was tried to be honest to him the beat i could. he told me that he have master's degree which "NBM" deree and I belive him becouse I knew that he have professional jab that related with a business. becouse none of us didn't know the background of the other one'. he was so nice that time heused to accept everything that I told him even i let him know that I don't go out and he said OK also he was respectfull person and oly problem we have that time was is that he was russhing to marrisge even he talk to the my parents and they said ok. it was just before I posted my firast message. However when we go through everthing I found out that he got a 4 years accounting dgree and he didn't finsh his master's deree but he atanded a one year. when I asked him "why do you lied to be 'couse I wsn't asked to you". he said " I only have 4 more clases left then I'll get the master's dgree "MBA" but honestlly I was intersting to him not the mester's dgree and as soon as he got the 4ys dgree was ok with me but fact is if he lie such kind things he will lie every thing else . and in that cas i chanched my mind.. and I told hem that was enough for west of time. but he still have good relassinship with my family and he still come are house which when i said that he didn't believe it and he said I think you upset now but I'll call you later. and he call me and i told him that i was meaning then he went to the my older sister and he tell her about the situation but he didn't tell her wht is cost the problem. and she is the one who bushing me now and i'm really confuse becouse my sister all the time saying "he is nice for everthing else so why you counting his mistake you made mistake too" and i told her don't talking to me if you wana talk about him. becouse I'm trying to forget about him and she wouldn't let me do. so in that case I wanna make sure the person I'm going to shere rest of my life and I dodn't wanna be easy going person becouse they will naver tell the true. so my dear brothers and sisters that was the reason I posted my previous message so what do you think should I Accept the advice of my sister or shall I just leave him alone as i did. Wasallamu laykum and thank you verey much for you advices bye thankx for all af you bye all
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