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     | Unrecorded Date I'm a Happly married seccessful Man who has a wife who likes to be with guys always she has no female friends, this made me unconfortable. Even thought I love my wife and trust her 100%.but it is seems add to me. Guys and Gals I need any Input you can offer me.
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| | Unrecorded Date Cali, you have a problem # 1 you have a communication breakdown. If this issue bothers you talk to your wife, I am very sure she will understand how uncomfortable you are.#2 The issue of trust. You being a man you know how the male species think, so dont trust your wife around these men( it is like the fox guarding the chicken).# 3 tell your wife to start socializing with other women and I personally dont trust men around my woman. (NB please rent the movie "when harry met sally" it deals with this kind of issue.
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| | Unrecorded Date Where does yar wife hang around Mr. Cali maybe we should meet I kind like to have other men's wives so incase a baby says IM HERE it will yours. . . . . Ya see? ya made whole set of rules a lot easier now. . . . . I like U man, you're alright.
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| | Unrecorded Date i think marriege means being together thru all the way and enjoy every minute of it. u can trust your wife but i believe that u r neglecting yours responsibility to be there for not hang out your single friends if they are single,. this is why marrieges break up because if you leave her out in the cold, she may get comfort some where else. all i am saying is you guys supposed be friends not lovers only. i hope you find way to help your leaking relationship. good luck bro,
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| | Unrecorded Date Cali: If your wife was like that before marriage, maybe it is the way she get used to it. Then all you need is try to tell her that now she is a wife and you aren't feeling comfortable with all those friends of hers. Women hate control and changing their habits but you should make your point clear. and i am sure that everyone will support you if tell the story. So don't fear of lossing her if you raise the issue. you have rights to tell her to cut those friends. So as she. And please don't let her love blind you and make you "dayuus"--a man who have jeolosy. Jeolosy is right at this point. imagine when some so-called friend sleeps with your wife and smiles you when he sees you! what he thinks of You? probably fool who don't know what he is doing. And if she started ahving friends after the marraige then it is more dangerious that befoe. it is kind of warning signs. good luck man
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| | Unrecorded Date I am a married woman and i have a lot of male friends and same as you are my husband doesn't like the idea but guess what i am honest and nothing is going on between me my male friends so trust her and let her know that you don't like she may still communicate them but trust me she will limited .
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| | Unrecorded Date DEAR CALI ! MALE FRIENDS!? HA AHA AHA WARAA WAXAAS ANI MAAAMINSANI DADKII NOOGAHOREEYEY EE WESRTENKA LADHOHO AABA SIEYUXALIYAAN EEYLA YIHIIN ANAGOO SOMALI AH MAXAA UMALEEYSAA. 75% GALADA WAXEEY LASEEXDAAN QOF MARKAAS AYAGA UDHAW LIKE SHAQALAHA, DARISKA, QARAABADA, IYO SAXIIBADA CADIIGA AH. MARKA TAASNA WAXAA KEENTEY ISDHEXGALKA BADAN EE NINKA IYO NAGTA WESTRENKA KUNOOL. SO SXB BAXARAA KUJIRTAA EE XASKAAGA KADHAADHICI DHIBAATADAAN INEEYTAHAY MID JIRTO OO AANEY AHEYN MASEERKALIYA. DIINTANA MABAOGOLA. GOOD LUCK MY
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| | Unrecorded Date dear friend male friend nathing is wrong but quistion is is she can handle in any way? you know wath i mean, male friend is not healthy for a maried woman also aamin ma galaan .
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| | Unrecorded Date Mr cali hey hey!!!! people respect o.k. i am female and i got mile friends so don't get me wrong they are just friend to ,believe they are better than female friend caze no war war, no jiq jiq u know what womens do........b*i*t*c*h around that kind of stuff. peace luv,,,,,,,
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| | Unrecorded Date MR.CALI, U DON'T NEED ANY DISRESPECT FROM UR WIFE AIGHT. U ALSO NEED TO TELL HER HOW U FEEL AND DAT U ARE NOT TRYIN TO TAKE CONTROL OVER HER. SHE IS MARRIED AND HAS SOME RESPONSIBILITIES NOW THEN GOIN AROUND TALKING WITH MEN. LOVERGIRL: OK I SEE UR POINT. BUT SWITCH THINGS AROUND FOR A BIT. HOW WOULD U FEEL IF UR HUSBAND COULDN'T GET ALONG WITH MEN SOMEHOW, AND HAD FEMALE FRIENDS INSTEAD? WHAT WOULD U DO? LIKE U SAID SOME SOMALI WOMEN ARE NO GOOD. TILL NEXT TIME PEACE OUT AND TAKE CARE OF EACH OTHER.
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| | Saturday, July 08, 2000 - 07:25 pm HI bro's and sis!! I am back again for more discation about my tital subject. ever since I wrote my frist draft in April it seems my relationship is sinking deep in the ocean. I have no hope of acheving any productive relation with my lovely wife. here is the problem. I tried to communicate about my feeling and asked her if she was in my shoes how se would feel about the matter. the onley answer that I recieve was You are too piki joules and piki. which made me real mad. Becouse all mylife nobady ever call me joules. Here is the problem #2 She is 5 months pregnent of our frist bayby. wich I am eagerly waiting and counting months by months. However her doctor sagested for her to get some rest and good food. I am the only breadwiner in the family I also do the cooking and cleaning the house wich I don't mind. please help me to make right dicetion about this relashinship.
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| | Monday, September 11, 2000 - 09:00 am to answer ur first question i would say NO...that is big NO NO wife can never have male friends...no way tell u want ...now days best friends are stilling ur man or ur women trust me this has nothing to do with being a friend once they get close to each other...Shaydaan comes between them and make them do unblevieble things so i think...she shouldn't have male friends that goes for u too u shouldn't have femal friends either....but there is has to be so trusting going on no matter what...aight peace that is all i got to say byee
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| | Friday, September 15, 2000 - 02:54 pm WAAR NINYOW NIN XUN BAAD TAHAY EE OROD OO KITAABKA QURAANKA U SOO QAAD OO U AKHRI WAXAAD XAQ UGU LEEDAHAY IYO WAXAY XAQ KUUGU LEEDAHAY KA DIB EEG INAY KU FAHANTO HADII AY KU FAHANTO SAX HADII KALE AABEEHEED UGU YEEDH NACAS HA NOQON JAAW
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| | Friday, September 29, 2000 - 10:52 am dear mr cali. Hi, If I may share my opinions w/you. This what i think as the sister of 7 older bro's and no sis's i have been around men all my life, by the time i turned 15yrs old i didn't know anything about women, i acted as one of the guy's my parents treared me just the way they did my bro's. to make a long story short, i like being around guy's all ages, somehow we understand each other better than i do with girl's due to my up bringing i guess and i wouldn't have it any other way. If your wife had the same life style as mine then it's only fare that you let her enjoy her friends bcs this is how she was raised. Otherwise then, excuse my language but she may be(bitch),I'm sorry if this offends you it's just what i think. You know your wife better figure out which way it's either way you may not like it.... but deal with it. yours truly fatima omer.
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| | Sunday, October 01, 2000 - 06:20 am She is trying to be Women of the Future.... My suggest would be ...ya do the same thing...n when she gets the jealous tell her to take a hike..cuz she is doin' same thing. peace
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| | Tuesday, October 03, 2000 - 08:28 am dear mrali listen damy how could you let your wife to mixed with men in the first place.Dont' you know anything about the deen, or are you tryig so hard to be wsterntinezed.and the other thing how could you thrust your wife when she preferes to be with male.
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| | Wednesday, October 04, 2000 - 05:41 am well mr cali...i was brought up by my father along with my 5 brothers...i have hardly had any female influence in my life and i would be more comfortable around 20 guys then 10 girls....i can very much relate to your wife and fatima....having guy friends does not mean that something is going on....if you trust your wife as you say you do then i don't see any problem
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| | Wednesday, October 04, 2000 - 11:55 am I DON'T THINK THERE'S ANYTHING WRONG A WIFE HAVING SOME MALE FRIENDS,AND IF U THINK THAT U NOT LIKING THE IDEA OF HERS BEING OR HAVING MALE FRIENDS TELL HER AND AM SURE SHE'LL UNDERSTAND THAT BRO,,AND BE ABLE TO TRUST HER CUZ THAT'S WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT,TRUSTING,RESPECTING,BEING HONEST TO ONE ANOTHER,AND TRY TO COMMUNICATE WITH HER AS A FRIENDSHIP WAY, U KNOW TALK TO HER AND STAFF,GO OUT WITH HER,TAKE HER SOME ROMANTIC PLACES AND BE ABLE TO TELL HER WHAT U FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE WITH.AM SURE SHE WILL UNDERSTAND THAT,AND DON'T BE THAT MUCH JUDGEMENTAL. THANX ALWAYS URS QADAR FOR MORE INFO PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME @ QADAR36@HOTMAIL.COM
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| | Wednesday, October 04, 2000 - 02:37 pm Dear Ali I think if you and your wife understand Islam well and are willing to ptractice this would not have happened, however The answer is NO NO NO Salaam
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| | Thursday, October 05, 2000 - 08:29 am dear cali the first question is how did you meet your wife? did she had male friends when you met her? what kind of life style did she grow up? do you and your wife practice Islam? this is important questoins is easy for to say yes she should have male friend or not she can not have male friends. Iam famale, and I not have famale friends. another question is where does she meet this male? are this male friends married? what kind life style do they live? are they muslim men? my advice to you is tell your wife how you feel about her friends and listen to her clamly what she have to say. the key is not to get angry or loud. and it nice if she does the same. I hope by answering these question will help get closer to your wife I this diffect for and her when you have baby in the way good luck to you.
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| | Saturday, October 07, 2000 - 06:08 pm To:Ali. Please, the whole thing of mariege is trust,one another.Your got that as you said. but you got problem right now,bcz you don;t feel happy for this. And no way she breaks your heart,she has to stop. 1- first tell her and say it clear,no. 2- If she don,t stop ,try to have female friend. bye
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