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SomaliNet Forum (Archive): Ila Tali Walaal - Ask The Experts: Archive (Before Oct. 29, 2000): somali women(in Norht America) think like donkies
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confiused brother

Thursday, July 06, 2000 - 07:29 pm
my dear brothers and sisters, I was going out with a somali women for quite a while. I was plamed that our relationship was getting weaker from my side by har and her friends. wether that is true or not, i commited myself to do whatever that can save this 3 yrs old relationship. this was was about 1 1/2 yr ago.
i keep trying to make her smile, . she tells me that she loves me but i don't see any sines, she makes sure not to break my heart by lying to me. anyways, i find out that she laid to me and there my heart goes, bashkax. now that i'm 100% serious, she seems to me that she just a doing me a favor......."oo hony i'll be with you for ever".
i think she doesn't love me but cares about me. she just doesn't have the gutts to say..baby i don't love you no more...go on and and don't waste your time. i don't know if she is acting or she is serious about our relationship.
i'm from north somalia and she is from south of somalia. her brothers or whatever relatives she has don't like me to do anything with her.

I love her so much, but now it is getting kind of shady.....common,,,,when i see the kind of people she hungs around and what i want her to be,
it really turns me off. now she smokes and i don't know what will be next. she tells me she still goes to college but who knows, i'm a busy man and i don't have time for that.

saaxiibayaal,,,,,,,what should i do?

should i look for someone else since i'm ready to get married.,,,,,,,i'm conf'ed?

are they(somali women in N.america) all like this?

or is it just that mine is straight from saudi arabia to california.

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Anonymous

Friday, July 07, 2000 - 11:11 am
YOURS IS FROM SAUDI TO CALIFORNIA

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Sadaam

Saturday, July 08, 2000 - 11:30 pm
Dear confiused brother. take it easy man. Do not make any more mistaktes if your story is true. Find out some one-else.Remember, all somali women are not same, however;90 per cent of all somali women are good ones and perfect in anywhere in the world. I believed that you met the bad apple. And also remember weather you are from somali north neither your friend are from somali south woman. This has nothing to do in family or marriage affairs.Also, as long as you live in western world,you may also missed (5)five western points which are,do not rely ,women,wheather,welfare, work, and war.Make sure that you are not a cheap guy and have a gutts.Based on your statement,you indicated that you are a bussy man. Why don't you give time the person you love, care and hopefully be your wife in the next future.It's my suggestion that you did not give enough time the person that you care or love. Next time think about it. I hope you will meet good one in North America or back home.

Thanks

Rgards

Sadaam Hussein

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Dunya

Sunday, July 09, 2000 - 02:51 am
Salaam confused bro,

I agree with sadaam, not all woman are the same and that you just basically met the wrong person.
Say alhamdulilah that you found that she doesnt care for you as much as you care for her before marriage , at least that gives you another chance and avoids any conflicts or regrets in the future such as divorce walaal.
Thats whats basically happening in north america bro..high marriage rate and as equally high divorce rate .And its basically because of not knowing the person well enough when it comes to serious issues such as responsibilty, love, honesty and the list goes on and on, and i think communication and wasting time with useless unserious things is the main problem.

Maybe you dont give her the time of a day..Maybe its your fault you dont have to see it from your own perspective.
And dont blame girls from the middle east getting spoiled in the west. Dont generalize bro.Many are fabulous.

Why dont you test her ?
See if she is capable of a serious relationship that will last a lifetime.
Face her with words and analyze her. Look into her eyes and if she gets irritaed by your questions or gets furious by your demands.Put her under a little pressure and watch the result.
You will then know what to do.
Give her a chance and see.
There is nothing better than talking things out before it's too late.

And for all the guyz that are struggling with relationships and dont know were they are heading. There is an advice for you all.

Salaam all.

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Anonymous

Sunday, July 09, 2000 - 03:52 am
Keep your messages short and to the point people.

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galanjok

Monday, July 10, 2000 - 07:15 am
salaam brother
as somali woman I can tell you not all somali women are like that. I think you should move on and Insha Allah you will meet someone good for you.

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Anisa

Wednesday, July 12, 2000 - 06:10 am
To Confused bro, I am sorry to hear what you are going through as many pple said all women are not the same even though the bad ones are really bad. I think you need to talk to her seriously first by saying may be (look if I am not good enough for you tell me so and pls don't waste my time and your) may be in that case you can find out something, if you get the right answer then act on it. It will only be one way or the other. Good luck

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Aniga

Wednesday, July 12, 2000 - 04:23 pm
To Confused>

Brother, Personally I htink, you're discusting. How could you love a women without first being secure. Next time, plse make sure first she is all yours then fall inlove with her. My suggestion to you is look for gabar muslimad ah oo muxajabad ah.

Si ya

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Ali

Thursday, July 13, 2000 - 02:26 am
To Confused
Listen big man since you know all the causes
of the problem why are you afraid to make a
decision and move on.
- Are you so in love that you will go through hell...why?bro it's easier to break up
today believe me.
You said in your note that she's from the South. In my opinion that's the most important factor. Why?? Because of cultural,
traditionel, social and political differencies. The same raison why The Republic of Somaliland declared it's independance.
Regards

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mohamed

Friday, July 14, 2000 - 09:45 pm
dear confused man i want to tell you one thing which is"in order to keep a woman you must love her a lot and never try to understand her"in other words, are you a cab driver?lol.

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asad

Saturday, July 15, 2000 - 02:28 am
confused bro,

dont love or allow her to love you, try your best to compatiblle!! no love but compatibility is the solution to modern relationship believe me!

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ayaan

Thursday, July 20, 2000 - 09:33 am
s/caleykum

walaal waxba h is mashquulin ka tag gabadhaas marka hore kadibna ha ku dagdagin midkale in mudo ah hana niyad jabin hadii marka horeba ay dhibaato idin haysatay xaga famligeeda laga yaabaa inay khayr kuu tahay mar dambe hadii aad relationship dhisaysidna ka fiirso intaanad niyada siin insha-allah gabadh khayr qabta ilaahay ha ku siiyo walaalo hablaha soomaaliyeedna ha wada nicin 95% way fiicanyihiin hadii ay north america or europe joogaanba laakiin raggu waxay aaminsanyihiin inan wanaagsan inayn joogi dhulkan.

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ayaan

Thursday, July 20, 2000 - 09:35 am
s/caleykum

walaal waxba ha is mashquulin ka tag gabadhaas marka hore kadibna ha ku dagdagin midkale in mudo ah hana niyad jabin hadii marka horeba ay dhibaato idin haysatay xaga famligeeda laga yaabaa inay khayr kuu tahay mar dambe hadii aad relationship dhisaysidna ka fiirso intaanad niyada siin insha-allah gabadh khayr qabta ilaahay ha ku siiyo walaalo hablaha soomaaliyeedna ha wada nicin 95% way fiicanyihiin hadii ay north america or europe joogaanba laakiin raggu waxay aaminsanyihiin inan wanaagsan inayn joogi dhulkan.

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mohamed waaano

Thursday, August 03, 2000 - 02:40 pm
Asalaamu calaykum dhamaaaaan:

My understanding that all somali women are not same like the one you met,
the otherthing somali says shimbirba shimbirkiisa ayuuu laduuulaaa, She smokes,and hangs around with friends i don't get it saxib if you get moderate in the western countries that is another case macneheeda aad reeer magaaloow day dhaqama kale qaadatay that won't have solution at all unless you get back to islamic one,
first bro you need to come back to cabud ilaah come with taqwa I'm sure you will be fine and the right women i mean real muslim women I'm not talking about women i mean real muminad mid ale kacabsata.
MY BROTHER SOMALI IF YOU WANT TO HAVE REAL FAMILY I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT TO MAKE LOVE,I'M TALKING REAL FAMILY THAT DEPEND ON ISLAMIC SHAREECA FISRT BEFORE YOU BE REAL FARTHER EXAM YOUR SELF ASK THINK I'M DOING WHAT ALAH (GOD) TOLD ME TO DO IN MY LIFE IF YOU DO YOU WILL BE SECCESSFUL WITH YOUR MARRIAGE AND WILL HAVE GOOD CHILDREN GOOD FAMILY YOU WILL BE LEADER IN YOUR FAMILY TO BE LEAD IS NOT CAYAAR.
BE REAL FARTHER NOT LIKE SOMALI FARTHERS 98% GET MARRIED AND GO AWAY I DON'T NO WHERTHER THEY WERE DOING FOR INTENTIONALY OR NOT ANYWAY MY SUGGESTION TO YOU IS FEAR GOD,WORSHIP GOD, HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AFTER THAT YOU ARE NUMBERONE,SMART,WELLRESPECTED ON ALAH SIDE AND MOST OF THE TIME YOU WIN,
SEE YOU SAXIIB IF YOU ARE NIN ILAAH XIRIIR LA LEH AMA DAMACSAN ILAHAY HAKUU SAHLO WALAAL,
NEX TIME WAXAAD WAX WAYDIISAA WADAADA ISLAMKA HADII KALE DADKU WUXUU U BADANYAHAY DAD LAQABSADAY WESTERN COUNTRIES OO IYAGA U BAAHAN WAX LATALIYA SAXIIB MARKAA LA TASHO QOFDIINTA ILAAH KAA BADIYA AMA KAAGA ROON MARKAA LATASHO CULAMADA ISLAMCA WALAAAAL

ASALAAMU CALAYKUM THIS IS WAAAAAAAAAAAANO

MOHAMED

gatenine9@yahoo.com

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gabadh

Saturday, August 05, 2000 - 03:08 pm
Asalaama caleykum,
Ku: Mohamed waano,

Walaal Mohamed Ilaah ajar farabadan hakaasiiyo wanadaada qiimaha leh, waxaan aaminsanahay inaad xaqiiqada ka hadashay oo walaalkeen uu ku waano qaato iyo kuligeenba.

Walaasha fil Islam

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SUHUUR

Saturday, August 05, 2000 - 06:25 pm
Hey confused bortha, it takes a donkey to understand how another donkey thinks, so what ya think sugar? I guess u got the drift after all.

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Anonymous

Saturday, August 19, 2000 - 09:03 am
dear confused: aniga waxaan si gaar ah kugula talin lahaa sida ugu dhaqsaha badan uga tag noocaasookale wax jaceeyl ah ma istaahilo

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dr-troubleboy

Friday, September 01, 2000 - 09:45 am
comments to confused brother
walaalkiis boqol aan arkay film hindigaas loo daaray laakiin anigu ma eedaynaayo iyada,sxb eeddu aday ku saaran tahay waayo sidee qof aad islasocoteen 3sano aad u garan wayday in uu ku jecel yahay iyo in kale?hadeerna waa anigoo ku leh film-ka iyadaa daartay yaysan dhamaynin ee adigu dhammee mr atoore.haday iyaddu dhamaysana tacsiyaan kuu soo diyaa....

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SABAX

Tuesday, September 26, 2000 - 12:39 pm
To the confused retard.....

U r the one who is thinking like a donkey now......so watch ur ugly mouth.

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KEEF

Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 10:25 pm
OOH BOY SOMALIAN MAN IF ONE WOMEN MAKES A MISTAKES ALL SOMALIAN WOMEN PAYS FR IT ITS GOOD THING SHE IS PLAYING U BRO COUSE U DESERVE IT, GET THE PICTURE NOW DNT ACT SO INNOCENT WHO KNOWS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE STORY 3YRS I DONT THINK SO.WRITE AGAIN...

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