     Muuna | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 12:23 am
Hi everyone
I really do have a big problem, please try to help me ´cos I need it.
Iam engaged to a man who lives far away from me(we both live in Europe but in differents places).The problem is that in the beginning he was kind/nice and he does understand everything.Another thing too,he was always call me,drop me a line and so on.But with the time he changed,he became jalous,he suspected me to cheat on him which I unfortenely don´t.I became more beautiful than before and he doesn´t wanna accept it.And for the rest he didn´t call me anymore,and he supposes to be my fiancé.Iam really sad and he seems to do not care about it,he said that he loves me but do I have to believe him???Me, I love him a lot cos before we used to share everything.I tried to call him,but I can´t do that:maybe he tries to forget me or what???
He didn´t even wish me a happy & pleasant eid.
What kind of man is he????Iam really confused,disappointed and my heart is broken....
N.B:It´s my grandma who wants him to marry me(yes it was an arranged married!!!).
Thanx & peace.
Pleasant & happy eid. |
| Faisa_je | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 01:41 am
To Muuna,
All i have to say is do u really want to marry a guy like that. U two aren't even married yet and he acts jelouse and accuses u of cheating imagine when u marry him u will see another side to him u won't like.Your man is suppose to have your back if u have changed in the outside he should adore u and be thankful. Husband and wife i think r suppose to emotionally connect and physical by him being with u not in another country. You two should have been burning up the phone line talking to each other so much. So sis i just hope u really come face to face with your fiance and u two should really talk about issues that will lead to divorce before y'all get married. So later sis i wish u the best and don't forget sometimes u have to chose the mind over the heart.
P.S. u should really do what's in ur heart, i don't know u but i do want u to talk to your family and fiance about what u have been thinking about and really think though the consequences that may follow your choices. |
| one different man | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 10:11 am
well sis when a man is jelouse that doesn't mean he is stop loving you, it is just he is worried u may fall for another guy, or he deosn't want other ppl to say to him "hey your girlfriends was chating with that other guy in the library" somali ppl talk too much and he is worried, he loves you so much that and that is all but nothing else, muuna u said u became more buatifull, well that explains something, your fiance is far away from you right??? tell me somethink wat do you think he feels when he hears your fiance was looking really different and sexy?? he thinks you are playing around cheating on him, it is nice to look good, u can become bautifull by lighting ur self up, like wears buatifull dress, put make up, what i mean is u can change ur style of how u dress and become more cute, u did change ur style of how to dress right?? so this makes your faince jelouse, suspect because he is not there with you when you dressing sexy, ofcourse alot of men well look at you and say woow she is sexy groovy baby and he doesn't like that, he doesn't call you because he thinks u don't love him no more, he think that you are with someone else and he is really upset with that, he is waiting for your apolagize, anyway i talked too much i just wana say call him and tell him that u love him, apolagize to him i know the man loves you |
| MOe | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 11:35 am
Dear walaal. Well to begin with the, are you aware that most arrange marriages end up divorce. Look at Somalis and how the divorce rates are so high. Walaal, it is better that you fall in love with someone of your own choice. I bet you love your grandmother dearly but she isn't the one who is marrying this dude, it is you that hopefully will spend the rest of your life with guy, therefore think twice before jumping on the training because the right as it seems could be very rough. Like Shakespeare said "Love alters not with his, brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom". Think twice walaal and good luck with you! |
| Shellman | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 05:35 pm
Dear muna
I do understand how hard it is for you, I realy do and reading about your life makes feel sorry for you;nevertheless i think i have some advise for you, just for you. sister you need to make decision for yourself.from what i understood i think this nigga ain't good for you.YOUR name says it all you are too sweet to be not call back or to be not wish the best of the iid. you said your grand mother wants you to mary him.sister you got to remember grany had her shorty and it is time for you to choose yours. sorry to say that, but what about your chooses don't you all have any freedom over where you live.obeviously grany is dead wrong she choice the wrong nigga for the queen.
peace young sister and much love from your nigga shellman  hope thinks work out for you if not let me know am figure out litle some some thing for you alright |
| Muuna | Tuesday, March 06, 2001 - 10:57 pm
Dear bros. & sis
Thanx for your differents point of view of my situation,which is unfortenely the same.I apprecied your advice and believe me it really made me consider things in a different way.I know it will be very hard but I choose to break out with him.Iam tired and that´s it.It´s over,I and my man are through.Eventhough I still love him Iam gonna try to forget a while about him and think instead about my studies.
To Sheelman
U´re welcom to be my friend and we´ll see as the time passes by.U can write me back...
Once again thaaaaaaaaaaaanxxxxxxxx++++++
peace & luv. |
| THE_PIMP | Wednesday, March 07, 2001 - 01:52 am
muna-sweetie
no man has the right to touch a woman.
no man has the right to abuse you by anymeans.
for your information i tell you leave that dude
alone there are alots man out there for you
you don't have to put up with him
or hs abusive.
you know there is mental abuse to so if i was you
i would think twice to mary some phsycho
you don't want your kids to grow-up that kind a
environment.. thats a serious issue sweetie
i hope you give it a thought |
| Muuna | Wednesday, March 07, 2001 - 10:39 pm
Hi!
To the Pimp
Thanx for your touching advice I really do need it.But U know what,I accepted to be his fiance only because of my grandma and I regretted it.I explained to my sweetie grandma how much he hurts me and it seems that she understood me.Iam very happy to finally choose the one I wanna share my life with.And no matter what will happen I´ll be grateful to all of U guys,U really support me even via internet.I do have best friends but they are unfortenely living in Africa.I wish I´ll see them soon.
If it doesn´t hurt,will U please pursue to write to me on this page and maybe we´ll give each other our e-mail adresse.
Anyway try it all of U.
Luv U guys. |
| JAMAAL | Monday, March 12, 2001 - 06:10 am
AHA MUNA YOU ARE VERY CLEVER BUT VERY STUDPID AT THE SAME TIME, YOUR STORY IS FAKE AND I CAN SEE THAT, I KNOW YOU WROTE THIS TOPIC TO GET A MAN, SO IF U WANA A NIGGA FROM THE NET YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE SOME TOUCHING STORIES, THEN U MAKE US LIKE "OOOOH THIS SO SWEET AND AT THE SAME TIME SHE IS BEEN HURT"" WELL U CAN KISS MY BLACK ASS DUMMY AND I AIN'T GIVING YOU MY EMAIL |
| Misscorpio | Monday, March 12, 2001 - 06:55 am
To-Muna
One thing in life u got to remember is don't distress u'r self out for no man.U say he was nice at first, they all are until they got u where they want u and that's when they show there true colors. Thank u'r luck stars that u found out how he really is, I don't know u or him for that matter I'm only going on for what u put on this topic put my advice is have a long talk with him about what u feel inside. Remember Communication is the key to a relationship don't bottle things up. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, March 21, 2001 - 12:09 pm
to one different man!!!
LISTEN U SOUND LIKE YOU ARE THE ONE MUNA IS TALKING ABOUT OK..CASE CLOSED NO MORE DISCUSSIONS |
