     HONEY | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 04:12 am
WAZ UP GUY'S
I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP ON THIS IMPORTANT MATTER. MY FRIEND WHO ATTENDS THE SAME UNIVERSITY AS ME RECENTLY INTRODUCED ME TO A FRIEND OF HER'S WHO RECENTLY MOVED FROM THE USA TO STUDY HERE. THIS GUY SEEMED REALLY NICE AND WE HIT IT OFF REALLY WELL. I KNEW THAT I LIKED HIM BUT I NEVER DID ANYTHING ABOUT IT BECAUSE I WAS TO SHY TO SAY ANYTHING. ANYWAY WE HAD BEEN FRIENDS 4 TWO MONTHS UNTIL HE ASKED ME OUT. WE GOT TOGETHER AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 4 6 MONTH'S UNTIL THE OTHER NIGHT HE ASKED ME TO SLEEP WITH HIM.
ABVIOUSLY I SAID NO BECAUSE I DON'T BELIEVE IN SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE AND DUMPED ME RIGHT THERE AND THERE. I JUST COULDN'T BELIEVE WHAT WAS COMING OUT FROM HIS MOUTH. I REALLY LIKED THIS GUYS AND I JUST WASN'T EXPECTING HIM TO SAY SUCH A THING.
HE IS REALLY SWEET AND HE WAS MY FIRST BOYFRIEND AND AND THAT'S WHAT MAKES IT REALLY HARD 4 ME TO GET OVER IT.
HE PHONED ME THE NEXT DAY SAYING HOW SORRY HE WAS TO ASK SUCH A QUESTION AND THAT HE WANTED ME BACK.
HE SAID THAT HE WAS A FOOL AND THAT HE HAD MADE THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF HIS LIFE.
THE THING IS I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO GUY'S SHALL I FORGIVE HIM OR JUST LEAVE THINGS THE WAY THEY R.
I AM REALLY ANGRY AT HIM BUT I STILL HAVE FEELING 4 HIM.
PLEASE HELP ME AND TELL ME WHAT YOU GUY'S WOULD HAVE DONE IF YOU WERE IN MY POSITION.
PEACE AND LOVE GUY'S |
| SWEET AS KANDY | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 04:28 am
HOW R U DOING HONEY
I REALLY FEEL SORRY FOR U BECAUSE U R IN A BAD POSITION, BUT GIRLFRIEND WHY DID IT SHOCK U SO MUCH, DON'T U KNOW WHAT GUYS R LIKE THESE DAYS, HOW LONG HAVE U BEEN LOCKED AWAY FROM THE WORLD.
FIRST OF ALL U NEED GET A GRIP AND DON'T LET THINGS SHOCK U LIKE THAT, OTHER WISE PEOPLE R GOING 2 WALK ALL OVER U,AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE THERE PLENTY MORE SOMALIANS IN THE SEA, JUST MAKE SURE U DON'T CATCH A FARAX.
PEACE AND LOVE
SWEET AS KANDY |
| SDGAL | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 08:45 am
HI HONEY IF YOU NEED MY TRUE ADVINCE I WOULD SAY GIVE HIM SOME TIME AND DON'T GET WITH HIM TOO SOON. MAKE HIM MISS YOU N THINK ABOU THE THINGS HE DID, IF HE WANTS U BACK STILL..AFTER A MONTH THEN IF U TRUELLY BELIEVE HE MEANS IT THEN GET THINGS STRAIGHT WITH HIM TELL HIM HE REALLY HURTED YOU AND DON'T TRY THAT AGAIN OR ELSE WE ARE OVER......THAT IS WHAT I WOULD DO IF THIS WAS MY CASE
AND I REALLY GIVE YOU TWO TUMPS UP FOR NOT SLEEPIN WITH HIM, U DID THE RIGHT THING SO GOD BLESS U GIRL..NOT MANY PEOPLE KNOW THE SIN THEY GET FOR SLEEPIN BEFORE MARRIAGE....SO GOOD JOB GIRL AND HOPE THINKS WORK BETWEEN YA PEACE |
| Faisa je | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 09:32 am
To Honey,
I am really proud of you for not sleeping with him so you go girl. I truly think you should forgive him for what he said but don't you forget.
If he truly thinks the world of you, cherishs you he should not would not pressure you into having sex with him. I think you can do way better than a guy who wants to have sex with you when you guys only went out for months and besides you both Muslim and should not even be dealing with sex before marriage.
All i can say is well done and god bless your soul
Much love and respect to you and all the true Somali boys who would wait tell marriage (not alot but oh well)! |
| jabril | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 10:57 am
to honey,
i am gona make this quick and really easy to understand, if i was in your position, i would not even speak with this geezer, wat a man want to have sex with you when he knows u don't beleive sex after marreid, you told him that right?? he should have figured this out by him self, i think he was after sex only sex after that he could have dumpt you, but u smart gal and i admire that, you did the right think and i give u 100 out of 100 lol,
if you look the other side maybe he made mistake of his life and that is really something, i think u should give him one more chance, when u get together he well not ask you to have sex with him coz if he does then he is got p*ussy propbelm soryy about my bad langauge, give him another chance if he said he made the biggest mistake of his life he deserved it |
| shellman | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 06:24 pm
Girl, give the man little some thing , it is not ganna hurt you, I mean you will enjoy it too if he knows how to do that thing.
U see, I don't understand you somalian girls would you explain yourself. yo'll wana something and yet you don't wana say it. what is it yo'll brain dead or some ...
to them nigga's saying that the negga ain't good for you if he wants to sleep with you...what kind fo men are they. what fck. they need to go dupon circle or some where, May be over london
At last but not leat help the brother out and at the same time please yourself too. |
| WALALO | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 07:27 pm
GIRL IF IT' AIN'T SEX WHAT ELSE IS FOR GIRLFRIEND BOYFRIEND RELATIONSHIP OR ELSE DON'T LOOK AT BOYZ UNTILL U'R WEDDING NIGHT.IF U DENIE AMAN FREE STUFF LIKE SEX WILL U EVER GIVE CREDIT $$ TO U'R FRIEND. |
| WALALO | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 07:27 pm
GIRL IF IT' AIN'T SEX WHAT ELSE IS FOR GIRLFRIEND BOYFRIEND RELATIONSHIP OR ELSE DON'T LOOK AT BOYZ UNTILL U'R WEDDING NIGHT.IF U DENIE AMAN FREE STUFF LIKE SEX WILL U EVER GIVE CREDIT $$ TO U'R FRIEND. |
| Anonymous | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 09:39 pm
God, girl you don't know what you are missing. Sex is sweet so sweet that you'll never forget once you try it. Well, that was your chance but you blew it girl. call the guy back and this time make sure you do it not quickly but right. |
| QANCIYE | Thursday, March 15, 2001 - 11:35 pm
Well everybody said something but let me give you my advice. Firstly I'm a guy so this is from my perspective well if you haven't been out in this world much I don't blame you. One thing you should know is even if a guy likes you alot he will still pull that question on you. So if he apologized and wants you back and he won't ask you for that 'till things get serious between you too then give him a chance and be open about things I mean talk about that topic and discuss it.
Well I hope that made sense so keep it locked down till the fat lady sings or one o0f those somali singers at your wedding ahahahhahah!!! |
| HONEY | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 01:07 am
guy's i really appriciate the advice u guy's have given me.
u don't know how much that really means to me.
shellman although i respect your opinion i am sorry but i don't agree with it i'm only 19 and i'd rather live without sex then to do such a sinful thing like that.
to jabril thanks 4 your advice and yes it really made sence i really appriciate it bro.
to faisa-je i also thank u for your advice sis.
to sdgal sis i think your right about not getting with him soon and making him wait. because then i will truly know weather he really means it or not .if this guy really cared he would respect my decision and love me for what i am not what i'm good 4.he's always on the phoned apologising and saying he only asked the question to find out what i thought about sex and that now he know's how i feel about the matter he respects me for it and that makes him want me even more then before.
thanks again for everyboys advice and i'll keep u guys posted.
peace and love,
honey |
| SUGARLIPS | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 02:32 am
TO HONEY,
HONEY MEN ONLY WANT ON THING THESE DAYS WHICH IS 'SEX', SO WALAL DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU'LL REGRET LATER. KEEP ON SAYING NO, EVEN IF YOU SAY IT 100 TIMES!!
ONCE A MAN GETS WHAT HE WANT'S THEN HE WILL LEAVE YOU WITH IN 1 HOUR!!!
THINK ABOUT IF YOU SLEEP WITH HIM THEN YOUR VIRGINITY'S GONE!!
BY THE WAY IF YOU HAVE SEX THEN YOU GET MARRIED TO THE MAN YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN WILL BE BASTARDS'. SO DON'T DO IT!!
P.S ALSO THINK ABOUT LIFE AFTER DEATH!!! AND WHAT YOUR GONNA SAY TO ALLAH WHEN HE ASK'S YOU WHY YOU DID IT??????????????
TILL NEXT TIME LONDON |
| Omar | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 07:37 am
TO HONEY:
GIRL IT'S A GOOD THING U SAID NO.. BECAUSE ONCE YOU SAY YES.. ALL HE EVER WANTS FROM THAT DAY ON-WARDS IS SEX.. AND HE'LL PROBABLY BOAST TO HIS FRIENDS THAT HE'S GOT SOMETHING EASY.. AND HE'LL NEVER RESPECT YOU OR EVEN THINK-ABOUT MARRING YOU, BECAUSE HE GONA SAY IF SHE WAS EASY FOR ME HOW EASY IS IT GONA BE FOR OTHER MEN. SO STAND YOUR GROUND AND IF HE LOVES YOU HE'LL MARRY YOU, IF NOT I GUESS YOU FIND OUT WHAT HE REALLY WANTED..
GOOD LUCK.
Omar |
| Londonsister | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 07:45 am
Hi Honey, walaal u should be true to urself and ur religion. What u did was right and u deserve a brother thats gona respect u and wait for u to marry him b4 he expects such privilies. Stick with ur word and make him prove to u that he aint like that. Be strong walaal cos a what might be pleasure now will only be pain when u die.
Remember allah n ur stay true sis.
take care walaalo.
peace n love |
| Bro.M.C | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 08:04 am
Hold it right there!
Honey I want to you really pay attention about what am about to say, it may offend you at first, but that is not what am trying to do here.
First you keep saying that he asked you to sleep with him right? and that is why you freaked out. Because you want to do the right thing! Let me ask you this: Have you had any intimicy relationship whatsoever with him like"Kissing, hagging, etc" If you did, you might will just go ahead and have sex with him, coz it aint make no difference. They all fall the same catogory into our relegion "am assuming that u r muslim".
I disagree with what most of ppl said that they are proud of you, I only admire you and be proud of what you 've done, "who am I right, your father or somein" if and only if you haven't had any type of touching, kissing, hagging, etc. which I don't think is the case, because no man would ask you to sleep with him, unless you let him kiss you, & rubb your body, specially ur breast and so on. And if you did you can always ask ALLAH forgiveness.
I am sorry if I offend you, all was trying to say is: Sleeping with him is not the only thing that you shouldn't do, also becareful about the rest of the staff that I've mentioned above and more, which could as same as having sex. And if you are aware of that than I really admire you. and hopefully one day you will get the reward. About the guy and wheather going you back or not is really upto you, Iam sure you know what you are doing, so keep up the good work.
till next time peace love sis. |
| Amina | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 09:20 am
Honey, yeah i kinda agree with Bro. Mc
You know wat they say 'dushiisa laga arkaa ushiisa lagu tumaa'. may be you sent him tha wrong signals in dat case i don't blame da brother for 'trying it on'.
Anyways, he said he was sorry and you seem like you really like him.. so how about forgiving him.
Also, make sure dat he knows wat da deal is, so that he knows wat boundaries your setting and wat the consequences are.
P.S i think sisters and brothers should double check their expectations from a relationships before they get together...dat can save yous a lot of pain and hurt!!
Keep ya head up, Legs closed and eyes open. Remember Allah 
peace n love |
| LONDON_RUDEBOYZ | Friday, March 16, 2001 - 11:01 am
OI HONEY WALAALO SEX IS ALL GOOD IF U LIKE HIM AND U BEEN WITH HIM FOR 4 MONTHS U SAID U SHOULD GET DOWN GET YOUR GROOVES ON BOO WABLOW
IF U GET MARRIED U 2 AND HE AINT GOOD IN THE BED FOR U WAGUAN U WILL NOT BE HIS WIFE RIGHT?
SO GET IT ON ME AND MY GIRL •••• LIKE EVERY WEEK
HAAHAHAHAHAH BIG UP TO ACTON |
| just another girl | Saturday, March 17, 2001 - 04:49 am
listen honey,
you shouldn't be going out with guys in the first place. if you were a true follower of the muslim religion you wouldn't be in this situation in the first place!!!
4 real girl
peace |
| Jaale | Saturday, March 17, 2001 - 06:34 am
I haven't read all the respond you have had, so I may repeat what was already said. This is wahy i think.
I think it is some of males' test, and you have passed(for not sleaping with him. so since he still wants you, i think you are in the right direction for strong relationship(with out sin). Give him a chance make clear to him that there is no chance for every thing that Allah hasn't permitted.
Good luck,, hope it is clear.
bro Jaale
London |
| HONEY | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 01:59 am
HI GUY'S THANKS AGAIN 4 YOUR GREAT ADVICE'S IT REALLY HAD MADE A DIFFERENCE.
TO MC BRO, WHAT U SAID IS RIGHT BUT I'M 19 AND THIS IS THE FIRST RELATIONSHIP I HAVE EVER HAD. TO TELL U THE TRUTH I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS OR LOVE AS I'VE NEVER EXPERIENCED ONE BEFORE OTHER THEN THIS ONE, BUT I DO KNOW ONE THING I WOULDN'T LET A MAN WHO I'M NOT MARRIED TO, 2 KISS ME AND TOUCH MY BREASTS. I DO HAVE SELF RESPECT FOR MYSELF AND MY BODY. I AGREE WITH WHAT U SAID AND IT MADE SENSE BUT I DON'T GET DOWN LIKE THAT.
I WON'T FORGIVE HIM THAT EASILY AND I WILL MAKE HIM SUFFER ABIT AND IF HE PASS'S THEN IT'S ALL GOOD.
HE NOW KNOW'S WHERE I STAND WITH THIS SITUATION AND BELIEVE ME I KNOW HE WILL NEVER ASK ME AGAIN BUT I WILL MAKE HIM WAIT AND IF HE ASK'S ME AGAIN HE KNOW'S WHERE THE DOOR IS. AND PPL BELIVE IT OR NOT, BUT I WON'T BE TEMPTED TO DO A THING LIKE THAT EVEN IF I LOVE HIM TO DEATH.
THANKS 4 YOUR TIME PPL AND THANKS AGAIN FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART
PEACE AND LOVE,
HONEY |
| FARAH | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 03:03 am
NOW YOU MAKING THINGS HARD OF COURCE ITS HARD TO DEAL WITH A MAN IN THIS KIND OF SITUTION BUT TRUST ME YOU WENT FAR. APOLOGISING TO YOU DOESN'T MEAN HE HAS SUFFER FOR GOD SAKE DON'T BE TYPICAL SOMALI GIRL WITH FUNNY ATTATUDE I MEAN ALL YOU COULD SAY APOLOGY ECCEPTED AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND TREAT THE GAY BETTER SO HE COULD MAKE UP TO YOU AS I BELIEVE HE WOULD SINCE YOU MENTION HOW SWEET HE'S AND OBVIOUSLY HE KNOW THE WORD GENTLEMEN.
PS. I M TRYING TO HELP IM SORRY FOR ANY INCONVINIACE TO ALL THE GIRLS NO OFFENCE.
OMAR YOU THE WORST ADVICER OF THE NET MY FOOT WHERE ON EARTH WERE YOU GROW UP:
FARAH |
| fatal | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 07:31 am
to honey
Aight, new drink
one part alazhay one part chrystal
Thugs Passion baby
y'all know what time it is
This drink is Gauranteed
to get the ••••• wet and the dick hard
now if ya with me
Pour a glass and drink with a nigga
know what I mean ?
I ain't trying to turn u into alcholics
Alcholics [ha ha]
I'm just trying to turn you into muthafuckin thugs
So come and get some of this thug passion Baby
bitch u've been watching 2 many ricki lake shows
stop dreaming
by the way i liked the way u made the story
you probably fucked
loooooooooooooooooooolllllllll
bbbbbbbbbyyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeee |
| LONDON RUDEBOYZ | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 07:41 am
ahahahah fatal u crack me up blood that girl make some feanky storys to much ricke lick and oprah
ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah booooooooow |
| $omali$i$ta | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 11:14 am
lol@@@@@Fatal.....ur NOT funny so stop bitin 2PAC's words, NACAS!
Bro M.C I agree wit a lot of wat u said, u have made many vaild points. But give a sista credit 4 doin wat she did, there aren't many girls nowadays who would say no.
HONEY walaalo I personally respect u a lot 4 not sleepin wit him, that shows ur level of respect 4 urself and Allah. Im not sure if i'd advise u 2 get back wit this fella or 2 let him go. I say we're all humans, we all make mistakes so blame it on his "testostrone" lol. Seriously though I think u've got sum strong feelings 4 this guy and would u want them 2 go 2 waste becoz of this? If he apologized doesn't that show that he's sorry? I say give him anutha chance but if he tries any more freaky business then tell him 2 GET GONE!! U seem like 1 hell of a decent sista n i'd hate 4 u 2 get hurt by sum dogg. Keep that self respect u have and dont let nobody put u down. May Allah bless u in ALL u do sis. |
| THE_PIMP | Sunday, March 18, 2001 - 04:04 pm
to the girl who post this....
you did did what most somaligirl would do but girlfriend don't be selfish to the needy once especially to that poor guy, what about his feelings you ever thought about that, what about his feelings enough said but personally i tell you this it might hurt your feelings but this is the reality i think you should give it up for him
either way sooner or latter some other nigga would kill it right.... why not him?????????
after all its obvious that you like this nigga..
right.. i understand that you might think that if you give up, you might lose respect...please
co'moon now give the guy a break....
you know what i think you should follow your heart...
no one stays VIRGIN FOR EVER.. you know
besides there are others ways to please your dowg
beside giving up the best thing you got in you..
have you ever thought about that....
and please one more advice don't pay attention to what these idiots said especially the so called
SOMALIsisy...there sista my bad just couse some niguz played you out that don't me all niguz are the same....
sweatheart KEEP IT REAL.
AND GIVE IT UP FOR YOUR NIGGA
if it ain't him somebody else gona do it
WHY NOT HIM THOUGH
you should go for it while you still have that
pupy-love scene... |
| Bro. M.c | Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 09:47 am
Wooooow Wooow Well said to all!
To Honey! I am really really really flirted, impressed and proud of you, so your mom & dad, so your bro & sisters of Islam. I hope this massage of yours would set some examples to those who don't know what they want in live, and what they should and shouldn't do. I am glad to hear that there sisters like you in our community.
I couldn't agree more of what you've said, except one thing which is making him suffer a bit, I don't know about that part, but the rest of them, I am really with you. The reason I said this is because, nowadays it is really hard to find two ppl that have true feelings for each other, and that is what I am sensing from your postings. It looks like to me that you've feelings for each other and that is a good thing. My sis keep up the good work, and I think communications plays very good role at any relationship.
For the rest of my sis & Bro. who suggested that she should give it up and give him what he wants, Shame on you! That is all I have to say to you.
The guys think of as she is your little sister asking you advice, whether she would have a sex with her boyfriend or not. I am sure most of you wouldn't give the advice that you gave it to sis Honey. Not would you not only give that type of advice, but you couldn't even stand the fact that your younger sis have a boyfriend. So please when little sis or bro ask you an advice pls don't give an advice that you wouldn't advice for your family, or yourself. Coz our prophet "pph" s.c.w. you aren't a true muslim/mu'min till you love your muslim bro/sis as much as you love yourself.
If I offend anyone pls accept my apology. thanks and take care till next time |
| ismahaan : | Monday, March 26, 2001 - 03:23 pm
HONEY...Walaalo let me tell you something...
If you told him that you don't believe in sex before marriage and he doesn't understand, then what more do you have to talk about?
But you also need to understand where he's coming from.He's not doing it to disrespect you or even to hurt you, but he has to at least try.
Either give the nigga some and carry on with your relationship, or don't and get over it.
You can't change him or his view on sex, so why try?
P.S--You were probably leading him on, and that's not fair, it's cruel.
1 luv Ismahaan
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